12/31/23, 6:53 PM How to Make a Hot Girl Like You: 12 Steps (with Pictures)

How to Make a Hot Girl Like You

Co-authored by Cher Gopman
Last Updated: August 4, 2023

You met a beautiful girl, and now you can't stop thinking about her. How do you get her
to like you? What can you do to get her to notice you? To help you out, we've rounded
up the top tips for impressing a girl and winning her over. Keep reading to learn how you
can exude confidence and coolness whenever you're around her and (hopefully) score a
date.

Part Part 1 of 3:
1
Flirting with Her

1 Talk to her. Before you ask her out, you'll have to start a conversation.
Approach her with a positive, confident energy. It's good to start by making
brief eye contact. After you've made this connection, flash her a quick smile.
[1]

Once you've made this initial connection, think about your body language.
Make sure that you are open and receptive to her, rather than hunched
over and closed off. Your openness will prove your interest in.
Make sure that you're listening well. Empathic listening doesn't imply that
you agree completely with the other person.[2] It does, however, imply that
you try to fully understand a person emotionally, behaviorally, physically,
and intellectually.

2 Learn about her interests. You want to get to know her quickly. When
you're trying to ask a girl out, you have to be more active than you would
starting a friendship. Think less about yourself and more about her.
Lead off with a thought-provoking question. These intriguing questions will
get her to open up. The more weird, specific facts that you know about her,
the better. You'll have more topics to discuss.

3 Compliment her. Without being cheesy, throw some nice compliments her
way. A good compliment must be honest and genuine. Studies show that a
personality-centric compliment works much better than a compliment relating to
looks or skills.[3]

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If you think she has a great sense of humor, tell her. She might be very
caring, and your acknowledgement of this attribute will certainly endear you
to her.
While compliments work well, don't be desperate with them. If you keep
throwing out praise, your positive words will lose their impact. Tell her
earnest compliments without being overbearing.
Whatever you do, don't be too intimate with compliments during your first
conversation. This has the chance to backfire and make you look creepy.

4 Flirt smoothly. Learning how to flirt is crucial in impressing a potential

romantic partner. When you flirt, you're suggesting the potential for
romance between you and the other party.[4]
The flirting game must have suspense and ambiguities built into it. You
want to keep her guessing without leading her astray. Flirting should be
playful, however, so don't overthink it.
Keep your eyes out for flirtatious non-verbal cues. Women are more likely
to begin the initial flirtation, but they often wait for men to make the official
"first move." If she's teasing you with a look, you don't want to miss it.[5]
Some non-verbal flirtations might include giggling, smiling, or laughing and
nodding. If she's responding positively to you and you recognize these
cues, she's probably flirting.

5 Make your move. If you're hitting it off, then you'll want to ask her out.
While chatting and flirting will give you a chance to get to know her, you
want to establish your interest by setting a time to see her in the future.[6]
Think of some activities for your date. Movies and dinner can work, but
they aren't always the most creative options. If you've gauged her interests
by asking her about herself, then ask her to do something that fits what she
likes.
If you've acquired her number, don't get in a trap of texting. Texting can be
great in setting up a date, but you need to meet in person. This will prove
that she's worth your time.

Part Part 2 of 3:
2
Improving Your Look

1 Buy new clothes. Wearing the right clothes will make you appeal to your
object of affection. Don't change your personal style too much. Massive
changes in fashion will seem put on. You do, however, want to "dress to
impress" more often than not.[7]

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You'll want to keep color and cut in mind when you're getting dressed. Pick
colors that show off the aspects your personality that you want her to see.
It's no secret that red is the color of love and passion.[8] Throwing on a red
article of clothing could be the perfect way to catch her attention.
The cut of your clothing is also crucial. You definitely don't want your
clothes to be overly baggy, as that won't show off your form. Wearing
clothes that are too tight, however, may bunch up awkwardly on your body.
Dress pants should be straight fit and not too tight. Jeans look better when
on the slim side.

