Feminine Power The Essential Course For The Awakening Woman - Module 2 - Break Through Your Inner Glass Ceiling - Power Practices Handout

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MODULE 2
BREAK THROUGH YOUR INNER GLASS CEILING
POWER PRACTICES HANDOUT
Imagine what will be possible when your relationship with your own feelings and
emotions becomes a source of power in your life…
And what might open up, once and for all, after you leave behind those patterns
that have been blocking your potentials?
During this training module, you’ll discover how to Unlock Feminine Power Center
One: Your Relationship With Yourself so that you can breakthrough your “inner
glass ceiling”—that pattern that has repeated itself again and again, preventing you
from manifesting your desires and vision—up until now!
You’ll discover how to liberate yourself from patterns of the past and build an
empowered relationship with the “self” in your body.
You may have noticed by now that there’s a “self” in your mind (who has a lot of
ideas about how things should be!), and there’s another “self” in your body (who
primarily experiences life emotionally).
The power to transform your life awakens when these two “selves” are in an
empowered relationship with each other.
POWER PRACTICE: CALLING FORTH YOUR POWER

As you move through this power practice, think about an area of your life in which
you’d like to have a breakthrough.
STEP ONE: CONNECT WITH EMPATHY, COMPASSION, LOVE AND SUPPORT

Think about that part of yourself that shows up powerfully for a friend or a loved
one, or elsewhere in your life where you are in touch with your most powerful self.
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MODULE 2: BREAK THROUGH YOUR INNER GLASS CEILING - POWER PRACTICES HANDOUT
Where in your life do you feel the most powerful?

It might be at work. If you’re an attorney, it might be when you’re making closing
arguments. It might be in your garden. It might be as parent. It might be when
you’re hiking or doing something physical.
Put yourself into that place where you feel the most powerful, and take a moment
to just breathe that feeling into your body.
Stand the way you stand when you feel the most powerful; breathe as you breathe
in that state, listen as you listen.
Put yourself in that most powerful place and begin to get really curious from this
place of power.
What are the challenges or struggles you’ve had in this area up until now?
Are there any patterns that seem to repeat themselves?
What is it that actually happens in this area of your life that has caused you to
feel stuck?
For example:
• Others don’t support you
• You invest in things and get no return
• You end up taking care of everyone else’s needs, but your own
• You diet and exercise only to regain the weight you lose
• You put yourself “out there” and your work isn’t valued
• You emotionally invest in a new relationship only to be rejected or find that the
person is unavailable
• You see less capable people being promoted ahead of you
• People take advantage of you
Who or what have you been blaming up until now as the reason you’ve been
getting stuck or stopped?
Note: When you’re reflecting on yourself as the source of your experience and
you’re uncovering these core identities, be loving and kind to yourself.
It’s important that when we’re reflecting and beginning to see and get curious
about ourselves, that WE’RE ANCHORED IN THE MOST POWERFUL PARTS
OF WHO WE ARE, the parts of us that have wisdom, that have power, that have
perspective.
What are the ways in which you can take responsibility for co-creating your
current experiences in the disempowered areas of your life?
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STEP TWO: IDENTIFY AND NAME THE OLD STORY

Connect to the feeling that comes up when the emotional pain of disappointment,
stuckness, or frustration gets activated—notice where it lives in your body.
Place your hand on the lowest center of where the feeling is held in your body and
breathe into the feeling, turning toward it rather than away from it.
Ask yourself, “If I could give this feeling a name,” and then finish these sentences
below:
• I AM… or I AM NOT
• Men/Women/Others are…
• The possibility of me succeeding and creating what I desire in this area of my life
is…
STEP THREE: RECONNECT WITH THE PART OF YOU THAT’S BEEN ISOLATED
AND STUCK IN THE OLD STORY
From a mature, loving, and wise adult center, ask yourself: “How old is this part of
myself?”
Ask yourself: “How large is the energy being held here?”
Open your eyes and shake the feeling off. Now ask yourself, “What is the best
thing about being my current age compared to being __________?”
*NOTE: Look for the resources, wisdom, power & strengths of your adult self.
Breathe into the center of this adult presence within you, anchoring the energy of
this center down through your entire body.
Place one hand on this deeper, wider center, making sure it is deeper than the
younger self that is holding the emotional center of the false belief in your body.
Breathe fully into the deeper center. Place your other hand on the part of your
body where the false belief is being held, and, as you breathe, consciously bring
these two parts of yourself into relationship with each other.
With each breath you take, extend a sense of care and presence to the younger
self from the part of you that is located in this deeper, wider center.
Just witness your younger self with love from your deeper center.
STEP FOUR: AWAKEN TO A DEEPER TRUTH

