SCL 9:

MARRIAGE & FAMILY:

Negative Situations / Factors Against the Celebration of
Marriage
What are the Negative Situations / Factors Against the
Celebration of Marriage?
(1) One DOES NOT
REALLY WANT TO GET
MARRIED AT ALL for
reasons of his or her
own – such as
because of his/her
sad experience of
dislike or even disgust
with errant ways and
means of his/her own
family.
(2) One plans to get
married simply
because the
WOMAN
CONCERNED
BECOMES
PREGNANT which is
but the result of
having fun and
pleasure – with no
marriage of any
kind at all in mind.
(3)  ONE DOES NOT BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE, CONVINCED THAT MERE
COHABITATION IS ENOUGH, that a wedding is but a social event, that a couple
can be happy living together even without any marriage of any kind at all.
(4)  ONE LOOKS AT
MARRIAGE AS NOTHING
MORE THAN AN
OCCASION TO
CELEBRATE AND BE
HAPPY WITH FRIENDS –
laughing, drinking,
eating – which is over
and done away with
after an hour or so after
 the wedding.
(5)  ONE CONSIDERS IT NOT ONLY IMPROBABLE BUT PRACTICALLY IMPOSSIBLE
AND EVEN RIDICULOUS TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES
– all his or her alienating action and reaction patterns considered.
(6)  ONE CONSIDERS
IT NOT ONLY
IMPROBABLE BUT
IMPRACTICAL THAT A
COUPLE WOULD
HAVE TO WAIT FOR
NOTHING LESS THAN
THE DEATH OF A
SPOUSE in order to
have someone else
younger and
attractive  to live
with.
(7)  ONE IS NOT REALLY THE MARRYING KIND on
account of his or her markedly egoistic personality,
selfish orientation or individualistic preoccupation such
that his/her likes and dislikes are markedly inviolable.
(8)  ONE IS NOT
CERTAIN REALLY
ABOUT HIS OR HER
OWN SEXUALITY or is
in fact sure that he
wants to live with
another man or she
prefers to live with
another woman, as a
life partner.
(9)  ONE FEELS OR
EVEN KNOWS THAT
HE OR SHE IS
AFFECTED WITH A
GIVEN PERSONALITY
IMPAIRMENT that is
not the premise of
marriage with the
latter’s intrinsic
nature and essential
finalities.
(10)  ONE BELIEVES THAT SEPARATION/DIVORCE IS AN
ELEMENTARY AND LEGITIMATE RECOURSE WHEN THE TIME
COMES that his or her spouse is too difficult to live with, too long
to wait for his or her demise.