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What Others Are Saying About the Game Acceleration Doctrine

IhavejustreadtheGameAccelerationDoctrine,andyoureallybrokeitdown,and
made me feel like I could actually get out there to practice. There was this
insurmountable wall, but after having read your book it was gone. You made
merealizepickupwassupposedtobefun,andthatsocializingisnormal.Ithinkthat
you are honestly the best teacher just because your material, and the way its
presentedissodowntoearth.YoudonotputpressureonthereadertoHAVEtogo
out,anddoit,buttomakehimwanttodoit.Youbreakevery stepdown,andgive
themosteffectivelearningstrategies,andIjustfeelfortunatetohavebeenableto
readthebook.Itreallychangedmyperspective,andwhereIwascomingfromasa
whole.
Josh
SinnsGameAccelerationDoctrineisliketheequivalentofeatinganappleadayto
keepthedoctoraway.Theadvicewastosteerawayfrompickup terminology as
muchaspossible,andtobeanormalfuckinghumanbeing.IrealizedIwasn'tgoing
togetbywithgoodhygienealone.AfterreadingtheDoctrine,Iendeduplanding
amakeoutsessioninmycarafterAstronomyclassgotoutat9:30am.Iowed
italltothatDoctrine.
MichaelWolfson
Sinn does something that is very rare indeed; he cuts through the dogmatic
bullshit of the pickup community, and turns his material into something
usable by anyone with an open mind. Reading his Game Acceleration Doctrine
helpedmetorealizethat,despitewhatIhadbeentoldbythe"pickupgurus"thatI
(likemanyothercommunitymen)foundfirst,thisisnotagameitisreallife.And
that being a real, normal, socially adjusted man is what's truly important to
beginning to enjoy success with women. But not only does Sinn lay out WHAT
you need to do, he also tells you stepbystep HOW to do it. Thank you for
everythingSinn.
Brian
IhadmybiggestbreakthroughwhenIreadyourgameacceleration.Itexplainedmy
lackofsuccess.Yourideasaboutbasicsocialskillsaresomeofthebestadviceout
there. With your advice I focused my attention from women to myself. Im still
strugglingsocially but I now havetwofriends I can hangoutwith andhavehada
girlfriend for the first time in my life. Thats a big improvement believe me. I just
wantedtothankyoufortheadviceyougiveoutandencourageyoutokeepdoingit.
THANX!
James
2009SinnsofAttractionCorporation2
www.sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com
Sinn,youopenedmyeyestotheideathattherewasplentyofwaystogetthegirl,
asthereareplentyofwaysnottogetthegirl.Nomethodismorerightthananother
but there are things that do work better for each individual. Not very long after
that you released the Game Acceleration Doctorine. This just furthered my
respectforyouasoneofthegreatestteachersinthecommunity.
JSmooth
AfterItookabootcamp,somethinghappened,Ididn'tbecomethisgreatPUAlikeI
wantedtobe,evenwhenItriedtogooutoftenenoughandpractice...Thenoneday,
I downloaded Sinn's Game Acceleration Doctrine, in which he tells so many
thingsandIcouldrelatetoalotofthereasonwhyguysdonotbecomeasgoodas
theywanttobe.Sinntellsyoulikeitis,clearandtothepointandhealsotellsyou
howtosolvethoseissues.My"game"hasimprovedalotsinceIreadtheGame
Acceleration Doctrine after following his advice. And specially your advice in
"Howtonotrunoutofthingstosay"ispriceless,whichIthinkeveryguyhasthis
problem atone point or another. Sinn,I can honestlysay that youhad made a
bigdifferenceinmylife.Iwanttothankyouforit.
Dude007
FromthestartIknewSinnhad adifferentapproach,onethat wasevolvingalong

withthescienceofpickup.Iwasinstantlyhooked.SinnmadeavailablehisGame
Acceleration Doctrine which did more for helping me manage my approach
anxiety after one reading than countless 3 second rule approaches. Sinn was
able to break it down so I understood what was happening to me and gave me a
numberoftechniquestocombatit.
Adam
Recently,afriendintroducedmetoSinnsGameAccelerationDoctrine.Initially,I
didnt have high hopes for it. After all, how much quality information could one
expect to find in a 'free' ebook? Thats what I thought before reading the entire
book in record time. I was intrigued. Sinn had some seriously helpful insights on
thegame.Irereadthepartonsocialanxietyandscribbledout many notesthat I
couldapplytomygametoday.Imaveryanalyticalthinkerandoftengetstuckin
my head before I approach resulting in analysis paralysis. Sinn identified a very
simple but highly effective method for shifting focus to eliminate the analysis
processthatwouldkeepmestuckinmytracksafterseeingahotgirl.
MontyinSaintLouis
Sinn's"GameAccelerationDoctrine"islikeHGHforyourpickupmuscles.
Steve
TheGameAccelerationDoctrinereallyhelpedtobringintofocuswhatIneededto
fixtogetmygamemovingintherightdirectionandmakesureIfocusontheright
things.IwasamazedthatSinngaveitawayforfree.
MT
TableofContents
TheSecretToLongTermSuccessInTheGame ......................................................................................... 6
WhoIsSinn?............................................................................................................................................... 6
WhyAreTheseSecretsBeingRevealed? ................................................................................................... 8
TheImportanceOfTheFirstYearLearningPickup .................................................................................... 8
TheThreeTypesOfStartingPoints.......................................................................................................... 10
WhyMostPickUpArtistsStruggle .......................................................................................................... 11
PuttingTheSecretUndergroundInternetSeductionCommunityIntoPerspective................................ 13
TheMysteryMethod: .......................................................................................................................... 14
RealSocialDynamics:........................................................................................................................... 15
WingGirls:............................................................................................................................................ 15
SpeedSeduction: ................................................................................................................................. 16
JugglerMethod: ................................................................................................................................... 17
DoubleYourDating: ................................................................................................................................. 17
TheElusiveObvious ................................................................................................................................. 18
TheTwoTypesofAnxietyThatCrippleYourGame................................................................................. 19
TheThreeMainCausesofSexualAnxietyandHowToSolveThem........................................................ 24
BecomingNormal..................................................................................................................................... 26
Step1:Fashion,andGrooming............................................................................................................ 27
Step2:BasicBodyLanguageandTonality........................................................................................... 30
Step3:ComfortableConversationalSkills ........................................................................................... 32
TheSecretToConsistentImprovement................................................................................................... 35
StickingPointAnalysis:............................................................................................................................. 36
BringingTheScientificRevolutionToPickingUp..................................................................................... 39
TheImportanceofTracking ..................................................................................................................... 39
PatternRecognition:TheSecretSauceOfPickingUp!............................................................................ 41
InformationOverloadandTheParalysisOfAnalysis ............................................................................... 44
Peaks,ValleysandPlateaus ..................................................................................................................... 47
QuestionstoGetYouStartedTheRightWay!......................................................................................... 49
ChangingThingsUp.................................................................................................................................. 50
TheDifferencesBetweenCorrelationandCausation .............................................................................. 52
AreYouLearningTheRightWayForYouorForSomeoneElse?............................................................. 54
The2MostImportantFactorsForLearning ............................................................................................ 54
TheDabbler: ........................................................................................................................................ 57
TheObsessive: ..................................................................................................................................... 58
TheHacker:.......................................................................................................................................... 58
SettingRealisticGoalsForLongTermSuccess......................................................................................... 60
AQuickRecapOfPrinciplesForLongTermSuccessInTheGame........................................................... 63
SkyrocketYourSuccessWithWomen...................................................................................................... 63
WELCOME TO THE GAME ACCELERATION DOCTRINE 2.0.
LastyearIsettheentireSecretUndergroundInternetSeductionCommunity(SUISC)onitshead
withthereleaseofTheGameAccelerationDoctrine.
ThegoaloftheGADwastoslicethroughthelevelsofmarketing,manipulation,and
misinformationintheCommunitytogiveyouguystheinsidescooponhowtoactuallyimprove
yourdatinglife.
LastyearIalsostartedthefirstlongtermcoachingprograminthehistoryoftheSUISC.Iwas
sickandtiredofseeinggreatguysspendthousandsofdollarsonabootcampandnotgetthe
resultstheywerepromised.
IdalsolearnedfromtrainingthebestPickUpArtistsintheworldthatgettingbetterwith
womenisalongtermprojectandthatthereisanactualprocess,order,andblueprintto
becomingamoreattractiveperson.SoIsetouttoprovethatyoucouldactuallytakeagroupof
guyswithnoskillswithwomenandtransformthemintoWorldClassLadiesMeninjustone
year.Itwasanambitiousprojectcalled12MonthstoMastery.
Iwantedtotakeyouinsidetheworld
PeoplethoughtIwascrazyfortakingonthis
of12MonthstoMasteryand
group!Butitturnedouttobeanoverwhelming
teachyouthesecretsthatallowed
success.Onestudenthad27laysinthefirst10
meandmystudentstohavean
monthsoftheprogram,anotherstudenthad
unprecedented(almostunfair)
backtobackonenightstandsonthesecond
amountofsuccesswithwomenover
bootcamp,anda44yearoldguywithmajor
thelastyear.
approachanxietyevenendeduphookingup
withaHOT25yearoldonthesecondnightof
thefirstbootcamp.
Furthermore,watching25guyswithdifferentadvantages,disadvantages,skilllevelswith
womenandinternalissuesreallytaughtmealotaboutwhatchallenges,problems,andsticking
pointsguysconsistentlyrunintoduringtheirfirstyearinTheGame.
Infact,theissuesthatguyswillfaceoverthefirstyeararesomewhatpredictable;bytheendof
theyearIwastellingstudentswhattheirnextstickingpointwasgoingtobeaboutamonth
beforetheywouldgetit.Illbeshowingyouguysexactlywhattoexpectoverthefirstyearand
howtodealwithit.
InTheGameAccelerationDoctrine2.0,Iwanttotakeyouinsidetheworldof12Monthsto
Masteryandteachyouthesecretsthatallowedmeandmystudentstohaveanunprecedented
(almostunfairreally)amountofsuccesswithwomenoverthelastyear.
Letsgetstarted:
The Secret to Long Term Success In The Game
WhatyourereadingrightnowisasnapshotofahalfdecadeofcoachingintheSecret
UndergroundInternetSeductionCommunity(SUISC).Theinformationwithinhasbeenhonedby
teachingthousandsofstudentsatover160bootcamps.
UntilnowthisinformationwasonlyavailabletoasmallcircleoffellowcoachesandtothoseI
hadtrainedtobeinstructorsguyslikeFuture,Tenmagnet,TheDon,OzziefromRSD,Captain
Jack,andmanyotherdatingguruswhowouldprefertoremainnameless.Infact,someguys
haveevenpaidasmuchas$30,000foramonthofoneononecoachingwithme.
IhighlyrecommendthatyouguysreadthisPDFafewtimesoverthenextfewweekstoreally
internalizesomeoftheseideasastheyareverycounterintuitive.Plus,themoretimesyouread
thingsthemoreyourbrainpicksuponpointsyoumayhavemissedthefirsttime.
ThisiswhatsknownasyourReticularActivationSystem,whichactslikearadarsystemforyour
mind.ThemoreyoufocusyourRASonthesecretstolongtermsuccessinthegame,themore
youllfindyourselfnaturallyimplementingthetacticsandtechniquescontainedinthisEbook.
BeforewegettoalltheAWESOMEinformationthatwillliterallychangeyourlife,youmaybe
askingyourself:
WHO IS SINN?
Youmightknowmefrommy3yearsasheadinstructoratTheMysteryMethod.
WhatyoumightnotknowisthatduringthattimeItrainedinstructorsfromEVERYmajorpick
upcompany.Ibecamesomewhatofagotoguyforprofessionalpickupcoacheswhenthey
werehavingproblemswiththeirgame.Ifyouknowanythingabouttheseductioncommunity
thenyounodoubthaveheardof,andmaybeevenboughtproductsfrom,alltheseguys.
Thereasontheseguysallcametomewasbecauseoftwothings.First,myobsessivenatureled
metokeepupwithEVERYnewadvanceinpickuptheoryandsecond,Irecognizepatternsvery
well.
Thispartwillactuallybeveryimportantgoingforward.Learningtorecognizepatternsinsocial
interactionsisoneofthemostbasicskillstogettingbetterwithsocializingandwomen.The
reasonpatternsaresoimportantisbecausetheyallowyoutoquicklyzeroinonstickingpoints
andnaturaladvantageswhicharethekeystogettingbetteratthegame.
ImentionedearlierhowIwasobsessive,right?Well,duringthe2andahalfyearsthatItrained
alltheseguys,Ikeptamassiveamountofnotes.And,slowlybutsurely,Idevelopedaprogram
thattakesanyguytohisfullpotentialwithwomen.ThatsactuallyoneofthereasonswhyI
didntdooneononesforover2years.Iwasbusyworkingwithvariousinstructorsaroundthe
countryontheirgame,andfiguringouthowtoapplythattonewbies.
IwantedtocreateasystemthattiedtogetherallofthethingsIhadlearnedandtaughtoverthe
lastfouryears.Theproblemwasitwasatonofmaterial.SeeIalwaysbelievedintotalmastery
ofTheGame.Thatmeansbeingabletopickupwomeneverywhere.Ineverwantedtobethe
guywhohadtobeatafriendspartyorataclubwhereIkneweveryonetobeableto
successfullymeetgirls.Itskindofembarrassingtobringup,butmyaccomplishmentsin
creatingcontentarelegendary:
ItaughttheCommunitysfirsteverDayGameSeminar.(Infact,every
productIveeverseenonDayGameborrowsfromtheconceptsIlaidout.)
Thenextyear,IcreatedaprogramcalledBreakthroughComfort.Itwas
literallybackwardsengineeredlove.
Itaughtaprogramonpickingupstrippersinstripclubs.
LastyearIcreatedtheCommunitysfirstSameNightLaysseminar.Itsa
programdedicatedentirelytostrategiesforbringinggirlsfromthebaror
clubtothebedroom.
IcowroteboththeoriginalVenusianArtsHandbookandSavoysMagic
Bullets.
IcreatedandrantheSUISCfirstlongtermcoachingprogram12Monthsto
Mastery.
ItrainedEVERYinstructorattheMysteryMethod/LoveSystemsfrom2005
2008.Itrainedinstructorsateverymajorcompanybetween2006and2009.
Ihavealsotrainedthousandsofstudentsbothinpersonandoverthephone.
Infact,justthispastyearthreeofmyformerstudentshaveeachgottenengagedtothewoman
oftheirdreamsandinvitedmetotheirweddings,andhundredsofothershavesentmepictures
andstoriesthatbogglethemind.
Ivebeenteachingmentohavemoresuccesswith
BOTTOM LINE: I know how to get
womenforover5yearsandoverthelasttwoanda
real results for myself and my
students.
halfyearsIvecoachedalotofgurusonhowtodoitmyway.
WHY ARE THESE SECRETS BEING REVEALED?
AsImentionedbefore,forthepasttwoandahalfyearsIvebeenpersonallycoachingsomeof
themostsuccessfulinstructorsaround.WhatIdidnttellyouwasthereasonwhy.
Iwantedtocreateacoachingprogramtoguidestudentstoandbeyondthelevelofsuccess
theirinstructorswerehaving,andinlessthanhalfthetimeittookmostoftheinstructorstoget
there.
WHERE DID THE IDEA THAT THIS WAS POSSIBLE COME FROM?
TheContest
About2yearsback,readersofmyblogmayrememberacontestbetweenmeandtwoother
instructorsastohowmanynewgirlseachofuscouldgetinonemonth.Oneoftheinstructors
hadbeeninthegameamonthlessthanIhadandwasgenerallyregardedasthebestinthe
worldatSameNightLays(notincidentallyhehadthemostSNLSthatmonthwith7).
Theotherwasaformerstudentandwas
ThesystemIhadcomeupwithwasableto
thefirstpersonIeverappliedthis
condenseoverthreeyearsoflearninginto9
completedsystemon.Hewasjust9
monthsandproducemoreresultsthantwo
monthsoutofhisownbootcamp.Andhe
ofthebestinstructorsintheworld.
wonthecontestwith9laysthatmonth.
AfterthecontestIknewIwasonto
something!!!
NowIjusthadtofigureouthowtogetthesameinformationtosomeonewhodidnthave
accesstomeallthetime.Theresultwastheoriginal12MonthstoMasterycurriculumand
learningblueprint.
THE IMPORTANCE OF THE FIRST YEAR LEARNING PICKUP
OneofthebiggestthingsIlearnedfromrunning12MonthstoMasteryoverthelastyearwas
howmuchthefirstyearoflearningtopickupcanliterallymakeorbreakyoursuccesswith
womenfortherestofyourlife.
Thereasonforthisistwofold:
Firstoff,successisbasedonhabits.Thehabitsthatyouestablishduringthefirstyeararegoing
toformthecoreofhowyoulearntopickup.InfactIwouldsaythatatleasthalfoftheprocess
oflearningtobecomeamoreattractivepersoninvolvesthereplacingofhabitsthatdonothelp
yousucceedwithwomenwithonesthathelpyou.
Letslookatsomehabitsthatdonthelpyouwhenitcomestosucceedingwithwomen.
1. Notapproachingatall.Obviouslyifyoudonthaveasocialcircleoranotherwayto
meetwomen,youhavetoapproach.Infact,gettingintothehabitofapproaching
womenyouareattractedtoisthemostimportanthabityoucandevelopwhenitcomes
tobecomingsuccessfulwithwomen.
2. Nottryingtokeeptheconversationgoingaslongasyoupossiblycan.Somanyguys
approachandthenleaveassoonastheyfeeluncomfortable.Bytryingtokeepthe
conversationgoingaslongaspossible,youbuildatolerancetosocialpressureandlearn
whatnottodo.
3. Doingtheexactsamethingandexpectingadifferentresult.IfIhadadollarforevery
timeIvewatchedstudentsmaketheexactsamemistakeallnightlong,Idberich.
Mistakesareapartofthelearningprocess,butyoudontwanttomakethesame
mistakesoverandoveragain.
4. Makingexcusesthatavoidapproaching.Ifyougooutwiththeintentiontoapproach
women,therearealmostnoreasonsthatarelegitimatetoavoidapproaching.
5. Negativeselftalk.Thewayyoutalktoyourselfisverymuchahabitandverymuch
underyourowncontrol.Fartoomanyguyswhogetintothisbeatthemselvesuporgive
themselvesamillionreasonswhygirlswouldntlikethem.
Secondly,thefirstyearwilldeterminewhetherornotyouwanttosucceedatthisbadlyenough.
Everyguyreadingthissaystheywanttobecomebetterwithwomen.Someguysmayeven
dreamofonedaybecomingsogoodwithgirlsthattheycanbecomeaninstructor.
Learningtopickupcanbeablast,butitalsorequiressomehardwork.Youhavetoconsistently
gooutandapproachgirls,evenondayswhereyoumaynotfeellikeit.
Furthermore,youaregoingtogetrejected,especiallyinthebeginning.Howyoudealwiththat
isgoingtosaymoreaboutyourchancesatsuccessthananythingyoucouldeverlearninaboot
camp.Ifyoucanstickwithgoingoutanddoingapproachesforawholeyear,youcanbecome
AMAZINGLYsuccessfulwithwomen.
AnotherthingIdidntknowwasthatalmostalloftheproblemsguysrunintoduringtheirfirst
yeararerelatedtowheretheystartoff.
AlmostallguysfindtheCommunityfromoneofthreestartingpoints.Figuringoutwhereyou
arestartingfromwillhelptopredictyourstickingpointsaswellashelpyoutofigureoutwhat
youneedtolearnandtheorderinwhichyouneedtolearnit.
THE THREE TYPES OF STARTING POINTS...
1. Thesexuallyandsociallyinexperiencedguy.Thisguyhashadlittletonosuccesswith
women.Hemayhavethrownhimselfintoschool,work,themilitary,orjustneverreally
spenttimearoundwomen.Regardlessofwhyhenevergotexperiencewithwomenor
sex,theinexperiencedguyisgoingtohaveavarietyofinternalissuesoverthefirstyear
oflearningtopickup.Healsowillthenhavetodealwithadjustinghisselfimagealong
with the success hes having with women as it will be new and different. A very
inexperiencedguyhashadsexwithlessthan5womeninhislife.
2. Theguyfreshoutofarelationship.Guysfreshoutofrelationshipshavevaryingdegrees
ofskillwithwomen.Someguyswereverygoodwithwomenbeforegettingintoalong
term relationship. Other guys were not very good with women and held onto bad
relationships. No matter what the variables are, getting back into the game after a
longtermrelationshipisgoingtoofferabunchofuniquechallengesfromdealingwith
gettingusedtogoingoutandapproachingtoestablishingasinglesocialcircleagain.On
the bright side, guys that have been in a long term relationship have a much better
understandingofwhatwomenanddatingarelike,aswellashowsexhappens.
3. Theguywhohasalwayshadtosettleforthegirlswholikehim.Theseguysmay
actuallybedecentwithgirlsbuttheyneverfeelliketheyaredatingthegirlsthey
actuallywant.Itmaybethathefeelslikethegirlshegetsarenotphysicallyattractive
enough;itmaybethathedoesntmeetthetypeofwomenhecouldhavealongterm
relationshipwith.Whateveritis,hedoesntfeellikeheisincontrolofhisdatinglifeand
feelsdisempoweredbecauseofit.
Takeamomentrightnowtofigureoutwhattypeyoufitintoandwriteitdown.Thiswillbe
crucialforyourdevelopmentoverthenextyear.
Inadditiontothespecificissueseachtypeofguywillrunintobecauseoftheirstartingpoints,
therearesomeMAJORissuesthatEVERYGUYwillhavetodealwith.
WHY MOST PICK-UP ARTISTS STRUGGLE
AsImwritingthis,ImpreparingforthefirstannualSinnsofAttractionSuperconference.
Andwhileitsgreattocatchupwitheveryoneandseetheguysjuststartingout,Imalways
struckbyhowalmosteveryonetryingtolearntopickupgoesaboutitthewrongway.
Thelackofafewfundamental
NOTKNOWINGTHESEPRINCIPLESisthereason
principlescausesmostguysto
thatover95%ofguyswhoentertheseduction
struggleorwastetheirvaluable
communitywillfailinachievingtheirdreamsof
practicetime.
successwithwomeneveniftheybuylotsof
products,study,andpracticereligiously.
Imgoingtotalkaboutallofthese
issuesherebecauseImsickofseeing
awesomeguyswhowouldmakegreat
boyfriends,husbands,andloversgoingdatelessnightafternight.
IknowfrommypastexperiencethatIcanmakeadramaticdifferenceinpeoplesdatinglives,
andIcantsitbyanymorewatchingsomanymenforcedtolivelonely,quietlivesof
desperation,duetoalackofunderstandingoftheprocessofgettingbetterwithwomen.
Thisebookisheretoaddresseachoftheseissuesonebyoneandhelpyougainabetter
understandingofhowYOUaregoingtolearngamenotMyself,notMystery,notStyle,but
You.
Togetstarted,ImgoingtorevealtoyouthemostimportantfactorthatstudentsNEVERpay
attentionto.ThisfactoralonewasTHEmajorreasonthatonlyninemonthsafterhisbootcamp,
aformerstudentturnedApproachCoachwasabletorackupmorelaysthanbothmyselfand
CaptainJack.
Butfirst,letstakealookatthehistoryofthepickupcommunityandhowthathasinfluenced
learning.
Putting the Secret Underground Internet Seduction Community