Ask yourself, “What is a deeper truth regarding this belief, this old story,
about myself/about others/and about my power to succeed in this area of my
life__________?”
Speak the truth to the younger self from the deeper, wider center, lovingly
correcting her misperception.
Help her to access a deeper truth than the one she has been inside of, powerfully
challenging the meaning she has been making all these years, with the ferocity of a
mother lioness, standing powerfully for what is really so.
STEP FIVE: CRAFT A POWER STATEMENT

Using the insights that you received above, craft a power statement that anchors
the deeper, greater truth about yourself that you can feel in your body, deeper and
wider than the false belief. Write it down and memorize it.
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STEP SIX: COMMIT TO A PATH OF GROWTH TO ALIGN WITH THE NEW STORY
Reflecting again from “Power Center:”
Take the time to journal and reflect upon these questions:
How have I been showing up in this area of my life inside this old story about who
I am and who others are, or what is or isn’t possible for me here?
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Inside this old story, what are the choices and decisions I’ve been making, what
have been my expectations?
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How have I been co-creating my experiences and creating evidence for its truth?
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What might it look like to show up in ways that are aligned with my new “Power
Story”?
For example:
• What’s a new way that you could to show up in your marriage that’s aligned with
that deeper truth?
• What’s a new way that you could show up in your business that’s aligned with
this deeper truth?
• What’s a new way for you to show up with men that’s aligned with this deeper
truth?
Using The Transformation MatrixTM as a guide, what new ways can you relate to, or
what new skills can you develop that will be a powerful stand and action for this
deeper truth?
For example:
• I can keep my first attention on myself so that I am deeply connected to myself
and from here, allow myself, my feelings, my needs, and my desires to be visible
to others.
• I will need to learn how to pace healthy intimacy when getting to know new
people.
What are the ways you can GROW and DEVELOP that are consistent with the
new story?
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UNLOCKING POWER CENTER ONE:

CULTIVATING AN EMPOWERED RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF
Most of us will readily admit that we’re much better friends to the people we love
than we are to ourselves. We’ll be there for our girlfriends, fiercely defend our
colleagues, love and support our partners, encourage and unconditionally accept
our children, but when it comes to ourselves, we rarely extend the same generosity
of spirit.
With these practices, you’ll discover how to go from being your own harshest
critic to becoming your own best friend. And by doing so, you will unlock the inner
foundation from which you can create success in your area of focus for the course.
Creating an empowered relationship with yourself, however, is not just about
taking spa days or being less self-judgmental.
It’s about creating an empowered partnership between the conscious, mature
parts of ourselves and the unconscious, less-developed, emotional parts that tend
to “trip” us up, time and time again.
The truth is, if you look at your experience, you’ll see that there are two parts of
you.
There’s a self in your mind that has access to the wisdom and resources of your life
experiences. It’s your waking self, where you spend most of your time.
And there’s a self in your body who has her own experience of life.
When I talk about building a relationship with yourself, I’m talking about a fluid and
empowered relationship between the self that’s in your mind and the self that’s in
your body.
In the place in which you’re struggling to manifest or create, the core belief, this
core sense of who you are, of what is or isn’t possible, is held by the self in your
body.
She has her own consciousness. It may be totally irrational. It may not be
supported by evidence.
But you can’t talk this part of you out of how she feels.
Most of us have been in an adversarial relationship with ourselves, or we have
become disconnected.
Either we will be in one self or we will be in the other self. In some circumstances,
we become this younger self, and that’s all there is. We may be competent and able
to show up for others, but in this area, we are rarely able to be there for ourselves.
You can look at your experience of these two selves in your life.
It might be at work.
You’ve been offered a promotion, and the self in your mind is really excited.
“Great, I can pay off that credit card debt…more leadership…more power… more
responsibility!”
But in your body, you feel really sad and depressed, because you really hate this job,
and you feel like it’s off-purpose for your life.
Most of us don’t know how to reconcile the gap between those two parts of us.
So, we either disconnect (totally ignoring one part of ourselves), or we try to talk
ourselves out of what we feel.
Or for example, you go out on a date with a guy. He’s really successful, wealthy, and
he’s looking for the marrying kind. He’s kind of attractive, and your mind is saying,
“Like him, like him.” Meanwhile, the self in your body is pulling away saying “I hope
he doesn’t try to kiss me.”
What we need to look at is, what’s your relationship between these two parts of
you, the self in your mind and the self in your body.
What’s the quality of that relationship?
How well do you listen to the self in your body?
How positively do you talk to yourself?
How do you respond to the different feelings that you have?
Unless you learn how to have an empowered relationship between these
different parts of you, you’re not going to be able to evolve and break through
this pattern that we’ve identified.
RELATIONSHIP TO SELF POWER INVENTORY

When you imagine the relationship between the self in your mind and the self
in your body, was there any other relationship, between yourself and another
person?
What would the quality of that relationship be?
Empowered? Disempowered? Disconnected? Connected?
Just notice that as a starting point.
How have you been relating to yourself—listening to yourself (or not), talking to
yourself, caring or not caring for yourself that energizes the old story and pattern
in your area of focus?
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We’re going to totally transform that right now!

