It’s like lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm, which could eventually

turn into a blaze, burning the people you seek to please as well. Validation and
acceptance from others are the people pleaser’s pursuit. But could it possibly be
that these things are overrated? Could it be that other people’s approval and
companionship aren’t worthy of the neverending self-sacrifice that some engage in?
The human tendency to seek validation isn’t entirely a mystery. It’s most likely an
evolutionary thing, as our lives would depend on the acceptance by the tribe, a
relatively small group of individuals we spent our existence with. There wasn’t
really a choice regarding the people we hung out with; we couldn’t just cut them
out of our lives and find some new friends.