into Perspective
Toreallyunderstandwhyover95%ofpeopleinthecommunitymakeminimalprogresstoward
theirgoals,youhavetounderstandwhattheSUISCisandhowitcametobe.
TheSUISCstartedasanextensionofRossJefferiesSpeedSeductionbusinesswaybackinthe
early90swhenboththeinternetandtheideathatyoucouldlearntogetbetteratmeetingand
seducingwomenwerebrandnew,outlandishconcepts.
Thus,messageboardssuchasFastseduction.comandTheDonJuanBoardswereborn.There
wasaslightproblemthoughbecausenooneevermet,andtherewasnowayofsubstantiating
anyoftheseclaims.
ThemostridiculousclaimwasonebeingmadeontheSpeedSeductionBasicHomeStudy
Coursebysomeguywhoclaimedtobeover300lbsandsuccessfullyseducing83%ofthe
womenheapproached.So,anyonewhowasconvincingenoughquicklybecameaguru.
Thenalongcameaguysomeofyoumayhaveheardof,Mystery.Mysterywasthefirstperson
toevertaketheideaofdemonstratingandteachinghowtopickupoutintherealworld.He
taughtthefirstliveprogrambackin2001.
Hisfirststudentwasanotherguyyoumayhaveheardof,NeilStrauss,AKAStyle,theauthorof
thebestsellingbookTheGame.Fromthis,astringofotherteachers(somelearningfromRoss
andMystery,otherscomingupwiththeoriesontheirown)erupted.
Andherewerunintoourfirstproblem.
Dogma
NonotthemoviewithKevinSmith,butthephenomenaofbelievingsomethingtobetrue
withouttheneedforproof.Becausemanyinstructorsintheseductioncommunityare
charismaticandbelievewhattheyaresaying,studentstakeittobetruebeforetheyveeven
triedthealternative.Thisbringsupthefirstimportantpoint:
Differentpeoplehaveseparateanddistinctadvantagesanddisadvantages.Everyonehasheard
thesayingwhatyoucantfixyoufeature;Idisagreewiththisstatement.Isayyoufeaturethe
bestpartsofyourselfwhileworkingontheworstparts.
ADVANTAGES!
Beingtall
Beinggoodlooking
Beingwellsociallyconnected
Havingagreatsenseofhumor
Beingingoodphysicalshape
Havingapositiveattitude
Understandingwomen
Havingchildren
Notgettingembarrassedeasily
Beingexpressive
Havinganidentitywomenrespondto
Havingavarietyofinterests
Speakingpassionately
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DISADVANTAGES!
Havingsocialanxiety
Beingoutofshape
Beingshort
Beingofadifferentethnicitythanthe
girlsyoureattractedto
Balding
Dressingoutoffashion
Beingsignificantlyyoungerorolderthan
thegirlsyoureattractedto
Beingugly
Poorhygiene
Beingrude
Beingsociallyawkward
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Besideshavingdifferentadvantagesanddisadvantages,differentstylesofgamearegoingto
workfordifferentguys.Letstakealookatsomeofthedifferentsystemsoutthereandhow
theyareengineeredtohelpcertaintypesofguyssucceed,whileotherswillgetlittleifany
successwithagivensystemdespitetryingashardifnotharderthanothers.
Fromteachingwellover160programs,Ivedealtwithstudentswhohavebeenexposedtoall
differenttypesofmethods.
HereswhatIveseenfromthemostpopularmethodsintheCommunity.
Firstthough,Iwanttoexplainthedifferencebetweenamethodandatool.Amethodrefersto
anoverallcomprehensivesystem.Atoolreferstoaspecifictacticortechniquethatcanbeused
tohelpyoursuccesswithwomen.
Inordertobeamethod,theremustbeacompletemapfrommeetingawomantohavingsex
withher.
THE MYSTERY METHOD:
TheMysteryMethodisdesignedtoworkinclubs.Itutilizessocialproof,disqualificationtheory
(negs),demonstrationsofhighervalue,andstorytellingintheattractionphase.Mystery
Methodassumesthatgirlshavebitchshieldsthatneedtobeknockeddown.Italsoassumes
thatyourvalueislowerthanthegirlswhenyouapproachherandthereforeyouhavetodoa
lotofthingstoraiseyourvaluewhileloweringhers.
MysteryMethodalsoproposesgoingindirect,thatismaskingyourintentionstowardthegirl
andthegroup.MysteryMethodcallsfortherotememorizationofroutinesandstrictadherence
toa12stepmodel.Problemsasyouareapplyingthisstuffaredismissedasdeliveryissues
whichtheMysteryMethodsayswillgoawayifyousaytheexactsamething1224times.
Whosucceedswithmysterymethod?
Mostnormalsociallyadjustedguyswithdecentfashionsenseandanabsenceofanxietycan
succeedintheMysteryMethod.Ithelpstohavealoveofthespotlight,andfeelcomfortable
beingthesocialcenterofagroup.
AstheMysteryMethodlikestosay:Apickupartistisaperformingartist!
Thisisatleasttrueinthismethod.Itscrucialthatstudentsdontfollowthemethod
dogmatically,orbelievethattheyMUSTgothroughall9stepsinordereverytime.Students
withoutthecommonsensetoseeitasamap,ratherthanastepbystepguide,fail.
Whofailswithmysterymethod?
AnyhardcasestudentwillstrugglewithMM.Thereasonbeing,thatthetacticsandtechniques
ofMMassumeabasiclevelofsocialskills.Youcantnegagirlsuccessfullywhenyoucant
makeeyecontactorholdanormalconversation.
Breakingoutstoriesaboutyourstripperexgirlfriendgettingchasedbyagroupofguyswhile
youstutterandstammerthroughit,doesntfoolanyone.
MysteryMethodcanalsotakenormalguysandmakethemstilted,awkward,androboticas
theytrytogothroughthemethodinitsentirety.Theloweryoursocialintelligencelevel,the
moreproblemsyouwillhavewithTheMysteryMethod.
REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS:
RealSocialDynamicswasstartedbyapairofMysterysformerstudents:OwenTDCookand
NickPapaKho.
WhileatfirstRSDtaughtawatereddownversionofMysteryMethod,afterthereleaseofThe
GametheyswitchedovertosomethingcalledNaturalGame.
RSDdoesntreallyhaveacoremethodandinsteadreliesonalotofinnergame.Their
materialisfocusedonstatemanagement,highenergylevels,andvagueconceptswithfunny
namessuchasrunningthetrain,andtheclaw(anawfultechniquewhereRSDadvocates
guysgrabgirlsbythearmastheywalkby).Inthefield,theRSDstudentisoverlyaggressiveand
frequentlygetsthrownoutofclubsforusingtheclaw.
Plus,thereisnoconceptforwhattodoafterattractionandnofocusonactualsocialskills;a
studentisbasicallytoldthatiftheygetintostateeverythingwilltakecareofitself.However,
whilestatemanagementandinnergamearegreattools,theyarenotbythemselvesamethod.
WhosucceedswithRSD?
Anyguywhoisunder30,goodlooking,andcomfortablebehavinglikeadrunkenfratboycan
havesomelimitedsuccesswiththeRSDconceptsastaughtcurrently.
WhofailswithRSD?
Anyguyover30yearsofageisgoingtostrugglemightilywithRSD.Anyguywhodoesntwantto
runaroundthebarplayingdickgrabchickenormakinglionnoisestogetintothemomentis
goingtostruggle.Inotherwords,aspecifictypeofnormal,welladjustedguyscansucceedhere.
WING GIRLS:
OverthelastyeartherehasbeenanewtrendofwomenpoppingupintheSUISCtogiveadvice.
Themostpopularserviceseemstobewhatsknownasawinggirl.Winggirlsgooutwithyou
tobarsorclubsandarebasicallyrentedfemalefriendsforguyswhodonthavethem.
Whilehavingfemalefriendsisgreatforestablishingsocialproofandjealousy,rentingawinggirl
isaterribleidea.Thesegirlshavenorealworldexperienceatpickingupwomenandactas
nonsexualescorts.
Severalstudentsofminehadexperimentedwithwinggirlsbeforefindingme.Allofthemsaid
thattheadvicewasterrible,andthatthemostusefulthingtheydidwasintroducethemto
strangers,whichdoesnthelpwhentheydonthavethewinggirlaroundthenextnight.They
alsofailtoprovideamethodorroadmaptogofrommeetingagirltostartingasexual
relationship.
Whosucceedsusingawinggirlservice?
Thewinggirlwhocanpayherrentthismonth.
Whofailswithwinggirlservices?
Everystudentwhoactuallywantstogetbetteratmeetingwomen.
SPEED SEDUCTION:
SpeedSeductionwascreatedbyRossJeffriesintheearly90s.Itwasthefirstmajorschoolof
seduction.
SpeedSeductionfocusesonusingneurolinguisticprogramminglanguagepatternstoarouse
womencovertly.Itspecificallyusesthingslikeembeddedcommands,ambiguity,weasel
phrases,hypnoticdemos,andmore.
ItisoftensaidinSSthatifawomandoesntlikethehypnoticpatternsanddeeptherapeutic
conversations,thatsheisntaqualitywoman,thus,explaininganylackofsuccessbytheir
studentsorgurus.SSisgearedawayfrommeetingwomeninbarsandclubs.
In2009,RJreleasedSpeedSeduction3.0,whichwasalmostidenticaltotheBasicHomeStudy
Coursehehasbeensellingsince1992,rightdowntosomeoftheexactsamelanguagepatterns.
SomeSpeedSeductionprinciplesareusefulforarousalandseductionbut,likeDYD,SSisa
usefultoolandauselessmethod.
WhosucceedswithSpeedSeduction?
AsfarasIcantell,notverymanypeople.Theamountofverifiablegoodstudentswhouse
purelySSiscurrently0andIvemetadecentamountofthem.Aguycouldtheoreticallysucceed
withSSifhewereabletogetattractionanotherwayandhehadanidentitytosupportwhyhe
wasaskingallthesequestionsaboutenergyandpassions,etc(thinkyogateacher,writer,
sexualityexpert).Aromanticoutlookonlifeandloveoflanguagewouldalsohelpawouldbe
SSer.
WhofailswithSpeedSeduction?
Almosteveryone!ThereareavarietyofreasonsforwhypeoplefailwithSS,fromthecomplexity
ofthematerial,tothetoneoftheopeners,androutines.
SpeedSeductionisclearlyasystemthatwastheorizedinaclassroom,notthefield.SomeSS
patternsanddemosareusefulinarousingwomenoncetheyarealreadybackatyourplace,but
atthatpointitsalmostunnecessary.
JUGGLER METHOD:
TheJugglerMethodwasintroducedbyWayneJugglerElise.Hissystemfocusesoncreating
rapportandinvestment,thenusingstatementsofintenttoescalatetheinteraction.Juggler
recommendsusingstatementsratherthanquestionsandcreatingvacuumstoforcegirlsto
qualifythemselves.
Jugglerssystemtakesthefocusoffoftheguybeingentertaining,andinsteadsearchestofind
reasonstobeentertainedandseducedbythegirl.Jugglerhimselfdoesntlikebarsandclubsso
hissystemisdesignedmoretofocusononeononeinteractionswithoutalotofdistractions.
Hissystemismuchhardertoimplementpurelyinbarsandclubs,wheregirlstendtobefoundin
largergroups.
Whosucceedswithjugglermethod?
Normalsociallyadjustedguyswithadecentfashionsenseandanabsenceofanxiety.Themore
socialyouare,thebetteryouwilldowithJugglersmethod,astheabsenceofanoverlying
structureandroutineswillhinderguyswithlesssocialexperience.Thefasteryouthinkonyour
feet,themoresuccessyouwillgetwiththismethod.
WhofailswithJugglerMethod?
Guyswithescalationanxiety.Becauseoftheuseofstatementsofintent,guyswhoarescaredto
demonstrateinterestorhitongirlshaveahugeproblemwiththismethod.
Guyswhodonthaveagoodgrasponbasicconversationalskillsandconfidentsub
communicationswillalsohaveproblems.
And,thelastsystemwelllookatis
DOUBLE YOUR DATING:
DoubleYourDatingisasystemcreatedbyinternetmarketerEbenPagenunderthepenname:
DavidDeangelo.
ItssystemconsistsmainlyoftheconceptofCockyandFunny,andthe3minuteemailclose.
DYDssystemfocusesonapproachingandinteractingwithonegirlatatimeasopposedto
approachinggroups.InvariousprogramsDavidDcoverstopicsrangingfromDeepInnerGame
toCockyComedy.
CockyandFunnyisagreattoolfortheattractionphase,butDYDofferslittletonothingonthe
phasespastattraction.LikeSSitisagreattoolbutauselessmethod.
WhosucceedswithDoubleYourDating?
Guyswhounderstandthelimitationsofthesystem.IfyouuseCockyandFunnysparinglyin
attractionitdoeshelpcauseattraction.
However,itisaglitchinthematrixandifyouoverdoitgirlswillcatchon.Itcanalsohurtyouin
creatingalevelofcomfort,asitisbasedonbreakingrapportbynotansweringquestionsor
givingfakeoccupations.
WhofailswithDYD?
DYDstudentswerethefirstonesInoticedcominginwithspecificstickingpoints.Noneofthem
smileenoughbecauseonTheAdvancedSeries,DavidDrecommendsnotsmiling.
Theyalsotendtoinsultgirlsasopposedtoteasingthem.AnexampleofalineDavidDactually
recommendsis,Thatsaniceshirt.Youbuythatnew?
Cockyandfunnyisactuallyamoreadvancedtechniquebecauseitassumesabasiclevelofsocial
calibration.Youhavetobeabletounderstandthedifferencebetweenteasingandinsulting,as
wellasknowingwhentobearealpersoninsteadofacocky,funnyman.
Lookingatthesemethodsgivesagoodpictureofwhatisimportanttosucceedwithany
method.
THE ELUSIVE OBVIOUS
Ifwelookforthecorrelatingfactorsbetweenwhosucceedsandfailsineachofthesemethods,
wecometoasimpleyetprofoundconclusion.
Anormal,sociallyadjustedguywithdecentfashionsenseandanabsenceofanxietycan
succeedinvirtuallyanymethodthatiseffectiveintherealworld.
Thus,weunderstandthatthefirststepingettingsuccesswithwomenisbecominganormal,
sociallyadjustedguywhoisnthinderedbyanxiety.
THE TWO TYPES OF ANXIETY THAT

