Toronto Ashram

 
Date:

April 10, 1979

Location:

Toronto, Ontario, Canada

 
 
 
 

... That area. One is the cobra pose and the other is arch pose and third is to make the
balance of the two, stretch pose. If you can bring him or make him do that, I think God
will help him.

Student: (------)

YB: Oregon? Kundalini Yoga 3HO foundation is everywhere. So get him there.

Student: (------)

YB: Oh get him in. It is called slip him in.

(Students' laughter)

YB: Nobody wants anything from anybody, if you are a friend you feel it, you can tell him
I have told you, you can tell him make him do it, if he does it affectionately tell him,
compete with him. Tell him I am going to do this posture if you do that I'll give you a
chocolate. Whatever.

(Students' laughter)

YB: You know what I mean? That's the way to go. Slowly and gradually with your
kindness you can win everybody. And if you feel for your friend, do it.

I had a friend of mine, he came and he told certain things which were not worthy to
listen. And I told him, "My friend, I'll take you to somebody else, where you can evolve
yourself out of it and when you are through then I'll talk to you again."

Friendship is when you do for somebody, saying you are his friend doesn't solve the
problem. Nothing solves the problem, if you put Bible on a donkey it doesn't make him a
priest. Do, do, do. Do and so be done. That's the way to go. When I say there is no
liberty without labor and there is no freedom which is free I mean it. And that is what it
is. I have helped thousands of people. In return they all have helped me. But I don't
expect somebody to become my student, I don't even initiate. I have made so many
people angry just by denying one request. Please initiate me. I said please initiate
yourself. Why I have to initiate you? Because I believe everybody is a creature created
by the Creator and the creation is a part of all the scheme then everybody has to initiate
himself and herself. I am not to initiate anybody. And they don't like it, because they
want to be puppets. Little pinkie they want to catch. I am not ready for it. Neither this, so
we break it's God's will. But those who wanted to start they started and they are keeping
up, they are keeping up because they want to keep up. I have to follow a system. Our
policy is open door policy. Come and be served. Don't come. Our lungar system, our
free kitchen system is when we prepare the meal we create the sound. Come. And then
everybody comes, served, they eat, they go, God's will. We don't take a register and
write their names. That's why in our congregation a congregation is not completed,
prayer is not complete if free kitchen is not served. Period.

So systems have to be honestly followed, a highway you choose, a path you choose,
you walk and you keep the direction and you will reach the city. You can't love anybody
if you are not willing to sacrifice for that body. Love is a direct command of sacrifice and
it's a one-way traffic. For love when you get anything in return it is called business.
Because they bargain. I brought you flower, you gave me a kiss, forget it. It's good, but
it is not what it is. Yes.

Student: (------)

YB: Oh yeah phobia.

Student: (------)

YB: I'll explain to you that, that is a scientific truth which I am explaining to you but west
will not understand it. When I told in the west there are twelve glands in the human
body, doctors started challenging me. When I said the thymus acts more powerful than
any other gland they said it's a dead tissue. You understand what I mean? Now what I
am saying to them is the problem is this. Child is born, in the birth of the child to eleven
years there are two people to play role to nurse that child, not with milk and food and
with cookies and with toys, that is the personality of father and mother. When this
personality play of the father and mother is not injected into the personality of the child
imbalance child is born as an adult. And that is called imbalance phobia.

Now everybody is sick with that phobia. So nothing can happen and why we want one
woman and one man and one child is because that is more than enough, we can handle
as one, one at least we can do that. To that one child to bring it complete. Part of
marriage is to produce another seed of you, that is the basic urge. Sexually forget it,
sexually, who does, everybody does many things many ways. But basic, the institution
of marriage is to reproduce yourself, that is why it has been given lot of love and lot of
rituals and it has become divine. I mean, you will sleep with a girl, nobody cares, but
when you want to marry her then you bring a priest in-between. Because you want to
give her a security unto Infinity of unknown of God and she wants that security so that
they both can work together on a project. But you know second-class effort is a first
class mistake. And we are part of that first class mistake. In marriage nobody does first
class effort.

Student: (------)

YB: I think we should... No, we should start a university where there should be a man
and a woman graduation, marriage graduation, they should go through that and if there
is a certificate and everybody gets sixty percent they should be given license to marry,
otherwise it's a useless trip.

I tell you one thing, there is a doctor, this woman carried in through the medical college
by paying his fees and everything and now this doctor, this bum after becoming a
successful doctor tells her, your hair don't smell right. She says God, you never gave
me all these years time to even comb them. She was working two times to keep him
going. And now this guy is making nose. You know what I mean?

