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Everyday Etiquette
1. Thou Shalt Be Thyself - Good Manners begin with a good sense of self.
2. Thou Shalt Say "Thank You." - Thanking others is a way of praising them and is one of
the keys to having good manners.
3. Thou Shalt Give Compliments - Think about what you can give to others, and
remember that the most precious gifts cost nothing.
4. Thou Shalt Not be Boastful, Arrogant or Loud - Only a small person brags about
accomplishments; a well-mannered person has no need for self-advertisement. Let
your deeds speak for themselves.
5. Thou Shalt Listen Before Speaking - Be genuinely interested in others; learn their names,
and encourage them to talk about themselves.
6. Thou Shalt Speak with Kindness and Caution - Before speaking to others, consider what
effect your words will have.
7. Thou Shalt Not Criticize or Complain - A person with good manners is above criticizing
others or complaining about circumstances.
8. Thou Shalt Be Punctual - Appreciate the value of time, yours and others.
9. Thou Shalt Not Embarrass Others - Never demean anyone with rude jokes or an
unwelcome nickname.
10. Thou Shalt Act and Look Your Best - Master self-control and have empathy for others.
Always act your best with courtesy and politeness.
Your self-introduction and greeting in the first meeting may decide whether the other
person will like or trust you or not in the future!
Business situations in which you may meet people for the first time
a. You get to know a stranger on an occasion
b. You are introduced to an unknown senior
c. You are introduced to an unknown peer
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Responses to Greetings
Great, thank you. And you?
Very well, thanks. And you?
Not too bad, thanks.
All right, thanks.
Just so-so.
Same as usual.
Not very well, I’m afraid.
Can’t complain.
HANDSHAKE ETIQUETTE
Handshake - A universal non-verbal language on professional greeting. It is commonly
done upon meeting, greeting, parting, offering congratulations, or completing an
agreement
Proper Handshake
1. Maintain Eye contact
2. Smile
3. Lean forward for about 20°
4. A good shake comes from the elbow. The forearm stays firm.
5. Fives shakes maximum.
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12. Brush Off Handshake - It is a quick grasp (no longer than 1 second) and then a
release that feels like your hand being shoved aside.
COMPLIMENTS
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Most people don’t realize compliments are often more about the giver than the
receiver. When someone is complimenting you, they are actually sharing how what you
did impacted them. It does not matter if you agree or disagree with what they are saying,
just relate to it as a gift and accept it.
The best way to respond to the kind words from a boss or coworker is to simply say
“Thank you,” and if the compliment made a difference, let the person know. If you find
yourself diverting the person’s compliment by passing the credit, making a joke, or
awkwardly explaining why you don’t deserve it, recover the situation by saying: “I am
working on getting better at accepting a compliment. Thank you.”
If the person compliments you for another person’s work, redirect the compliment to the
correct person:
“It is great to hear you feel that way! Actually, Amanda is the one behind this project.
If you have a minute, it would make her day to hear how you feel.”
“I would love to take credit, but John is the one responsible for this. I will share your
feedback when I see him today.”
If someone compliments you for something that was a team effort, share the
appreciation. If you are the team leader, note the person may be recognizing you for your
role in leading your people, so be sure to first take the compliment, and then
acknowledge the efforts of your team.
“Thank you for noticing, it is really great to hear that. Everyone on our team has been
working really hard on this over the last few weeks. I will share your feedback in our
next meeting.”
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It is important to keep in mind that our habitual responses to compliments have been
developed throughout our lives and, as with any habit, it will take effort and practice to
change. Over the next week, pay attention to how you and others react to compliments
and try using some of the responses above or in your local language if you may. After a
few weeks, you may find that it is not that hard to just say, thank you!
1. Be Authentic. The most important part of any compliment is that your intention is
authentic. Don’t compliment the person to butter them up before making a request,
soften the blow before giving difficult feedback, or to try and cheer them up after a
mistake. If your intention is not genuine, neither is your compliment. When you are
inauthentic in your recognition, people may think you are inauthentic in other areas as
well. A good rule to follow is: Don’t compliment someone because you feel you should;
compliment them because you feel compelled to let them know how they impact you or
others.
When we share, it is important to give details and examples to help the person comprehend
the context of our remarks. When we are clear with our compliments, the person
understands exactly what we are expressing and why.
Vague compliment: “Thanks for taking notes in the meeting, you’re amazing!”
Specific compliment: “John, I know it is your job to take notes in the meeting, but because
you do it so well, I know I can relax and focus on doing my job. Thank you.”
3. Focus on the Process, Not Just the Result. In Littlefield’s research, He found that people
rarely want to be recognized for the result, but instead, the process and effort that went
into producing the result. Compliments that only focus on the result often trigger a
concern for the receiver of not being able to produce the same result in the future. When
recognizing someone, show them that you appreciate the time, sacrifice, creativity, or
care that went into their work.
“Phil, I am blown away by the event you put together for the client. I can’t even
imagine all the hours, work, and creativity that went into making that event
happen. Thank you for everything you did behind the scenes on this project.”
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4. Share the Impact. Remember that a compliment is often more about the giver than the
receiver. When we compliment someone, we are actually sharing how what they did
impacted us. If you want to give a powerful compliment, give the person a window into
what you experienced and how it impacted you or others. Consider sharing how
their leadership impacts the team, their work impacts the company’s results, or how their
attitude impacts the team environment.
“Jane, I wanted to let you know I really appreciate how you lead our team. On my
last team, I never wanted to share ideas for fear of my boss shooting them down.
Since day one, I watched how you encouraged all of us to speak up and share ideas,
and I felt comfortable to take risks. I really enjoy working for you and feel like I am
growing every day. Thank you.”
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Stamos suffered severe stress working for her employer’s uncle, described as having
an “explosive personality.” The uncle refers to the women in the office using the term
"bitches”. Stamos’ employer’s uncle “burst(ed) into the woman's office, made
accusations against her and threatened her to the extent that she locked herself in her
office and, at one point, called the police.” And despite the blatant display of rudeness
and abuse, the employer would not fire his uncle.
The case was brought to court and the judge ruled in favor of Stamos. Annuity
Research was required to pay Stamos “six months' salary, vacation pay, and expenses
incurred in finding another job, as well as a bonus the employer had offered as an
inducement for her to stay, another $3,600 for dental repairs arising from grinding her teeth
due to stress and an additional sum to cover mental distress.”
1. List down all the acts of rudeness experienced by Stamos in Annuity Research.
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2. What do you think are the effects of these acts of rudeness on Stamos? How about the
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3. Do you think that the judge’s ruling was fair? Why? Why not?
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5. Aside from taking the case to court, what do you think can be done by both Stamos and
the management of the agency to overcome similar cases of rudeness in the future?
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