Name: MAY PEARL BERNALDEZ Score:___________

Name of Professor: GLENDA BEJONA Date: AUGUST 27, 2019

Course and Year: BSED-I

Activity 17: Identity Formation Strategy

Forming an identity has different strategies according to Cote and Levine (2002).
It includes Refuser, Drifter, Searcher, Guardian and Resolver. Going through the process
of self realization and self analysis, I have found out that I undergone those strategies.
Refuser. I have experienced this kind of strategy in times of meeting new people.
The fact that you have not yet known a certain person fully, of course, for the meantime,
you will refuse for his/her help even if you knew that it is for your own good. This had
helped me to be more observant to the people that surrounds me so that I could identify
whom I will going to trust.
Drifter. In this strategy, when I am in the process of knowing a certain person, I
became capable of helping. Since I knew her/his already, when problems occur I have
the chance to feel sympathy towards that certain person which eventually lead into giving
her/his a shoulder to lean on. This helps me to be more conscious towards the feelings
of others.
Searcher. All of us are searching for our own happiness which can be found either
from our family or friends. As for me, I could not find my happiness within the family, thus,
I ended up seeking within the community. There, I found some but still it does not satisfy
my greed and so I look for more which eventually lead those someone who recently came
into my life became forgotten. Knowing that it is not good I am working for this strategy to
become well practiced. Hence, I could search happiness correctly and genuinely.
Guardian. I have this feeling that I really know myself well — very confident to show
off. But then, I realized that having such confidence might drag me down so I decided to
just keep it moderate. At the same time, I became so sensitive in everything I have made
for the possibility of wrong judgment by the society. However, this kind of experience,
have made me realized the importance of having limitations to oneself.
Resolver. Of course in our lives we always encounter difficulties and extreme
hardships to the point that we really wanted to end our lives desperately just to put it all
an end. But, I know that we are all aware that ending our lives is not a solution, it would
not resolve every problem we are facing, rather it will just make it worse. So it is better to
ask an assistance to the Almighty Father for every decision we will be making in our lives
and so everything will fall into its right place.
Truly, forming or molding oneself is not that easy. There are lots of happenings
that could either bring positives and negatives into our live. So since, we do have the free
will and intellect, we must use it wisely because our future will depends upon the choices
we will made.