So values change, with that people change. But marriage is a carriage of happiness
which cannot change. It's a contract between two people before God.

Student: (------)

YB: No, no, no it is misery, I am telling you misery is because the values change.

Student: (------)

YB: Yeah. No, no, they don't, I tell you if I eat good food at my house and I want to go
out, I'll take my wife with me. Normally. But abnormally if I do it she won't mind either.
Question is not in this world who you are, question is how much trust you have. You
have that much trust, that much extension of you as you have that much character, you
have that much character as much value you know, you have as much value, as much
discipline you know, as much discipline you know as much self you know, as much self
you know everybody you know, when everybody you know you have no worry about
anything. It's a process, process. And it is all correlated. And in that correlation there is
always a confronting problem. I am a married man, I have three children, they went
through culture shock, my wife went through culture shock, the whole thing; she still tells
me I am no happy to be a wife of a yogi.

(Students' laughter)

God, nobody here listens to anybody. Well, I tell her, my dear as an officer I had lot of
orderlies and servants, and everything was great. Now we have adapted ourselves the
period of service and now we have to serve, rather people serve us. We are getting out
of the karma. She likes it but she doesn't like to do it. So she protests once a while. So I
say what is the problem with you? She says but this never got done, I don't know how
you do it. I say oh I'll do it. And so twenty-five years somehow through hook and crook
we are married, period.

(Students' laughter)

I always tell her don't worry, half of the whole wealth of mine is yours. Really you gave
it, everybody anyway what is going to be left for me? I said me, the man who gave away
everything, that's enough.

(Students' laughter)

So we joke it out. And last year all the property which was all clear in my name we
both sat down, made the paper, signed it, and gave it to the Dharma, gave it away.
That's the way it was. That is the (?) she came along very fine, perfect, very divine, very
beautiful, I love her, like her for that. For a woman thinking from this minute onward
moment I sign here, I don't owe a penny this world, it's most difficult. I wanted to see
how she goes through that drama. She went so gracefully, I wanted to give her the
Oscar this year. You know what I mean?

(Students' laughter)

And I asked her, I said, "Do you believe me?"

She said, "No, I trust you."

(Students' laughter)

She didn't believe me.

Student: (------)

YB: No, she doesn't believe me, she trusts me.

Student: (------)

YB: Otherwise there will be everyday fight. Only which keeps you away from fight and
quarrel is the trust. Otherwise we are willing to fight with God. Okay, are you satisfied,
any question? Yes.

Student: (------)

YB: I am here. What I can feel about it? I have nothing to feel. The very first day I said
go ahead, and I'll get along. This is the first time I have been to London, I am here, I am
going to speak in Los Angeles, I won't do it for Almighty God. I did it for the symposium.
I believed it has to be done. I don't know it maybe a success or a failure. People may
like it in a different way. But I like it totally different way. I like it a way that impossible
has happened. I don't think this was a possible project. It has a lot of possibilities to
misunderstand and to be misunderstood and all that. I think all the people who did act
and worked on it, did have some message to share. And I am included in them. It could
have done many, many times better. But thank God it didn't happen that way. Then we
have to try again, right? God is only perfect remember.

Student: (------)

YB: I understand it's a very simple answer, breath of fire. Anybody who does breath of
fire in the morning before leaving his bed for eleven minutes gets rid of self-anger. I
have taught it for ten years, it is free, nobody listens to it or remembers it. If I would
have charged two hundred and fifty dollars and told everybody in an year I would have
been rich and people would have been less angry.

(Students' laughter)

Breath of fire is the law, if you do breath of fire eleven minutes before leaving your bed
and putting your these two beautiful knees on your chest, tie down and then the extra
wind from apana will leave and prana will regulate, the whole day you try to be angry,
find it out, call me, collect.
(Students' laughter)

I won't accept the charges.

(Students' laughter)

Student: (------)

YB: My God, I have changed these western people like a hell, can you believe it? They
were living hell, I have gone with them through every pain and pleasure. I have seen
what they were at and now God, they tell me how to do right things. Sometime I just
joke with them and I do certain weird things, they say wait a minute, wait a minute, this
is not right, I love it. They are great. Oh yeah, I have nothing to fulfill. I was to start
something.

Student: (------)

YB: No, no, basically I wanted to teach people one thing very unique and very unusual.
And my statement is it is my birthright to be healthy, happy and holy and this statement
to a normal theologian is a very sinful devil's statement because happiness, health and
all that must be granted by God. And I am saying it is my birthright. It's my basic
privilege. And that is a very contradictory religion in itself. And it's a challenge to every
normal tribal religion so far being practiced. Because when I say first you believe, and
then you will experience. Now our time is, we will experience first and then we believe.
So we are getting hundred eighty degree off the record. And still I am alive in ten years,
they have not shot me, don't you think it's a miracle?

