OUR LADY OF FATIMA UNIVERSITY

COLLEGE OF NURSING
Quezon City

VERITAS ET
MISERICORDIA 1
Assignment No. 4

Submitted by: Kenneth Bogtong

Submitted to: Prof. Vladimir Marc Batayan

BSN 2-YA-5
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COLLEGE OF NURSING
Quezon City

Think about a specific scenario time when your close friend felt bad
about himself or herself or is really struggling in some way. How did
you respond to your friend in this situation?
Struggling with something is a part of being human.; it is what gives balance
to our lives by countering happiness. However, there are times when we cannot
bear the weight of our problems anymore, which is why we should always try to
help those who we see suffering with what we can. Recently I had a friend who was
struggling with her studies because of the environment she was in. She is treated
differently by her grandmother and other relatives, which is why she spends most
of her time living and studying in the house of her neighbor, only to come back to
her grandmother's house at night to sleep since she still doesn't have a stable
income to get herself a place. She opened up to me about her problems and
suddenly told me her plan of giving up her dream of becoming a CPA because she
was already tired of everything, so as her friend, I tried my best to help her by
listening attentively to her as she spoke, identifying the whole story. After consoling
her after she cried, I told her that I do not have the right to order her what she
should do and only advised her to think things through for a while and not suddenly
make rash decisions. I reminded her about her talent for problem-solving and how
she is good at math, and on top of that, I told her to think about her being a scholar
at a state university and how it would be a waste if she were to give up early. After
a few days, she told me that she will carry on with her studies and endure her
current situation, in which I assured her that I'll always be here to give her support
on her decision. I helped my friend with her struggling not by telling her what to do
but rather by thinking through her struggle carefully and with an unclouded mind.
 OUR LADY OF FATIMA UNIVERSITY
COLLEGE OF NURSING
Quezon City

What difficult feelings did you experience during that situation?

I felt very anxious when I was giving her my advice because I am worried
about what she might do next and if it lead her to a good path. Nobody wants to
see the people they love get harmed, especially if the harm is going to be caused
by our own words, which is why I tend to get very anxious when I am being asked
for advice. However, my worries easily wear off after seeing my friends back on the
path again, rising above their struggles.

What was your motivation to help the person?

My motivation to help her is simply because I am her friend, and I believe
that it is my duty to help those in need. I wouldn't want to see her or anybody
struggling so much, so I helped her. To me, nothing feels better than seeing those
who I love happy and free from worries, which is why I never think twice about
responding to my friends' calls for support whenever they are struggling.