QUOTES ABOUT MARRIAGE

“ If I get married, I want to be very married” –

Audrey Hepburn

“ An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can

have. The older she gets, the more interested he is
in her” - Agatha Christie

“ By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll

become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become
a philosopher” - Socrates
A. MARRIAGE AND THE
FAMILY
Marriage is a social union or legal
contract between spouses that
creates kinship.
I. NATURE OF MARRIAGE
• What is the nature or essence of marriage?
• To answer this question, we need to identify the
essential characteristics of marriage.
 Beginning with a kiss;
 Holding between two and only two people;
 Holding between a man and a woman;
 Holding between non-relatives;
 Holding between those who are in (romantic) love;
 Holding unconditionally;
 Holding permanently;
 QUOTES ABOUT FAMILY

“ Everyone needs a house to live in, but a supportive

family is what builds a home”
– Anthony Liccione

“ Being a family means you are a part of something

very wonderful. It means you will love and be loved for
the rest of your life” – Lisa Weed

“ In time of test, family is the best” – Burmese Proverb

• Family is an intimate domestic group
made up of people related to one
another by bonds of blood, sexual
mating or legal ties.
 II. NATURE OF FAMILY
1. UNIVERSALITY Family is the most universal group. No culture or society has
ever existed without some form of family organization.
2. EMOTIONAL BASIS The family is a fundamental unit of human society. It is based
on our impulses of mating, procreation and parental care. It is
close-knit group which fortifies these emotions.
3. LIMITED SIZE The size of a family is necessity limited for it is defined by
biological conditions which it cannot transcend.
4. FORMATIVE INFLUENCE The family exercises the most profound influence over its
members. Its influence in infancy determines the personality
structure of individual. From its initial units the father and
mother, the child receives his physical inheritance.
5. NUCLEAR POSITION The family is the nucleus of all other social groups. The
distinctive characteristics of marriage parental obligations and
sibling relations make family the primary institutional cell of a
society.
6. RESPONSIBILITY OF THE In the family the child learns the meaning of social
MEMBERS responsibility and the necessity for cooperation. As Maclver
aptly describes, “In times of crisis men may work, and fight and
die for their country, but they toil for their families all their
lives”. In it the child develops his basic attitudes and ideals. It is
a great agency of the socialization of the child.
7. SOCIAL REGULATION The family is peculiarly guarded by social customs and legal
regulations. It is not easy to violate them. Family is the group in
which the consenting parties may freely enter but which they
cannot easily leave or dissolve. Marriages are not trivially
taken.
8. PERMANENT AND Family as an institution is permanent and universal, while as an
TEMPORARY association it is temporary and transitional. When the son
marries he goes out of the family and starts another family
which again may give rise to more families.
III. BASIC FUNCTIONS OF
THE FAMILY
 Stable satisfaction of Sexual needs
- This is the most important essential function of family.
Family has been performing this function since the
inceptions of human civilization. It is a well known fact that
sex urge is the most important and powerful instinct and
natural urge of human being. It is the primary duty of
family to satisfy the sexual urge of its members in a stable
and desirable way.
 Procreation and Rearing of Children
- It is another important sectional function of family.
Necessary arrangement of stable satisfaction of sexual
urge resulted in procreation. Family provides the
legitimate basis for production of children.
 Provision of Home
- Family perform another important function of providing a
home for common living to all it’s members. It is only in a
home that children are born and brought up. Even if
children are born in hospitals in modern time still they are
taken care of the properly nourished in a home only.
Because family and a home have no substitute.
 Socialization
- It is another important essential function of family.
It is said man is not born human but made
human. New born human baby became human
being after they are socialized. Family plays an
important role in the socialization process.
B. FAMILY
DISORGANIZATION
I. Forms of family disorganization
 Death of loved one
 Divorce
 Job or career change
 Move to a different home
 Serious illness of a family member
 Addition or learning of a family member
II. Marital conflict
 Money Problems
- Money problems are a common of marital problems.
A difference in opinion saving and spending habits
can create tension. Problems can also arise due to a
drastic difference in income between spouses. When
one person makes more money then the other, they
may start to feel resentful about the hours they put in
at work. They may also start to think they have more
“right” to the money and can spend it however they
want.
 Lack of Intimacy
- Intimacy in marriage is important and also one of the
most common causes of marital problems. A lack of
intimacy isn’t a reason to cheat. However, lack of sex
can result in loss of connection. It can also make the
other person feel unwanted or unloved.
 Splitting up chores
- The distribution of household chores requires careful
consideration. If either spouse feels that the work load
is unbalanced, it can lead to marital problems.
 Change in Appearance
- As we grow older, we change. Things like gaining (or losing)
weight, age, stress, and genetics all affect how we age. While
you might want your spouse to look and act the same forever,
this isn’t going to happen. Holding someone to this unrealistic
expectation sets up the marriage for arguments and
disappointment.
 Fertility Struggles
- Many couples assume when they’re ready to have children, it will
be an easy process. Unfortunately, some experience challenges
when they try to start a family – health issues, genetics, changes
in priorities and more. Sometimes a baby doesn’t come when or
how you want.
 Poor communication
- Lack of communication can be one of the toughest
marital problems to work through. Learning to
effectively communicate with each other takes
effort and understanding.
 Infidelity
- It’s not uncommon for a marital relationship to be
tested if a spouse have been unfaithful. Even
internet relationship, which can rise to the level of
“emotional affairs,” have been known to cause
marital issues.
 Inconsistent Religious beliefs
- There will always be different perspective within your
marriage, but differences in core beliefs and values may
become too big to ignore. One spouse may get frustrated
with always having to do religious activities separately,
especially if you both attend different places of worship.
 Trust
- Some spouses trust each other until they are given a reason
not to. For others, trust must be earned. Whether you are a
spouse who feels you have a reason not to trust the other,
whether you are a spouse who feels your partner’s trust is
being unjustly withheld, the lack of trust can present an
impediment to a healthy marital relationship.
Too predictable
- Although some people are comforted by their day-in/day-
out routine, other people may simply get bored if their
relationship has become too predictable. Some couples
do the exact same things year after year and without
doing anything spontaneous. Although this may not be a
problem if both spouses prefer the tried-and-true,
boredom may become a problem in relationships that lack
spontaneous activity.
III. Family Violence
 Physical Abuse
- Is when an abuser uses physical force against
another person in a way that injures the person or
puts them at risk of being injured.
Example:
 Grabbing, pinching, hitting, biting, kicking, shooting, pushing,
throwing, breaking bones, burning, assaulting with a
weapon, stopping a person from having what they need for
their health, such as medication, medical care or hygienic
assistance, forcing a person to drink alcohol or take drugs.
 Spiritual Abuse
- Using a person’s religious or spiritual beliefs to
manipulate them.
 Legal Abuse
- Is when a person exploits the family laws system
to intimidate, exhaust, exploit or disempower their
partner or family member.
 Stalking
- it’s a pattern of unwanted contact that makes a
person feel afraid, nervous, harassed or in danger.
 Psychological or emotional abuse
- Can be verbal or nonverbal, and the actions or
behaviors are less obvious than with physical abuse.
Example:
 Yelling or screaming,
 Constantly harassing a person
 Telling a person they are worthless without their abuser
 Blaming a person for the abuser’s own acts or feelings
 Making a person feel there is no way out of the relationship
IV. Alternate family forms
 Single Parent
- A single parent is a mom or dad parenting on their own who
does not live with a partner. This could be because of
separation, divorce, death or choice.
 Lesbian mums through donor conception
- A lesbian couple can become parents through donor conception.
This is the process in which a male’s sperm is used to inseminate
the intended child’s biological mother to conceive a child. Lesbian
couple can choose whether to use an anonymous donor via a
fertility clinic or a known donor such as a friend or someone you
meet through a connection service such as Pride Angel.
 Gay dads through surrogacy
- A gay couple can become parents through surrogacy.
This is the process in which a female carries the embryo
for the couple. Gay couples can choose whether to use
a ‘traditional’ surrogate or a ‘gestational’ surrogate.
Traditional surrogacy is the process in which the
surrogates own eggs are used. Gestational surrogacy is
the process in which the eggs of a donor are used and
the surrogate is not the biological mother of child.
Depending on which type of surrogacy the couple use,
the child will either be conceived by IUI or IVF.
 Co-parenting
- co-parenting is an arrangement made between two or more
people to raise a child together when the two biological
parents are not in a relationship with one another .