CRIPPLE YOUR GAME
Inmyexperience,almostallstickingpointsguyshavecomedowntotwotypesofanxiety.They
aresocialanxietyandsexualanxiety.
Socialanxietyrearsitsuglyheadinavarietyofwaysinapickup.Thefirstandmostobviousis
approachanxiety.
Thebiggestreasonwhystudentsdontgetgoodafterbootcampsistheirinabilitytoovercome
approachanxietybythemselves.
ThatswhyonthesecondnightofmybootcampsIhaveatwohourwindowwhereIdontspeak
tothestudentsandtheyhavetocompleteatleast6approachesongirlstheyareattractedto.
Beingpushedintoapproachingbyaninstructorcanyieldresultsintheshorttermataboot
campandmayevenresultinastudentgettingphonenumbers,makeoutsorevenlays.
However,ifthestudentcannotmotivatehimselftoapproach,hewillfailwhenhereturnshome
fromfantasycamp.
Luckilyforus,approachanxietyisaverybeatableopponent.Thekeytobeatingapproach
anxietyistoexpectitandhaveaneasytoexecuteplantodealwithit.Forthefirsttime
anywhere,Illrevealmytwostepprocesstoconsistentlybeatapproachanxiety.
THE TWO STEP PROCESS TO BEAT APPROACH ANXIETY
Step One - Mental Reframes:
Thefirstpartofbeatingapproachanxietyishowyouthinkaboutapproaching.Mostguyshave
oneofafewdifferentthoughts:
1. Idontknowwhattosay,soIcantapproach.
2. Shessohot;IhopeIdontmessthisup.
3. Thatsscary.
4. Whatifsherejectsme?
5. ShewontlikemebecauseImtoofat,short,ugly
Noneofthesethoughtsareproductive.
Thefirstmentalreframeisthatapproachingcanonlyeverbeoneoftwothings.Itseithergoing
tobeboringorfun.Thatsit.Ifyouapproachagroupandtheyrejectyou,itsboringandyou
canleave.
Ifatfirstitsgoingreallywellandthenyoustallout,itsboringandyoucanleave.Ifitgoeswell,
itsfun.Thatsit.Youareundernoobligationtostayinaconversationifyourenothavingfun,
nomatterhowhotthegirlis.
Thenextmentalreframerelatestotheconceptofresistance.WhenmostguysgetAAtheytry
topushtheirwayoutofit.Iusedtoberatemyselfintoapproachingconsistently.Nowthiscan
work,butitsanunhealthyandwhollytimeconsumingprocess.Plus,therearesomenights
whereyouwontbeabletogetyourselfoverthehump.
TheproblemisthatbyresistingtheAAyouactuallymakeitstronger.InEasternphilosophy
thereisaphrase,Thatwhichyouresistpersists.Thatmeansthatthemoreyoufightagainst
somethingthestrongeritbecomes.
Soinsteadofgettingannoyedorangrybythefactthatyouhaveapproachanxiety,acceptit.
ThinktoyourselfYepIhaveapproachanxiety.Bynotfightingtheanxiety,youstripitofalot
ofitspower.
AnothermentalreframeIwanttotalkaboutinvolvesfocus.Focusissimplywhereyour
attentionisdirected.Therearetwoseparateanddistinctwaystousefocustoovercome
approachanxiety.
ThefirstwaytousefocustolessenAAcomesintoplaywhenyoufirstseeagirlyoureattracted
to.Ifyourelikemostguys,thenyouimmediatelystartthinkingofreasonswhyshewouldnt
likeyouoryoucantapproachher.
Instead,youwanttostartfocusingonwhyyouwanttoapproachher.Youshouldthinkto
yourselfhowamazingitwouldbetoholdheragainstyou,howsweetherlipswilltaste,the
noisesshellmakeasyouretakingherfrombehind.
Thinkofanythingthatwillkeepthefocusonwhyyouwantherandhavetoapproach,as
opposedtobuildingacaseforwhyitsawasteoftimeandshewontlikeyou.Thiswillalsohelp
youbeinamoresexualizedstatewhenyouapproach,whichwillsubcommunicateitself
throughthingslikebedroomeyesandvoice.
Thesecondwaytousefocustolessenanxietyisthroughshiftingyourfocusoutward.Maybe
youveheardthetermstuckinyourhead.Ifnot,itreferstotheprocessofoverthinkingand
analyzingthingswhenyoushouldbetakingaction.Beingstuckinyourheadcanhappenfora
varietyofreasons,approachanxietybeingoneofthem.
Sowhenyourestuckinyourheaditcanbehelpfultosimplyshiftyourfocusexternallyby
lookingatANYinanimateobjectandreallyallowingyourselftobecomefixatedbyit.Itcanbea
chair,abench,atree,whatever.Iknowitsoundsalittlewoowooandnewage,butallow
yourselftodrinkitallin.
Thinkaboutwhatitwouldfeelliketobethatobject,howitrelatestotherestofthe
environmentetcIfyoucanletyourselfbecomeamusedbyitor,ifnotbyit,bytheridiculous
amountofeffortandtimethatwentintomakingandgettingthatobjectwhereitis,youll
noticethatyoureforcedoutofyourheadbecauseyourthoughtsstoppedbeingaboutyourself
andapproaching. Thus,theAAdisappeared.Thekeywiththistechniqueistoapproach
immediatelyafterfocusingontheinanimateobject.
Addanextradegreeofdifficultybyapproachingwhiletalkingabouttheobject.
Beforewemoveoutoftherealmofthementalandintothemoretactical,Iwanttointroduce
theconceptofthelightswitch.WhatImeanbythisisthatIviewmydesiretoapproachagirlas
ifitsalightswitch.ThatmeansifIseeagirlIamattractedtoandmybrainsaysyessheshot
thenIapproach.IfitdoesntthenIdont.
Nowthissimplifieseverythingbecauseitboilsitdowntoayes/nodecisiononyourpart.No
morehummingandhawingaboutwhetherornotshesattractiveenoughorifthemomentis
right.Yes=approach.No=forgetaboutherandmoveon.Youwanttotrainyourselfonthis
processsothatwhenyouapproachyoudontblurtoutyoureverypretty.
Youllgetusedtoapproachingwomenassoonasyoumakethedecisionyouwantto.
Thisestablishesahabitand,muchlikeworkingout,onceyouvedonethisallthetimefor6
weeksorso,itwillseemweirdtonotapproach.
Ok onto the tactics for beating AA.
Thefirsttacticalwaytobeatapproachanxietyisbydoingwarmupapproaches.Thebestway,
Ivefound,tousewarmupapproaches,camefromafriendofmineknownasAFCAdam.He
recommendswarmingupbywalkinguptothreedifferentwomen,complimentingthemon
somethingandwalkingaway.
Thisisagreatwaytogetpastthefearofapproaching,becauseittakesawayahugeamountof
outcomedependence.Sinceyouknowthatyouwontbetryingtopickupthegirls,ittakesallof
thepressureoffapproaching.Itsalsofast,asyoucanusuallydoallthreeofthesewarmup
approachesonyourwaytowhereveryouregoingtobemeetingwomen.
Themorecomfortableyouareinyourenvironment,thelessapproachanxietyyouwillhave.So
oneofthebestthingsyoucandotoworkonyourapproachanxietyismakealistofplacesyou
wanttogotomeetgirls.Thesecanbebars,clubs,coffeeshops,wherever.
Theyshouldbeplacesthathavethetypesofgirlsyouwanttomeet,andthatideallyyoulike
hangingoutat.Youcaneventakeanightandgetusedtohangingoutattheseplaces.Youcan
talktothestaff,watchthegirlsgethiton,butfocusongettingcomfortableinthatenvironment.
Thatway,thenexttimeyougoinyouwonthavetoworryaboutadjustingtotheenvironment
inadditiontoworryingaboutapproaching.
Deepbreathingisanothertoolforfightingapproachanxietyinthemoment.Assoonasyoufeel
yourselfgettingnervous,taketwoorthreedeepbreathswhereyouholdbeforeyouexhale.
Physiologicallywhenyouarehavingapproachanxietyyourbodyistensingup.Asadrenalineis
released,yourbodystartstotightenupandyourbreathinggoesshallow.Bytakingafewdeep
breaths,youstopthatprocesswhichshouldrelaxyouadecentamount.
Itsveryimportantthatassoonasyouseeagrouporagirlyouwanttoapproach,youstart
walking.Thefirststepisoftenthemostdifficult,somakesuretogetmovingasquicklyasyou
can.
But,besurethatyouactuallywalkuptothegirl.Somestudentshavebeenknowntomake
abruptUturnsorkeepwalkingpastthem.Theideaistoputpressureonyourselfbywalking
overthere.Itsalothardertoapproachfromacrosstheroomthanitisfromrightthere.
Lastly,Iwanttotalkabouthighsocialpressuresituations.Thesearegreatforgettingridof
approachanxiety.Iusedtohavearuleatbootcamp,thatassoonasIwalkedintoavenue,I
wouldapproachthemostdifficultseeminggroup.
ThereasonIdidthatwastwofold.First,exposingyourselftothatmuchsocialpressurealways
easesanxiety.Onceyouwalkuptoagroupoftwo9sandfiveguysseatedinaboothinthe
backofacrowdedclub,thetwogirlsatthebardontseemasscary.
Secondly,themoredifficulttheapproach,thegreaterthechanceofablowoutandnothingis
betterforgettingoverapproachanxietythangettingblownout.Thinkaboutitlikethis,a
blowoutistheworstthingthatcanhappenwhenyouapproachagroup.
Notonlydotheynotwanttohavesexwithyou,theydontevenwanttotalktoyou!Butguess
what?Whenyougetblownout,youdontbleed,youdontgetanybrokenbones,andyoucan
stillbreathe.Thegreatthingaboutgettingblownoutisthatyouveseentheworstitcanget,
andyousurvivedit.Andasaverygoodfriendofmineoncetoldme,fearplussurvivingthat
fear,equalsconfidence.
Ok,soletstalkabouthowtoapplythisinformation.Alloftheseideasaredesignedtobeused
outintherealworld.Imnotabigbelieverinanytacticstodealwithapproachanxietythat
cantbeusedwhenyoureoutintherealworldapproaching.
Sotherealfirststepisgettingoutofthehouseandfindingwomenyouwanttoapproach.Once
youwanttoapproach,butarehavingapproachanxiety:
Applyoneormorementalreframes.Remindyourselfthatapproachingcanonlyeverbefunor
boring.Askyourselftheempoweringquestion:HowcanImakethismorefun?Rememberto
acceptthefeelingofapproachanxietyratherthanresistingit.Focusonwhatyouwantto
happen,notwhatcouldgowrong.
Takesomeformofactionatthesametime.Itsnogoodtojustsittherementallyreframing,you
havetogetyourbodyinvolvedintheprocessaswell.Sowhileyourementallyreframingthings,
youshouldbewalkingtowardsgirlsyouwanttotalkto,complimenting3differentgirlsor
groupstowarmup,andtakingdeepbreaths.
Sonowthatwevedealtwithapproachanxiety,wecanmoveontosexualanxiety.
Sexualanxietyisanxietyassociatedwithsexualsituations.Thiscancomefromyourupbringing,
inexperiencewithwomenandsex,religiousviews,yourbeliefsaboutwomen,andeveninternal
successbarriers.Thisanxietycanmanifestitselfinavarietyofways.
Byfarthemostcommonwayisescalationanxiety.GuyswithSAcantescalatetheinteraction
verballyorphysically.Oftentimestheygetstuckinthedreadedfriendzone.
AnotherwaythatSAcomesupisthroughexcusemakingandrationalizations.Thisiswhere
guyswillsaythingslikeIcouldhavepulled,butIwastired,Idontreallywannahavesexwith
thesegirls;Ijustlikethepickup.GuyswillalsorationalizeSA.TheyllsaythingslikeIjustdidnt
likeherorShehadweirdtoes.SAcanevencauseimpotenceforsomepeople,basedonthe
stressoffeelinglikeyouwillbejudgedsexually.
THE THREE MAIN CAUSES OF SEXUAL ANXIETY

