Session 1: Usapang Mag-Anak

Objectives:
At the end of the session, the participants will
be able to:
 Identify his or her most dominant
parenting style;
 Accept his or her most positive and
negative trait as a parent;
 Prepare a single, doable action
(SDA) to address negative trait.
 I love you,
Bahala ka. Sorry anak.
anak.

May
Sabi ng nanay at tatay… problema ka
ba anak?

Anak, binabasa
May curfew ko ang text sa
Hindi pwede.
ha! iyo ng friend
mo.
 May
I love you,
Sorry po. problema po
nanay/tatay.
ako.

Sabi ng anak…

Wala kang
Hindi pwede. Bahala kayo. pakialam sa
buhay ko!
Sanguine
The “Popular” Person / Parent
 Who are they?
• Recognized by their: constant talking,
loud volume and bright eyes
• Basic Desire: have fun
• Emotional needs: attention, approval,
affection, acceptance, presence of
people and activity
• Motivated by praise
 Strengths
• Ability to talk about anything at any time at
any place; bubbling personality, optimism,
sense of humor, storytelling ability, enjoyment
of people
• Cute and adorable parent
• Plays games with children
• Loves to tell fascinating stories
• Gets self-worth from the response of those
around them
 Weaknesses
• Disorganized, exaggerate, too gullible, and
naive
• Would like to have the starring role and an
eternal position on center stage without being
responsible for any of the hard work or details
• There is no worse punishment for a Sanguine
parent than be ignored by the family
• Could improve if they get organized, didn’t
talk so much, learned to tell time
Choleric
The “Powerful” Person / Parent
Who are they?
• Recognized by their: fast-moving
approach, quick grab for control,
self-confidence
• Basic Desire: have control
• Emotional needs: appreciation for
all achievements, opportunity for
leadership, participation in family
decision
• Motivated by achievement
Strengths
• Ability to take charge of anything
instantly and to make quick,
correct judgments
• Strength in motivational and action
skills
• Instantly becomes Commander-in-
Chief in any situation
• Being in charge of the family comes
naturally
Weaknesses
• Too bossy, domineering, insensitive,
impatient, and unwilling to delegate
or give credit to others
• Needs to learn to accept differences and
not just “insist on own way”
• Could improve if they: allowed others to
make decisions, delegated authority,
became more patient, didn’t expect
everyone to produce as they do
Melancholic
The “Perfect” Parent
 Who are they?
• Recognized by their: serious and
sensitive nature, well-groomed
look
• Basic Desire: have it right
• Emotional needs: sense of stability,
space, silence, sensitivity, support
• Motivated by encouragement and
observation of how well they have
done each task
 Strengths
• Ability to organize and set long-
range goals, have high standards
and ideals, analyze deeply
• Takes on the raising of children as a
serious lifetime project, that no other
personality totally dedicates itself to
producing perfect children
 Weaknesses
• Easily depressed, spend too much
time in preparation, too focused on
details, remember negatives,
suspicious of others
• Critical, nit-picking parent
• Melancholic parents need to remember
this or risk raising kids that don’t fit a
perfect mold despite their best efforts
• Could improve if they: didn’t take life
quite so serious, didn’t insist others to
be perfectionists
Phlegmatic
The “Peaceful” Parent
 Who are they?
• Recognized by their: calm approach,
relaxed posture (sitting or leaning
when possible)
• Basic Desire: avoid conflict, keep peace
• Emotional needs: peace and relaxation,
attention, praise, self-worth, loving
motivation
• Motivated by a slow building of a trusting
relationship in which they are convinced
that they are valued
 Strengths
• Balance, even disposition, dry sense of
humor, pleasing personality
• Kind, easy to get along with and will do
whatever you ask most of the time
• Sympathetic nature that one finds so agreeable
and acceptable in father or mother
• Don’t argue or fight; peaceful protector
• Never irrational or hysterical
• Work well under pressure
• Like to create safely for the family
• Find worth and respect in providing for their
families and assisting people who need help
 Weaknesses
• Lack of decisiveness, enthusiasm,
and energy; hidden will of iron
• Needs to develop a set of guidelines
for discipline
• Underneath have a stubborn will, if it
happens to be one of their stubborn
days, they don’t want to charge
Five Languages of Love
 Five Languages of Love
Love Languages How to Actions to take Things to Avoid
Communicate
Words of Encourage, Send an Non-constructive
Affirmation affirm, unexpected note, criticism
appreciate, text or card.
empathize, listen Encourage
actively genuinely

Physical Touch Non-verbal Hug, kiss, hold Physical neglect,

gestures hands, show long stints
physical affection without intimacy,
regularly receiving
affection coldly
 Five Languages of Love
Love Languages How to Actions to take Things to Avoid
Communicate
Gift Giving Thoughtfulness, Give thoughtful Forgetting special
make your children gifts and gestures. occasions.
a priority. Small things matter
in a big way.
Quality Time Uninterrupted and Create special Distractions when
focused moments together, spending time
conversations take walks and do together
small things with
your teens.
Acts of Service Use action phrases Do chores together Making the
“I’ll help…” or cook them requests of others a
breakfast higher priority.
 “Walang perpektong magulang. Wala ding
perpektong anak.
Maaari tayong magpaiba-iba ng ugali depende sa
sitwasyon at pagkakataon.”
 Thank You!
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