8 Experts Reveal the Secrets to Attracting 

Women
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By Mauro at  Efficacious Seduction

Do you want to know how to attract a woman?

I know… every man craves this secret knowledge… but most of men don’t have
any clue.
They think that women are attracted to men for sooo many wrong reasons.

I want you to get rid of wrong ideas that will lead you into failure with women…
but I am not going to tell you what attracts women…

…I am going to do something better ????

I asked a few experts – psychologists, body language experts, dating coaches –

for something practical that you could use right away.
Of course their answers were really interesting.

I asked them this question:

“Based on your studies/researches/experience, what’s one thing that a man can

do to attract a woman when he meets her for the first time?”

So that next time you meet a woman, you can do something to give her a good
(or great!) first impression…and maybe spark that initial attraction in her.

Here you go:

 

Tracey Cox

GIVE HER THE EYE

You can thank Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin for this one. Rubin set out to see
if you could measure love scientifically and achieved it by recording the amount
of time lovers spent staring at each other. He discovered couples who are deeply
in love, look at each other 75% of the time when talking and are slower to look
away when someone else dares to intrude. In normal conversation, people look
at each other between 30-60% of the time. The significance of what’s now known
as Rubin’s Scale is obvious: it’s possible to tell how ‘in love’ people are by
measuring the amount of time they spend gazing adoringly. Some psychologists
still use it during counseling to work out how much affection couples feel for
each other. It’s also happens to be remarkably handy information if you want to
make someone fall in love with you.

Here’s how it works: If you look at someone you fancy 75% of the time when
they’re talking to you, you trick their brain. The brain knows the last time
someone looked at them that long and often, it meant they were in love. So it
thinks OK, they’re obviously in love with this person as well, and starts to release
phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA is the chemical cousin to amphetamines and it’s
secreted by the nervous system when we first fall in love. PEA is what makes
your palms sweat, your tummy flip over and your heart race. The more PEA the
person you fancy has pumping through their bloodstream, the more likely they
are to fall in love with you. While you can’t honestly force someone to adore you
if they’re not remotely interested, (they won’t let you look into their eyes for that
long, for a start!) it is entirely possible to kick-start the production of PEA using
this technique. Try it. I think you’ll be pretty impressed with the results. Give
someone the sensation of feeling in love whenever they’re with you and it’s not
such a huge leap of logic for them to finally decide they are!

DON’T LOOK AWAY

There was another crucial finding from Rubin’s research: the couples took longer
to look away when someone else joined the conversation. Again, if you do this to
someone who’s not in love with you (yet), you trick their brain into thinking they
are and even more PEA floods into their bloodstream. Relationships expert Leil
Lownes calls this technique making ‘toffee eyes’. Simply lock eyes with the
person you fancy and keep them there, even when they’ve finished talking or
someone else joins the conversation. When you eventually do drag your eyes
away (three or four seconds later), do it slowly and reluctantly – as though
they’re attached by warm toffee. This is one of those techniques which doesn’t
sound terribly inspired but, believe me, if done properly it literally can take your
breath away. (If you’re too shy to openly gaze, skip the toffee and think bouncing
ball. Look away and at the other person who’s joined the conversation, but every
time they finish a point or sentence, let your eyes bounce back to the person you
fancy. This is a checking gesture – you’re checking their reactions to what the
speaker is saying. It also effectively lets them know you’re more interested in
them than the other person.)

There’s another great advantage to making ‘toffee eyes’: it will make you seem
more intelligent. Most people look away immediately you’ve finished speaking
because they’re comprehending what you’ve said and gathering their thoughts.
Looking into space rather than at your face, reduces distraction. Quick, sharp
thinkers process new information easily. They continue looking into someone’s
eyes when they’ve finished speaking because they’ve already absorbed the
message and are ready for you to continue.

