Strategies for Enhancing Emotional Intelligence

1. Think about feelings.

A person has to be sensitive to one’s and other’s feelings to come up with the right manner of
approach and appropriate response.
2. Pause.
This is about taking a moment to stop and think before doing anything to refrain from
resorting to an unsound decision at the height of anger.
3. Strive to control one’s thoughts.
This is controlling the reaction to emotions by focusing on one’s thoughts in harmony with goals
and values.
4. Benefit from criticism.
Criticism, even not delivered in a favorable way, is an opportunity to learn and it gives idea on
how others think about you.
5. Show authenticity.
This is saying what we mean with what we say
and we have to stick on to our values and principles.
6. Demonstrate empathy.
Whenever we show empathy to others, such as understanding their thoughts and feelings, we can
easily establish a connection with them.
7. Praise others.
This is by way of acknowledging and appreciating others toward attaining self-fulfilment and
building trust.
8. Give helpful feedback.
Although negative feedback may hurt one’s feelings,
at some point, it can be turned constructive for one’s improvement.
9. Apologize.
Saying sorry demonstrates humility, a quality that will naturally win others as you value the
relationship more than the ego.
10. Forgive and forget.
Forgiving and forgetting prevent others from holding emotions and allowing one to move
forward.
11. Keep our commitments.
The habit of keeping one’s word in things, either big or small, develops a strong reputation for
reliability and trustworthiness.
12. Help others.
One way to positively win others is through helping them because listening to and helping them
can build trust and inspire them to follow.
13. Protect ourselves from emotional sabotage.
This is being wise enough in protecting ourselves when others attempt to manipulate our
emotions for personal sake.

People Skills
-Personal effectiveness or about how one comes across with others
-Interaction ability or how well one predicts and decodes behavior
-Intercede easily or ability to lead, influence and build bridges between people

Educational Impact of People Skills

-People skills are important in effective classroom management.
-Knowing how to communicate and teach people instead of simply teaching their subjects will
help make a difference in classroom.
-Almost 50% of classroom success lies on effective interpersonal relationships, while the other
50% lies within academic skills (Boyle, 2011.)

Role of Parents
- teach directly by modelling,
- role-playing, and providing opportunities to practice new skills
- encourage and praise the child for successfully using a new skill

Role of Teachers
- Be alert to teasing and bullying and aware of children that are rejected or ignored by their peers
-Work cooperatively with the children’s parents to prevent the humiliation, embarrassment and
distress
-Pairing a socially inept child with a socially adept one
-Creating an environment in which diversity is celebrated can enhance social abilities and sense
of belongingness