Jasper John M.

Gomez
CE1B
English 3- Speech on One-sided love

Loving is the best part of living in this world, to love others and to be loved by others.
And love do comes in many forms, pertaining with our relationships with other people. But
my question is, how and when do this one-sided love takes place in our lives?

Unrequited love or what we much know as one-sided love are commonly experienced
by most of us. We define it as a love that is not equally and openly returned and understood
by the beloved. And we see it unfair and partial due to the fact that the feelings or
specifically the affection that was revealed is not mutual. According to Dr. Roy Baumeister,
we are prone to find our love unrequited if we fall for someone who is much more
bodacious or more desirable than ourselves, either because of physical beauty or ideal
attributes such as charm, intelligence, wit, or economical status. This is the love problem we
mostly encountered particularly in us teenagers. And what makes it more terrible is that it
could even affect or alter our mentality. According to some studies, the lover who doesn’t
attain requited love and fulfill emotional needs may lead to depression, low self-esteem,
anxiety, and in some other cases, rapid mood swings between depression and euphoria, or
a feeling of great happiness and excitement. Thus, one-sided love could induce bad effects
on us like, for worst, mental illness.

Now the question is, what can we do to make things better if we experience
nonreciprocating or one-sided love? It is important that we know how to deal with
ourselves in times of heartbreaks from relationships that never were. If we have a strong
affection for someone else and that someone doesn’t feel the same, it’s okay. Panicking is
not the answer. Sometimes too much emotions drove us to wrong decisions. And do not
think that there is something wrong with us just because we were not loved back the way
we want it to be. Think that we were all made differently with distinct wants and needs. We
must learn how to appreciate much what we had and not those what we don’t have.
There’s a lot of people in our lives who love us just as much back. And they are all worthy to
give thanks and love, like our parents, grandparents, best friends, and others who love us
constantly.

After all, true love doesn’t require any returns and conditions. Do not be afraid to
confess your special feelings to someone else, it’s normal because we’re humans, but still in
the right place, at the right time, and at the right person. Try to weigh things right and try to
accept the truth even though it may hurt you a lot. Everything happens for a reason.
Remember that God loves us all and we must know also how to love everyone that
surrounds us unconditionally and impartially. Because if there’s anything else better than to
be loved, it is loving.

Like what Henry Wadsworth Longfellow said, “Love gives itself; it is not bought.”