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'When I step outside, I step into a country of men who stare'
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Years ago, a friend told me about the time her dad beat her up
after he saw her talking to a boy outside school. It wasn’t the
first time. Until she left for college in the United States, she
lived in constant terror of when the next wave of violence would
arrive. Her mother stood by and let it happen.
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The highway attack shook the women of Pakistan, but it did not
shock us. We grew up with stories of women killed for “honor”
and women raped for revenge. Women doused with acid and
women burned with stoves. Pakistan ranks 164 out of 167
countries on the Women, Peace and Security Index 2019-2020,
barely hovering above Yemen, Afghanistan and Syria.
In the two months since the highway assault, a police officer
raped a woman in her home. A girl was murdered by her cousin
and uncle for speaking to a male friend on her phone. A woman
waiting for a bus after work was kidnapped and raped. A
teenager committed suicide after being blackmailed by the men
who raped her and videotaped the assault. A 6-year-old was
clubbed to death by her father for making noise. Between
January and June alone, there have been 3,148 reported cases
of violence against women and children. Many go unreported.
There are slices of Pakistan where a woman can bare her arms,
smoke, drink, escape abroad, become a minister. But class does
not protect her from the stares and the fears of assault when she
ventures outside. Yet for women in the lower socio-economic
strata of society, women in rural Pakistan, things are much
worse. The insecurity and harassment working-class women
face daily at a bus stop are experiences that are foreign to those
behind the wheel of a Mercedes.
On a recent afternoon, I pulled up to a traffic stop. Twenty or so
motorcycles zigzagged their way up to right under the light, as
they commonly do here. The riders were men. With one
exception. I noticed her only because the men around her were
consuming her. It’s rare to see women driving bikes in Pakistan
— probably because when they do, they’re on display.
Although she had her back to me, face obscured by a helmet, I
imagined her staring resolutely ahead, pushing through the
discomfort, the sheer creepiness, of being watched. A wave of
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fury passed over me. Don’t let the bastards grind you down, I
tried to telepathically transmit to her, a refrain from “The
Handmaid’s Tale” that frequently floats through my head when
I’m back here.
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It requires lot of courage for women like Fatima to write
about the challenges faced by women in Pakistan. She will
get death threats after this article gets published. If it is this
bad for Fatima, then imagine how much worse it is for
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