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Chuchu Huang

San Mateo County Community College District

Application Paper 1

This is the second part of my third and last application paper, wherein concepts and research

covered in class, especially the wisdom skills, are applied daily, particularly in situations related

to anxiety, stress, frustrations, irritation, and anger.

The following are the wisdom situations I brought to this paper:

1. Mindfulness- is the state of being aware of something or a mental state achieved by

focusing on your awareness of the current state while calmly accepting and

acknowledging your feelings, body sensations, and thoughts.

2. Humility- is the attitude of feeling that one does not have particular importance that

makes them better than others. It is also defined as a lack of pride and keeping a low

profile.

3. Gratitude- is the quality of being thankful for what has been done or said to you. It is

also the readiness to show appreciation for something or someone and to return kindness.

4. Forgiveness- is a deliberate or conscious action or decision to release the heavy feelings

of vengeance or resentment towards a person who has harmed or caused pain to you,

regardless of whether he or she deserves it.

5. Emotional Intelligence- is the ability to comprehend, apply, and control your emotions

positively to relieve stress and anger, communicate coherently, sympathize with other

people, defuse conflicts, and overcome challenges encountered daily. It is defined by four

attributes: self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and relationship

management.
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Situation

The following situation occurred about three months ago. After a long week of studies and

revisions for the end-of-semester exam, I went over to check on my boyfriend, whom we have

been dating for over a year. We did not go out for dinner that Friday because I was exhausted

and wanted to be indoors until Sunday evening, when I planned to return to my house to prepare

for the following week’s activities. My boyfriend went out to buy foodstuff, and I went in to

freshen up. As I was putting on my clothes in his bedroom, a message popped up on his phone,

which he had left in his room. I was tempted to read the message that said, “Hi boo, you have

refused to invite me over to your place.” Obviously, that message did not sit well with me. I did

not even put on the beautiful and sexy clothes I wanted to wear to lure my boyfriend into

intimacy whenever he came back. I felt frustrated for not getting back what I wanted in our

relationship. I regretted the day I said yes to him after chasing me with sweet and seductive

words and gifts for months. Anger squeezed my throat as I started packing up my crap to leave.

He came into the house and found me hurriedly packing my stuff. He asked me why I gave him

the cold shoulder, but he realized I was staring at his phone. He went through the message and

told me to come down, and he would explain everything. I forced myself out of the room with

my bag, but he pulled me back and managed to close the door. I told him I was done with

cheating and making me cry even after committing to a relationship for a long time. After a

commotion and a little fight in the bedroom, my emotional intelligence kicked in, and I decided

to give him an audience. He told me that the message came from a lady who had a crush on him,

but he did not love her. He even knelt and said that giving her his contact was a mistake. I

stopped fighting him and lowered my voice (humility). He told me he would block her and

promised to love me as he always did. After a short period of frustration, anger, and regret, I
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decided to come, not because of his imploring to consider his argument but because of the exams

we had the following day. It was a heartbreaking situation, but I had to mind about our future

after studies (mindfulness). After begging me for a long time while holding my hands, I looked

into his eyes, and I remember how he has been supporting me, especially when I was admitted to

the hospital after a grisly road accident. As I pulled him to stand from the ground, I told him that

I adored him because he cared about me (gratitude). He apologized, and I told him never to mind

(forgiveness).

Results and Conclusion

Emotional intelligence introduced the calming process in me. Generally, the solution to the

conflict started after understanding and controlling my emotions positively. This reminded me of

the wisdom skill called keeping a low profile (humility). It helped me gain consciousness and

mind my actions. Showing my friend some gratitude by hugging and kissing him was the height

of everything. Forgiveness came in, and all my anger and frustrations flew away.

In conclusion, practising emotional intelligence, humility, gratitude, forgiveness, and

mindfulness in situations that involve anger, stress, and frustration is imperative. It brings back

the about-to-relationships during these scenarios.

Implications

Bringing emotional intelligence, humility, gratitude, forgiveness, and mindfulness in a situation

to reduce anger, stress, and frustration was significant. I hope to use these wisdom skills and

others, such as compassion, realism, and empathy, in similar situations. Finally, practicing them

daily would be an essential step in life.

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