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Let's break these styles for us to understand each one of the better.
Passive
meeting their needs. Individuals who use the passive communication style often
act
indifferently, yielding to others. They either keep their opinions to themselves or try
to make it seem as if they support every piece of input in the discussion.
Aggressive
it. You may even feel it. individuals express their feelings and opinions and
advocate for
their needs in a way that violates the rights of others. Thus, aggressive
communicators are
While voicing feelings and opinions makes for effective communication, this is not
the
• be very impulsive
• “I own you”
Passive-aggressive
another form of ineffective communication. This style is used when people speak
as if
they don’t care about something (passive), but in a way that is indirectly angry
feel powerless, stuck, and resentful – in other words, they feel incapable of dealing
in the presence of other people as if they didn’t want others to hear it. A lot of
passiveaggressive communicators will also refuse to confront others about
something that is
bothering them. When people are using this style, they might give someone the
silent
treatment or talk about the issue with someone who isn’t apart of it to avoid the
situation
altogether.
• use facial expressions that don't match how they feel - i.e., smiling when angry
• use sarcasm
• “I’m powerless to deal with you head on so I must use guerilla warfare.”
• “That’s fine with me, but don’t be surprised if someone else gets mad.”
• “Sure, we can do things your way” (then mutters to self that “your way” is
stupid).”
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Assertive
Of all the communication styles, the assertive version is thought to be the most
effective.
other people’s opinions. They respect all values, thoughts, and ideas, and speak
in a calm
their own needs, desires, ideas and feelings, while also considering the needs of
others.
Assertive communicators aim for both sides to win in a situation, balancing one’s
rights
One of the keys to assertive communication is using “I” statements, such as “I feel
frustrated when you are late for a meeting,” or, “I don’t like having to explain this
over
and over.” It indicates ownership of feelings and behaviors without blaming the
other
person.
The assertive communicator will say, believe, or behave in a way that says: