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Trust
How to Build Specific Actions to Take
Use plain-speaking, straight talk Be open to discussing the following
Be honest and open with your mentor at the onset of the
Demonstrate respect in all interactions relationship:
Practice accountability; do not blame o Personal and professional
others when something does not background
happen as discussed o Thoughts about the mentorship
Be transparent and consistent; “what initiative
you see is what you get” o Confirm
Be flexible and accessible expectations/measures of
Keep commitments, as commitments success
build hope; delivering on hope builds Collaboratively develop the mentorship
trust agreement
Base feedback on first-hand Use self-disclosure; share your personal
observation, whenever possible thoughts:
o “I personally feel…”
o “What I don’t like …”
Confidentiality
How to Build Specific Actions to Take
Agree on boundaries and do not cross Demonstrate your understanding of
them what is confidential by clarifying what
Before agreeing to be in a mentorship "is and is off the record" at the
relationship, be candid about conclusion of mentorship sessions
confidentiality principles and Seek your mentor’s approval to share
boundaries information with others
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Clarify HR/Program Administrator’s Immediately share if confidentiality has
expectations about topics that should be inadvertently broken
be reported Clarify when a topic seems to be
Be open to sharing and discussion that headed in a direction where
isn't directly tied to your goals confidentiality may not be able to be
Demonstrate your belief in protected
confidentiality by acting with intgrity During conversations, ask for
with all information that is confidential, permission before taking notes
regardless of the relationship
Communication
How to Build Specific Actions to Take
Be present and attentive to your Prepare for one-on-one meetings:
mentor/mentee o Identify 2 to 3 key discussion
Be timely with your questions, topics
thoughts, and opinions o Review agreements from prior
Look for the unspoken message meetings
Use non-verbal signals to invite Apply active listening skills:
dialogue and demonstrate that you are o Repeat back (paraphrase) what
listening and understand (e.g., sitting you heard
forward, eye contact, nodding head) o Ask follow-up questions
Provide thoughtful responses to your o Share your point of view
mentor’s questions; avoid “yes/no” o Ask for
responses that close the door clarification/confirmation
Empathize with your mentor/mentee:
o Listen to understand versus
protecting your
position/opinion
o Express appreciation for
meeting with you
Fortitude
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How to Build Specific Actions to Take
Mentees ask clarifying questions to When faced with tough issues or
understand your mentor’s advice, challenges, ask yourself the following
suggestions, etc. questions to ensure you face the
Seek permission to provide feedback, situations with courage:
remember that feedback is a gift and o “What could be a great
your mentor seeks development from outcome?”
this relationship, too o “What results do I hope to
Provide specific, actionable feedback to achieve?”
your mentor/mentee around the o “What is likely to happen if I do
relationship, your needs, etc. not address this issue?”
o “What makes this a difficult
issue for me to address?”
o “Is the value of change greater
than the pain to remain the
same?”
o “What would the most
courageous TCS leader do to
resolve this issue?”
Learn the STOP-START-CONTINUE
framework as a way to share
observations and facts with your
mentor/mentee or others in a non-
threatening manner.