AND HOW TO SOLVE THEM
1. Inexperiencewithwomen:
Thereareanumberofreasonswhyinexperiencewithwomenleadstosexualanxiety.Thefirstis
thefearofbeingjudged.Thesamewaythatguysareworriedwomenwilljudgethemfor
approaching,getsamplifiedtenfoldwhenitcomestogettingsexual.
Plus,sexisoneofthosethingsthatpeoplearejustsupposedtoget.Yougetasmallamountof
sexualeducationinhighschoolandotherthanthatyouresupposedtofigureitoutyourself.
Mostguysdonteducatethemselvesaboutsexotherthanthroughwatchingporn.This
overlooksthefactthatmostofthetimewomenalreadylikeyoubythetimeyouregetting
readytohavesex.Aslongasitseemslikeyouknowwhatyouredoing,youllbefine.
AnotherreasoninexperiencedguyshaveproblemswithSAhastodowithconfidenceand
competence.Whenguysonlyhavealittlesexualexperience,theyassumetheyhaveverylittle
competenceandthustheyfeeladecidedlackofconfidenceintheirabilities.
Whenyoufeelthatlackofconfidence,itcanbedifficulttoescalate.Someguysalsoexperience
sexualanxietysimplyfromthenewnessofthesituation.Thelesstimeyouvebeeninasexual
situationwithagirl,themorelikelyyouwillfeelsomejitters,simplybecauseitsnew.
Alternatively,thisiswhyyoungergirlswilltypicallygiveyoumorelastminuteresistance.Agirl
whois19andhashadsexwithonlyoneotherguywillfeelthesamekindofsexualanxietyan
inexperiencedguydoes.OnlythrougheducationcanwelessentheSAcausedbyinexperience
Therearetwotypesofeducationonsexuality.Booklearningandhandsonexperience.The
booklearningisaneasierplacetostart.IrecommendyouguysallcheckoutthebookThe
GuidetoGettingitOn.Itsagreat,wellwrittenlookatallthingssexual.Handsonexperience
canonlycomethroughsexualencounterswithwomen.
Irecommendthateveryguywhosavirgin,orclosetoit,getaregularsexpartner.Shedoesnt
havetobethecutestgirlintheworld.Butsheneedstobesomeoneyoucanhaveregularsex
with.Themoretimesyouhavesex,themorecomfortableyouwillbecome.Ialsorecommend
experimentingandopeningupanhonestsexualdialoguewiththesegirls.Bewillingtopush
thingssexuallyinordertoexperiment.Thiswillteachyoualotaboutyourself,women,andsex.
2.Beliefs:
SpecificallySAcomesfromunhealthybeliefsaboutwomen,sexandyourself.Andthe
dangerousthingaboutbeliefsisthattheydonthavetobetrueforyoutobelievethem.
Societyingeneralwouldlikeyoutobelievethatmenlikesexmorethanwomenandthatsexis
somethingmenpursuethateventuallywomengiveinto.Youcanevenseethisinthelanguage
peopleuse.Womengiveitup,mengetlucky.
Thetruthofthematteristhatsexisnormalandnatural.Womenenjoysexjustasmuchifnot
morethanmensincetheyhaveoneorganthatexistsstrictlyforsexualpleasure.Thisis
unfortunatelynotthewayitsportrayedinthemedia,thoughthesuccessofshowslikeSexand
TheCityhavehelpedalittlebit.Infact,ifyouwanttoseehowgraphicfemalesexualfantasies
canbe,checkoutNancyFridaysbookMySecretGarden.
SexualAnxietycanalsobecausedbyguysbeliefsaboutthemselves.Someguysthinkthatno
womanwouldwanttogetsexualwiththembecausetheyaretooshort,fat,orwhatever.
Thefirststeptodealingwithnegativebeliefsistorecognizethem.Youcantakeafewminutes
nowtowritedownfiveunhelpfulbeliefsyouhaveaboutwomen,sex,oryourself.Afteryou
writethemdown,Iwantyoutowriteoutfivebeliefsthatarethediametricoppositeofwhat
youhavenow.Next,getasmallnotepadandapen.
Carrythesearoundwithyoueverywhereandstartlookingforevidencetosupportyournew
beliefs.So,forexample,ifoneofyourbadbeliefsisthatgirlsdontwanttohavesexwithguys
whoareoverweight,andyouseeahotgirloutwithanoverweightguy,writeitdown.
AsRobertAntonWilsonwroteinPrometheusRising,Whatthethinkerthinks,theprover
proves.
3.Successbarriersanddeservingnessissues:
Theseareaspecialtypeofbadbeliefbaseduponyourinternalselfimage.Everyonehasanidea
intheirheadofhowcooltheyare,howmuchsuccesstheyshouldhave,whattypeofgirlsthey
shouldgetetcMaxwellMaltztacklesthissubjectindepthinhisgroundbreakingbookPsycho
Cybernetics.
Anywho,thisideaisyourselfimageanditgovernseverythingyoudo.Successbarriershappen
whenthesuccessthatyouaregettinginreallifeismorethanyouthinkyoudeserve.
Thishappenswithlotterywinnersallthetime.Theresastatisticouttherethatsaysthat
somethinglike90%ofallpeoplewhowinthelotteryendupgoingbrokeinlessthanfiveyears.
Thereasonbeingthatifyoudontfeellikeyoudeservesomething,yourmindwillfindawayto
getridofit.Ourbrainsaresetuptohateincongruence.
Sowhenrealityisconflictingwithyourselfimage,youwillunconsciouslysabotagethesituation
torestoreorderinyourreality.Thisiswhererationalizations,excusesandgivinguphappen.In
ordertodealwithdeservingnessissuesandsuccessbarriers,youhavetocomeupwithyour
ownreasonsforwhyyoudeservetobesuccessful.
Thisiswheresittingdownanddoingsomeintrospectioncanreallyhelp.Thefirstthingyoull
wanttodoissitdownandwriteoutalistof10reasonswhyawomanwouldbeluckytobewith
you.Thesereasonscanrangefrompersonalitytraitstoexperiencesyoudbeabletogiveher.Be
suretocheckbackonthislisteverydaysothatyouarereinforcingthereasonswomenshould
bewithyoudaily.
Afterthatwritedownalistof10thingsyoudontlikeaboutyourself.Thesearethethingsto
workon.Trytosetupsmalldailygoalstoworkonthestuffyourenothappywith.
Thereasonbehindthisisthatthebrainmovesindirections.Youcantallofasuddendecide
thatyourethepimpoftheworld.Insteadyourbrainneedstoseeconsistentprogress.Soifyou
dontlikehowantisocialyouare,trytomake30secondsofconversationwithanewperson
everyday.
Thatwayyoureactivelyworkingonthethingsyouneedtoworkondailyandthatgetsrelayed
toyourbrainaswell.Beforewemovepastdealingwithanxiety,Iwanttomakeaquicknote
thatsomeanxietyisamedicalconditionandcannotbefixedbyanyofthesetacticsor
techniques.Ifyouhavemajoranxietyrelatedtosocializingorsexuality,Ihighlyrecommendyou
consultwithyourphysician.
BECOMING NORMAL
Intheseductioncommunitythereisaprejudiceagainstnormalguyswhodontknowalotabout
pickingup.
TheyarederisivelycalledAFCsoraveragefrustratedchumps.Thereasonpeopleinthe
communitydothis,isitallowsthemtofeelasenseofsuperiorityovermostotherguys.
Whenguysfirstgetintothisstuff,theyfeelthattheysomehowarebetterorsmarterthanguys
whohaventreadaboutmeetingwomen.ThiscanevenhappenwhenthenewlyidentifiedPUAs
arestillvirgins.
Simplyfeelingtheyknowsomethingotherguysdontcausesthemtofeelsuperior.Thisisoneof
themostdamagingthinkingtrapsthecommunityhas.Thereasonbeingisthatguysoutsideof
thecommunitytendtogetlaidalotmorethanguysinit,hencewhytheydontfindthe
community.
Thisisalsounhealthybecauseitstartstobreedseparationbetweenguysinthecommunityand
guysoutofit.Infact,everyfewmonthsIllseeathreadonamessageboardabouthowyou
shoulddumpallyourfriendsiftheyrenotintopickingupbecausethatsallthatmatters,which
mightbethemostunhealthiestthingsomeonecoulddo.
Infact,evenreferringtopeopleasPUAsandAFCsisweirdandgetsinthewayofbecominga
normalguy.
Sowhatisanormal,sociallyadjustedguyandhowcanyoubecomeonequickly?Ivebrokenit
downintoafewsimplesteps:
STEP 1: FASHION, AND GROOMING
ThebiggestthingInoticewithguysIworkwithisthewaytheydress.Almosteverystudent
comesintoabootcampdressedpoorlywithbelowaveragegrooming.Thisisoneoftheeasiest
thingstofix.Itdoesnteventakealotofmoneyifyoushopatsecondhandorvintagestores.
The 3 Major Fashion Faux Pas and How to Avoid Them

1.ClothesThatDontFit:
Thisisbyfarthenumberoneproblemwithguysfashion.ThewayyourclothesfityouisWAY
moreimportantthananythingelse.A$10dollarTshirtthatfitswilllookamilliontimesbetter
thananArmanisuitthatstwosizestoosmall.
Yourclothesshouldnotbetoobaggyortootight;insteadtheyshouldfitandflatteryourbody
type.Ifyouneedhelpfiguringoutifsomethingfits,takeafriendshoppingwithyou.Preferably
thiswouldbeafriendwhosesenseofstyleyouadmire.Butnevertheless,havingasecondpair
ofeyesaroundcanneverhurt.
2.ColorsThatClashWithYourSkinTone:
Thisisanothermajorproblemthatguysdontseemtounderstand.Thelighteryourskintoneis
themoreyouwanttosticktodarkertonesandavoidpastels.Thedarkeryourskinisthemore
youcanwearlighter,flashiercolors.Ifyouwanttoexpandthespectrumofcolorsyoucanwear
withoutlookinglikearetard,getatan.
3.ClothesThatAreOutofStyle:
Alotofguysgoclothesshoppingonceayear,ifthat.However,fashionisadynamicindustry.Its
constantlychanging,whichmeansthatifyouarewearingclothesfrom34yearsago,evenif
theywerecuttingedgethen,youlookdatednow.
Ifyouneedareallifeexample,allyouhavetodoistrytorememberVonDutchhatsandjeans.
Theywerealltherageabout2andahalfyearsagoandnowyouneverseethem.
Youwanttolearntoshoplikeagirl:insteadofgoingoutandspendinghundredsofdollarsona
completewardrobe,committogettingonenewitemeverytimeyougetapaycheck.Thatway,
insteadofhavingabunchofstuffyoumayhate6monthslater,youhaveaconstantlyupdating
wardrobe.
Oneofthebestwaystodecideonanewfashionistolookattheguysyouseewiththegirlsyou
wantandcopythatstyle.
Inadditiontofashion,groomingisoneofthosethingsthateverybodyhasheardamilliontimes,
yetmanyguysstilldontpayattentionto.
The 3 Most Important Elements of Grooming
1. Hair: This goes for both the hair on your head and the hair everywhere else on your
body. Every guy should have a haircut that suits his face, even if you need to save
enoughmoneytogotothenicesthairdresserinyourarea.
Generallygayguysareabetterbetforagoodhaircutthanwomenastheyllcutyour
hairtomakeyoulooksexy,notsafe. Let the hairdresser do whatever they think
wouldlookbest,evenifitisnotyou.
Next, you need to make sure that all of your body hair is neatly trimmed. The most
importantareasareyoureyebrowsandnosehairs.Icannottellyouhowmanystudents
haveshowedupwithnearunibrowsandhairspokingouttheirnose.
Buysometweezersandpluckthosehairsout.Ithurts,butwillmakeahugedifference.
Also, make sure that if you have a lot of body hair, you keep it trimmed to a uniform
length.Youdontneedtoshaveitalloff,butitdoesneedtolookundercontrol.
2. Breath:Youcanhavethebestgameintheworldbutifyouhavebadbreath,youstill
wontgetanywhere.
IuseathreestepprocesstomakesureIalwayshavegoodbreath.Thefirststep
involvesbrushing,flossingandusingmouthwashrightbeforeIgoouttomeetwomen.
Next,whileoutorrightbeforegoingout,Iavoidthingslikegarlic,onions,etc.and
finally,Ialwayscarrysomeformofbreathfreshener.Bottomline,Ihavemetwaytoo
manyguysIhadtooffergumto.Thereisnoexcuseforbadbreath.Ifyoudoallthese
thingsandstillhavebadbreath,consultwithadoctorasyoumighthaveamedical
issue.
3. Scent:Obviouslyeveryoneknowstheyneedtobatheandavoidbodyodorlikeitsthe
plague. So for the sake of completeness I will tell you guys to shower and wear
deodorant.
Butsomeguysstillcannotmanagetosmellgood.Ifyouhaveaperspirationproblem,try
amoremedicateddeodorantlikeCertainDri.Youshouldalsopickoutandwearanice
cologne.
Smellisoneofthemostpowerfulsenseswehave,soyouwanttomakesurewomenare
tellingyouhowniceyousmellasopposedtobeinggrossedoutbyyourodor.
IlikeAquaDiGio,MarcJacobs,andDolceandGabbana.Youcangodowntoyourlocal
departmentstoreandtryafewdifferentoneson.Thisisalsoagreatopportunitytoask
womenfortheiropinionsonwhatsmellsbestonyou.Rememberdifferentcologneswill
reactdifferentlytoyourspecificskintype,sotryabunchoutandfindtheonethat
worksbestforyou.
STEP 2: BASIC BODY LANGUAGE AND TONALITY
Alotofguyshaveveryeasilycorrectableproblemswiththeirbodylanguageandtonality.By
simplyfixingthesefewproblemareas,youwillseeabigchangeinhowpeoplereacttoyou.
Themostimportantthingwhenitcomestohavingnormalbodylanguageisyourposture.You
wanttomakesurethateverythingyoudoisrelatedtolengtheningandstraighteningyourbody.
Alotofmenhavelearnedbadpostureasaresultofworkingatacomputerallday.
Whenyouarestandingstill,imaginethatthereisaninvisiblestringconnectedtobothyour
headandyourchestyankingbothofthemupashighandstraightaspossible.Ifyouareataller
guy,besurethatyoudontslouchordoanythingtomakeyourselfshorter.
Thenextmostimportantthingwhenitcomestobasicbodylanguageisidentifyingandfixingall
nervousticksandgestures.Thesecouldbeanythingfromfacialflinchestotalkingwithyour
hands.Thebestwaytoidentifyandworkontheseistohaveafriendtapeyouasyouguysare
havinganormalconversation.
Lookforanythingthatyoudomorethanoncethatmakesitlooklikeyouarenervousor
uncomfortable.Ifyouwanttogoastepfurther,youcanlookforanymovementsthatarenot
directlyrelatedtotheconversationandeliminatethoseaswell.
Alwaysrememberthatthepersonwhoismovingaroundlesshasmoresocialpower.Themore
relaxedandcomfortableyoulook,thebetteryourbodylanguagewillbe.
Anotherhugefactorinbodylanguageishowmuchspaceyoutakeup.Ingeneral,therearetwo
typesofbadbodylanguage.Thefirsthappenswhenguysareafraidtotakeupspace.Thisis
oftenreflectedinclosedoff,stiltedbodylanguage.
Theothertypeofbadbodylanguagehappenswhenguysaretakinguptoomuchspace.This
lookshardandsloppy.Instead,therightbalanceistotakeupjustenoughspacethatyouare
completelycomfortable.
Donttrytotakeuplessspacetomakeotherscomfortable,butdonttakeupmorespacethan
youneedeither.GenerallyinNorthAmerica,personalspaceisdefinedasthearea1836inches
aroundyou.Aslongasyoustaywithinthatbubbleyoushouldbefine.
Yourvoiceisoneofyourmostimportanttoolswhenitcomestosocializing.Themostimportant
thingwhenitcomestoyourvoiceisspeakingloudlyandclearly.
Youwanttomakesurethatyouspeakfromyourdiaphragminsteadofyourthroat.Tofindout
whatitfeelslike,placetwofingersonthenotchofyourribcage(whereyourstomachandchest
meet)andtakeadeepbreathin.Onceyouvefilledyourlungswithair,exhaleuntilyourbody
forcesyoutobreathe.Youwillfeelacontractionasyourbodybeginstobreatheagain.The
musclesthatarecontractingareyourdiaphragmaticmuscles.
Thepowerforyourvoicecomesfromyourbreathing,soitsimportanttomakesurethatyou
speakontheexhale.Thisalonewillmakeyoumuchlouder.Youalsowanttomakesuretoaim
yourvoiceatleastonepersonbehindwhoyouarespeakingto,muchlikeinmartialartswhere
youpunchthroughtheboard.Thiswillensurethateveryonecanhearyouwhenyoure
speaking.
Thereareafewwaystomakesurethatyouarespeakingclearly.Thefirstistoslowdownthe
speedatwhichyoutalk.Mostpeoplespeaktooquickly,especiallywhentheyarenervous.
Toeliminatethis,youcanuseanoldtricktheyteachstudiomusicians.Thetrickistoslowdown
yourspeakingspeedby50%thenslowthatdownbyanother50%.Thiswillfeelextremely
strangeatfirstbutitwillresultinpeoplebeingabletounderstandwhatyouaresayingmuch
easier.
Thenextthingyouwanttodoiseliminatefillers.Thesearethingslikeums,ahhs,etc.Whenyou
feeltheurgetouseafiller,pauseinstead.Pausesbuildresponsepotential,andaddanairof
intriguetoanythingyouaresaying.
Lastly,youwanttoworkontheactualqualityofyourvoice.Manyguyshavehighpitchedor
nasallyvoices.Sowewanttoworkoncultivatingavoicethatissmoothandsoothingtotheear.
Thebestwaytodothisistositdownandrecordyourselfspeakingfor35minutesstraight.
Mostpeopledonothaveagoodideaofhowtheysoundandthussaytheydontactuallysound
likethat.Thewayyousoundonrecordingsisthewayyousoundtowomen.
Onceyouveidentifiedwhatyouwanttoworkonwithyourvoice,youshouldfindapassageor
paragraphandreaditintotherecorderwhiletryingtochangethesoundofyourvoice.
Ifyouwanttohaveadeeper,sultriersoundingvoice,youshouldreadthepassageorparagraph
whiletryingtospeakinthemostextremedeepvoiceyoucanproduce.Fromthere,itsamatter
ofcalibratingdowntoamorenormalsoundingversionofthatdeepvoice.Themoreyourecord
yourself,theeasierthiswillbe.
ThelastthingIwanttotalkaboutinregardstobasicbodylanguageiseyecontact.Eyecontact
conveysalotaboutyourlevelofconfidence.Youwanttobeabletoholdeyecontactuntilthe
otherpersonbreaksit.
Nowobviouslythisisnotahardfastrule,asyoucancomeofflikeastalkerifyouneverbreak
eyecontact.Butingeneral,youwanttoholdeyecontactforaslongaspossible.
Anotherthingabouteyecontactisthewayyoubreakit.Asmuchaspossibleyouwanttoavoid
breakingeyecontactbylookingdown.Thisisasignofsubmissionandshowsalackof
confidence.
Instead,youwanttobreakeyecontacttotheside,asifyousimplygotdistractedbysomething
else.Whenyouarespeakingtogroupsofpeople,itsimportanttospreadeyecontact
throughoutthewholegroupasopposedtojustlookingatoneparticularperson.Especiallyif
thatpersonisagirlyoureinterestedin.
STEP 3: COMFORTABLE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS
OneofthemostcommonproblemsIrunintowithstudentsistheirinabilitytohavea
comfortableconversation.Idefineacomfortableconversationasonewherethereisnoagenda.
Itssimplysocializing.
TherearealotofreasonswhyIthinkguysstrugglewithbasicconversationalskills,butthe
biggestoneinmyopinion,isalackofpractice.Everydayyouarepresentedwithamillionand
oneopportunitiestopracticehavingconversations.
Youhavetointeractwithcoworkers,baristas,waiters,passengersonpublictransportation,
etcButmostguysrushthroughtheseconversationsasquicklyaspossibletogetbacktowhat
theyweredoing.Also,becausealotofuswhogetintothisstuffarenaturallyintrovertedto
beginwith,weneverlearnedhowtobegoodconversationalists.
Hereare11conversationtipstogetyoustarted:
1. DontAskQuestions,MakeStatements:Askingquestionsislikewithdrawingmoney
fromabankaccount.Theonlyproblemisthatyoudontknowhowmuchmoneyisin
there.Whenyouaskpeoplequestions,youareputtingtheburdenoftheconversation
onthem.Yourealsoputtingthemunderpressuretocomeupwithanswersonthefly.
Neitherofthesetwofactorsmakesthepersonparticularlycomfortable.
Soinstead,wewanttomakestatementsandthenusecheckins.Itsveryeasytoturn
anyquestionintoastatement.Letstakeoneofthetypical,boring,gettingtoknowyou
typequestionslike,whereareyoufrom?Youaskthatquestiontogatherinformation
abouttheotherpersonthatyoucanrelateto.
IfIhadadollarforeverypersonwho,whentheyfoundoutIwasfromL.A.,askedmeifI
knew someone, Id be rich. When you ask this question, the only information you are
goingtogetiswheretheyarefrom.
But,bymakingastatementlike,YougirlslooklikeEastcoastgirlsyoullactuallyget
more information to talk about. What happens here is that if they are from the East
coast,theyllbeamazedyouwereabletoguessthat,andtheywilltellyouwherethey
are from specifically. If theyre not from the East coast theyll tell you where they are
from and ask why you thought they were from the East coast. So, not only do
statementsnotwithdrawmoneyfromtheimaginarybank,theyactuallygetyoumore
informationaswell.
2. UseCheckinstoMakeSurePeoplearePayingAttention:Theideaofacheckinwas
popularizedbyJuggler.Acheckinissimplyasmallquestiontomakesurepeopleare
relatingtowhatyouaresaying.SomeexamplesareyouknowwhatImsaying?
Youvehavebeenthere,Right?etc.
These will allow you to keep the other person(s) attention focused on you while you
speakforlongerperiodsoftime.
3. ObservetheBasicConversationalRatiofortheFirst35Minutes:Whenyouaretalking
toastranger,orgroupofstrangers,andyouhaveinitiatedtheconversation,youhave
torememberthe90/10rule.Thatmeansforthefirstfewminutesyouwillhavetodoup
to90%ofthetalking.
Thereasonbehindthisissimple:youstartedtheconversation.Sotheburdenofkeeping
itfunandinterestingisonyou,notthem.Youneedtoletthembecomecomfortable
andmostpeoplecannotbecomecomfortablewithastrangeriftheyareexpectedto
carrytheconversation.Soyoucarrytheconversationforthefirstfewminutes.
4. DontbeAfraidtoShareThingsAboutYourself,EspeciallyiftheyareInteresting:In
psychologytheytalkabouttheruleofreciprocity.Simplystated,becausehumans
evolvedassocialanimalswehaveapreferencetowardsformingalliances.
Becauseofthat,ifsomeonehelpsuswearemorelikelytohelpthem.Thesamething
appliestosharingaboutyourself.Themoreweknowaboutsomeoneelse,themorewe
aregoingtobewillingtoshareaboutourselves.
Alotofguyshaveabigproblemwhenitcomestothisareabecausetheyareafraidthey
are going to come off as an asshole. To which I always respond with: who do you
alwayscomplaingetsthegirls?
5. UseSensoryInformationandDetails:Asguys,weareveryfactual.Weareconcerned
withthe5Wsofjournalism:who,what,where,when,andwhy.Butwomenprocessthe
worldentirelydifferently;theyaremuchmoreconcernedwithemotionsandoneofthe
bestwaysweprocessemotionsisthroughoursenses.
When speaking, its important to talk about what you saw, heard, touched, tasted,
smelled,andfelt.Byusingthistypeoflanguage,youaddrichnesstoyourdescriptions
thatwomengocrazyfor.
6. Use Multiple Conversational Threads: Multiple Thread Theory was introduced to the
community by a guy named Toecutter. It refers to discussing several different
conversationaltopicsatthesametime,insteadofspeakingfromthebeginningthrough
theendofeachtopic.
This is something that happens naturally when we are speaking to people we have a
certainamountofrapportwith.Forexample,whenyougettogetherwithyourfriends,
youdontdiscussonetopicbyitselfforalongamountoftime.
Instead,othersubjectscomeupandtheonesthataremostinterestingatthetimeget
talked about whether or not you had finished with the previous subject. It can seem
unnaturaltowalkuptoagroupofstrangersandspeaktothemasifyouveknownthem
for20years,butitiseffective.Becarefulnottodoitsomuchthatyouenduplooking
likeyouhaveA.D.D.
7. DontArgue:Thiscanbeabigstickingpointforalotofguys.OftentimesIthinkpeople
would rather win the argument than get the girl. If you feel like being right is more
important,byallmeansargue.But,recognizethat itsabadwaytogetpeopletolike
beingaroundyou,unlesstheargumentisobviouslyfakeanddoneforcomedicreasons.
8. Avoid Awkward Silences: One of the biggest conversation killers out there is the
awkwardsilence.Weveallbeenthere;youretalkingtoagroupofnewpeoplewhenall
of a sudden you run out of things to say. The silence gets deafening and you quickly
excuseyourselftoomuchembarrassment.
Instead,whenyoufeelanawkwardsilencecomingon,askaquestion.Oneofthemost
basicrulesofpickingupisthatsayingsomethingisalwaysbetterthansayingnothing.
Byaskingaquestionyoubuyyourselftimetothinkofsomethingtosay.
9. MakeSureWhatYouTalkAboutisSituationallyRelevant:Thatmeansnotbringingup
random topics, or talking about things that happened years and years ago. Generally,
youshouldbeabletotellifthetopicissituationallyrelevantbythelistenersreactions.
If people often remark about how random the things youre talking about are, or ask
youwhyyouretellingthemthis,youarenotbeingsituationallyrelevant.
10. DontBrag,Exaggerate,orForceYourselfToSeemCool:Theharderyoutrytoconvince
peoplethatyouarecool,havehighvalue,etc,theworseitmakesyoulook.Acoolguy
doesnthavetotellyouhowcoolheis.
Ifyoudohavealotofcoolthingstotalkabout,useunansweredquestionstogetthe
listeners to ask you about yourself. Saying something like Im totally in the wrong
businessbecauseIhatetoflyismuchmoreeffectivethantellinggirlsImatraveling
comedian.Itsnotbraggingifpeopleaskyouaboutsomethinganditstrue.
Sonowthatwevetalkedabouthowtofixyourfashion,grooming,bodylanguage,and
comfortableconversationskills,youshouldseeamarkedimprovementinhowstrangers
reacttoyouwhenyoustartconversations.
Thesethingsalonewillhelpyougetlaidifyougooutanddoapproaches.Buttoreally
takecontrolofyourlovelife,youneedtolearnafewmorethings.
THE SECRET TO CONSISTENT IMPROVEMENT
OneofthereasonsthatIwantedtogetthisEbookoutthere,isbecauseofstoriesIveheard
fromguysalloverthecountry.
Itsveryoftenthesamestory,perhapssomeofyoureadingthisrightnowcanrelate.Aguyfinds
thecommunity,eitherbyreadingTheGame,watchingtheVH1show,orsimplydoinga
Googlesearch.Thentheyreadupandperhapseventryoutsomeofthetechniques.
Theystarttoseechangesinthewaywomenreacttothemwhentheyreusingthesetacticsand
techniques.Somemayevenseesomeinitialsuccess.Buttherearesomanyunanswered
questionsaboutwhattodonext,sotheytakeabootcamporaoneonone.
Atthebootcamptheygettoseethatthisstuffdoesactuallywork,aswellasgettoldwhatthey
arespecificallydoingwrong.Yougetadvicelikedontleanin,talklouder,ortouchmore.
Perhapsyouevengetsomephonenumbersormakeouts. And,ifyourelucky,youlleven
leavewithagrasponwhatyourcurrentstickingpointsare,andhowtoworkonthem.
Thenyougobacktoyourcityandregularlife.
Ifyourelikemostguysyoustrugglewithapproachanxietyandbeingabletogooutenough.But
ifyougooutandfollowtheadviceyougotatbootcamp,youfixyourfirstsetofstickingpoints.
Andthentheproblemappearsbecauseyouwerenttaughttorecognizethepatternsofsocial
interaction.
Whenyouareinteractingwithagirloragroup,thereareonlysomanythingsthatcanactually
happen.Theseareoftenreferredtoascontingencies.Thepathtoconsistentimprovement
requiresthatyourecognizeandsolvethepatternsyouconsistentlysee.
Thisiswherestickingpointanalysiscomesintoplay.InmyopinionthispostbyCaptainJackis
oneofthemostimportantinthehistoryofthecommunity.Hereistheoriginalstickingpoints
analysispostinitsentirety.
STICKING POINT ANALYSIS:
EarlyonwhenIwasntgettingthetypesofresultsIwanted,IdecidedIneededtotakeamore
systematicapproachtomydevelopment.Inmyarea,therewerenootherPUAsthatIknewof,
soafterthebootcampIwasbasicallyalone.
Ihadtobecomemyownbestteacherbysystematicallyusingmyinfieldexperiencecombined
withmyanalysis.
So,IdevelopedthisGameImprovementPlan
TheFIRSTrealizationisthatthepurposeofyourGamePlanistogetyoulaid
consistentlybythetypeofwomenyouwant.
TheSECONDrealizationisyoucantgooutwiththepurposeofgettinglaid.
TheTHIRDrealizationiseveryactionshouldbejudgedonitsoverall(GLOBAL)
purposeratherthanitsimmediateeffect.
Takenumberclosingasanexample.Mostguysfeelgreatwhentheynumberclose.But,are
theyreallyanyclosertotheGlobalgoal?Theycouldbe,butprobablynot.But,TimeBridging
isabettersolutionbecauseitputsyouclosertotheGlobalgoal.(Itis,ofcoursenotguaranteed
butismuchbetterasalocaloptionthanthephonenumberalone.)Adichotomy?Yesandno.
YourfocusneedstobeadjustingyourbehaviorsuntilyoucanrunthroughyourGamePlanwith
anunconscioussmoothness.
WhenyourGamePlanisnotgettingyouwhatyouwant,youneedtofocusonsomethingelse
Whattochange
Whatthatchangeshouldbe
Howtocreatethechange
ThisiswhatIcallStickingPointAnalysisandIcredititwithmylast18lays.
IlearnedearlyonIneededtohavemorethanaGamePlan;IneededamethodforIMPROVING
theGamePlanifIwasevertogettowhereIwantedtogo.
OnceyouunderstandthebasiccourtshipprocessandstartrunningyourGamePlaninthefield
youwillstarttonoticewhereyoursurgesarefailing.Youllnoticepatterns.Theyarefailingin
thesameplacesquiteoften.
Step 1: identify your sticking points
Stickingpointslimittheentiresystemsoutput.(ThesystembeingyourGamePlanandthe
outputbeinglays.)Therefore,wehavetostopfocusingongettinglaidandinsteadfocuson
fixingthestickingpoints.
Step 2: decide how to fix the sticking point (sp)
NowthatyouhaveidentifiedtheSPthenextstepistofindpossiblesolution(s)forfixingthat
stickingpoint.Pickonewaytofixitandcommitto10trieswiththatsolution.
Step 3: subordinate your game plan to the above decision.
RedesignyourGamePlantoimplementthefixforthatSP.
Step 4: elevate the sticking point.
WithyourredesignedGamePlanyouwillgooutandstarthuntingforopportunitiestobreakthe
SP.YouwillsubordinateeverythingtoworkingonyourSP.ThatmeansyouwillEVENgiveupa
layopportunityforachancetoworkonStickingPoints.(Unlessyouhaventyethad23lays
fromtheGameinwhichpointIsaytakethelaysasitwillgiveyouabetterGlobalviewanda
niceboostofconfidence.)
TherewillcomeatimewhenyoubreakthatSP.
Step 5: this is a continuous process. Go back to step 1.
Mysuggestionistoworkon3SPsatatime.Experiencehasshownmethateverysetwillnot
presentyouanopportunitytoworkonanSP.However,ifyouhave3thenyouhaveagoodshot
atgettingafewrepetitionspernight.
~CaptainJack~
Byimplementingstickingpointanalysisandtestingoutdifferentsolutionsyouwillbeableto
improveforever.
BRINGING THE SCIENTIFIC REVOLUTION

