Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Relationships
Treat and speak to your spouse with respect – give compliments, apologize,
ask rather than demand, think twice before criticizing, etc.
Make a plan to address the family’s finances – set financial goals, develop a
family budget and plans for managing debt and building a credit history,
organize financial records, and monitor spending.
Develop a written plan on what you will do when conflict arises – what you
are willing to do to solve the problem.
When you have disagreements, discuss them calmly and privately, not in
front of the children.
Consider what resources are available to the family – a marital counselor, anger
control group, pastor or church, couples support group, marriage enhancement
classes, other respected married couples, child or respite care, financial planner,
parents’ night out events, mental health facility.
Select the service or group that appears most appropriate to helping you address
your problem.
As children grow, spend time together as a family and have fun: Schedule one
“family night” each week to talk, play games, or share hobbies.
Take time for special activities you can do with each child individually.
Listen when your children come to you with problems or questions.
Talk with your children, not at them.
Set reasonable expectations for your children’s behavior. Learn what is
reasonable to expect from each of your children by talking to their pediatrician
or school teachers, borrowing a book on child development from the library,
or checking out parenting websites. Demanding that children perform tasks or
behave in ways beyond their capabilities will only create unnecessary stress
and anger in the home.
Notice and praise your children for the good things they do. Try to have four of
these positive interactions with a child for every one time you must correct or
criticize his or her behavior.
Show physical affection to your children with hugs, kisses, pats on the back,
and “high fives.”
Set reasonable limits on your children’s behavior. If they are old enough, ask
them to discuss and help decide with you what the house rules and penalties
for breaking them should be.
Follow through and be fair with positive and negative consequences for their
good and bad behavior.
When you must correct a child’s behavior, start with a statement of empathy
such as, “I see that you’re upset right now, but …” or “I know you’d rather be
outside playing with your friends, but …”
Reward your children when they do get along or help each other by praising
or giving them an extra privilege or treat.
Tell them ahead of time the negative consequences (extra chores, loss of
privileges) they will earn if they argue or fight with their siblings.
Enjoy your children’s differences and compliment and praise them for their
unique interests and skills.
Help children behave positively toward others by teaching them skills such as
expressing interest in others, giving compliments, saying “Please” and “Thank
you,” offering help and comfort, cooperating, sharing, and taking turns.
Get to know the parents of your child’s acquaintances and classmates and
arrange play dates for your child with one or two other children at a time.
Encourage your kids to invite their friends over and make them welcome
in your home. Monitor their activities and behavior when they are with
other children.