When intimacy seems imminent, it is important to discuss boundaries, limits, safe words, and STI status beforehand to ensure safety and consent for all involved. These conversations can help make the encounter more honest and accountable. It is also important to be aware of any power dynamics in relationships due to differences in age, experience, status or privilege that could undermine equal consent between parties.
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When intimacy seems imminent, it is important to discuss boundaries, limits, safe words, and STI status beforehand to ensure safety and consent for all involved. These conversations can help make the encounter more honest and accountable. It is also important to be aware of any power dynamics in relationships due to differences in age, experience, status or privilege that could undermine equal consent between parties.
When intimacy seems imminent, it is important to discuss boundaries, limits, safe words, and STI status beforehand to ensure safety and consent for all involved. These conversations can help make the encounter more honest and accountable. It is also important to be aware of any power dynamics in relationships due to differences in age, experience, status or privilege that could undermine equal consent between parties.
become adept at asserting our own limits, and to embolden
ourselves to fearlessly express our needs and desires in our
sexual and romantic encounters so that our sex is as hot and passionate as it is safe and satisfying for all involved.
Anticipating the Encounter
When intimacy seems imminent, it is wise to discuss some vi- tal issues beforehand which will not only make the rendezvous less awkward, but will make it more honest and accountable to everyone’s needs and desires. Boundaries can be negotiated, safe words (words that mean “stop”) can be agreed-upon, lim- its can be set, and past histories of surviving abuse or abusing others can be disclosed. It’s imperative that those with STIs (sexually transmitted infections) disclose their positive STI status to whomever they might be putting at risk of catching said infection—to do otherwise is to violate the other person’s informed consent. Which is to say, one’s lovers might not have consented to sex had they known the inherent risk of the situ- ation. Aside from the more stressful pre-coital conversations though, let us also imbue these moments with joy, by sharing our fantasies, kinks, erogenous areas, and how we most like to be pleasured with those who share our beds.
Power and Privilege
It’s important to be aware of subtle or not-so-subtle power dynamics in one’s relationships and trysts, as those under- mine the ability of both parties to actively, enthusiastically, and equally consent to physical affection. In one’s relationship, are there differentials in age, sexual experience, social status, cultural privilege, or sexual/BDSM role that make practicing . 128 .
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