 Heterosexual couples needing donor sperm, eggs,

embryos or surrogacy
- Sometimes, heterosexual couples can also need assistance
with having a baby. For heterosexual couple, it is known as
infertility. This means a couple have not been able to get
pregnant despite having frequent, unprotected sex for 12
months. Infertility can result for a number of different reasons.
 Adoption/fostering
- When it is not possible for a child to live in their own
home with their biological family, fostering provides a child
need with a new home and adoption provides a child with
a new, permanent home and an official new family. Single
men and women can adopt or foster a child, heterosexual
couples can adopt or foster a child, and same-sex couples
can adopt or foster a child, and same-sex couples can
adopt or foster a child.
V. Child abuse and illegitimacy
- Child abuse is not just physical violence directed at a
child. It is any form of maltreatment by an adult, which
is violent or threatening for the child this include
neglect.
Types of child abuse
 Emotional or psychological neglect
- Continuous lack of positive attention for the child.
Ignoring the child’s need for love, warmth and security.
 Physical abuse
- All forms of physical violence.
 Emotional or Psychological abuse
- An adult regularly berates the child, acts in a dismissive
and hostile manner towards the child or intentionally
scares the child.
 Physical neglect
- The child does not receive the care and nurturing that it
needs.
 Sexual Abuse
- Sexual contact which an adult forces upon a child.
VI. Working Overseas and its
effects on the family

 The most salient negative impact is a feeling

abandoned that cannot be compensated for by financial
support.
 The left-behind children feel helplessness, loneliness,
pessimism, deprivation, and isolation being confronted
with health and academic problems.
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