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How many times have you been to that closet? Her closet. Maybe
you have planned a day to clean out her belongings, but you have postponed that
day several times already. It’s too much. Not too much work, just too much pain.
It is an unchanging truth: “We don’t get to take it with us.” But who could know how
hard it would be on those of us left behind who have to deal with what’s left behind.
You may have already dealt with the closet, but as time marches on, more undone
items will confront you: the license plate tags for the car, closing a bank account,
a project unfinished in the workshop. Fifteen years after my grandfather’s death I
found a corner of our attic with a box of his belongings.
Here are some helpful hints that can carry you through as you deal with what’s left
behind.
Finish their project. One son finished rebuilding his dad’s old truck. One daughter
learned how to quilt to finish her mother’s masterpiece. It is a therapeutic wonder
to wrap your hands, heart and time into something that was meaningful to your
loved one. It is a great way to feel close to them once again.