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INTRODUCTION
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wife. Nervousness in the presence of
strangers or people we meet the first
time is one of the major setbacks in a
relationship. The approach to this
problem is the reason for its lingering
effects on a man's life. Indeed if the
problem of insecurity in the presence of
strange faces can be taken seriously just
as any other human problems then solving
the problem becomes easier in other to
reduce the level of rejections from the
ladies you admire. In this book, the
author has identified from personal
experience and other people's experiences
7 guaranteed easy steps of winning a
lady's heart.
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is associated with temperament yet there
is a degree of nervousness associated
with each of the four major temperaments
due to human imperfection. Social
scientists have discovered that this
problem of lack of social confidence can
be overcome by practising conversation
with people in the office, business
premises, neighbourhood, market Square,
school environment, shopping mall, gym
etc. The most important thing about
solving this problem is problem
identification. When a growing young man
does not see it as a concern, his
inability to win a ladies heart then it
becomes most difficult for the fellow to
be guided on how to go about the problem.
To develop strength in conversation one
must adopt the following methods:
● Approach people at work and School.
● Comment on issues to engage in
conversations.
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● Practice conversations in a
low-pressure environment to help you
manage stage fright.
2. PERSONAL PACKAGING
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to stage-manage one's voice at any first
impression. Similarly the way a young man
dresses can as well speak volume about
his personality. Guys who are fond of
dressing down will usually get snubbed by
their crush. So it is advised that a guy
should practice mixing up his choices of
dress since one cannot tell when the
right lady will cross his path. Also,
packaging entails your mental capacity to
engage in conversation. Mind you, some
ladies are versed in the knowledge of so
many issues. Sometimes they pretend not
to know. However, taking that pretence
for granted might cause you that
relationship. It is therefore important
that you equip yourself with adequate
information about whatever you're going
to discuss at that meeting point. Some
occasion demands that you put up
something on the table like coffee or any
drink of your choices depending on where
you met her. So it is not expected that
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when you are meeting a lady for the first
time you don't have any money with you.
Yes, you could argue this but the truth
is that there is no love without giving.
It is a good way of starting and it shows
your class because no lady will be
comfortable with a non-caring guy. You
must prove that you are financially
capable and understand what to do at
every given time. For instance, if you
see a lady on the road while you are
driving and decide to put up a
conversation and that leads to taking her
out to an eatery or recreation centre. To
join you in your car, courtesy demands
that you open the passenger's door and
let her in before you enter your driver's
position to drive her because it is said
ladies first.
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3. IDENTIFY CONVERSATION TIMING
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● When she's deeply preoccupied with
something. Interacting with her will
make a bad first impression.
Essentially, it feels good when both
parties are well disposed of in a
conversation and it helps to make
meaningful debates. Therefore for a young
man whose interest is wooing a lady, he
should take cognizance of the mood of the
lady at the time of the intended
discussion and the meeting point. This
way, you will be maximizing the
opportunity of meeting her. In another
school of thought, you can as well cash
in on the bad mood of a lady by being a
solution to the immediate problem leading
to the bad mood. You can do this by
asking a question like this 'hi, lady why
is your mood like this?' or 'hi, your
face is not good, what is wrong?'
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CREATING INSTANT CONNECTION WITH THE EYES
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Avoid political or religious issues since
your interests may not be the same and
hence such conversation may lead to an
unending debate and this may not mean
well for the supposed relationship. It is
important to understand that no matter
how often you practice on your own to
strengthen your social conversation you
will still be nervous talking to your
crush. If you are nervous don't hope she
will not notice because she likely will.
Instead, confront the nervousness by
addressing it in the conversation. Say
something like this 'I'm always so
nervous when I meet new people. If you
want to compliment her, you could say I
can't help but be a bit nervous when I'm
talking to such a pretty lady. Let your
conversation have a purpose. Don't simply
introduce yourself and allow the
conversation to fizzle out immediately.
Try making a friendly observation if
she's interested in doing so.
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4. APPROACH FROM THE SIDE
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6. ESTABLISH THAT YOU'RE WORTH TALKING TO
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lies or fake your life. This of course
you know has to change because once the
relationship is established it has to be
based on truth. Use body language that
shows you are friendly.
7. COLLECT TO CONNECT
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as well. Whichever approach gives you a
safe landing on collecting her phone
number you can use. In any case at this
point, your target is to ensure you have
her phone number. As much as it is
possible for you, emotional discipline is
expected of you when you meet a lady for
the first time. For instance, if
eventually, she releases her phone number
to you, it is not an opportunity for you
to be sending nude images or begin to
talk about sex or discussions that will
make her feel unease with you since you
are just starting the relationship and
you intend to build this relationship for
a long time if not at the end settling
down with her. Continue being thrilling
and humorous you have been during the
first impression. This is to allow her
time to consolidate the impressions you
have created during your first meeting.
You can use your social media handle to
post comedy-related contents. It is
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ingratitude not to thank her after she
must have given you her phone number as
well as not good when you get home
without giving her a call to know whether
she has got home.
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to meet a young man who is trustworthy
and friendly therefore if you want to win
the heart of a lady be the one they are
looking for. No matter how bold you are,
you must avoid an onlooker method of
approaching a lady. Rather, it is
suggested that approaching from the side
makes a lady secure and enables her to
prepare for your presence. Above all, do
all within the skills you have learnt in
this book to ensure that after meeting a
lady you do not go your way without
collecting her contact either that of
mobile phone or social media handle.
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