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Chuchu Huang

San Mateo County Community College District

Application Paper 1 Part 2

This is the second part of the first out of three application papers wherein concepts and research

covered in class, especially the wisdom skills, are applied on a daily basis, particularly in

situations related to anxiety, stress, frustrations, irritations, and anger.

The following are the wisdom situations I brought in this paper:

1. Realism- is the quality or practice of accepting a situation as it is and being ready to deal

with the effects that come forth.

2. Gratitude- is the quality of being thankful for what has been done or said to you. It is

also the readiness to show appreciation for something or someone and to return kindness.

3. Humility- is the attitude of feeling that one does not have particular importance that

makes them better than others. It is also defined as a lack of pride and keeping a low

profile.

4. Emotional Intelligence- is the ability to comprehend, apply, and control your emotions

positively to relieve stress and anger, communicate coherently, sympathize with other

people, defuse conflicts, and overcome challenges encountered daily. It is defined by four

attributes: self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and relationship

management.

5. Empathy- is the ability of a person to understand other people and share their feelings. It

is one of the strongest wisdom learned so far.

Situation
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The following situation occurred this past weekend at my home. Carl is my young brother whom

I stay with in my little apartment. He is addicted to video games and spends most of his time at

the playing station with his friends. On weekends, he wakes up early and disappears to the

playing station after taking breakfast. He does not help me do house chores because he knows I

do not have weekend classes. However, although he is a hardworking, intelligent, and caring

young man, his behavior has become wanting because he comes home late and sometimes drunk.

Three weeks ago, he never came back home, and when I asked him where he spent his night, he

told me he was with his friends at their friend’s birthday party and could not come home. I felt

irritated but warned him to come home early because our place is not secure, especially at night.

He promised to do exactly what I said. Two weeks ago, he came back home late and drunk. I

reported him to my dad, who told me to throw him out of my house. However, he apologized and

told me to consider my forgiveness as the last warning. This past was the height of his worst. As

usual, he came home late but not drunk. This time around, I did not want to know where he was

coming from. Due to anger, irritation, and frustration, I told Carl to pack his crap and leave my

house that night. When I realized that he was hesitating and dilly-dallying, I slapped him.

As he stared at him helplessly, I realized that a situation like this could be solved by applying

wisdom skills. My emotional intelligence came into play, and I realized that my anger and

frustration were about to overwhelm me. I also realized that if I let myself be controlled by these

emotions, something bad could have to my brother. The first thing that came into my mind was

to calm down and gain consciousness (humility). As I saw my brother packing his luggage, I saw

how sorry he was but could not say it. I understood that he was shameful and regretted

everything (empathy). I told him to stop packing his clothes at once. He stopped and turned back

to look at me. Now we were looking at each other in the eyes. He started to stammer, trying to
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utter his sorry to me, but his lips and cheeks were only shivering due to shame and fear. This

made me remember why I told him to come over to stay with me. I remembered how he helped

do my laundry during weekdays when he did not have classes. He also stays with me during hard

times, especially when my exam results come out ugly, or my boyfriend hurts me. If I let him out

of my house and perhaps get robbed or killed, I would bring stress and anxiety to myself. I told

him that I love him and I want him to stay because he is important to me (gratitude). I had to

accept his weaknesses and try to accommodate him in my life (realism).

Results and Conclusion

In this situation, everything started with emotional intelligence, which helped me calm down.

This means that to control your anger, you need to stabilize your mind by asking yourself what

you are doing. “Oh, My God! What am I doing? This exclamation and question are important

when a person wants to calm down. After this, wisdom skills start flowing in voluntarily. Anger

and frustration came down when I looked into my brother’s eyes and saw how sorry he was but

could not speak it out. My gratitude came in, and all my anger subsided. In conclusion,

emotional intelligence, empathy, humility, gratitude, and realism are important in dealing with

anger, stress, anxiety, and frustration.

Implications

Appropriate application of emotional intelligence, empathy, humility, gratitude, and realism in a

critical situation reduces anger and stress. I plan to use these skills in other future situations.