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OBJECTIVES:
GENERAL: At the end of the seminar, group will understand and apply
this knowledge in clinical as well as in educational settings
SPECIFIC:
On completion of seminar, students will be able to:
•Introduce the topic
•Define Assertiveness.
•Discuss the Assertiveness rights and responsibilities.
•Explain about normal Assertiveness communication
•Describe the aggressiveness response.
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•Explain the behaviour complication of assertiveness
behaviour.
•Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of
Assertiveness behaviour.
•Enumerate the techniques of assertiveness therapy.
•Explain research findings.
•Elaborate assertiveness training.
•Discuss the conclusions.
•Explain the nursing implications in assertiveness
therapy.
•Summarize the topic.
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Doyou say “Yes” when you mean
“no” ?
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Find out if you stand up for
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Introduction
Assertiveness is a behavioral skill taught by
many personal development experts, behavior
therapists, and cognitive behavioral therapists
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Definition
Assertiveness is the ability to communicate
your needs, feelings, opinions, and beliefs in
an open and honest manner without violating
the rights of others
Assertiveness is the act of asking for what
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Definition (cont…)
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Definition
Aiberti and Emmons(1990) defines assertive
behaviour as “Behaviour that enables
individuals to act in their own best
interests,to stand up for themselves without
undue anxiety,to express their honest
feelings comfortably,or to exercise their own
rights without denying the rights of others.”
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AsstAssertiveness is…
Respect for yourself and others.
Honestly expressing your thoughts, feelings,
and beliefs.
Effectively influencing, listening, and
negotiating with others
Saying “yes” when you want to and “no” when
you mean no
Being confident in handling conflict when it
occurs
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AsstAssertiveness is…
Being able to talk openly about yourself and
being able to listen to others
Having confident,open body language
Being able to receive positive and negative
feedback
Positive ,optimistic outlook and expressing
demanding
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Ass Assertiveness is not ….
It is important to remember that
assertiveness is not aggressiveness or
selfishness.
Being assertive does not involve
humiliating or abusing other people and
their rights.
Being assertive does not mean violating
the rights of others or gaining at the
expense of some one else’s loss
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Assertive rights Assertive responsibilities
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Why Assertiveness Is Important
Effective communication brings about the
achievement of individual and/or shared goals.
Assertiveness increases your ability to reach
these goals while maintaining your rights and
dignity
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Consequence of not being
assertive
Depression
Resentment
Frustration
Temper /violence
Anxiety which lead to avoidance
Poor relationship of all kind
Physical complaints
Parenting problem
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Unassertive communication
One problem most people have is the
"disease to please", which makes them feel so
concerned about others' feelings, and they
violate their own rights. it comes from fear of
rejection
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Different behavioral response
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Passive response
Act in an indirect or passive manner.
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Passive response
-Speak softly and hesitantly.
-Use fillers like “uh” and “um.”
-Avoid eye contact.
-Allow other people in their personal space.
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Ask yourself ?????
Do you feel guilty standing up for your rights or
expressing your feelings?
Do you have trouble saying “no” to people?
Are you uncomfortable with starting or carrying
on a conversation?
• Do you rarely stand up for yourself?
A “yes” answer to any of the questions may indicate
unassertive behavior
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Assertive behavior
-Asserts his or her own rights in a positive, open,
honest, and self-confident manner
-Speak calmly and confidently.
-Notify other people of their feelings with statements
starting with “I think” and “I feel.”
-Maintain eye contact, have good posture and are
poised and in control
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Assertive communication
Assertive communication is the ability to
express positive and negative ideas and
feelings in an open, honest and direct
way
The underlying communication position
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Aggressive behavior
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Aggressive behavior
Inappropriately expressing your thoughts,
feelings, and beliefs in a way that violates other
people’s rights.
Achieving your goal by not allowing others the
freedom to choose.
Completely disrespecting others whether it be in
an active or passive method
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Aggressive response
We have people who feel upset they cannot
express themselves properly and use
aggressive words and behavior in their
communication
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Are You Aggressive?
Do you ignore the rights and feelings of other
people?
Do you aim to get your way at all costs?
Do you often dominate conversations with
others?
Do you purposely make others feel like they are
incompetent or unimportant?
A “yes” answer to any of the questions may indicate
aggressive behavior
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Examples of Aggressive response
"You are crazy!"
* "Do it my way!"
* "You make me sick!"
* "That is just about enough out of you!"
* Others include sarcasm, name-calling,
threatening, blaming, insulting.
