Why Am I Still Single?

Everybody wants to be loved. You can say what you want, but deep down
inside there is a desire for love and attention. Because of this, you want a
relationship. You want to have someone you can count on and spend your
time with. You don't want all the perceived B.S. that happens in a lot of
relationships. However, you want the good stuff, and lots of it.

The reality though, is that you don't have that right now, and quite frankly it
sucks. It sucks even harder when you can't understand why. Why are so
many other people finding relationships, but you're still in line waiting. You
have to ask the question "why am I still single" hoping you can gain some
kind of real clarity on the issue. Well look no further, because clarity has
arrived.

Now let me make something clear. This is not going to be one of those tell
you you're so great and everybody else is just garbage moments. This is not
going to be about celebrating being single and telling you why you should
stay that way. Nope, this is going to be a straight forward and honest
breakdown of why you don't have yourself a "bae" right now. Know that this
is all in love and my desire to help you take the next step towards receiving
the relationship that deep down you've been wanting. So with that said,
shall we begin...

1. You're Not Embracing What They Need

Ok so you're a great person. You have some things going for you. Maybe
you have a lot going for you. Your friends and family tell you that you're
awesome and anybody would be happy to have you. Just freakin wonderful.
However, that isn't going to make up for the fact that what you have may
not be what your potential partner truly needs.

Yeah you heard right. Your greatness may not be connecting with your
"target audience", but you're so blinded by it that you don't see the problem.
With dating it isn't just about what you think should be important, it's about
understanding what they feel is important as well. This doesn't mean be
someone your not. It doesn't mean lose yourself in the process of trying to
get their attention. It just means know what qualities they're looking for,
and if you can embrace them, then you can set yourself up for success.

2. You Lack Life Balance

You want a relationship, but you're always at work. You wish you had
someone to spend your nights with, but you feel you need to give your time
to your kids. You dream of having love in your life, but you're too busy on
social media focused on other people's lives. Do you see what I'm getting
at? You lack life balance, and this is completely getting in the way of your
ability to go from being single to being taken.

It's not just about balance for the sake of finding a relationship, it's also for
the purpose of being able to keep one. Have you ever dealt with someone
that is always occupied by everything else in their life?, it isn't something
most people will want to get involved with. So your lack of balance can block
people from entering into your life or simply push them away. Not to
mention it isn't healthy for you either. You have to be willing to make some
changes to correct this issue.

3. You Keep Wasting Time With Dead End Situations

Everything that glitters is not gold, and everyone who claims to want you
isn't worth your time. You can try to look past the red flags. You can try to
give people a chance and think things will change in time. However what will
likely happen is you will just end up with disappointment and negative
energy. You have to start recognizing when a situation has reached it's
expiration date, and not blind yourself with the idea that moving forward
with them is "better than nothing". Because you will end up with a lot worse
than nothing entertaining B.S. situations.

In addition to that, the time spent in the wrong situation just keeps you from
finding the right relationship. It hinders you in more ways than one, and
adds unnecessary stress in your life. It can also cause you to develop
"dating fatigue" where you get so drained from these negative dead end
situations that you just shut down completely. It may be at that time where
the right person walks into your life. But with you having shut down, you will
now have to deal with the next reason why you're single.

4. You Have Walls Up

"We all have baggage, find someone who loves you enough to help you
unpack." ~ Unknown

When that baggage involves unadressed issues from your past, this is one of
the WORST quotes to follow. Look, I understand that we all go through
things. At some point or another we have issues, and it is natural to become
guarded and have walls up. You don't want to be hurt again, but I always
say "the same walls you have up to protect you, are the same walls blocking
your blessings".

Having walls up is currently working against you. It can have a direct impact
on why you are still single. Now I know you may be thinking, "I know plenty
of people with issues and walls, yet they were able to get into a
relationship". Well guess what, even when that does happen, 9 out of 10
times they got themselves into the WRONG relationship, or their unresolved
issues will lead to the dysfunction or end of that relationship. So don't go
thinking for another second that having walls up is ok. You have to be willing
to unpack your own bags, because what's in it might scare the hell out of
some people...including you.

5. You're Not Putting Yourself Out There

To go from being "single" to "taken" you have to meet someone. In order to

meet someone you have to make yourself available to be met. Are you
following me here? You can't hide behind work, kids, and plain ole laziness
as an excuse to not take some initiative on your end. The idea that an
amazing relationship is just going to fall in your lap can tow the line of
wishful thinking, and really just be a defense mechanism for not wanting to
put yourself out there. Because doing so makes you feel vulnerable, and you
may be running from that.

It's not that you have to go out and man hunt. It's not that you have to
revolve your life around meeting a man. Its just that you need to be
available and position yourself to receive the opportunity. It can be with
online dating (don't cringe, it can work), or even getting out with your
friends more. There are ways to make yourself available and have meeting a
guy not be the main focus, but the icing on the cake. One way or another it's
time to take some steps, which I hope will lead you past your front door,
and into the outside world of amazing possibilities.

6. You're Holding On To Negative Perceptions

You know, one of the reasons you don't put yourself out there enough is
because you don't think there is anything worth putting yourself out there
for. You have seen so many unhealthy relationships. You have been through
your fair share of B.S. behavior by men. You may have gotten caught up in
the belief that all men are dogs, cheaters, and in the long run will not do
right by you. Even if you don't think those things specifically, you may
unfortunately believe that you won't find a man who is truly worth giving
your heart to, and for that reason you don't allow anyone to get close to
your heart.

With all of this negative thinking, doesn't make perfect sense that you're
single? You may think you're perception are just a product of your results.
However, your thinking is contributing to creating the negative results. In
order to receive something you need to believe you can receive it. Without
that, you wouldn't believe it was there even if it was staring you in the face.
So what I want to give you is a nice cold bucket of water to your face to help
wash away the negativity, and help you open your eyes to the better you
could be experiencing in your life with dating, love, and relationships.

7. You're Not Exuding Confidence & Positive Energy

At this point, all of the things I mentioned boil down to this. Your energy is
OFF! Not turned off, but off track. What you're putting out into the world is
bringing back the things you really don't want. How you're presenting
yourself with your energy, isn't showing your true awesomeness (for a
second I had to make sure that was a legitimate word, don't judge me).
You're selling yourself short and lowering your value because you are
holding on to, and exuding way too much negative energy.

This also plays into you not exuding confidence. Understand that confidence
is sexy. So I think you can guess what a lack of confidence looks like. That's
right, it isn't appealing, and it isn't helping you along your journey in life. I
know it's easier said than done to be more confident, but you can achieve it.
You just have to be willing to accept this issue exists, and be ready to put in
the work to correct it. Stay connected with me, and allow me to lead you in
the right direction.
So there you have it. Some answers to the million dollar question "why am I
still single?". I hope this was a nice mirror being held up to your face
moment. Not meant to put you in your feelings, but meant to help you
understand what's truly getting in your way.

Of course, I wouldn't just stop here with you. Because this is only the
beginning. So I invite you to join my FREE webinar "Single No More: 3
Secrets To Help You Go From Being "Single" to "Taken". I'll be going a little
more in depth with some of the things mentioned in this book and continuing
to help you down to path to receiving the love and relationship you desire.
Click Here to register for the webinar. I look forward to seeing you there.