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清晰与准确的沟通能化解偏见。其中,有七项禁忌需加以注意。
如同学习骑自行车,如果我们想有效地与他人沟通,我们就需要不断地去发展
和磨练。不幸的是,某些可能不利于我们的无意识偏见往往会阻碍我们的发展。简而
言之,认知偏见是我们在与他人的日常互动或做出决定的过程中所忽视的盲点。由于
无意识偏见与我们的潜意识紧密相连,这将导致在我们还没有意识到的情况下,危害
我们对周围环境的看法。
正如其名,当我们与他人沟通时,聚光灯效应会吞噬我们内心深处的不安全感,让我
们感觉对方对我们的看法比他们实际的更多。根据个人具体情况,你可能会觉得你的
同事在从各个角度来审视你,包括你的年龄、说话方式、穿着打扮、甚至是工作质量 。
这将牵涉到你的信心并有可能分散你对沟通对象的注意力。你很有可能会因此错过对
方所传达的关键讯息和有效沟通的机会(如果他们刚好是你的重要客户,情况更是如
此!)。
知识不一定代表智商,它可以是指你相当熟悉的任何事物。 举个例子,如果你擅长编
程,编程的一些术语可能对你来说耳熟能详,但对外行人绝非如此。正因如此,我们
可能会在交谈时忘记对方没有与我们相同的知识背景,进而导致交谈理解错误。
6. Illusion of Telepathy 心灵感应错觉
身为人类,我们总是自然而然,不自觉地进入内心深处并依赖内心的声音,以至于形
成了以自我为中心的偏见。这可能会让我们以为,既然我们能清楚地了解我们自身的
感受,其他人也应理所应当。正因如此,如果我们没有清楚地表达意思,却期望他人
去理解我们的想法,这一行为可能将导致严重的沟通障碍。
既然如此,我们该如何克服这些无意识的偏见并实现有效沟通呢?首先 ,
我们可以尝试实践换位思考。换位思考也被称为“心智理论”或“心智化” ,
指的是在心理上能设身处地理解他人的观点和立场,进而更好地理解他们背后
的行为动机。除此之外,我们还可以尝试练习倾听他人,避免独占对话。 我们
也可以向对方积极提出问题以建立更有效的对话。就如学习掌握生活技巧和爱
好一样,多多实践方能熟能生巧!
作者简介 :
陈恩怡 (Nicole Chan)
陈恩怡,兼具创意,叙事和有关数字化的才能,使她在所热爱的相关领域急速成
长。身为爱丁堡大学语言学和社会人类学本科生,陈恩怡的成长也受到人类心理
和社会转型等主题的启发。点击这里在 LinkedIn 上联系陈恩怡!
The 7 Deadly Sins of (Mis)Communication
Byline: Nicole Chan
Standfirst: Communicating clearly is about clearing the bias, and there are seven of them.
“Communication works for those who work at it.” — John Powell
Just like learning how to ride a bicycle, communication is a fundamental skill we need to consistently
nurture and hone if we wish to execute it successfully. Unfortunately, our progress can often be hindered by certain
unconscious biases that might work against our favour. To put it simply, cognitive biases are the ‘blind spots’ we
overlook in our day-to-day interactions with others, or our decision-making processes. Since they are hardwired into
our subconscious, the danger lies in the fact that they can influence the way we view the world — without us being
aware of it at all.
For example, researchers Norton, Mochon and Ariely recently discovered a new cognitive bias in which
consumers place a disproportionately high value on products that they have a hand in creating. This was aptly dubbed
the “IKEA Effect”, as the Swedish furniture store had quickly amassed a cult following with its ready-to-assemble
home goods. As a result, consumers began to view themselves as “co-creators of value” rather than just a recipient of
value. We even see this subliminal preference in the burgeoning of social media platforms like TikTok and
Clubhouse, where users are encouraged to create unique content to foster communities.
So, what are some of the deadly sins you have been unconsciously committing while communicating? Let’s
take a deep dive into your subconscious...
#1 Spotlight Effect
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This bias is exactly what it sounds like. When we communicate with others, the spotlight bias preys on our deepest
insecurities to make us feel like our listeners are judging us more than they really are. Depending on the individual,
you could feel that your peer or colleague is scrutinising you on a variety of factors — from your age, the way you
speak, the way you dress, to the quality of content you are delivering. This could lead to ineffective communication as
it might affect your confidence and distract you from the crucial issues at hand that matter to your listeners (even
more so if they happen to be important clients!).
#2 Affinity Bias
Have you ever felt immediately more at ease when meeting a stranger who lived near you, or even shared a liking for
your favourite sports team? This is affinity bias at work. Also known as ingroup bias, humans tend to perceive people
who are similar to us (whether it be ethnicity, religion, hobbies, or profession) more positively. On the other hand,
outgroup bias refers to the exact opposite, whereby we view people who are different from us more negatively. If we
already hold preconceived notions about them even before presenting our ideas, we can make unjustified decisions
about the other party, impacting our conversation with them.
#3 Curse of Knowledge
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In this case, knowledge does not necessarily refer to your IQ. Instead, think of a certain topic, product or service
which you happen to know very well. For instance, if you’re adept at coding, certain terms might be familiar and
simple to you but not to the layman. As a result, we might forget that our listeners do not have the same context or
background as us, leading to a case of lost in translation!
#4 Confirmation Bias
Confirmation bias occurs when we attempt to validate our (sometimes magnified) concerns about our listeners’
opinions and views of us, which are generally rooted in fear of disapproval or rejection. It usually occurs when we want
to favour a specific outcome or our entrenched beliefs. Take for example a die-hard Samsung fan, who looks for
positive reviews that support Samsung’s products while neglecting the pros of other technology brands. Shutting out
other people’s opinions at the expense of validating our own negates the benefits of a productive conversation.
#5 Courtesy Bias
Being overly polite might actually be a bad thing! When we want to please a client, or avoid offending our friends, we
might hold back our honest opinions and instead, give socially acceptable answers we think the other party wants to
hear. This can result in an unproductive conversation, as the ‘courteous’ answer might be a seemingly comfortable
solution in the short term but create more drastic complications in the long run, especially in the workplace.
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#6 Illusion of Telepathy
As humans, it is natural for us to be in our own headspace regularly and relying on the voice inside our head, so much
so that we form an egocentric bias. What this means is that we might think that because we know what we’re feeling
so clearly, so can everyone else. This can lead to major breakdowns in communication if we do not clearly articulate
what we mean and expect the other party to read our mind and behaviour.
#7 Halo Effect
The Halo effect explains how we alter our judgements of a person, product or even an organisation. If someone excels
in a certain aspect, we might also view them positively in other aspects, even if they are unrelated. Putting someone on
a pedestal during a conversation solely because of one positive area can be dangerous as we might be prone to believing
what they say at face value, and champion their views instead of our own.
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So how do we combat these unconscious biases and work towards effective communication? For starters, we
can practise the art of perspective-taking, also known as “theory of mind” or “mentalising”, which refers to the
empathetic process of mentally stepping into someone else’s shoes to acknowledge their perspective and position,
hence understanding their purpose behind their actions better. We can also practise active listening, to avoid
monopolising the conversation and to ask the listener productive questions to facilitate better conversations. Like all
life skills and hobbies, practice makes perfect!
About the Author: Armed with creative chops and a penchant for storytelling and everything digital, Nicole thrives
the most in areas where passion meets purpose. As a Linguistics & Social Anthropology undergraduate at the
University of Edinburgh, she is also driven by topics like the human psyche and social transformation. Connect with
her on LinkedIn here!