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Passive Assertive Aggressive
Attitude I lose, you win I win ,you win I win ,you lose
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Behavioral component of
assertive behavior
Eye contact
Body posture
Facial expression
Voice
Fluency
Timing
Listening
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Advantages of assertiveness
Helps you become self-confident
Increases self-esteem
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Advantages of assertiveness
It helps us feel good about ourselves and others
others
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Disadvantages of assertiveness
If not properly conveyed ,can be considers to
be rudeness
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Research Input
Undergraduate nursing students’
level of assertiveness in Greece: A
questionnaire survey
Anna Deltsidou; Nurse Education
in Practice (2009) 9, 322–330
School of Nursing Studies,
Technological Educational
Institution, Lamia, Greece
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Background
A number of studies of nursing and
midwifery have found stress and
bullying to be frequent problems. Those
suffering from bullying and stress need
to have high levels of assertiveness to
resist and to cope successfully. Hence, it
was considered vital to assess the
assertiveness level of nursing students
throughout their curriculum.
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Methods
study population- nursing students in different
semesters at one school in Central Greece (n =
298) who agreed to complete a questionnaire
on assertiveness level assessment, which had
been translated into Greek and adapted to this
population.
Mean assertiveness scores between semesters
childhood
Low self esteem;looking others for
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Fears Which Block Assertive
Behavior
1. Fear of making mistakes.
2. Fear of displeasing others.
3. Fear of disapproval.
4. Fear of appearing too masculine
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Types of assertions
Basic Assertion
This is a simple, straight forward expression
of your beliefs, feelings, or opinions. It's
usually a simple "I want" or "I feel" statement.
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Types of assertions
Empathic Assertion
This conveys some sensitivity to the other
person. It usually contains two parts- a
recognition of the other person's situation or
feelings, followed by a statement in which you
stand up for your rights.
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Types of assertions
Escalating Assertion
This occurs when the other person fails to
respond to your basic assertion and continues to
violate your rights. You gradually escalate the
assertion and become increasingly firm. It may
even include the mention of some type of
resulting action on your part, made only after
several basic assertive statements.
"If you don't complete the work on my car by
5:00 tomorrow, I'll be forced to call the Better
Business Bureau.
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Types of assertions
I-Language Assertion
This is especially useful for expressing
negative feelings.
The real focus in I-Language Assertion is
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I-Language Assertion
For example:
"When you didn't buy the groceries, I couldn't
cook dinner for my parents.
I feel hurt and angry with you.
Next time, I'd like you to follow through
when you agree to do something.“
I-Language Assertion can help you
constructively focus anger and be
clear about your own feelings
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Importance of ‘I’ statements
These "I" statements indicate ownership
Do not attribute blame
It focuses on behavior, identifies the
effect of behavior
It is direct and honest,
It contributes to the growth of your
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Assertiveness Training ("AT")
Introduced by Andrew Salter (1961) , belief was that
a person could not be both assertive and anxious at
the same time, and thus being assertive would
inhibit anxiety. The goals of assertiveness training
include:
increased awareness of personal rights
differentiation between non-assertiveness and
assertiveness
differentiation
between assertiveness and aggressiveness
learning both verbal and non-verbal assertive skills.
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Techniques that
promote assertiveness
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Techniques that promote
assertiveness
Standing for one’s basic rights
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Techniques that promote
assertiveness
Agreeing assertively –
assertively accepting ones negative
aspects
admitting when an error occur
A: “you sure let that meeting get out of
hand”
B: “yes, I didn’t do a good job of
conducting the meeting today”
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Techniques that promote
assertiveness
Responding as a- broken record
To most effectively use this technique use
calm repetition, and say what you want and stay
focused on the issue
Example:
"I would like to show you some of our
products"
"No thank you, I'm not interested"
"I really have a great range to offer you"
"That may be true, but I'm not interested”
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Techniques that promote
assertiveness
Clouding /fogging –concurring with the
critic argument without becoming defensive
and without agreeing to change
Example:
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Techniques that promote
assertiveness
Negative assertion
this technique lets you look more
comfortably at negatives in your own
behavior or personality without feeling
defensive or anxious, this also reduces your
critics' hostility.
Agreeing with valid criticism
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Techniques that promote
assertiveness
Defusing –putting off further discussion
with an angry individual until he or she is
calmer
Example : I can see that you are upset and I
can even understand part of your
reaction.Lets talk about this later.
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ASSERTING YOURSELF IN IMPORTANT
SITUATIONS
Everyone has rights, some of which are
protected by law, others that are basic
courtesy.
Asserting your rights is important,
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WORK AND COLLEGE
Right to equal opportunity
You cannot be denied the same
opportunities available to others.
Equal rewards
If you perform as well as others at
work or at school, you deserve the
same compensation
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FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Just as you expect fair treatment from your
boss, coworkers, or teachers, you should
expect the same from those who care for you.
You deserve to be treated the same as other
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Assertiveness Formula
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Learn to accept criticism
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Tackle with criticism
If true
:agree with criticism
:if possible add some disclosures
If partly true
:disagree
:clear it out
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Giving and receiving constructive
criticism
Talk
about the behavior, not
about the person.