TO PICKING-UP
Inthehistoryofscience,thescientificrevolutionwasaperiodwhennewideasin
physics,astronomy,biology,humananatomy,chemistry,andothersciencesledtoa
rejectionofdoctrinesthathadprevailedfromAncientGreecethroughtheMiddle
Ages,andlaidthefoundationofmodernscience.Accordingtothemajorityof
scholars,thescientificrevolutionbeganwiththepublicationoftwoworksthat
changedthecourseofsciencein1543andcontinuedthroughthelate17thcentury:
NicolausCopernicus'sDerevolutionibusorbiumcoelestium(OntheRevolutionsof
theHeavenlySpheres)andAndreasVesalius'sDehumanicorporisfabrica(Onthe
FabricoftheHumanbody)
WikipediaEntryonTheScientificRevolution
OneofthethingsthatreallyamazedmewhenIstartedtoteachpickingupwashowlittle
sciencethereactuallywasintheDatingSciencefield.
SolastyearwhenIwrotetheoriginalversionofthisGameAccelerationDoctrine,Iwantedto
startthescientificrevolutioninpickingup.MuchlikeCopernicusresearchabouttheEarth
revolvingaroundtheSunblastedawayideasthathadbeenacceptedwithoutanyproof,Iaimed
todothesamethingtotheexaggerations,marketinghypeandoutrightliesthathavebeen
taughtintheSUISCforthelastfiveyears.
Mygoalincreating12MonthstoMasterywastocreateascientificapproachtothefirstyear
oflearninghowtopickup.IwantedtomakesurethateverythingItaughtcouldbeeasily
verifiedandduplicatedbymystudents.And,Iwantedtomakesurethatwekeptextensive
evidencetodocumenttheprogressofeachandeverystudent.
EverythingIteachfollowsthebasicprinciplesofthescientificmethod.ThismeansthatIonly
teachthingsthatarebasedongatheringobservable,empirical,andmeasurableevidence.This
isalsowhyweplacesuchanemphasisonstudentstrackingtheirapproachesandthedifferent
tacticsandtechniquesthattheyaretrying.
THE IMPORTANCE OF TRACKING
TheonemajordifferencebetweenwhatIdoinmytrainingatSinnsofAttractionandwhat
everyothermajorpickupcompanydoesisthewaywetrackourstudentsprogress.
ThiswassomethingthatIhadalwaysdonebecauseitallowedmetoseeifIwashavingmoreof
myinteractionsendinphonenumbers,makeouts,andlays.
IknowthereareguysreadingthisEbookrightnow,whohavebeentryingtogetbetterat
pickingupforalongtime.Maybeyouvetakenabootcamportwo;maybeyouvejuststudieda
bunchofDVDs,audios,andebooks.Iknowwhatitslikewhenyourestrugglinganddontknow
whatyouredoingwrong.
Itcanbesofrustratingtostrugglewithallthevariablesofthegame.Infactwhenyoureout
therealone,yousometimeseventhinkyouredoingeverythingjustlikeyoureadaboutit,or
watcheditonDVD.Youmayeventhinkthereissomethingwrongwithyouthatmakesthe
materialnotwork.But,myguessisyoudontkeepdetailedlogstrackingyourapproachesand
whatyoureworkingon.
Ifyoudonthaveawaytoscientificallyseetheresults(orlackthereof)thenyoucantdo
anythingtofixtheproblems.
Thatswhyitssokeytokeepajournal.Inmyprivatecoachinggroupweaskeverystudentto
keepajournalandwereviewitduringeveryphoneconsultation.
Icantrevealallthesecretsofhowwetrackprogress,butIllgiveyouguyssomebasics.
Thefirstthingyouhavetotrackishowmanyapproachesyouaredoing.Youneedtotrackthis
intermsofafewthings:thetypeofset(mixed,single),thevenue,thetypeofopener,etc.
Thenyouwanttomakesureyoukeeptrackofyourapproachesoveraweeklyandmonthly
basis.
Thepatternyourelookingforhereisrelatedtoapproachanxiety.Ifyougooutandyou
consistentlyaredoingasmanyifnotmoreapproachesthanthelastnightyouwentout,youre
dealingwithyourapproachanxietywell.However,ifyounoticethatyourpatternsof
approachingaresporadicor,evenworse,adownwardarchingtrend,youalmostcertainlyhave
approachanxietyissues.
Next,youwanttotrackhowlongtheconversationgoes.Thisisreally,reallyimportant.The
lengthoftheconversationdirectlyrelatestothestickingpointofrunningoutofthingstosay.
Thisisoneofthebiggestcomplaintsstudentsmakewhentheycomeinfortraining.Theydont
knowhowtokeeptheconversationgoing.
Generallythisrelatesbacktobasicsocialskillsfromlearninghowtotalkaboutyourselfinan
attractiveway,becomingabetterstoryteller,learningtosolvethequestiondilemma,building
socialcomfort,andvibe.Inourtraininglogs,wefindthatifguyshavemorethan3/10oftheir
interactionslastlessthan15minutes,theyalmostallhaveamajorproblemwithrunningoutof
thingstosay.Theworstpartaboutrunningoutofthingstosayisthatyoumaybeleaving
perfectlygoodinteractions.
Infact,itsamazingasateacherhowmanystudentsIwatchleaveperfectlygoodinteractions
wheretheyhaventdoneanythingwrongbecausetheydidntknowwhattosaynexttomove
theinteractionforward.
Imagineforasecondhowmanytimesthatshappenedtoyou.Itsucksright?
Trackingishowyounoticeyourstickingpoints,andunlessyouknowwhatyouredoingwrong
withwomenthereisnowaytofixit.
Itsfunnyhowmuchtimeguyswillputintoreadingnewsletters,ebooks,andreports,yetthey
donttakethetimetowriteupwhathappenedwhentheywentouttopracticetheirgame.
Anotherthingtotrackforisisolation.Didyougetintoaprivateconversationwiththegirlyou
wereattractedto?
Nowabigmistakestudentsmadewhenwefirststartedtrackingthe12m2mguys,wasthatthey
wouldtrackisolationbutnotwhetherornottheyattemptedit.
Youhavetotrackwhetherornotyoureattemptingit!Isolationisadirectreflectionofyour
attractiongame.Ifyouaretryingforisolationandnotgettingit,youarenotgettingthegirls
properlyattracted,sonowyoucanzoomintotheattractionphaseastherootoftheproblem.
Doyouguysseethevalueoftrackingyet?
Butthequestionnowbecomeswhatdoyoudowiththeinformationonceyouvetrackedit?
PATTERN RECOGNITION: THE SECRET SAUCE OF PICKING-UP!
Theideathatallstickingpointshappeninarepeatableandpredictablesequenceisalittle
knownsecretthatexplainswhysomeguysgetgoodfastwhileotherguysstruggleforyears.
WhenyouapplythissecretyoullliterallytakeYEARSoffyourlearningcurve.
IrememberbeforeItookmybootcampIhadbeendoingatonofapproachesandhadonly
gotten8lays.IhadnoideawhatIwasdoingdifferentlywhenmygameworked.
Itwassooofrustrating!IfeltlikeIhadnocontrolovermyresultswhatsoever.
SometimesIwouldgooutandnailanapproachandfeelawesomeandothertimesIwouldget
rejectedandfeellikesuchaloser.
ItwasthenthatIactuallydecidedtotakeMASSIVEactionbytakingsomelivetraining.Thefirst
patternIeverlearnedwascalledTheMysteryMethod.Perhapsyouveheardofit.
WhiletheoriginalMysteryMethodIlearnedwasprobably75%wrong,itwasbetterthan
nothing.Mostimportantlyitgavemeaclear,althoughincorrect,visionofwhattheprocesswas
supposedtolooklike.
AsItrackedmyresultsInoticedIhadamajorproblemwithqualification.Isimplydidntdoit.
ThenextpatternInoticedcamefrom
WhenIfixedpatternsmygameexploded!
recordingmyselfdoingapproaches.
Iwentfrom8laysinmylifeto8laysin
thenextmonthalone.
In2005,whenIwastrainingtobean
instructor,Irecordedover100approaches
andkepttrackofwhatgirlsIwenton
dateswithfromthephonenumbersIgot.Ofthe30datesIgotfrom57phonenumbers,there
wasanoticeablepattern.
Ofthegirlswhoendedupcomingondateswithme,Ihadtalkedtoeachoneofthemformore
than20minutes.Ofthe27girlsthatdidntmeetup,only3ofthoseconversationsweremore
than20minutes.Agreatpatternemerged:havingaround20minuteconversationsmadephone
numbersbecomesolid.Myphoneflakingdroppedafterthatfromabout50%toalmostnothing.
Then,asIwasworkingwith12MonthstoMasteryoverthelastyear,atonofpatternsstarted
toemerge.
Whenoneofmystudentswasstrugglingwithescalationissues,wetalkedalotaboutforcing
thegirlstoblowoutbyescalatingsexuallyoneveryset.Thefirstmonthhisblowoutratestayed
aroundthesameonhistrackingsheets.Hedidntgetlaid.
ThenextmonthafterourphoneconsultwhereIgavehimthatadvice,hisblowoutratetripled
fromaround2outofevery10setstoabout6outofevery10sets.Buthealsorackedup4lays
andhisfirsttwoSNLsofhislife.
Thishappenedmoreandmoreasstudentsgottothepointoftheirgamewheretheyneededto
workontheirescalationgame.Infact,itbecameoneofthestagesoffirstyearlearningthatIll
beteachinglaterthisyear.
Averypredictablepatternemerges.Asguysgetbetteratopeningandsocialcomfort,theirrate
ofblowoutswilldroptoalmostnothing.
Coincidentally,thisisalsowherealotofguysFAIL.
Theygetreallygoodatopening,buttheydontknowwheretogoafterthat.Someguyseven
takeitastepfurtherandareabletogetmakeouts,buttheystilldontgetlaid.Mostinstructors
atothercompaniesfallintothiscategory.Infact,thereisasuperwellknowninstructorwho
evenpostedareportofhowheALMOSThadsexwithaPlayboyPlaymate.
TheproblemissomethingIliketocall:TheBlowoutFallacy
WhenyoufirstfindtheSUISC,oneofthetermsthatarethrownouttherealotistheideaof
beingblownout.Itisfancynerdspeakthatmeansthegirlrejectedyou.
MostguysNEVERactuallygetblownout.
Instead,whathappensistheguyeitherrunsoutofthingstosay,orthegirl(s)doesntgivehim
anythingtoworkwithandeventuallyheleavestheinteraction.Othertimes,thegirlsmaystarta
conversationamongstthemselves.
Ifthegirl(s)didnotcomerightoutandrejectyouorleavetheinteraction,itisNOTablowout.
Andifitsnotablowout,itmeansthatyoualmostcertainlycouldhavepracticedmoreinthat
interaction.
Alotofguysliveinconstantfearofbeingblownout;theythinkthatblowoutsaretheenemy.In
reality,blowoutsactuallyhelpyousavetime.Onceyoucanstartandmaintainconversations
withatleast7outofevery10girlsyouapproach,youactuallywillneedtogetblownoutmore
inordertogetbetter.
ThisisEXTREMELYcounterintuitiveforstudents,asthetraditionalwisdomintheSUISCisthat
blowoutsaretheresultofsomethingyoudidwrong.Whattheyfailtoaccountforisthe
differencebetweensexualattractionandintriguebasedattraction.
Justbecauseawomanistalkingtoyou,laughingatyourjokes,andtouchingyou,doesnotmean
sheissexuallyinterested.Shemaybeactingpolite;shemaybeinterestedinwhatyouresaying;
shemayevenjustbebored.Butuntilyouactuallymakeastatementofinterestorattemptto
physicallyescalatetheinteraction,youdontknowifshesactuallysexuallyinterested.Thegood
newsisthatbygoingsexualonagirl,yougetareallygoodideaofwhetherornotthereis
sexualattraction.Thebadnewsisthatyouwillalsogetmoreblowoutswhenyougosexualon
girlsthatarenotsexuallyattractedtoyou,oryoullmistimeormisusesexualescalation.
Theresultisyouwillactuallygetmoreblowoutsandmorelays.Then,asyoubecomemore
adeptatwhatIliketocallsexcalation,theblowoutswillreturntoanormallevel,usuallyaround
30%.
But,astudenthastobewillingtoruininteractionsinordertogainaskillset.
Moststudentsarenotwillingtodothis,andthustheystaystuckinthesecondstageoflearning,
beingabletoopenandholdconversationsbutultimatelygoinghomealone.
Thefrustrationfromthisdrives95%ofstudentsoutoftheGameinthefirstyear.
Thereareatleast10morepatternsIveidentifiedthatpredictsuccessorfailure,butwedont
havetimetogetintoallofthoseinthisEbook,becauseIwantyoutoavoidthenextperilthat
guysfindthemselvesfallingvictimtointhefirstyearoflearningtopickup.
INFORMATION OVERLOAD AND THE PARALYSIS OF ANALYSIS

