Build Trusting Teams

From Simon Sinek’s The Infinite Game

& Rich Diviney’s The Attributes
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Definitions
Team
Any group of two or more people working together
toward a common goal or objective.

Inspiration
The process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel
something, especially to do something creative. From
the Latin, to breathe life into.

Inspiration is the wind.

Trust is the boat.

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How to Build Trusting Teams

1. Create a Circle of Safety
2. Show Vulnerability
3. Use Candor with Care
4. Live the Culture

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Create a Circle of Safety

Notes

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Who do you trust?

● Think of a person in your life whom you trust deeply?

● Think about a story that exemplifies the reason you trust them.
● What did that person do?

Breakout
Appoint a scribe, share your stores, and compile a list of behaviors
that led to trust.

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Navy SEAL Performance / Trust Matrix

High Performance High Performance High Performance

Low Trust Medium Trust High Trust
PERFORMANCE

Medium Performance Medium Performance Medium Performance

Low Trust Medium Trust High Trust

Low Performance Low Performance Low Performance

Low Trust Medium Trust High Trust

TRUST

Skills vs. Attributes

Skills are learned; they are not Attributes are elemental; they are
inherent to our nature. inherent to our nature.

Attributes inform behavior by

Skills direct behavior by telling us
telling us how we’ll show up in
what to do in specific situations.
specific situations.

Skills are easy to assess, measure, Attributes are difficult to assess,

and test. measure, and test.

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Show Vulnerability

Notes

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Vulnerability

The quality or state of being exposed, sharing

and showing weaknesses and strengths.

RED / BLACK Game

Notes

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Two Critical Elements of

Dynamic Subordination
● The vulnerability to wear our strengths &
weaknesses on our sleeves
● Embrace diversity of perspective

Pros and Cons of Competition

● Play it so that everyone grows

Notes

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Use Candor with Care

Notes

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Candor with Care

● Candor: the ability to tell someone else the hard truths.

Even though it may hurt, it will lead to improvement.
● Creating a Circle of Safety is a prerequisite to candor.
● What is your intent? Selfish or service-oriented?
○ Turn off ego. Turn on humility.
● Eg. Critical event debrief

How could you double your income in

the next 6 months?

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Honor Antagonists

Consider this…
Who are my antagonists?

What are my blind spots?

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Use Candor with Care

● Ask better questions
● Honor Antagonists
● Actively seek your blind spots

Notes

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Live the Culture

Notes

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The Sports Dilemma

As coach, you must decide which three kids do not travel and
participate. How would you go about making your decision?

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Values Activity

From the Values List, pick one you value.

What does that value mean to you? Define it for yourself.

How will we see you behave when you are

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Values List
Abundance Accountability Acceptance Achievement Adaptability Adventure Altruism

Ambition Appreciation Authenticity Balance Beauty Being the Best Belonging

Career Caring Clarity Challenge Collaboration Commitment Community

Compassion Competence Confidence Connection Contentment Contribution Cooperation

Courage Creativity Courtesy Curiosity Daring Decisiveness Dedication

Determination Devotion Diligence Discipline Discernment Dignity Diversity

Empathy Empowerment Efficiency Equality Ethics Excellence Fitness

Excitement Expertise Exploration Fairness Faith Family Fame

Flexibility Forgiveness Freedom Friendship Fun Fulfillment Generosity

Grace Gratitude Growth Harmony Hard Work Health Honor

Honesty Hope Humility Humor Impact Inclusion Independence

Intellectual
Influence Initiative Intelligence Insight Integrity Intimacy
Growth

Intuition Joy Justice Kindness Knowledge Leadership Learning

Legacy Leisure Love Loyalty Mastery Openness Optimism

Order Patience Patriotism Peace Perseverance Power Prosperity

Resourcefulnes
Recognition Relationships Reliability Reputation Respect Responsibility
s

Risk taking Safety Sacrifice Security Self Discipline Self Expression Self Reliance

Silence Service Sharing Simplicity Spirituality Spontaneity Stability

Status Stewardship Strength Success Team Time Tolerance

Tradition Transparency Trust Truth Understanding Unity Uniqueness

Usefulness Vision Vulnerability Wealth Well Being Wisdom Winning

Source: The Attributes by Rich Diviney

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Values Activity: Homework

How will we see you

What does that value
Value behave when you are
mean to you?
living this value?

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Bring These
Trust Concepts to Life

1 Create a Circle of Safety

Pick one or two behaviors you

know you need to develop &
actively work on those.

2 Show Vulnerability

Play BLACK once this week.

3 Use Candor with Care

Deliberately recognize the

questions you’re asking yourself
and others.

4 Live the Culture

Circle back to your values, sanity

check them with people you
know, love and trust. Sleep on it
and revisit.

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