Intro

Hey guys! Good day, this is Val, and welcome or welcome back to my channel. For
today’s vlog, we will be talking about communication, particularly in the area of listening. There
has always been listening in communicating. An effective communicator requires and effective
listener. Given the knowledge that people have different ways of listening you might be
wondering “If that’s the case, then how can I be a good or an effective listener across all
cultures, across all genders, basically to everyone?” Well, dont worry cause I gotchu!
Introducing Val’s Three Tips in Becoming a Good Listener!

Tip 1: F.A.D. (Focus, be Attentive, avoid Distractions)

To become a good listener, you need to put your full focus and attention to the speaker
while they are talking. In other words, you really need to be “in the zone” of listening to them.
And for you to do that, you need to do your best to avoid internal and external distractions. Keep
your phone away, do not multitask, and avoid having internal monologues or daydreaming. You
need to do these to not miss out on any important and crucial details or information. By doing
these, you will have a better grasp of the speaker’s message.

Tip 2: Be open-minded and defer judgments

As much as possible, keep your mind open while listening. You need to set aside your
opinions and biases and defer judgment for you to have a more objective understanding of the
speaker’s message. Always remember that in becoming a good listener, you should not limit
your understanding and comprehension to your own biases and judgments. Open your mind
and just keep accepting information.

Tip 3: Double R (Reflect and Respond)

As much as possible, do this tip after the talk of the speaker because this is the part
where you will process all the information and message that the speaker delivered. You will be
reflecting on what the speaker said and consider your own insights as well. This is where you
will question yourself like “Do I understand what the speaker is trying to say?” “Do we have
similar takes on these things?” or “Do I have any objections, clarifications, and violent reactions
on what the speaker said?”