Oneoftheothermajorproblemsguysrunintowithintheseductioncommunityistheplagueof
informationoverload.Whenyoufirstfindthecommunityitcanbeoverwhelming.
Thereareliterallyhundredsofthousandsofpageswrittenonsubjectsrangingfromapproach
anxietytodealingwithotherguys.Therearealsohundredsofhoursofvideosontopicsranging
fromCockyComedytoavoidingflakes.YoucanevendownloadaudiostraighttoyourIPod.
Butherestheproblem:themoreinformationyouhaveinyourbrain,themoretemptedyou
willbetogointoyourheadwhenyouretalkingtogirls.
Thatswhyitssoimportanttounderstandtheprincipleofsmallchunking.Smallchunking
simplyreferstobreakingalloftheinformationyoutakeinintosmallactionablestepsthatyou
canworkoninthefield.Thisisespeciallyimportantinlearningtopickupbecauseoftheother
factorsthataffectyouwhenyoureoutmeetinggirls.
Thefirst,andmostimportant,istheadrenalinereleasethathappenswhenyoufirststart
approaching.Asmuchaswecantellyoutostopbeingapussy,thereisarealphysicalsensation
thatdoeshappenwhenyouareputtingyourselfunderthesocialpressureofapproaching
womenyouareattractedto.
Infact,therewasastudydonein1998atUCLAthatconcludedthatwhenpeopleareplaced
underhighstresssocialsituations,apartoftheirbraincalledtheAnteriorCruciateCortexfires.
Thisfiringisverysimilartophysicalpainintermsoftheeffectithasonthebody.Havingthat
partofyourbrainfiringandtellingyoutogetyourselfoutofthesituationcanmakeitveryhard
torememberanything.
Theotherproblemwithtakingintoomuchinformationisthatitcanleaveyouparalyzedasyou
trytofigureoutwhatthebestpossiblewaytoapproachis.Shouldyougodirectorindirect?
Shouldyouteaseorcompliment?Shouldyoutrytodemonstratehighvalueoramuseyourself?
Shouldyoubreakorbuildrapport?
Theoptionsouttherearelimitlessandthereisnoshortageofbadoruntestedinformation.So
itscrucialthatyoutakeininformationonlyfromhighqualitysources.
Hereareafewthingstolookforwhendeterminingwhethertheinformationyouretakinginis
highquality.
Canthepersongivingadvicedemonstratethisinthecorrectenvironment?Thereisadifference
inthewayyouwilltrytoattract,date,andseducewomenindifferentcontexts.Thereare
specificintricaciestodaygame,nightgame,stripclubs,etcItsveryimportantthatalltactics
andtechniquesarequantifiedastowheretheyhavebeeneffectivelyimplemented,andthat
theguygivingadvicecanactuallydoit.
AreOTHERpeoplehavingsuccesswiththispersonsadvice?Thereareatonofguysoutthere
whoareAMAZINGwithwomen.Muchbetterthananyofthefamouspickupartistsyouve
heardof.Theproblemistheydontknowhowtobreakdownandexplainwhattheydotohelp
others.Alotofthetimeitsnoteventheirfault,astheyarentsureofWHYwhattheyaredoing
works.Thereareevenmanyteachersinthecommunitywhosesystemsonlyworkforthem.
Doestheguruofferamoneybackguarantee?Everyteacherworththeirsaltoffersafullmoney
backguarantee.Anyonewhoisntwillingtodothatisprobablyuptosomething.
Oneofthemostimportantthingsyoucandowhenyouaregettingstartedwiththisstuffisto
pickonesystemandsticktoitforthefirst618months.Thisishugelyimportantsothatyoucan
avoidbecominganinformationjunkie.TounderstandwhythisisimportantImgoingtotellyou
thestoryofT.
TisaguyImetinDallasthroughCaptainJack.Heisaguywhohasconstantrevelations.Inthe
18monthsIhavebeeninDallas,hesgonethrough67differentsystemsforgettinggirls,from
MysteryMethodtoSpeedSeduction.
Inthistime,hesalsoquitthecommunity3or4times.OnedayheadmittedtoCJthathe
hadnthadsexinover10years.Hekeepslookingforthemagicpillthatsgoingtofixhim,but
thedirtylittlesecretofthecommunityisthatthereisnomagicpill.
Hisproblemisthathedoesntrecognizethatthereisalearningprocesstopickingup.Andmuch
likelearninganytypeofskill,thefirstfewmonthsaregoingtobethepainperiod.
PEAKS, VALLEYS AND PLATEAUS
WhenguysgetinvolvedintheSUISC,theyexpectthattheywillbeonaroadofconstant
improvement.Infact,manyguysexpecttogetresultsassoonastheyreadanEbook.
UnfortunatelythisisnotthewaythatANYtypeoflearningactuallyworks.
Inthelearningprocess,therearegoingtobetimeswhereyoucandonothingwrong.Inmyown
life,Ihavehadatleast10differentnightswhereIhavetakenagirlhomethatnightandalso
met23othergirlsIendedupsleepingwith.
IvealsohadnightswhereItalkedtoonegirlandtookherhome.Thesearewhatarereferredto
aspeaks.Peaksoccurwheneverythingthatyouhavestudiedstartstogelandcometogether.
Youmayhaveheardthistypeofphenomenonreferredtoasunconsciouscompetence.
Othertimesitsreferredtoasbeinginthezoneorflow.Peaksareapartofthelearning
process,butunfortunatelytheywillneverbethenorm.Inordertoavoidtonsoffrustration
andannoyanceyouhavetolearntheothersideofthelearningprocess,theValleys.
ValleyshappenwhenNOTHINGyouaredoingisworking.Theycouldbecausedbysomesortof
stressinyourlife,theycouldbecausedbyamisunderstandingoftheinformationyouretrying
toimplement,orsimplynothavingitthatnight.
Theimportantthingwhenitcomestoavalleyisthatyoutrytorecognizewhattheproblemisas
quicklyaspossible.Generally,theproblemisgoingtobeoneofthreethings:
Lackofmotivation:Somenightsyoujustdontfeellikedoingapproaches,eventhoughyoure
alreadyout.Onthesenightsyoucantrytoforceyourselftodotheapproachesanyway,butits
goingtobedifficultandyoursubcommunicationsaregoingtosuffer.
Ifyoufindyourselfoutonanightlikethis,dontbeafraidtoheadhomeorsimplyenjoyanight
outwithyourbuddies.Oneofthethingspeopledontrealizeisthatyouonlyhavealimited
amountofwillpower.Whatthatmeansisthatyoucannotalwaysmotivateyourselfon
willpoweralone.Whenyoualreadyhavetodealwithapproachanxiety,loudclubmusic,groups
ofdrunkengirlsandguys,andmore,itsaskingalittletoomuchtoalsohavealackof
motivation.
LackofFocus:Whenyouarenotfocusedonwhatyouwanttohappenthatnight,youare
doomingyourselfintoavalley.
Whenyouarepracticingyourgame,itisimperativethatyouhaveafocalpointforeachand
everynightyougoout.Itdoesntneedtobeoverlyambitiousliketakeagirlhome.Itcanbe
assimpleasapproaching2mixedgroups,orpracticingteasingeverygirlyoutalkto.But,you
musthaveafocalpoint;otherwiseitisWAYtooeasytositaroundandmakeexcusesandhalf
assyourapproaches.Byfocusingonwhatyouretryingtoworkon,youwillbeabletomake
progressevenwhenyouarenotgettingresults.
Lackofproperstatemanagement:Oneofthemostimportantbreakthroughsinthepickup
communityinthelastfewyearshasbeentheimplementationofproperstatemanagement
techniques.
InfactheresalinktoaspecialvideoImadeforthe12MonthstoMasterystudentsinwhichI
explainstatecontrolandgivetheguysanassignmenttodeveloptheirveryownstate
managementtechniques.
Heresthelink:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C0fUk...e=channel_page
Lastly,letstalkaboutplateaus!AsGeorgeLeonardexplainsinhisamazingbook,Mastery
mostofthetimeyouputintoanythingwillbespentontheplateau.
Theplateauistheperiodoftimewhereyouaregoingthroughthemotionsofdiligentpractice,
butnotgettingtheresultsyouwant.Inpickingup,mostofyourtimewillbespenthere.Every
timeyoubreakthroughastickingpointanotheronewillarise.Thereisnofinishline.Youwillbe
dealingwithwomenandrelationshipsfortherestofyourlife.
Byrecognizingthatyouwillneverbefinishedwithyourlearninginthegame,wegainahuge
amountoffreedom.Youcantakealotofthepressureoffofyourselfonceyourealizethatyou
havetherestofyourlifetogetgoodatthis.Thatswhyitssoimportanttobreakeverything
downintosmallchunksandfocusonthefundamentals.Thebetteryoubuildthebaseofyour
skillset,thebettereverythingelsewillworkasyoubecomemoreandmoreadvanced.
QUESTIONS TO GET YOU STARTED

