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Chuchu Huang

San Mateo County Community College District

Application Paper 3 Part 1

This is the first part of application paper three, wherein concepts and research covered in

class, especially the wisdom skills, are applied daily, particularly in situations related to anxiety,

stress, frustrations, irritations, and anger. The following is the list of wisdom skills applied in this

application paper.

1. Realism- is the quality or practice of accepting a situation as it is and being ready to

deal with the effects that come forth.

2. Emotional Intelligence- is the ability to comprehend, apply, and control your

emotions positively to relieve stress and anger, communicate coherently, sympathize

with other people, defuse conflicts, and overcome challenges encountered daily. It is

defined by four attributes: self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and

relationship management.

3. Empathy- is the ability of a person to understand other people and share their

feelings. It is one of the strongest wisdom learned so far.

4. Humility- is the attitude of feeling that one does not have particular importance that

makes them better than others. It is also defined as a lack of pride and keeping a low

profile.

5. Forgiveness- is a deliberate or conscious action or decision to release the heavy

feelings of vengeance or resentment towards a person who has harmed or caused pain

to you, regardless of whether he or she deserves it.

Situation
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This situation took place a few months ago when we had a soccer tournament. I like

soccer because it not only helps me work out and control my body weight by burning calories

but also promotes interaction among us. The tournament was worth immense training because

our group comprised strong teams from the region. At the training session, as we were practising

how to pass and run after the ball, the ball was passed to me, but my friend, who is also a

footballer, was beside me when the ball was passed. The pass was above my height, so the only

way I could control the ball was to jump high and use my chest. My friend knew very well that

the pass was meant for me, but decided to go for the ball with me. Because I had jumped earlier

than my friend, I just felt a knock at the back of my head as I was coming down after controlling

the ball. I even wondered why the knock came from because I am taller than my friend.

My friend had jumped high was the heels, so one of the heels hit my head from the back.

I was frustrated because of the pain my friend put into me. I also wondered why my friend had to

kick me because we were not in a competition: we were only practising for the tournament.

When as asked my friend why she went for the ball that she was sure was mine, she answered

that I should not have gone for the ball first. That response irritated me, and I moved closer to

her I as asked, “You said what?” My friend appeared to be not bothered with hitting me even

after seeing the blood oozing out of my head. I pushed her to the ground.

That was the time my emotional intelligence kicked in and reminded me of how I should use

wisdom skills to solve a critical issue like that. After our teammates held me back, I realized that

football was a game of physical strength and that players should be strong. Although the

teammates blamed my friend for being greedy and going for the ball that was truly mine, I had

already accepted the reality that football involves injuries and competition, even if it is an official

tournament (realism). I also understood that everyone wanted to play well and hard to impress
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our coach and win a slot in the first team that will play in the tournament, and I could have hit

someone or gone hard on her to win the ball (sympathy). After realizing that I sympathized with

her, she stood up and apologized to me. I humbled myself and gave her my hand. She came up,

and we hugged as other players clapped for us.

Results and Conclusion

Bringing emotional intelligence into the situation introduced the calming process in me.

Generally, the solution to the conflict started after understanding and controlling my emotions

positively. This helped me realize that although I was in severe pain, harming her or continuing

to argue with her was a bad idea. This reminded me of the wisdom skill called keeping a low

profile (humility). It helped me gain consciousness and mind my actions, remembering that

hitting my fellow player and friend was not the right thing to do. Showing her some gratitude by

hugging her was the height of everything. Forgiveness came in, and all our anger and frustrations

flew away.

In conclusion, practising emotional intelligence, humility, and forgiveness in situations that

involve anger, stress, and frustration is imperative. It brings back the about-to-relationships

during these scenarios.

Implications

Bringing emotional intelligence, humility, sympathy, and forgiveness in a situation to

reduce anger, stress, and frustration was significant. I hope to use these wisdom skills and others,

such as compassion, realism, and empathy, in similar situations. Finally, practicing them daily

would be an essential step in life.