 
 Kimberly Seltzer

A first impression happens within the first thirty seconds of meeting someone.
People, especially women, size you up instantly based on what you look like, and
they use that assessment to decide whether they want to get to know you. In
fact, 55% of the impression you make is based solely on your appearance so you
can literally increase the odds of your dating success and attraction by 55%
percent just by paying attention to the clothing you wear. I’ve interviewed
countless women and the number one attribute that makes a woman’s head
turn is a man appearance. The goal in dating is to captivate a potential mate and
line up a first date. Although it may seem shallow, women (as well as men)
instantly make judgments and assumptions based on how you’re dressed and
what your attitude/body language says. Your style can instantly tell a story about
you. There is a message in what you wear and when you look put together
women are drawn to what appears to be a confident, successful and caring man.

Also, men often get caught up with their own thoughts that ultimately cause
them to become distracted with internal dialogue and not present with the
woman. For instance, a man will try and come up with clever lines, try to impress
her by talking about himself or worry too much about what to say rather than
stating something that relates to the woman. Most women love when a man
talks with them in a focused, attentive and authentic way. The key is to use sharp
observation skills and notice something about her that you are authentically
curious about so that you can have a great meaningful conversation. Avoid
hesitating and let go of agonizing about what to say. Rather, be in the moment
and learn something interesting about her.

 
 Sarah Jones

To attract quality women naturally when you first meet them, no trick is going to
cut it. You must ALREADY be the kind of man who is comfortable in his own skin.
I call this being a Benevolent Badass = a strong man who is at ease and who
enjoys himself and others.

There are a few ways to bring out your inner Benevolent Badass: (1) Dwell on
your strengths so you can perceive yourself as equal to her, instead of less than.
(2) Dress and present yourself well, the most important aspect of which is having
simple clothes that fit you well. (3) Focus on connecting and having a genuinely
great time.

These things are not a quick fix, but they are infinitely more powerful for
attracting quality, discerning woman than a shady trick or gimmick would be.

 
 Robert Phipps

Confidence is the key, not over assertive or arrogant but self confident in your
demeanor, good posture is automatically perceived as confident by more than
60% of people.

Dr. Lillian Glass

Body language wise, look right at the woman’s face, have a genuine smile with
your eyes crinkled and cheeks raised and teeth showing, lean in towards the
woman, and have your feet pointing in her direction.

James Preece

If you want to attract a woman, you have to make sure you stand out from all the
other guys. You can do this in a number of ways, such as dressing well, being
mysterious or making her laugh. However, the very best thing you can do is to
intrigue her by showing how genuinely confident you are.

I’m not suggesting for a second that you need to be arrogant – that’s a complete
turn off – but show you are a happy, positive person who is completely
comfortable in their own skin. So smile, have open body language and make
sure you have lots going on in your life. Confidence is sexy, especially when you
make her feel the same by showing she is the most important person to you in
the moment you meet. To do this, ask lots of questions and pay attention to her
answers. After all, people like people who like them.

If you can demonstrate that spending time with you is something that would
make her life a little better, she’s naturally going to be drawn to you.

Kezia Noble

A man needs ditch his nerves completely! A lot of dating coaches say that it’s OK
to show your nerves and to be vulnerable. However, I completely disagree with
this. A woman might think your nerves and shyness are cute, but cute is not a
turn on. We never say: “I had to sleep with that guy because he was just so cute”.
A woman will not sleep with a man out of pity, no matter what the movies tell
you. So rid yourself from the nervous laugh, never start you questions with the
uncertain “So…” and never be apologetic unless of course you have actually done
something wrong.

 
 

Traci Brown

The best thing a guy can do to attract in a woman is to let your gaze linger just a
little longer than normal. That’s going to send the sign that you’re interested.
When you get in closer proximity a well timed touch of the arm or knee shows
that you want to connect more deeply. And if you match her body movements
just a bit, you’ll create a deep unconscious connection that she won’t be able to
say no to.

Conclusion

First of all, a big thank you to all the experts who shared their expertise and
knowledge with us.
There are so many great suggestions here…even using just a few of them can
make a big difference in your results with women!

By reading all the answers from the experts you may have noticed a common
theme – If you haven’t, I’ll tell you what it is.

First impression matters a lot, but don’t think it’s about faking it. It’s about working
on yourself, becoming a better more confident man with a strong body language –
remember that body language is a reflection of your inner world.

Sure, it takes time, but it’s well worth it.

And you have some wonderful tips to start.