THE RIGHT WAY!
Nomatterwhereyouareinyourdevelopment,itsnevertoolatetogetbackontherighttrack.
Thekeytogettingonthecorrectpathforlearningistoaskyourselftherightquestions.The
followingquestionsarekeytoyourdevelopmentastheyallowyoutofindaproperbaselinefor
yourgame.
Letmeexplain.Oneofthemajorreasonsthatguysstrugglewhentheyaretryingtolearnthis
stuffisthattheydontunderstandwhattheirbaselineis.Abaselineisaroughideaofwhat
reactionsandresultsyouaregetting.Rememberwhenafewsectionsagowetalkedabout
patternrecognitionandstickingpointsanalysis?Thesequestionsaredesignedtofigureout
whatthepatternsareinyoursocialinteractions.
1.Howlonghaveyoubeeninthecommunity?
2.Whatproductshaveyoutriedinthefield?
3.Describeausualnightout:howmanysetsdoyouopen,whatdoyouopenwithetc...
4.Whatproblemsdoyouencounterinset?
5.Howdoyoursetsusuallyend?
CHANGING THINGS UP
Onceyouveestablishedyourbaselineandyouknowwhatyouneedtoworkon,youhaveto
starttestingoutdifferentvariables.ThisiswhatIdidwitheveryinstructorIhaveevertrained
with,aswellaswithallofmylongtermcoachingstudents.
Infact,Iveincludedinpartofatraininglogwithaguywhoisnowtheleadinstructorforavery
wellknownpickupcompany.Mytextwillbeinred,thestudentstextisinblack.
TrainingLog:8/16/2007
Name:XXXXXXXXXXXX
StickingPoint:ApproachingMixedSets.
ExternalProblem:IcanapproachmixedsetsbutIfreezerightafteropening.
InternalState:IfeeluncomfortablebecauseImexpectingtheguystobecoolerthanme.
Heydude,
Thesestickingpointsareprettycommonplaceforwhereyoureat(1.5yearsin).Makesureyou
getthesetsinthisweekbecauseweshouldbeabletomakesomegoodprogresshere.
Possiblesolution#1:Comeupwithanopeningstack.Puttogethersomethinglikeanopener,an
observationaltransitionandasocialquestiontomakesurethatyouhaveatleast35minutesof
materialandavoidthefreezeup.
Possiblesolution#2:Makearule.Setarulethatyouarentallowedtoapproachallgirlsets
untilyouhaveapproachedatleast34mixedsets.Youcanalsosetarulethatsaysyouhaveto
stayinthesetforatleast3minutesbeforeyoucaneject.Thekeyhereisprogressive
desensitization.Themoreyoucanputyourselfunderthissocialpressure,theeasierthiswillget.
Possiblesolution#3:TheIgnoretheGuydrill.Toreallyputyourselfunderatremendous
amountofsocialpressure,approachamixedsetbutonlytalktoonegirl.Ifyoucan,cuttheguy
outofthesetwithyourbodylanguage.Youcandothiswithabackturnorbysteppingdirectly
infrontofhim.Ifthisexerciseistooeasy,tryapproachingthesetwithadirectopenerand
ignoringtheguyashegetspissed.
Possiblesolution#4:Approachtheguyinthesetandtrytojusttalktohim.Makeityourgoal
tomakefriendswiththeguy.Thisiswhereyoucanreallydoalotofrapportbuildingand
complimenting.Rememberyoucanalwaystalktoguysaboutgirls,alcohol,sports,money,and
partying.XXXXX,youshouldnthaveaproblemwithstufflikethat.Justtreatitlikewere
hangingoutinabar.
Likealways,remembertoimplementthe3/12systemsoyougetaproperreadingonwhichone
oftheseisgoingtoworkbestforyou.Mystyleisalotmoreaggressivethanyours,so3usually
worksbestforme.Butyourealotnicer,somyguessis4willbewhatworksbestforyou.But
wellfindout.
StickingPoint:9sand10s.
ExternalProblem:Icangetattractionwithhotgirls,buthavealotofproblemswiththem.Istale
out,cantgetthemtoacceptescalation,runoutofthingstosay,andoverneg.
InternalState:Ifeellikethesegirlsarenotevensexualbeings.IdontfeellikeIdeservethem
andIfeelliketheyunderstandthattheyarecoolerthanIam.Ifeelliketheydontlikemeeven
whenIamgettingIOIs.Thespeedoftheconversationevenfeelsfaster,andIknowIshouldbe
talkingbutIcant.
PossibleSolution#1:Progressivedesensitization.Themoreyouapproachthesegirlstheeasier
itwillget.Thespeedoftheinteractionswillslowdownthemoreyoudoit.Aneasythingyou
candoispickthe45hottestgirlsintheclubandapproachthemfirst.Thinkofitasawarmup
foryourlaterapproachesastheseprobablywontgowellatfirst.
PossibleSolution#2:Pingingforqualificationassoonasyoucan.Whenyouhaveattractionyou
havetoremembertopushtheinteractionforward.Youcandothisbyeitherthrowingouta
largequalificationhooplikeWhyareyouspecial?Oryoucanuseasmallerhoopandbuildup.
PossibleSolution#3:Mixdisqualifierswithphysicalescalation.Ifyourehavingtroublegetting
youradvancesaccepted,youmaywanttoblenddisqualifiersinasyouescalate.Saying
somethinglikeYouknowwecouldneverbetogetherwhilestrokingherfaceorpullingher
intoyoushouldcreatesomebetterresults.Alsobesuretokeepherswingingbetween
validationanddevalidation.Donteverletherknowshehasyoucompletelyormakeherfeel
likeshecanhaveyou.
PossibleSolution#4:Comeupwithastructureforconversationalescalation.Thisiswhere
thingslikeStrawberryFieldsandTheQuestionGamecomeintoplay.Youneedtocreatea
frameworksothatwhenyouhaveattraction,andyouneedtoescalate,youdonthavetotry
andfreestyle.Trustme;Iknowwhatitslike.Youdontneedawholeroutinestack,butyou
shoulddefhaveafewwaypoints.Idsayusestrawberryfieldstosetsexualframes,pickafew
hoopsforqualificationandthenquestiongameonceyoureincomfort.Youcanalsodoidentity
conveyanceandtalkaboutrandomsubjectsyourepassionateabout.Remember,yourgame
worksonlessattractivegirls,theresnothingthatsgoingtochangethatwithhotgirls.
HonestlyXXXXX,theseseemlikeinnergamemotivatedstickingpoints.Itslikeyoudontsee
yourownvalue.Yourestillstuckintheoldschoolparadigmofassumingthatyoureoflower
valuethanthegirlandthatshewontlikeyoujustforyou.Youmightwanttotrydroppingall
gameandseeingifyoucangetattractionjustfromwalkingupandintroducingyourself.Ifyou
candothat,hopefullyitwillbeenoughtoconvinceyouthattheresnotmuchofadifference
betweenthehottergirlsandthelesshotones.
ThereasonthatIincludedthisintheEbookwastoshowyouguyshowmanydifferentthings
therearethatcanbealteredtoproducedifferentresults.
Bychanginganyofthesevariablesyoucanproducedifferentresultsinfield.Hopefullythis
illustrateswhyitssoimportanttobeabletorecognizepatternsandknowwhereyourbaseline
is.Themoreawareyouareofwhatyourusualresultsare,themoreyoullbeabletoidentify
andisolatethechangesthatactuallyleadtoresults.
THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN

CORRELATION AND CAUSATION
Becausethescienceofdatingislessthan10yearsold,therearealotoftheoriesthatarewidely
acceptedthatarenotnecessarilycorrect.Thinkaboutalloftheideasthatwerewidelyaccepted
inthefirsttenyearsofothersciences.
Forhundredsofyearspeoplethoughttheworldwasflatandthatthesunrotatedaroundit.The
problemwasthatalloftheevidencethatsupportedthesetheorieswasbasedoncorrelation,
notcausation.Youcanseethesamephenomenoninthepickupcommunity.
Forexample,letslookatMysteryandhisconceptofpeacocking.Peacockingmeansdressing
inanoutlandishmannerinordertoattractattention.
Whilethiscanbeaneffectivetechniqueforsomepeople,itdoesnttranslatewellforeveryone.
Thereasonistherearecorrelatingfactorsthatarenotrepresentedinthefinalconclusion.Lets
lookatPeacockingalittlemoreclosely.
Mysterypeacocksandgetsattentionfromgirlsthatheturnsintosuccesses.
Mysterydrawstheconclusionthatsincethisworksforhim,itmustworkforeveryone.
However,heismissingtwomajorpiecesofinformationthatexplainwhythistechniqueworks
forhim:namelyhisidentityandhisabilitytojustifythepeacocking.BecauseMysterypresents
himselfasasuperstardaredevilillusionist,hisfashionchoicesautomaticallybecomecongruent.
HeisevenhelpedbymediaportrayalsofmagicianslikeCrissAngel.
Meaningthatwithoutqualifyinghimself,Mysteryisabletoexplainwhyhedressesthewayhe
does.Now,wereMysterycalledoutonhisidentitybysomeonewhodidntbelievehim,allhe
wouldhavetodoisafewsimplemagictrickstoprovehimself.
Ontheotherhand,letscontrastthiswiththereallifestoryofaguynamedN.Ntookaboot
campwithMysteryandIbackin2005.HewasacomputerprogrammerwhoMysteryadvisedto
peacock.Nwentoutandimmediatelyboughtatonofpeacockyclothes:fishnetshirts,and
couchcoatsgalore.Hethenstartedtogoout4nightsaweek.
Afterabout3monthsweranintoeachotherat,ofallplaces,SaddleRanch.Hewasdressedin
theoldschooluniformofthecommunity.Alongflowingcoatthatlookedlikesomethinga
medievalkingwouldwear,aflashingLEDbeltbucklethatsaidIlietogirlsanda4inchhigh,
pairofNewRockswithflamesonthem.
Iaskedhimhowthingshadbeengoingforhimsincehisbootcamp.Hetoldmehewaspretty
stressedoutabouthowlittleprogresshehadbeenmaking.Iaskedhimhowmostofhissets
wereendingandhesharedsomethingthatchangedmyentirewayofthinkingonpeacocking.
Hesaidthatmostoftheinteractionshewashavingwerentgoingpasttheopener.Hewould
useanopinionopenerandthenthepeopleinthegroupwouldaskhimwhyhewasdressedlike
that.
Hehadtriedavarietyofcocky,funnyresponses,butultimatelytheywouldalwaysaskhimwhat
hedid.Iwatchedthishappenafewtimesthatnightanditbecameobvioustomeinone
interaction.Withalittlebitofcoachingfromme,hehadendedupinisolationwithafairlycute
girl.Ihadtoldhimtotrytogethernumberbysettingupadate,whenIheardhersaythe
following:Wellifwedohangout,whatareyougoingtowear?
Shecouldntimagineherselfwithsomeonewhodressedthatoutlandishly.Hadhebeendressed
likeanormalperson,heNEVERwouldhavegottenthisobjection.Andbecausehecouldnt
justifyhisimage,helostthegirl.Thisisanexampleofapieceofcorrelatinginformationthatcan
makeanegativeimpactonstudents,despiteitworkingforcertainguys.
Letstakealookatanotherexample.ThereisaguyouttherenamedBrentwhorunsacompany
calledAbsolutePowerDating.Thisguyadvocatesasystemformeetingwomenthatinvolves
goingouttoabar,talkingtoeverygirlthereforafewminutes,thengivingherhisphone
numberandtellinghertocallhimifshewantstocometoanafterparty.Ihavewatchedhimdo
thisandIcantellyouthatitdoesworkforhim.
WhatIveleftoutisthefactthatBrentlookslikeamalemodel,isindependentlywealthy,and
hasthesocialconnectionsofacelebrity.HealsoprefersCougars(older,moreaggressive
women,whoareokwithapurelysexualrelationship).Infact,Brentissogoodlookingthatmy
friendCameronsayshechangesthegamebyhislooksalone.
Forhim,thismodelformeetingwomenisextremelyeffective.Andhetrulybelievesthatitishis
methodthatisbringinghimthesuccess,nothisnaturaladvantages.Fortheaveragelooking,
middleclass,nonconnectedguy,however,runningthistypeofgameisakintoshooting
yourselfinthefootwithabazooka.
Youhavetolearntoseparatecorrelationfromcausationasyourelearningtopickup,oryou
willfindyourselfchasingyourtailforlargeperiodsoftime.
ARE YOU LEARNING THE RIGHT WAY

FOR YOU OR FOR SOMEONE ELSE?
Withintheranksofteachersintheseductioncommunity,thereareatonofguyswithalotof
game.However,therearenotatonofguyswithalotofteaching/coachingexperienceoutside
ofseduction.
Whatthisleadstoisabunchofguystryingtoteachotherpeopletolearnthewaytheylearned.
Onthesurface,theredoesntseemtobeanythingwrongwiththatnotion.
Afterall,whatonemancandoanothermancando.Butwhatsbeingoverlookedinthatpithy
quoteisthefactthatpeoplelearndifferentlybasedonavarietyoffactors.
THE 2 MOST IMPORTANT FACTORS

FOR LEARNING
Therearetwomajorfactorsforlearningthatarenotmentionedbymostteachersinthe
seductioncommunity.
Thefirstisrepresentationalsystems.Arepresentationalsystemisthewayyoumakeupyour
mapsoftheworld.Thisisoneof,ifnotthemostimportantfactorforlearning.
Manyofyoumayrememberbeingclassifiedingradeschoolasavisualorauditorylearner,
meaningyoulearnedbettereitherbyseeingpictures(likeadiagramofacastleyouhaveto
buildwithLEGOS)orthroughbeinggivenspecificverbaldirections(likebeingtoldtoputthat
yellowpieceonthebluepiece).
Whatwasmissingtherewasthethirdcategoryofrepresentationalsystems:Kinesthetics,or
touch.Peoplewhoarekinesthetic,learnbestfromtryingthingsout.Theyarethetypeofpeople
whowilldoadrillwrong45timesuntiltheymasterthephysicalintricaciesofit.Itisvitally
importanttofigureouthowyoulearnbest,inordertogetgoodatpickingup.
Ifyouareavisuallearner,listeningtoaudiotapesorsittinginaseminarroomisnotgoingtodo
muchforyou.Ifyouareanauditorylearner,watchingguystalktogirlswonthelpyoutoomuch
becauseyouwontknowwhattheyresaying.And,ifyoureakinestheticlearner,thenyoull
benefitthemostfromgettingoutthereandgoingthroughthemotionsasmuchaspossible.
Thatswhywithmycoachingprogram,ImakeitapointtocoverEVERYrepresentationalsystem.
Everymonthyougetwrittenlessons,audiointerviews,fieldreports,videolessons,anddrills,to
makesurethateverytypeoflearningisaccountedfor.Butfornow,letszoominonthe
differenttypesofrepresentationalsystemsandhowtomaximizelearningforeachsystem.
Todeterminewhattypeoflearneryouare,trytakingthistestat:
http://www.varklearn.com/english/page.asp?p=questionnaire
Visuallearnerslearnbestwheninformationisassociatedwithimagesandrepresented
graphically.Ifyouusethevisualstyle,youpreferusingimages,pictures,colors,andmapsto
organizeinformationandcommunicatewithothers.Youcaneasilyvisualizeobjects,plans,and
outcomesinyourmindseye.Youalsohavegoodspatialsense,andanaccurateideaabout
peoplespersonalspacebubbles.
Ifyoureavisuallearner,youmayfindyourselfsayingsomeofthefollowingphrasesfrequently:
Iseewhatyouresaying,letslookatitfromadifferentperspective,Icantquitepicture
it.Visuallearnerswillbenefitthemostfromusingthingslikeflashcardsandcolorcoded
systemsforinformation.
Intermsoflearningtechniques,visuallearnerswilllearnbestbytakingnotesandmakinglists.
Thisisespeciallyimportantwhenyouwatchorreadanypickupmaterial.
Thenotesarewhatyouactuallyarepayingforwhenyoucometoalivetraining.WhenIwentto
myfirstbootcamp,Itookover56pagesofnotes(frontandback)thatIlookedateveryweek
foroverayearandahalfwhileIwasactuallyteachingforthecompany.
AndEVERYtimeIlookedatthenotes,Ifoundsomethingnew.ThatswhyIrecommendthat
everystudentbreakshiswristtakingnotesduringtheseminarportion.Visuallearnerswill
benefitthemostfromreadinginformationoutoftextbooksaswell.Ifyouhaveclassified
yourselfasavisuallearner,youwillgetthemostfromlive,infielddemonstrationseitheron
videoorintherealworld.
Visuallearnersshouldstayawayfromseminars,interviewsandstraightlectures.Itcanbevery
helpfulforvisuallearnerstousetechniqueslikemindmappingtoorganizetheirthoughtsand
planoutlongtermstrategies.
Auditorylearnersmakeupsomewherebetween20and30%ofthepopulation,makingitthe
rarestformoflearningstyle.Auditorylearnerslearnbestthroughlistening.
Theymayexhibitanuncannyknackforknowingwhatthepersonistryingtosaythroughthe
subtlestshiftsinapersonsvocaltonality.Theydonottendtoretaininformationtheyread
particularlywell.Auditorylearnerstendtobemoretalkative,astheylearnthroughhaving
thingsexplainedandattemptingtoexplainthingstoothers.
Auditorylearnersoftenfindthemselvesdrawntomusic.Itisnotunheardofforthemtofind
themselveshumming,singing,ortappingalongtoasongintheirheadwithnoprompting.They
oftenusephraseslikethatsoundsrighttome,Ihearyouloudandclear,orthatringsa
bell.
Whenitcomestolearning,auditorylearnersaregoingtogetthemostoutofinterviewsand
lectures.Auditorylearnerswillbenefitthemostfromaskingquestionsanddiscussingtopics.
Oftentimeswhatseductioncommunityteacherstakeasastudentbeingdisruptivebyasking
toomanyquestions,issimplyanauditorylearnertryingtomakesenseofthings.Auditory
learnerswillnotgetasmuchoutofreadingtextbooks,andshouldinsteadbeencouragedtotry
booksontape.
Ifanauditorylearnerisforcedtodomostofhislearningthroughtext,theyshouldreadthetext
aloud,aswellasfollowthetextwithafingertomakesuretheydontskipwordsorphrases.
Itcanalsobehelpfulforauditorylearnerstoaskthemselvesquestionsordiscussthepointsthey
justreadwithafriend.Inaclassroomsettinglikeabootcamp,auditorylearnersshouldmake
suretheysitupfronttomakesuretheycanheareverythingclearlyandeasily.
Thelasttypeofrepresentationalsystemforlearningiskinestheticortouchbasedlearning.A
kinestheticlearnerbenefitsthemostfromhandsoninstruction,andphysicalinvolvementinthe
learningprocess.Kinestheticlearnerstypicallylearnbestbydoing.
Theyarenaturallygoodatphysicalactivitieslikesportsanddance.Theyenjoylearningthrough
handsonmethods.Theytypicallylikehowtoguidesandactionadventurestories.Theymight
pacewhileonthephoneortakebreaksfromstudyingtogetupandmovearound.Some
kinestheticlearnersseemfidgety,orhaveahardtimesittingstillinclass.
Kinestheticlearnersoftenhaveatendencytospeakwiththeirhandsoruselotsofbody
languageincommunication.Kinestheticlearnersoftensaythingslikethatdoesntfeelrightto
me,orIhaveabadfeelingaboutthis.
Whenitcomestolearningtopickup,kinestheticlearnersaregoingtobenefitthemostfrom
actualfieldworkandspecificdrills.Anothertacticthatcanreallyhelpkinestheticlearnersis
mentalrehearsal.Bygoingthroughamentalmovieandimaginingallthephysicalsensationsof
apickup,kinestheticlearnerscangetabettersenseofwhattheexperienceisgoingtobelike
thananyothertypeoflearner.
Kinestheticlearnerswanttostayawayfromseminars,audioproducts,andvideos,unlessthey
areinteractiveandallowforthemtopracticealongwiththevideo.Thekissofdeathfor
kinestheticlearnersislongperiodsofsittingstill.
Thenextsecrettolearningisfiguringoutthetypeoflearneryouarephilosophically.
InGeorgeLeonardsbrilliantbook,Mastery,hetalksaboutthethreetypesoflearners:the
dabbler,theobsessiveandthehacker.Bylearningwhichoneofthesecategoriesyoufallinto,
yougiveyourselfamuchgreaterchanceforsuccess.
Letslookatthethreetypesoflearnersindepthandthespecificproblemstheymayencounter
inlearningtopickup.
TheDabbler:
Adabblerinthepickupcommunityapproacheseverythingwithanuncommonenthusiasm.
Helovestheritualofgettingstarted,andiseagertobuyandshowoffhiscollectionofproducts
ornewpiecesofclothingguaranteedtogetawomansattention.Inthebeginning,hegoesout
oftenandisexcitedtodoapproaches.Hemayevenbecomeoneofthoseguyswhohaveto
approacheverywhere,justbecausehenowknowshecan.
Butassoonastheinitialhighwearsoffandhestopsmakingprogress,hisenthusiasmwanes.He
startstorationalizethatthegirlshesmeetingarenotreallyquality,orthathedoesntwantto
runroutinesanymore,orthatheneedstoworkonhisinnergame.
Itsaroundthistimethatthedabblerwillgooneoftwoways.Eitherhewillbecomeaseminar
andproductjunkieandbouncefromprogramtoprogramlookingfortheelusivemagicpillthat
willfixwhatswrongwithhim,orhewilldropoutofthecommunityandwillcontinuetobe
unfulfilledromantically.
Inorderforadabblertosucceed,theyneedtorecognizethatthereisalearningprocessto
pickingup.Aslongastheycanstayfocusedandsetsmallshorttermgoals,theywillcontinue
seeingenoughprogresstostickwithit.
TheObsessive:
Theobsessiveismuchlikethedabblerinthathestartswithanuncommonamountof
enthusiasm.
Butunlikethedabbler,hehasasteelydeterminationtogetgoodatthis.Thesearetheguys
wholisttheirgoalsasbecomingMasterPickUpArtistsorbeingabletogeteverygirltheytalk
to.
Theobsessivethrowshimselfintolearninghowtopickupfullbore.Heletsallofhisother
relationshipsfallbythewayside,ashespendsallofhistimeeitherreading,practicing,ortalking
aboutpickingup.Obsessivestendtomakeprogressthefastestthroughsheerwillandeffort.
Theyworkharderthananyoneelseandmakeupforanylackofnaturaladvantagesthrough
practice.Obsessivesareextremelyresultsoriented.Whenteachingabootcamp,Icanalways
tellwhotheobsessivesare,becausetheywantconsistentreassurancethattheyaremaking
progress.
Obsessivestendtostayinthecommunityforever,yetneverseemtogetanybetter.Theseare
theguyswhobragintheirsignaturesaboutthenumberofapproachestheyvedone,orwho
becomewellknowncontributorsonthevariousmessageboardsyearafteryear.
Obsessivesneedtobeparticularlycarefulabouthowmuchinformationtheyaretakinginand
fromwhatsources.Becauseobsessivesthinkthatmoreinformationisalwaysbetter,theycan
gettrappedintheparalysisofanalysiswhentheygetoutintotherealworld.
Inorderforanobsessivetosucceed,theyneedtocloselymonitortheirfieldtime,andlimitthe
amountofinformationtheyretakingin.Obsessivesneedtomakesuretheypickasystemand
sticktoit;otherwise,theyruntheriskofbecomingakeyboardjockey.
TheHacker:
Thehackerisacompletelydifferentbreedfromthedabblerandtheobsessive.
Afterthehackerhasdevelopedadecentamountofcompetency,heiswillingtostayinthe
sameplaceindefinitely.Inthepickupcommunity,thesearetheguyswhogooutstrictlytohave
fun.
Theydontreallystudythematerialorpayparticularattentiontowhattheyredoingasthey
approach.Sometimestheygooutanddoapproaches,othertimestheyjusthangout.
Sometimestheseareguyswhojustwanttogetagirlfriendsotheygooutenoughtomeetone
girlwhoisinterestedinthem,andthentheyhangontoherforafewmonthsbeforegettingout
oftherelationshipandhavingtostartallover,yetagain.Hackerstendtobuyproductsandthen
notfinishthem.
Theseareguyswhowillseemtohavesomeknowledge,butonceyoutalktothemyoufindout
theyvesimplystudiedalittlebitfromafewsources.Someoftheseguysdontevendocold
approaches,preferringtopracticetheirgameonfemalefriends,girlstheyworkwithor,most
notably,collegeclassmates.
Ifyoureahacker,youhaveagreatadvantageoverthedabblerandtheobsessive.Because
yourenotasfocusedonresults,itwillbeeasierforyoutobeunattachedtotheoutcomeof
success.Thisistheperfectheadspacetolearnthegame.
Unfortunately,youwillhavetobalancethatoutwiththedisadvantageofnotbeingparticularly
motivatedtoworkonyourgame.Thisiswheremakingsureyouhavethreeorfoursticking
pointstoworkonatalltimescanreallyhelp.Youcantakeyourtimegettinggoodatthegame,
aslongasyouaremakingprogressalongtheway,insteadofjuststagnating.
A RECAP OF WHAT WEVE LEARNED
Ok,soletsreviewwhatwevelearneduptothispoint.
Wefiguredoutthattogetsuccesswithwomen,nomatterwhatsystemyouwanttouse,you
needtocomefromabaselineofbeinganormal,sociallyadjustedguy.Youhavetogetridof,or
atleastmanage,bothsocialandsexualanxiety.
Wetalkedaboutdevelopingagameimprovementplanbasedonstickingpointsanalysis.
WetalkedaboutthethreetypesofstartingpointsguyscomeintotheSUISCfrom.
Wediscussedtheimportanceofthefirstyearoflearningtopickup.Wediscussedwhyitsso
importanttotrackyourresultsandrecognizethepatternsbehindtheinformation.
WetalkedaboutValleys,Peaks,andPlateausduringtheprocessoflearning.
Wetalkedaboutavoidinginformationoverloadandthedifferencesbetweencorrelationand
causation.
Andlastly,wediscussedfiguringoutwhattypeoflearneryouareandcustomizingthetypeof
informationyoutakeintowardsthatwhichwillgivethebestpossibleresults.
ThenextthingIwanttotouchonhereisgoalsetting.
SETTING REALISTIC GOALS FOR

