Charles Thomas P.

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CARL ROGERS

After this week's presentation on the Person-Centered Theory of Carl Rogers,

there are a few realizations that I have encountered after that lesson, and this
particular topic caught my attention. Aside from the previous theories, this one made
sense for me and is more practical than the other theories that my classmates have
presented.

The Person-Centered Theory talks about a person's ability to attain a balanced

self-image and Ideal Self; a person should achieve a flat actual and ideal self-concept
that is known to be congruent. But there are barriers people are experiencing or doing
for them not to have a balanced self-image and Ideal self, and those are positive
regards and defensiveness. Positive regards is a way of thinking where a person
depends on their value through affirmations from the people surrounding them.
Defensiveness is a way for them to tailor the things they are to match their ideal self,
resulting in disorganization. I've been in a situation where I may be dependent on the
opinion of others; even though my family is proud of me for all of the things that I have
achieved, there is this invisible thing that keeps on weighing on me. This hidden thing
tells me if I would ever fail to be consistent with who I am today, I may face
disappointments to my family's faces. It is frustrating to maintain something, especially
the silent expectations that I may not hear directly through them, but I can feel through
other ways.

But somehow, with this week's lesson, I have seen that there is no shame in
making mistakes. Everyone is destined for failure, for we are not built to be robots;
instead, we are committed to being true to who we are. People can attain Congruence
if we let ourselves be the person who can accept who they are and be somehow who
takes time to be the person who they want to be. Expectations may be pressuring, but
then we progress in our ways. We might as well be someone who can see that pace
everything in our time is an achievement rather than being pressured by the standards
we create for ourselves.