Lesson Proper

Have you ever wished you could talk about sex openly? Ask questions and discover your
sexual self? Let’s admit it, you know to yourself that you want to. It does not mean we discussed
sex we are liberated and this is not actually embarrassing to talk about. By understanding and
putting these topics into mind, you will understand your sexual self- better and clarify uncertain
thoughts and feelings.

Sex and Human Values

Conceding that values are both personal and cultural, most sex researchers and educators
struggle to preserve their writings on sexuality value free. In research when they label the sexually
reserved individuals as “erotophobic” and as “high sex guilt” they explicit their own values.
Furthermore, we improve our lives by knowing ourselves, by realizing that others share our
feelings, by understanding what is likely to please or displease our loved one. Behold the
increasing realization that some types of sexually explicit material can lead people to devalue or
hurt others.

Sex Drive

Psychologist thinks that sex drive peaks during the teens and early twenties (Hyde, 1982). The
drive declines gradually during the middle forties, another sharp decline in sexual activity appears
in the late sixties (Solnick and Corby, 1983).

Sex and Gender are parts of you that need to be continuously explored. These two remains to
be used interchangeably however current literature has provided us enough information to
differentiate one from the other. The emergence and/or development of Sexual Orientation,
Gender Identity and Expression termed as SOGIE is also an important topic in understanding one’s
sexual self.

These are further explained in YouTube Video URLs below:

Sex Determination:More Complicated Than You Thought

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMWxuF9YW38)

Hear Kids' Honest Opinions on Being a Boy or Girl Around the World | National Geographic
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2B3ea7IGwLA)

EXPLAINER Part 1: What you need to know about SOGIE

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7n7ollEPm2Q)

EXPLAINER: What you need to know about SOGIE Part 2

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3H3UgGzzm_Q)

What makes us human is our sexuality. It is an innate function to survive through

reproduction. Definitely, sex is beyond merely the act of procreation but answers to both
psychological and spiritual needs. Aside from sensuality that evokes many emotions it also entails
the interaction between two human beings – to touch and be touched, to love and be loved.
Sexual behavior brings connectedness. Sexuality may humanize or dehumanize, validate or
invalidate and incarnate or disincarnate existence. It makes a person comforted, loved and
sometimes euphoric.

At a deeper level, sexuality is linked with birth and death, an association found in Freud’s
notion of Eros and Thanatos. Although ultimately death prevails over sex, sex affirms life. The
instinctual sexual energy or Eros expressed in the childbearing, art relationships transcends
nonexistence. Life continues for the new generation where one can be fondly remembered by
important others. This close psychological connection between sex and life or the absence of it is a
concrete reminder of the existential inseparability of this cycle.

Additional Readings:

The Responsible Parenthood and Reproductive Health Act of 2012

(https://www.officialgazette.gov.ph/2013/03/18/implementing-rules-and-regulations-of-
republicact-no-10354/)

Psychosexual Development

The famous psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud cited that children go through a sequence of
psychosexual stages that lead to the development of the adult personality. Freud’s theory defined
how personality developed over the course of childhood. Whereas the theory is well-known in
psychology, it has always been quite controversial, both during Freud's time and in modern
psychology. These are named psychosexual stages because each stage signifies the fixation of
libido (roughly translated as sexual drives or instincts) on a different area of the body.

Image credits to Simply Psychology

Liking and Loving (Interpersonal attraction)

To like somebody or to have a desire to be in a relationship with somebody is called

interpersonal attraction. We like being with people, we enjoy the company of others.

Physical Attractiveness

We are attracted to those who are physically attractive. Surely, the attraction here is relative.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. Some men find women with long hair are attractive but
some men like women with short hair to see their neck area.

LOVE vs. LUST

LUST LOVE
focus on a person's looks and body. spend quality time together with
other than sex
interested in having sex, but not in get lost in conversations and forget
having conversations about the hours passing
keep the relationship on a fantasy honestly listen to each
level, not discuss real feelings. other's feelings, make each other
happy.
want to leave soon after sex rather motivates you to be a better person.
than cuddling or breakfast the next
morning.
want to get to meet his or her family
are lovers, but not friends and friends
SEXUAL RESPONSE

It refers to the order of physical and emotional changes that arise as a person becomes
sexually aroused and partakes in sexually exciting activities, including intercourse (coitus) and
masturbation. Perceptive how your body reacts during each phase of the cycle can improve your
relationship and help you find the cause of any sexual difficulties. The sexual response cycle has
four phases:

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Both men and women encounter these phases, though the phasing usually is different. For
instance, it is improbable that both partners will reach orgasm at the same time. The intensity of
the reaction and the time spent in each phase differs from person to person. Knowing these
differences may help partners better understand one another's bodies and responses, and develop
the sexual experience.

LGBTQ

Terms to understand:

1. Lesbian - A woman who is primarily attracted to women.

2. Gay- A man who is primarily attracted to men; sometimes a broad term for individuals
primarily attracted to same-sex.
3. Bisexual- An individual attracted to people of their own and opposite gender.
4. Transgender- A person whose gender identity differs from their assigned sex at birth.
5. Transsexual- An outdated term that originated in the medical and psychological communities
for people who have permanently changed their gender identity through surgery and
hormones.
6. Queer- An umbrella term to be more inclusive of the many identities and variations that
make-up the LGBTQ + community.
7. Intersex- An individual whose sexual anatomy or chromosomes do not fit with the traditional
markers of “female” and “male”.

Same- Sex Attraction

Homosexual behavior is likely to present in all societies and cultures and has been
documented on all six settled continents. The homosexuality-heterosexuality distinctions is not
always a clear one. Not only do some people self-identity as bisexual, but others may also change
their sexual preference over the course of their lives (Chivers, Seto, & Blanchard, 2007).
Researchers are trying to understand why some people are more strongly attracted to members of
the same sex than are other people.

Forms of Sexually Transmitted Diseases

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Contraception Methods:

Generally, procreation is the basic reason for the sexual act hence couples should have this in
mind.
 A. Artificial Method- this method can be stopped when couples decided to have a child again.
1. Pills
2. Injection (Depo Provera)
3. Implants
4. Cervical Sponge
5. Spermicidal Gel
6. Condom
7. IUD
B. Natural Method- this method is encouraged by the church because it does not use chemicals
and therefore has no side effects on the part of the partners.
1. Calendar Method
2. Abstinence
3. Mucus Method
4. Basal Body Temperature Method

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