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Introduction
“In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice there is.”
Yogi Berra
Welcome to “The Number 1 NLP Skill You Must Develop!” The purpose of this
training guide is to get you in the right spirit to master the amazing field of
Neurolinguistic Programming.
You see, the real secret to mastering the field is not to read, listen or watch NLP
trainings. I can sum up mastery of NLP to a single word: practice.
As you persist in your efforts, you will become part of an elite that has learned and
mastered the models and skillset known as NLP and will reap the benefits
associated with that mastery.
In this training guide you’ll read about the most critical skill you must develop to
master NLP. Very few students actually spend the required time on it.
I’ll also include a series of exercises that you can practice in order to become
proficient at that skill in short order.
If you find this training guide helpful, feel free to pass it on to someone you know
that may also find it beneficial.
Martin Messier
Martin@HowToMasterNLP.com
Some students of salesmanship also get excited about the possibilities to learn how
to persuade and influence better.
Without this skill, it's virtually impossible to become proficient at any other skill in
NLP.
With it, you'll magnify the power and impact of everything else you learn tenfold.
Let me share something with you. Often, when my NLP students want to develop a
new skillset, they immediately start searching for the "doing" part of the skillset.
The words to say, the intonation to use, the posture to adopt... And it's only natural
to do so. After all, the "doing" seems to be what produces the results.
But to give tonus to the "doing", they must start somewhere else. And that's where
you need to start as well. This starting point will give you a thorough
After all, when paying $3,000.00 to attend a week-long seminar, who has time to
spend 5 days learning to observe?
In the next few pages, we'll discuss specifically how to develop your sense of
observation.
Definition: TO OBSERVE
ob·serve - [uhb-zurv]
1. to notice
2. to act as an observer
Seems obvious.
The real question to ask yourself now is: "What can I start to
notice that I didn't notice before?"
You don’t need a PhD to become an outstanding observer. But you probably need
to become an outstanding observer to get a PhD.
http://www.planetperplex.com/en/jim_warren.html
On that page you will find a painting by Jim Warren called 7 dolphins.
You have a simple goal: find the seven dolphins hidden in the painting.
Take the time you need to do this. You don’t have to see all of them in 2 minutes.
Not even in 1 hour or even 1 week. Relax and take all the time you need to find each
of the seven dolphins.
Avoid stressing about getting an exercise right as quickly as possible. If you stress
yourself out, it’ll only take longer. Relax and allow your unconscious to sort out all
the patterns.
Questions direct your focus and being able to ask new questions will enable you to
enrich the resolution of your experience.
If you live in the city, head downtown where many people usually walk around.
Start observing people, at first with a clear head.
Eventually, lock onto one person and ask yourself a few questions, such as: what
would it feel like to be this person? Where is this person going? Can I think like
this person does? Is that person married? What is that person thinking? How fast
is the person moving?
Next, imagine that you’re that person’s shoe. How do you feel as the shoe? Are you
comfortable with a foot inside you? How fast are you moving?
Repeat this process with at least 20 different people. Take all the time you need
and allow your mind to free flow or diverge while you’re doing the exercise.
This powerful exercise, if you practice it regularly, will do more for your NLP
skillset than any other I can think of. To this day, I still practice it because it’s really
the toughest NLP gym I know.
Go to a public place such as a shopping mall and sit on a bench for at least 10
minutes. Allow your foveal vision to relax and let your peripheral vision take over
your sight. You’ll feel your whole body relax as this happens. Then, just let the
sound and rhythm of the environment soak you up while you sit and relax.
After about 10 minutes, get up and start walking around. Pick a stranger who is
walking at least 20 feet in front of you and begin to walk just like that person. Relax
your body and allow yourself to adopt that person’s gait. Allow your head to
position itself like that person’s head. Let your arms swing in the same rhythm.
Accompany the rhythm of their footsteps. Allow your entire posture to adjust itself
until you are practically a mirror image of that person.
As you become more proficient at this exercise, choose people who walk really
differently from you. If you’re really tall, imitate short people. If you’re a woman,
imitate men’s walks.
Note: Be discrete! Your goal here is not to be a caricature of others, but to get a
strong feeling sense of how others conduct themselves in the world. Try not to get
caught. There’s a big difference between imitating and stalking, and you want to
make sure you’re not labeled as doing the latter.
For this exercise, you’ll need a book that you’ve never read before. A non-fiction
book will probably be the best bet, but if none are available a novel will do.
Flip the book open to the first chapter. On that page, choose a word. Any word will
do, although it would be best if you don’t choose the most frequently used articles,
such as “the” or “a”. Ideally, pick a noun.
Next, search for that word in the text. Keep track of how many times it shows up.
Go on for at least 50 pages. Notice how many times it appears in these pages.
Now, go back to the beginning of the section you read and choose a new word. Go
through the same section one more time looking for the new word you have
chosen. Count how many times that word appears.
Next, do it one more time. Choose a third word and go through that section again
counting how many times that word shows up in the text.
Go out by foot in the city or in nature and pretend you are a photographer and look
for sights that would look like a letter of the alphabet.
For instance, two trees leaning outward from the same base is V. Or you might
notice a street crossing that makes up an X.
This exercise, in addition to being fun, will make you a lot more alert to what is
around you.
Conclusion
Becoming an outstanding observer will pave the way for developing more complex
skills as you move along, such as calibration and modeling.
My final word of advice is to make sure you set aside uninterrupted time to
practice. Just like any other skill, the only way to acquire it is to practice, practice,
practice and practice some more.
Remember the need to relax. When you relax, you’ll get out of your own way and
allow your competence to find you. This might very well be the most important
skill you will ever develop in your lifetime.
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