LONG TERM SUCCESS
Oneofthemostimportantpartsofmyjobishelpingstudentsfigureoutexactlywhatitisthey
wantfromthispartoftheirlives.
Contrarytopopularbelief,inbothmainstreamsocietyandtheseductioncommunity,thereis
nowronganswertowhatyouwant.SinceIvebeeninthecommunityover5years,Iveseenthe
flavorofthemonthgoalchangealmostasmanytimesastheseasons.
First,everyonewantedtobeaplayer;infact,toevensuggestyouwereinterestedinone
specificgirlwouldresultinbeingridiculedandtoldthatyouhadoneitis.
ThenforawhileafterTheGamecameout,everyonewantedtohaveagirlfriendtoprovehow
normaltheywere,andthenitwasthreesomesandsoonandsoforth.Thepointisthereisno
shamewhatsoeverinanygoalwithwomenorrelationshipsthatyouhave.
Whenyouresettingyourgoals,makesurethatyouaimforwhatyouthinkwouldmakeyouthe
happiest,notwhatyouthinkisgoingtoimpressabunchofnamesonaninternetforum.
Ifyouthinkyouwanttodate7differentgirlsatthesametime,goforit.Ifyouwanttofind
happinesswithonespecialgirlandgetsettleddown,thatsgreattoo.
Rememberthemostimportantpersoninanyrelationshipthatyougetintoisalwaysgoingtobe
you.Youvegottomakesurethatyouarehappywiththesituationbeforeyoucanmakethe
otherperson(s)happytoo.
BeforeIgiveyousomespecificexercisestohelpyousetyourowngoals,Iwanttoaddressthe
differencebetweenagoalandawish.
ThereasonIwanttodesignatethedifferencehereisthatImeetalotofclientswhocometome
withalistofgoalslikethis:Ijustwantan18yearoldlingeriemodelgirlfriendwithagenius
levelI.Qwhosupportsmefinanciallywhilewehavesexalldayandshebringsothergirlsover
too.
Agoalisspecific,targeted,realistic,andachievablewithinacertainamountoftime.Goalstake
intoaccountwhereyouarenowandhowmuchworkitwilltaketogettowhereyouwanttobe.
Wishesontheotherhandaredaydreamsthatdontgetyouanyclosertoactualsuccess.Wishes
tendtofocusonperfectsituationsorresults.TonyRobbinshasagreatsayingaboutperfection.
Hesaysperfectionisthelowestpossiblestandardwecansetforourselvesbecauseitgetsinthe
wayofsettingrealgoals.
Letstalkaboutgoalsetting.Thefirststepforsettinganygoalisestablishingwhereyouarenow,
oryourbaseline.
Obviouslythegoalsofaguywhocantevengooutbyhimselftothemallaregoingtobe
differentfromaguywhocanapproachandgetphonenumbers,butendlesslyflakes.
Sothefirststepofgoalsettingshouldalreadybedoneforusbynow.Onceyouhaveabaseline,
youhavetoaskyourselfoneofthemostimportantquestionsyouwilleveraskyourselfabout
thisareaofyourlife.
Whatisyourultimategoalforpickingup?
Thereasonwehavetodetermineyourfinalgoalforpickingupissothatwecanwork
backwardsanddetermineallofthestagesyouwillhavetogothroughtogetthere.
Itwouldbeveryniceifyoucouldjustdecidetogetaperfectgirlfriendandthenhaveone.But
again,lifedoesntworkthatway.Soyouhavetofigureoutwhatyouultimatelywantyourlife
withwomentolooklike.
Doyouwantmultiplerelationshipsorjustone?Doyouwanttogoonalotofdatesorsleep
withgirlsthefirstnight?Doyouwantthreesomesorsomeothertypeofalternativesexual
fetish?
Figureoutwhatwillultimatelymakeyouthehappiestinthisareaofyourlifeandthenwriteit
down.Thereistremendouspowerinwritingthingsdown,asitmakesyouaccountableforyour
actions.Thatway,attheveryleast,everytimeyouseethatgoalyoullfeelalittleguiltyfornot
workingonit.
Afteryoufigureoutwhatyourultimategoalis,youneedtobackwardsengineerhowtoget
there.
Thisiswhatwedoinmycoachingprogramforeachclient.Itsimportanttorealizethatthere
willbedifferentstagesofdevelopmentthatyoullgothroughwhiletryingtoreachyourgoals
andyoushouldlearntorecognizethem.
Itsalsoimportanttorealizethatinanythingyoudo,theprocessofsuccessalsoincludestime
onaplateau.
Anothergreattipforgoalsettingistosetshort,medium,andlongtermgoals.Ashorttermgoal
shouldgenerallybesomethingyoucanworkoneverydayoratleastafewtimesaweek.This
couldbesomethinglike:startaconversationwithawomanImattractedtoeveryday.At
theirlongest,shorttermgoalsshouldlastnolongerthantwoweeks.
Mypersonalfavoriteshorttermgoal,whileteaching,ismakeoutweek,where,foranentire
week,thestudenthastotrytomakeoutwitheverygirlheapproachesregardlessofthe
circumstancesinordertolearnmakeoutintuition.
Mediumgoalsareusuallygoalsthattakebetween1and3monthstoaccomplish.Thiscouldbe
anythingfromgettingyourfirstsamenightlay,tobuildingaroutinestack.Thisshouldtakea
littletime,butbeeasytofinishifyouputinthework.
Lastly,longtermgoalsareanythingthatwilltakeover3monthstoachieve.Thisisstufflike
gettingthreesomes,findingagreatgirlfriend,etc.
Alotofguys,oncetheysettheirultimategoal,simplyfocusonthatandignoretheshortand
mediumgoals.Thiscanleadtoalotoffrustrationandannoyanceastheystruggleinfield,
makinglittleornoprogresstowardstheirgoal.
Instead,wewanttoalwayshaveashorttermgoalwereworkingon,aswellasamediumone.
Inthecoachingprogram,weteachhowtousethesegoalstobuildoneachotherasmuchas
possible;but,forhereIlljustmakethepointthatallofyourgoalsshouldbesomewhat
interrelatedoratleastnotcontradictory.
A QUICK RECAP OF PRINCIPLES FOR

LONG TERM SUCCESS IN THE GAME
WhatIveattemptedtodointhisPDFisgetyouthinkingabouthowyoureworkingonyour
gamedifferentlythanyoudidbefore.Heresaquickrecap:
Nomatterwhereyouareinyourdevelopment,thereisstilltimeforyoutogetthesuccesswith
womenyoualwaysdreamedof.
Nomatterwhatsystemofgameyouwanttouse,youmustbecomeasociallyadjusted,normal
guywhocanmanagehisanxieties.
Thetwotypesofanxietiesyouaregoingtobedealingwitharesocialandsexualanxiety.Before
youshouldeventhinkaboutmeetingwomen,youneedtogetyourfashionandgrooming
completelytakencareof.
Youneedtocorrectyourbodylanguage,vocaltonality,anddevelopcomfortableconversation
skillsbeforeattemptinganypickupmaterial.
Youlearnedthevalueofpatternrecognitionandhowtousestickingpointsanalysisand
baselinevariationstokeepimprovingforever.
Wetalkedabouthowtoavoidinformationoverloadandtheparalysisofanalysis.
Welearnedwhyitsimportanttofigureoutthedifferencebetweencorrelationandcausation
whenfiguringoutwhatsgoingtoworkbestforus.
Welearnedhowtofigureoutwhatkindoflearneryouarephilosophicallyand
representationallytomaximizetheinformationthatgetstakenin.
Welearnedtheimportanceofgoalsettingtoconsistentimprovement.
Ifyoujustfollowthesesuggestions,youwillbewellonyourwaytoincreasingyoursuccesswith
womenanddatingwhilereducingyourstress,frustration,andworry.
SKYROCKET YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN

Asyouprobablyknowbynow,inthepastyearIvegreatlyreducedtheamountofpersonal
coachingIoffer.Infact,latelytheonlywaytogetpersonalcoachingfrommehasbeentobe
partofmy12MonthstoMasteryProgramortopaymeasmallfortuneasaprivateclient.
ButthegoodnewsforyouisthatImgoingtobereopeningthedoors12MonthstoMastery
laterthismonth.ThatmeansthateverythingIhavecoveredwithallofmyformerstudentswho
wentontobecomeinstructorswillbesharedwithyouoverthecourseofanentireyear.And
nowthatIhaveeverythingcodified,youllhavetheopportunitytomakethesameprogressina
yearthatpreviouslytookalmost3!
Thisprogramiscertainlynotforeveryone;itwillbeintenseandwewillbeworkingveryclosely
together.SinceIwillbeworkingwitheachclientindividually,theprogramwillhaveaveryreal
limitonthenumberofpeopleaccepted,anditwontbesoldatbargainbasementpriceseither.
Inthenextfewweeks,Illbereleasingnewdetailsaboutthereopeningof12Monthsto
MasteryaswellasTONSofamazingcontentthatwillreallyimproveyourgame.Allofthesewill
leaduptoaspecialGameAccelerationteleconferenceeventwhereIllrevealthelastfew
piecesoflongtermsuccessinthegame.
Youwontwanttomissthis,astheyrenotwhatyouthinktheyareoranythingyouveever
heardfromanyoneelse.
Staytuned,
Sinn
P.S.WhatdidyouthinkoftheGameAccelerationDoctrine2.0?Pleaseletmeknowwhatyou
thinkbyheadingovertowww.sinnsofattraction.blogspot.comandleavingacomment.
P.P.S.Ifyoufoundthisinformationhelpfulandyouknowanyoneelsethatwouldbenefitfrom
it,pleasepasstheGADalongtothem.Imsuretheyllthankyouforitlater!
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Game Acceleration Doctrine

What Others Are Saying About the Game Acceleration Doctrine

FromthestartIknewSinnhad adifferentapproach,onethat wasevolvingalong

WELCOME TO THE GAME ACCELERATION DOCTRINE 2.0.

The Secret to Long Term Success In The Game

WHY ARE THESE SECRETS BEING REVEALED?

THE IMPORTANCE OF THE FIRST YEAR LEARNING PICKUP

THE THREE TYPES OF STARTING POINTS...

WHY MOST PICK-UP ARTISTS STRUGGLE

Putting the Secret Underground Internet Seduction Community

THE MYSTERY METHOD:

REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS:

DOUBLE YOUR DATING:

THE ELUSIVE OBVIOUS

THE TWO TYPES OF ANXIETY THAT

THE TWO STEP PROCESS TO BEAT APPROACH ANXIETY

Step One - Mental Reframes:

Ok onto the tactics for beating AA.

THE THREE MAIN CAUSES OF SEXUAL ANXIETY

STEP 1: FASHION, AND GROOMING

The 3 Major Fashion Faux Pas and How to Avoid Them

The 3 Most Important Elements of Grooming

STEP 2: BASIC BODY LANGUAGE AND TONALITY

STEP 3: COMFORTABLE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS

THE SECRET TO CONSISTENT IMPROVEMENT

STICKING POINT ANALYSIS:

Step 1: identify your sticking points

Step 2: decide how to fix the sticking point (sp)

Step 3: subordinate your game plan to the above decision.

Step 4: elevate the sticking point.

Step 5: this is a continuous process. Go back to step 1.

BRINGING THE SCIENTIFIC REVOLUTION

THE IMPORTANCE OF TRACKING

PATTERN RECOGNITION: THE SECRET SAUCE OF PICKING-UP!

INFORMATION OVERLOAD AND THE PARALYSIS OF ANALYSIS

PEAKS, VALLEYS AND PLATEAUS

QUESTIONS TO GET YOU STARTED

THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN

ARE YOU LEARNING THE RIGHT WAY

THE 2 MOST IMPORTANT FACTORS

A RECAP OF WHAT WEVE LEARNED

SETTING REALISTIC GOALS FOR

A QUICK RECAP OF PRINCIPLES FOR

SKYROCKET YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN

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