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Managing Autism Meltdowns, Tantrums and Aggression
To someone on the outside, a child with autism having a meltdown might appear like a
child having a temper tantrum, but the circumstances and reasons are more complex
than what meets the eye. Those who have cared for a child with autism will know that
autism meltdowns need to be handled differently and with intimate knowledge of the
child’s personality.
is overwhelmed, he/she knows no other way to express it other than with a meltdown.
This might involve verbal outbursts (screaming, crying, etc.) or physical reactions (kicking,
temper tantrum is usually a child’s way of getting what he/she wants. An autism
meltdown, however, has no purpose and is beyond a child’s control.
Children who throw temper tantrums are aware and in control of their actions and can
adjust the level of their tantrum based on the response they get from a parent or adult.
On the other hand, autism meltdown causes are entirely different. Because it is triggered
by sensory overload, a child with autism having a meltdown can have a few defining
characteristics.
Rumblings can be obvious or subtle, such as verbal requests to “stop” or “leave” the
cause of distress. It can also be a physical sign like covering of ears or running away from
When a child with autism is on the verge of a meltdown, he/she might resort to
repetitive behavior called stimming to relieve anxiety. Rocking back and forth, flapping
hands, and twirling are some examples of stimming.
Be caused by overstimulation
This can include a noisy and crowded place, bright lights, and strong smells.
Unlike a temper tantrum, autism meltdowns can happen with or without people around.
It can even happen when a child or a person with autism is alone. However, an autism
meltdown in public is common since public places like malls and airports are often
You might be asking, “How long does autism meltdown last?” The answer differs with
each child, but since there is no stopping a meltdown once it starts, you can expect the
episode to continue until the child is taken out of the stressful situation or until all energy
is spent.
Once you can tell the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown, then you can apply
the right strategies to deal with the situation.
hitting, throwing objects, punching, and biting. Aggressive behavior can be directed to
others or oneself. Both an autism meltdown and a tantrum can involve aggression.
Outside of sensory overload that leads to a meltdown, there are other reasons why a
child with autism uses aggression. Some children become violent when an object of
comfort is taken away from them, or when they are forced into something they do not
want to do.
The key goal of handling aggression is to ensure the safety of the child and others
around him/her. Some strategies would be removing the cause of aggression, providing
calming toys and/or activities, and giving your child a safe space where he/she can calm
down.
Children throw tantrums because they want something. This does not mean, however,
first before addressing your child’s behavior. It does not make sense to tell your child to
stop yelling when you are also yelling. You want your child to see how he/she should be
Don’t give in
The fastest way to stop a tantrum is to give the child what he/she wants. While you can
do this on certain occasions when you cannot afford to deal with a tantrum, it is not a
great strategy in the long run. Your child will learn that he/she needs to throw a tantrum
understand his/her feelings. You can validate feelings without giving in. For example,
saying something like, “I know you’re upset that you can’t have that toy, but we can’t buy
it right now. Maybe next time.” This lets your child know that you feel bad that he/she
to handle autism meltdowns. Not all autism meltdown strategies are guaranteed to work
on every child on the spectrum. However, there are some general techniques that can be
The best way to prevent your child from having a meltdown is to predict and avoid
stressors or triggers that can lead to a meltdown. This can be avoiding crowds,
However, when a meltdown is already happening, you can try the following approach:
meltdown’s severity. Lead your child away into a quieter space where he/she might be
more comfortable and able to manage his/her autism meltdown and recovery.
comfort to an overwhelmed child. Once you identify what caused the meltdown, you can
use the appropriate calming tool to help your child tune out sensory overload and
When your child isn’t having a meltdown and is receptive, teach him/her a go-to plan if
and when a meltdown does happen. You can teach him/her deep breathing techniques,
meditation, or counting from one to ten. Once in place, you and your child can use these
not allow your child to run away to a busy street or run around an area where he/she
might get hurt. Learn safe ways to restrain your child’s arms and/or legs during violent
meltdowns.
remember that your child is not doing it deliberately. He/she is simply responding to
sensory overwhelm and has no control over his/her behavior at this point. Keep yourself
calm and composed and do your best to comfort your child in the best way you know-
how.
aggression and violent meltdowns might require additional help. It is essential to consult
your child’s doctor when deciding to use medication for autism meltdowns.
have been found to be effective in treating aggression and irritability in children with
autism. Both of these medications are approved by the FDA. Risperdal can be given to
children as young as five years old, and Abilify for children six years old and older.
Autism meltdowns, tantrums, and aggression may all be part of raising a child on the
spectrum. While these can be difficult to manage at times, having the right strategies that
work for your child can significantly improve your child’s ability to regulate his/her
emotions in the future. As a parent, you know your child best and should, therefore, keep
finding the most effective and safest ways to help your child during a meltdown or
tantrum.
References:
How Autistic Meltdowns Differ From Ordinary Temper Tantrums. 2019, August 21.
Retrieved from: https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-an-autistic-meltdown-260154
Aggressive behaviour: children and teenagers with autism spectrum disorder. Retrieved
from: https://raisingchildren.net.au/autism/behaviour/common-concerns/aggressive-
behaviour-asd
How to Calm a Child With Autism. 2019, June 24. Retrieved from:
https://www.verywellhealth.com/how-to-calm-a-child-with-autism-4177696
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14737175.2017.1371012
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