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ln Lhls serles, we wlll be looklng aL boy/glrl relaLlonshlps from Lhe perspecLlve of how Lhey relaLe Lo our
relaLlonshlp wlLh Cod. ln Lhls, Lhe second sesslon, we wlll explore our prlorlLles boLh ln decldlng !"#$
Lo daLe and ln decldlng !"%& Lo daLe.

93'+": use one or more of Lhe followlng ldeas as an lnLro wlLh your group.

A. Co around Lhe room and have sLudenLs glve Lhelr name and Lhe mosL lmporLanL Lhlng Lhey
have Lo do Lhls week.

8. SpllL Lhe sLudenLs lnLo groups. Clve each group a llsL of 10 Lhlngs and have Lhem prlorlLlze
Lhese Lhlngs wlLh 10 belng Lhe leasL lmporLanL and 1 belng Lhe mosL lmporLanL. 1hen have
Lhem defend/explaln Lhelr llsL Lo Lhe resL of Lhe class. ?ou can glve each group a dlfferenL llsL
for more varleLy, or you can glve Lhe same llsL Lo each of Lhe groups so Lhey can debaLe Lhelr
dlfferences. 1here are loLs of posslblllLles for llsLs- famous people, foods, slngers or albums,
books, hyglenlc hablLs, quallLles ln a guy/glrl. use whaL you Lhlnk wlll work Lhe besL wlLh your
class.

C. 8rlng ln puzzles wlLh Lhe same number of pleces and do a race Lo see who can sorL Lhe border
pleces from Lhe cenLer pleces Lhe mosL qulckly and accuraLely.

4+;3(*'*"3: Say someLhlng llke.

As humans we llke Lo spllL Lhlngs up lnLo caLegorles so we can undersLand Lhem beLLer. We Lhen rank
Lhem so LhaL Lhey have some sorL of order. We recognlze LhaL, alLhough lL can be LwlsLed, order ls
good. Cod creaLed Lhlngs Lo have order. ln much Lhe same way, our llfe should have order Lo lL. 1here
are some Lhlngs LhaL are more lmporLanL Lhan oLhers. 1he Lrlck ls maklng sure we keep Lhe rlghL Lhlngs
ln Lhe rlghL spoL. LeL's check ouL a couple of verses LhaL recognlze Lhe lmporLance of geLLlng Lhlngs ln
Lhe rlghL order."

2<+*='>+&: 8ead and dlscuss Lhe followlng scrlpLures.

We looked lasL week aL !esus prlorlLlzlng Lhe commandmenLs and saylng LhaL Lhe Lwo mosL lmporLanL
are Lo love Cod and love people, and LhaL ls a good place Lo sLarL here. 1he mosL lmporLanL Lhlng we
can do ls Lo love Cod. Pe should be flrsL ln our llves. As we are Lold ln Lhe 1en CommandmenLs, we are
Lo have no oLher gods before Plm. 1hls ls parL of whaL !esus ls remlndlng us ln MaLLhew 6 when he
says.

Matthew 6:33 (HCSB)

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But seek first the kingdom of God

and His righteousness,

and all these things will be provided for
you.

Pave Lhe Leens look aL Lhe surroundlng verses and Lell you whaL Lhese Lhlngs" are.
Ask lf Lhey Lhlnk lL ls reasonable Lo add boyfrlends/glrlfrlends and marrlage Lo LhaL llsL.
lL ls lmporLanL ln all of Lhls LhaL we seek Cod flrsL! Powever, LhaL ls noL where Lhe Lalk on prlorlLles
should end. When we do geL Lo a polnL where we are ready Lo look aL Lhls whole daLlng and marrlage
Lhlng, we need Lo seL some prlorlLles Lhere Loo. namely.
1. WhaL are we looklng for ln a poLenLlal spouse?
a. Pave Lhe sLudenLs make a llsL of quallLles Lhey are looklng for and rank Lhem ln order of
lmporLance. Some wlll be non-nego(sh)" as some of my college guys llke Lo say, and
some wlll be [usL preferences. 1hey can do Lhls as lndlvlduals or ln groups (PS, you
could spllL lnLo guy groups and glrl groups aL Lhls polnL and Lhen come back LogeLher Lo
share Lhe llsLs).
b. Look aL verses llke 1 Cor. 7:39 and 2 Cor 6:14 LhaL polnL Lo Lhe lmporLance of marrylng a
bellever lf you are a ChrlsLlan and verses llke rov. 12:4 and 31:10 LhaL Lalk abouL Lhe
lmporLance of characLer.
2. WhaL are our prlorlLles wlLhln daLlng relaLlonshlps? 1hese are quesLlons you need Lo Lhlnk
abouL ln a relaLlonshlp so you don'L geL caughL up ln an emoLlonal whlrlwlnd and end up
somewhere you don'L wanL Lo be.
a. Pow do we keep Cod flrsL?
b. WhaL are Lhe mosL lmporLanL Lhlngs ln Lhls relaLlonshlp? 1rusL? 8alance? 8especL?
c. Pow do we seL Lhe mosL lmporLanL boundarles?
d. Pow do we puL lmporLance on oLher relaLlonshlps ln our llves?
e. Pow do we keep Lhls relaLlonshlp ln lLs proper place?

?*(<>((*"3: 1alk abouL Lhe followlng quesLlons elLher all LogeLher or ln smaller groups.

1. Why do you Lhlnk lL ls easler Lo Lalk abouL whaL our prlorlLles should be Lhan Lo acLually llve
Lhem ouL ln our llves?
2. WhaL can we do Lo help us reflecL our deslred prlorlLles ln Lhe area of daLlng?

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ln closlng, remlnd sLudenLs LhaL Lhey need Lo noL only have Lhelr prlorlLles sLralghL and know whaL Lhey
are looklng for, buL Lhey also need Lo 8L someone who flLs LhaL descrlpLlon for someone else. 1ake
Llme Lo pray for each oLher and for Lhe fuLure spouses of Lhe people ln Lhe room.