Siti Nor Fatihah Asman

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English Literature D

Broken Home

The international journal of applied research published a study explaining that a broken home is

a condition when the family is no longer intact or there could be other causes according to

Ruksana Saiki (2007). There are also several causes of a broken home, ranging from divorce,

death of a parent, misunderstanding in families that fail to be resolved properly or even the

presence of a third party in household management (neighbours for example). a very tough

challenge for a child to live in a broken home. Living with the loss of one or even both parents has

an even bigger impact. when a figure that should be a source of love and affection or may be

present fails to provide these things, the child will lose important ammunition in developing his

character. The child will experience a void that they don't even really know how to fill until they

grow older. This makes the child experience many things that are detrimental to the development

of his life, ranging from simple bad behaviour to complex things such as depression in

relationships in the future, or other disorders (Asha, 2017; Saiki 2017). My notes will describe

some of the effects of the broken home that I found from the divorce of parents which makes

children introverted, stressed, and even depressed. But we can't choose but rising is the best

choice.

1. Loss of interest in social interaction

Divorce of parents greatly affects the mental condition of their children, for example, children will
lose interest in social interaction with the surrounding environment due to the missing role of
parents, and some children will prefer to close themselves because they feel uncomfortable
when they go out to socialize and get around people. tell stories about their parents and they will
ask questions that they shouldn't ask people who have just felt a broken home due to their
parents' divorce and that's what I feel when people around me ask questions that I think are
inappropriate for them to ask because these questions make me feel sad and down. I also feel
isolated among friends who I can interact with well because they think I'm weird. Even the
marriage and religion research institute (MARRI) states that children whose parents are divorced
will be at greater risk of developing this anti-social attitude because they are not comfortable in
an environment where they like to interfere with other people's things.

2. Expressing sadness to stress

Sadness can be a response to an event, such as disappointment, loss or a painful event that will
cause prolonged sadness to stress the person. Children who are victims of parental divorce are
indirectly faced with disturbances in their minds in their lives which include physical disorders,
psychomotor or skill disorders, intellectual disorders, social disturbances, and moral and
emotional disturbances. It is not surprising that the level of stress experienced by these severe
victims is greater than that experienced by people without such problems. One of the many
developmental disorders that occur in human development is social disorders. Social
disturbances that often occur are suicides (Monks, 2002). Even though I as a victim have not yet
come to the point of ending my life, it is not uncommon for me to meet people I know from a
broken family background wanting to end their lives. Some sliced their bodies or tortured their
bodies so that they would feel the pain caused by the very high stress. Some people think that
suicide is a way to solve problems and run away from their life which they think is bleak it is
surprising that research conducted by Gardner shows that 2.8% of mental hospital patients (aged
12-18) who try suicide, in actual circumstances the number may be higher than that because
there are quite a several teenage clients in the consulting room who have suicidal intentions even
though they are not carried out seriously, on the other hand, there are teenagers who seem to
have attempted suicide self. However, in reality, he only wants to attract people's attention
(especially from his parents), for example, by taking high doses of sleeping pills but not high
enough to kill or cut arteries, but then screaming so that everyone can help him (Carlito, 2006).
And the triggering factor in this mental relationship is a broken home. Depression is the pinnacle
of the stress you face. Depression gives the impact that he would rather not exist than endure
this high stress. Depression is the pinnacle of stress behind suicide.

3. Deal with it.

We are true ones who cannot choose to be born from the womb or form in whose sperm, or
even we can choose what kind of family we are in. Having a dream is of course in every
individual. Problems that we don't want, such as parental divorce, are problems beyond our
control. Our job is only to rise against adversity. Even though we are not as lucky as other people
whose families are complete, we are luckier for the life lessons that we experience and face.
These problems should mature us and with that maturity, we are better prepared to face life.
Beavers stated that the definition that must be attached to the family is the ability to provide
meaning to life for all family members in living a social-community life (Scholevar & Schwoeri,
2003). Family is the giver of meaning and meaning is something that is learned from whatever
happens. Although indirectly the divorce of parents will have an impact on the affection that
should be obtained, that is not a reason that can prevent us from achieving our dreams, of
course. Let's make peace with that because we are victims but don't sacrifice anymore if that's
your dream-filled future.
We are victims of a broken home who live in an unfairness that we must bear. AsUpan affection
that we should get will feel diminished from both parents. I am one of the proofs of several
children who are victims of parental divorce whose temperament is there, ah the source of
affection should be. But we are not proof of the failure of life even though our family is messed
up or more. We have proof, so we have to prove that a broken family background is not a
background that shows destruction, but we can also live normally by achieving the dreams that
we build for ourselves, even though we build up in a slump of depression or stress. The social
that makes us introverts will be drowned out by extroverts in wanting our dreams. Let's rise
together and deal with that problem.
Source:

Wiryohadi, periskila sitompul, and Gede Widoada, student of Teologi Bethel Indonesia (2021) model pendamping
postral bagi remaja yang mengalami broken home guna membangun citra dan konsep diri yang
benar. http://sttbi.ac.id/journal/index.php/diegesis/article/download/171/90
 
Chabibati Fatimatuz Zahra & Fajar Kawuryan, student Psicology University Muria Kudus (2020) Coping Stess pada
remaja broken home.https://publikasiilmiah.ums.ac.id/xmlui/bitstream/handle/11617/6446/6-Chabibati
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