Most of us haven’t really cultivated a fluid and empowered relationship between
these parts of ourselves, and as a result have a limited capacity for growth in the
areas in which we feel stuck.
POWER PRACTICE:
UNLOCKING POWER CENTER ONE
CULTIVATING AN EMPOWERED RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF
Listen to Module 2 Power Practice Audio: Unlocking Power Center One–
Cultivating an Empowered Relationship with Yourself
The following is a practice that I encourage you to do every day this week to forge
an unshakable connection between these parts of you that will give you the power
to break through and break free of the old story and pattern forever.
I invite you, for just a moment, to put everything to one side. If you’re somewhere
where it’s safe for you to do so, close your eyes.
1. Step back into connecting with that feeling in your body that comes up in
the center of your pattern, “I’m not good enough,” or “I’m too much,” or “I’m not
wanted.” Whatever that feeling was. Just notice where the center of the feeling is in
your body, and place one hand there and breathe into the center of that feeling.
2. Ask the question: How old is this part of me that is centered in this idea about
herself?
Just witness it. She might be 6. She might be 12. She might be 15. If there are two
ages, focus on the younger age.
3. Now, while becoming aware of the self in your body who now has a sense of her
age, ask the question:
What’s the best thing about being my current age compared to the age of this
younger self?
4. Connect with your wise adult self, the self that feels the most powerful in your
life. The part of you that can show up and be a good friend to others. The part of
you that can hold perspective.
Breathe deeply, all the way down—just taking your awareness all the way down
into your hips, down into your legs.
There’s a center within you that is deeper and wider than the feelings in your
body.
With each breath, deepen and widen this center of awareness in your body, and just
imagine that you are expanding your awareness outward to the edges of the room.
See if you can access this deeper, wider center.
5. From here—fully connected to yourself as a mature adult woman in the place
that you feel the most powerful—imagine turning toward the younger self in your
body, just bring these two parts of you into connection with each other.
Allow the breath to bring the older, wiser part of you that shows up so powerfully
for other people and this younger part of you, into connection with each other.
This wise, powerful self is holding, witnessing, the younger self in your body. Just
turn toward her…
6. Turn toward the self in your body, and ask her, “What are you feeling?” And
listen to the response with love.
Holding her, witnessing her, and even saying your name, “FIRSTNAME, what are
you feeling?”
Don’t think about the answer. Listen for the answer. Just listen.
7. Then mirror the answer with love and kindness. “I can see that you’re feeling…”
There’s no need to fix it. No need to fulfill it. No need to change it in any way.
“I can see that you’re feeling . . .” and just naming whatever is there. Just mirror back
the response three times.
8. Then asking the question, “What do you need?”
Say your name, “FIRSTNAME, what do you need?”
Mirror back the response with love, “I can see that you need…” and just name
whatever is there.
No need to fix it. No need to fulfill it. Just mirror this response from the self in your
body. This is the Power Practice—just notice what happens.
This is really one of the great secrets of transformation:
What you turn toward and connect with
from a deeper center will transform.
Most of us have been turning away from our feelings because we don’t know what
to do with them, or where to go with them.
But when we can witness them and bring them into relationship with the part of
ourselves that has the capacity to witness, to hold, and to just be present, they will
begin to transform us.
This is like a building muscle that we’re going to begin working with throughout the
course.
Don’t worry if you didn’t have an experience of this yet in this short practice.
Work with it every day for a week. It’s going to guide you through this entire
practice, and you will begin to have a different experience of these two parts of
you!
RESOURCE: FEELINGS AND NEEDS INVENTORY

Feelings When Your Needs Are Satisfied:
AFFECTIONATE fascinated invigorated encouraged
compassionate interested lively optimistic
friendly intrigued passionate
JOYFUL
loving involved surprised
amused
open hearted spellbound vibrant
delighted
sympathetic stimulated
EXHILARATED glad
tender
INSPIRED blissful happy
warm
amazed ecstatic jubilant
CONFIDENT awed elated pleased
empowered wonder enthralled tickled
open exuberant
EXCITED PEACEFUL
proud radiant
amazed calm
safe rapturous
animated clear headed
secure thrilled
ardent comfortable
ENGAGED aroused GRATEFUL centered
absorbed astonished appreciative content
alert dazzled moved equanimous
curious eager thankful fulfilled
engrossed energetic touched rested
enchanted enthusiastic restored
HOPEFUL
entranced giddy revived
expectant
Other languages: https://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory

Content (c) 2005 by Center for Nonviolent Communication
Website: www.cnvc.org | Email: cnvc@cnvc.org
Feelings When Your Needs Are NOT Satisfied:

AFRAID AVERSION indifferent FATIGUE
apprehensive animosity numb beat
dread appalled removed burnt out
foreboding contempt uninterested depleted
frightened disgusted withdrawn exhausted
mistrustful dislike lethargic
DISQUIET
panicked hate listless
agitated
petrified horrified sleepy
alarmed
scared hostile tired
discombobulated
suspicious repulsed weary
disconcerted
terrified worn out
CONFUSED disturbed
wary
ambivalent perturbed PAIN
worried
baffled rattled agony
ANNOYED bewildered restless anguished
aggravated dazed shocked bereaved
dismayed hesitant startled devastated
disgruntled lost surprised grief
displeased mystified troubled heartbroken
exasperated perplexed turbulent hurt
frustrated puzzled turmoil lonely
impatient torn uncomfortable miserable
irritated unnerved uneasy regretful
irked unsettled unnerved remorseful
upset unsettled
ANGRY SAD
upset
enraged DISCONNECTED depressed
furious alienated EMBARRASSED dejected
incensed aloof ashamed despair
indignant apathetic chagrined despondent
irate bored flustered disappointed
livid cold guilty discouraged
outraged detached mortified disheartened
resentful distant self-conscious forlorn
distracted gloomy
NEEDS INVENTORY
The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a
starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening
self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between
people. Use it as a basis of exploring your own met and unmet needs.
CONNECTION compassion nurturing to see and be seen

acceptance consideration respect/self-re- to understand and
affection consistency spect be understood
appreciation empathy safety trust
belonging inclusion security warmth
communication stability
intimacy
closeness
love support
community
companionship mutuality to know and be
known
Full list in pdf format:
https://www.cnvc.org/sites/default/files/needs_inventory_0.pdf
Also available in different languages at:
https://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
Content (c) 2005 by Center for Nonviolent Communication
Website: www.cnvc.org | Email: cnvc@cnvc.org
Next Steps:
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About Your Instructor
CLAIRE ZAMMIT, Ph.D.
There are few women alive today who inception, it has

have done more to empower conscious generated over $50
women to actualize their potential and million in revenue
realize their destiny than Claire Zammit. and reached
In her two decades as a transformational millions of people
teacher and leader, Claire has shared her from more than
life-changing Feminine Power principles 180 countries.
and practices with millions of women
A dedicated
around the globe.
philanthropist,
Her groundbreaking doctoral research Claire’s personal
on the underlying obstacles blocking contributions and
intelligent, conscious, women from fundraising efforts
stepping into their greatness has been have been hailed as
praised as a seminal contribution to the a major catalyst for
advancement of women in this century. the growth of the
Girl Power Project
Over 40,000 women from more than which is on track to
100 countries have graduated from bring self-esteem
her innovative online Feminine Power and leadership
Academy, and her Feminine Power training to over one
Professional Certification Trainings million low-income
have trained hundreds more to create girls in Uganda by 2020.
fulfilling, impactful and successful careers
as transformational coaches, facilitators Claire is an active member of Jack
and leaders in their fields. She is fast Canfield’s Transformational Leadership
becoming known as the “mentor of Council and was the recipient of
mentors” for gifted, conscious women. its Achievement Award, and is also
a participant in Deepak Chopra’s
In addition to building the Feminine Evolutionary Leaders Forum. She is also
Power global community, Claire is the recipient of the Just Like My Child
also a wildly successful conscious Foundation Women’s Leadership Award.
entrepreneur. In 2010, she co-founded
Evolving Wisdom, LLC which, under her She holds a Ph.D. in Transformational
leadership rapidly grew to become one Learning & Change from the California
of the world’s most successful online Institute of Integral Studies and lives in
transformational learning enterprises. In Berkeley, California with her husband
2013, Evolving Wisdom was ranked #83 of eleven years, spiritual teacher Craig
on the Inc. 500 list of America’s fastest Hamilton.
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POWER PRACTICE: CALLING FORTH YOUR POWER

STEP ONE: CONNECT WITH EMPATHY, COMPASSION, LOVE AND SUPPORT

Where in your life do you feel the most powerful?

STEP TWO: IDENTIFY AND NAME THE OLD STORY

Ask yourself: “How large is the energy being held here?”

STEP FOUR: AWAKEN TO A DEEPER TRUTH

STEP FIVE: CRAFT A POWER STATEMENT

UNLOCKING POWER CENTER ONE:

RELATIONSHIP TO SELF POWER INVENTORY

We’re going to totally transform that right now!

RESOURCE: FEELINGS AND NEEDS INVENTORY

Other languages: https://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory

Feelings When Your Needs Are NOT Satisfied:

CONNECTION compassion nurturing to see and be seen

There are few women alive today who inception, it has

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