Be as specific as possible.
Couple
the criticism with a
compliment.
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In Dealing With Conflicts
Ask questions.
Offer alternatives
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ACTIVE LISTENING
Be sure to listen to what others have to say,
especially after you send an I-message
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What To Do When Confronted
With a Problem
Geta Grip
Controlling your emotions is the first
step to helping solve, rather than
magnify, this problem.
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What To Do When Confronted
With a Problem
Reach for Logic
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What To Do When Confronted
With a Problem?
Don’t Keep a Lid On It
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SETTING BOUNDARIES
Inform the other of their unacceptable
behavior
Request that they stop that unacceptable
behavior
Instruct them on the behavior you would like
them to do instead
Warn them the action you will take if they do
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No” is Not a Dirty Word
If something makes you feel uncomfortable
or if you feel the request is unreasonable,
then it is your right to refuse
Remember:
You are not saying “no” to the whole
person, but only to part of the relationship
which makes you feel uncomfortable.
“No” does not require an explanation
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BUT DO NOT DENY YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
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TAKING CONTROL of your life:
Set goals and take the actions you need to
meet them
Accept that You choose your actions; take
responsibility for your own behaviors be
accountable
Ask for what you want.
Make an assessment: what level of control do
you have in the following areas of your life:
Home, Work, Family, Friends, Significant Other,
Children, Community, Finances, Environment.
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Control yourself rather than
controlling others
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How to take a compliment?
A surprisingly large number of people do not
know how to take a compliment.
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Stop doing this
Putting yourself down: “I don’t deserve
it” and list reasons why.
Assuming the other person
doesn’t really mean it.
Pointing out your weaknesses: A
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Stop doing this
Deflecting compliments to others: . Others
may be deserving, but so are you.
Claiming it was all “luck”: Another way of
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Start doing this…..
Own your accomplishments
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TIPS
Raise your Standards
Change the Environment
Use the Assertive Skills; Set Boundaries - Say
NO
Take the Right Risks
Accept what you cannot change!!
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Why assertiveness is
essential for nurses?
It enables
To express the ideas while respecting the
ideas of others
To overcome burnout and to reduce
distress
To solve problems diplomatically and
tactfully
To negotiate healthily
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Why assertiveness is
essential for nurses?
To tackle verbal abuse and
violence in work environment
Effective nurse patient
communication
Aid the confidence of the
profession
Increase job satisfaction
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Research input
Assertiveness in nursing practice: an action
research and reflection project.
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Research input
Four Registered Nurses (RNs) co-researched
their practice with the facilitator and over
the research period identified the thematic
concern of the need for assertiveness in
their work. The RNs planned, implemented
and evaluated an action plan and, as a
direct result of their reflections and
collaborative action, they improved their
nursing practice in relation to becoming
more effective in assertiveness in work
situations.
Contemp Nurse. 2005 Dec;20(2):234-47
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Remember
Assertiveness =
Personal Authority
+ Confidence in Your
Skills
+ Sense of Purpose
+ Commitment to Goals
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summary
Assertiveness –definition
Assertive communication
Different types of behavior
Advantages of assertiveness
Components of assertive behavior
Techniques to promote assertive behavior
Assertive quiz
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Conclusion
"Nothing on earth can stop the individual with the
right mental attitude from achieving their goal;
nothing on earth can help the individual with the
wrong mental attitude“
W.W. Ziege
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References
Mary C. Townsend; Psychiatric Mental health
Nursing; concepts of care. Third edition,page
no.220-225
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14699-
improving-assertive-behavior
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assertiveness
http://www.2knowmyself.com/self_confidence/
assertiveness_definition
http://www.mtstcil.org/skills/assert-3.html
http://www.mindtools.com/stress/pp/
Assertiveness.html
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ASSERTIVENESS QUIZ…..
Assertiveness Quiz:
1= Not much.
2= Sometimes…
3= Always.
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ASSERTIVENESS QUIZ…..
2: _____ I ask for help when I am hurt or
confused.
3: _____ I tell my friends what I honestly think
me.
5: _____ If a friend borrows money and is late
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ASSERTIVENESS QUIZ…..
7: _____ If a friend is talking, texting or making
noise in a movie, I ask him or her to be quiet.
8: _____ If a friend is always showing up late, I
tell him or her how I feel about it.
9: _____ I ask my friends for a favor when I need
one.
10: _____ When someone asks me to do
something against my beliefs, I refuse.
11: _____ I express my views on things that
matter to me, even if others disagree.
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ASSERTIVENESS QUIZ…..
12: _____ I don’t do dangerous things with my
friends.
13: _____ When I don’t understand something
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ASSERTIVENESS QUIZ…..
45-35: People might not agree with you,
but they’ll respect you for your self-esteem
and your willingness to stand up for what
you believe in.
35-25: You’ve got some work ahead of you.