Professional Documents
Culture Documents
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Dating, Single Life,
& Mate Selection
The topic of mate selection has become
increasingly complex as American
lifestyles have changed
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Why do we date?
Dating fills time between puberty and
marriage
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Why do we date?
Dating is a way to gain social status based
on whom and how often one dates
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Why do we date?
Dating is opportunity for the sexes to
interact and learn about each other.
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Why do we date?
Dating meets ego needs
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Why do we date?
Dating leads to mate selection for most
individuals
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Dating and communicating
Poor communications and lack of
commitment are 2 major problems and we
know that these are the major building
blocks for successful relationships.
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Changing sexual mores
American sexual mores have become
increasingly liberal
– Popular culture – movies and music
– Premarital sex
– Historical double standard for women
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Changing sexual mores
Sexually transmitted diseases
– Lets look at appendix A for a little bit
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Changing sexual mores
Unwanted pregnancies are a problems
– Pro choice vs. Pro life: is this something that
should have been communicated before you
had sex?
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Changing sexual mores
Early commitment and isolation
The quality of sex
– Usually pretty poor
– What about date rape?
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Date rape and courtship
violence
Generally women of all ages, races, and
marital status report that most incidents of
violence are committed by an acquaintance
rather than by a stranger
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Date rape and courtship
violence
Men often appear to confuse friendly with
sexually interested
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Date rape and courtship
violence
Many men and women do not discuss their
sexual intentions openly and frankly
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Date rape and courtship
violence
Differing expectations about what stage in the
relationship sex is okay
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Date rape and courtship
violence
Date-Rape Drug Prohibition Act of 2000
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Dating patterns
There is great opportunity for informal
opposite sex interaction
Dating is less formal
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Dating patterns
There no longer seems to be a set
progression of stages
– Casual dating of numerous people
– Multiple dates with fewer persons
– Going steady
– Cohabitating or getting engaged
– Married
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College dating
Hooking up or being joined at the hip
Bad dates
Exploitation
Rape culture
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Social channels of love
Dating varies with social class, ethnicity,
and cultural background.
Dating is homogenous
Propinquity
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Postponing marriage
& cohabitation
Greater acceptance of sex outside of
marriage
Education
Career choices
Self-fulfillment
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Cohabitation and Marriage
Cohabitating partners are more unfaithful
and fight more often than married couples
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Cohabitation and Marriage
People who are divorced are more likely to
cohabitate afterwards
– Self-fulfilling prophecy?
– Enter a relationship partly to see if it will last,
and by keeping the possibility of an easy out
you be helping the break up from the
beginning
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First impressions
Physical attractiveness
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Physical attractiveness
Usually an advantage however
– Some persons tend to avoid highly attractive
people
• Fear of rejection
• Sought after by others in the future
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Engagement
Until recently it has been a pretty formal
stage
– Increased age for marriage
– Remarriages
– Cohabitation
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Functions of engagement
Where will live?
Children?
Money?
Employment
– Premarital medical exam
– Premarital counseling
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