This document discusses consent and how it can be withdrawn at any time during a sexual encounter. It notes that continuing sexual acts after consent has been withdrawn constitutes sexual assault. It recommends that partners check in verbally with each other throughout and pay attention to body language signs like freezing up, crying, or looking away to ensure consent remains enthusiastic. Good times to check in include when switching activities or parts of the body touched, or trying something new.
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Professor Calamity, Alan Moore, Luna Celeste & others - A Steampunk's Guide to Sex-135
This document discusses consent and how it can be withdrawn at any time during a sexual encounter. It notes that continuing sexual acts after consent has been withdrawn constitutes sexual assault. It recommends that partners check in verbally with each other throughout and pay attention to body language signs like freezing up, crying, or looking away to ensure consent remains enthusiastic. Good times to check in include when switching activities or parts of the body touched, or trying something new.
This document discusses consent and how it can be withdrawn at any time during a sexual encounter. It notes that continuing sexual acts after consent has been withdrawn constitutes sexual assault. It recommends that partners check in verbally with each other throughout and pay attention to body language signs like freezing up, crying, or looking away to ensure consent remains enthusiastic. Good times to check in include when switching activities or parts of the body touched, or trying something new.
“give in to” sex on either person’s part, for fear of some sort of negative social, emotional, sexual, or physical consequence? Perhaps one lacks the confidence to say “no” and feels—or is made to feel—as though their rejection of their potential-lov- er is unreasonable, immature, or unfair. Deconstructing subtly coercive power dynamics relies heavily on careful introspec- tion and good-faith communication.
When a “Yay” Becomes a “Nay”
Consent can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason. By definition, the refusal to cease performing physical, sexual, or BDSM-related acts on others after consent has been withdrawn is sexual assault. But how might one know (other than hearing a direct “no”) that one’s date, lover, partner, or submissive no longer desires certain acts being performed on them that they typically delight in, or to which they are seemingly consent- ing? Checking in verbally with one’s partner(s) throughout the sexual encounter or BDSM scene and paying careful attention to body language are some wonderful ways to help keep things intentional and consensual, resulting in everyone involved feel- ing cared for, listened to, and safe. Good instances in which to check in are: when one is switching from touching one part of the body to another, in between performing a series of various sex acts, when those involved end up “going further” together than what was previously agreed upon, or when one might like to try out something completely new on or with their sweet- heart. Some body language cues that might betray a lack of en- thusiastic consent include: “freezing up,” unresponsiveness, cry- ing, looking away, squirming, or resisting in ways that are not a pre-agreed form of sexual play in the lovers’ dynamic. . 129 .