2 Style your hair. You always want to keep your hair in control. No strand
should be out of place.[9] Use the proper styling product to nail that
"freshly-cut" look. Remember that each hairstyle requires a different style of
product.
For shorter styles, try a pomade or wax. While pomade will keep your hair
nicely in place, a wax will add a bit of additional shine and control.
If you want to go for a more disheveled look, try using a mud or fiber. This
will give you the illusion of a ragged appearance without your hair actually
being unobtainable.
Creams work well in longer hair, making your potentially ragged
appearance more conservative.
While pomades, waxes, muds, and fibers should be used in dry hair, a
cream must be applied in wet hair. It's very easy to apply these styling
products. Take a small amount of product, rub it in your hands, and comb it
through your hair. Style to fit your preference.

3 Practice good hygiene. You always want to keep clean, but when you're
impressing a girl, cleanliness is crucial. Good personal hygiene shouldn't
be much of a chore, but you want to make sure that you have all your bases
covered. You'll smell better while preventing yourself from getting sick.[10]
Take regular baths and showers. Some people don't need to shower every
day. This is fine, but you should always use deodorant. Bad body odor is a
huge turn-off, so don't make that mistake. Girls don't like a guy who can't
clean himself.
Brush and floss at least twice a day. It'd be ideal to take care of your dental
health after every meal, especially if you're about to talk to a girl. This is
often tough, however, so don't sweat it. You definitely want to brush at the
beginning and end of each day.

4 Wear cologne. Finding the right cologne can transform you. It will make
you feel more confident and greatly enhance your viability to women.[11]

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Cologne definitely has to be applied in moderation. You don't want to drown

yourself in any musk.
People should only be able to smell you within your "scent circle," which
refers to the space within an arm's length from your body. That way, your
smell isn't being picked up from a distance. An aggressive scent can be
very unsettling.
Apply all colognes from a six-inch distance from your body. You don't want
the fragrance to form a puddle on your skin.
Above all, remember that cologne cannot replace proper hygiene. It's an
additional touch that should be used sparingly and under the right
circumstances. If you're avoiding showers and masking your bad scent with
cologne, you'll never impress a girl.

Part Part 3 of 3:
3
Getting the Confidence

1 Learn self-love. The best way to impress those around you begins from
within. You must gain confidence with others by learning to love yourself.
When you're practicing self-love, you'll be more social and more willing to
share yourself with people. Not practicing self-love will lead to a more solitary,
reclusive existence.
When you have compassion for yourself, you'll always keep your best
interests at heart. Being supportive to yourself is crucial in romantic
endeavors. If things don't work out in your attempts to get a girl, you won't
be crushed by defeat.
It's key, when feeling down, to take action. Keep note of your goals and
aspects of yourself that you're working to improve When you've figured out
your goals, make small substeps to these goals and accomplish them.
Working on a smaller scale will help your dreams seems more attainable.
Even if you fail in the process, you'll likely become stronger. Accepting
failure is key to strong self-love.

2 Work out. It's been proven that regular exercise will make you look
healthier. It will also improve your confidence. Know that self-confidence
can be learned, so your attempts to better yourself will not be wasted.[12]
If you haven't spent much time working out, it may be difficult to start.
Incorporate trips to the gym into your weekly schedule. If you force it into
your routine, it will be much easier to get yourself there. Like all habits, you
need repetition before it becomes natural.
Even if you can't lift much when you first start exercising, don't get
discouraged. While looking good will help you attract a girl, you can start by

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working on your confidence. If you feel accomplished after a long day at

the gym, you'll notice your self-worth improving.

3 Brainstorm conversation starters. You'll be more likely to succeed if you

enter a conversation boldly. If you're feeling nervous about starting off your
conversation with a girl, it's good to think about some potential openings.[13]
These should still feel natural coming from your voice.
Starting with a broad question helps. These open-ended conversation
starters open up many different avenues for a conversation to follow. Ask
her about herself in a creative way, rather than the obvious, "Where are
you from?"
It's good to not only ask her about herself, but also let her speak about
something she's passionate about. Ask about a project that she's been
working on, or what she does for her job.
Ask about a highlight of her day or week. Speaking positively about the
past ensures that you get the conversation started in a successful way.
Thinking about potential conversation topics is useful in gaining
confidence, but don't fall back on these prompts when speaking to her. You
need to listen and remain receptive to changes in the conversation.

Tips

References

1. Cher Gopman. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.

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to-be-understood/
3. http://classroom.synonym.com/compliment-crush-thats-girl-14668.html
4. https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199901/the-new-flirting-game
5. Cher Gopman. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.
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proper-date/
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