So, the danger of people pleasing in a nutshell is self-neglect in the broadest

sense of the word. It’s self-neglect that hinders shaping an authentic identity,
independent decision-making, and pursuing personal needs and interests. The
archetypical people pleaser tends to have trouble saying “no,” which I can strongly
relate to. Through the inability to deny other people’s requests of you, which
generally go at your own expense, people will significantly decide your agenda. You
will give them your time, energy, and resources: things that shouldn’t be wasted
carelessly. But people pleasing isn’t just bad news for the pleaser; it can also go
at the expense of the people to whom the pleaser directs his efforts. Take, for
example, the pleasing mother doing literally everything for her teenage kids, from
cooking to cleaning after them, which not only takes a toll on her own life but
also hinders her children from learning basic life skills and developing a sense of
responsibility. By constantly stepping in to make everything perfect for them, she
inadvertently prevents her children from experiencing the natural consequences of
their actions. All in all, people-pleasing comes with undeniable downsides.