Student: (------)

YB: I started it.

(Students' laughter)

YB: You must understand my role. When I came I saw twenty million young people
suffering. I could have joined the universities, I could have done this and that, bah-bah-
bah. I could have asked few rich ladies to donate all the money to me, and I could have
been comfortable. I started living in teepees and running in cold water and doing all
those things because I knew that somebody has to continue this. There were lot of at
that time leaders. Somebody selling insurance now, others is in real estate, and third
person is doing, managing the apartments and all that. But I still continued to be what I
was. And I think we are the new age and you know twenty million young people gave
away their life and sacrificed themselves by OD and by this and that and quarter million
of them are alive today. It's the greatest sacrifice which ever mankind did in silence to
bring peace to the earth. That's why America never started a war in Angola, not
because it never wanted it, they needed that petroleum and copper more than anybody
else. Because they knew we will walk on Washington again. It doesn't matter through
the environments and circumstances we have cut our hair but they are grown inside.

No, no way, time cannot change. Time will keep going, not possible. It will take one
shape or the other, we will make it. We are growing, our children are growing and they
are dying. There is no stop to it, whether they like it or not. Yes.
Student: (------)

YB: I will repeat it, she is...

Student: (------)

YB: Don't, don't, I have got the answer. I tell you. One thing is...

Student: (------)

YB: Yeah, there is not only an attachment between the religious parents and their
strives. It is the exploitation of authority over the child because normally parents feel
child never grows. Child remains child, he is a eighty-two year old.

(Students' laughter)

My father tells me right now, "Bhajan, I don't think you are right."

(Students' laughter)

I say, "What did you say?"

He says, "Oh no, I am sorry, I forgot, I know you are a yogi, you are okay now."

(Students' laughter)

When he was eating wrong he told me you should eat right. I say yes dad, then I say
okay I will. By the way you can't take honey, I took away the plate in front of him.

(Students' laughter)

Parents are parents, parents are supposed to be pay-rent. Instead of paying rent they
collect the rent. You follow? So if you love each other, be determined and be open and
be honest, anything which constitute itself on dishonesty shall fall. So confront them;
we'll help you.

Student: (------)

YB: Power of the person is the prayer, pray for him. That's all you can do.

Student: (------)

YB: I am teaching a class tonight, what time hey, 6 o'clock I'll discuss that whole subject
if you want.

Student: (------)

YB: Yeah, yes.

Student: (------)
YB: I was to teach a class then I was told to join in a panel here, then I was told no you
have to discuss things, I said okay. But in evening I will teach a class
in the ashram anyway for special subjects to help people. Then these things can be
discussed there, which is all medical. Yes.

Student: (------)

YB: It's okay.

Student: (------)

YB: When my wife came, she became so culture shock, she totally lean on woman like
another child. So I have three children plus a wife as a child. I raised all the four very
beautifully.

(Students' laughter)

YB: And they all witnessed that. When my wife came here in this country she totally
became a more younger child than my daughter even. She started doing trouble on
anything, she wanted to demand everything, she wanted to know she is secure. And
she asked me impossible things. And because I know in every word impossible possible
is contained so I came through.

Single parents must not feel they are single. Nobody is single. God, Guru, and self.
They are three against one. Guru is the experience of God. God is the ultimate reality of
the unknown. And personality is the known. All three can make everything harmonious.
That is what we created at 3HO a family in which we don't ask anybody what wrong you
have done. All we tell is how right we can do it. The secret in success that we are
maintaining this as a 3HO family is there are three ways to live. Live at each other,
that's the animal kingdom. Live with each other, that's the vegetable kingdom. You see
the tree they toss their head, they don't bother each other, they have their own roots.
And human is live for each other. And when you live for each other you have to sacrifice
for each other. And that's the way it goes. And we have experimented it, we have
proved it, and we are going to continue that. Single parent is not a disease. It's an
opportunity. And every woman has a very confident part of the male in her. And she has
to understand things didn't work out right and now she has to see that they work all
right.

Okay folks, can we do one Kriya and then quit? How much time we have?

Students: (------)

YB: Is it? See computer works right. Now this Kriya which I am giving to you is meant to
inflow the lack of communication for which there are all troubles. You understand?
There cannot be trouble at all if we do not fail in communication. First trouble happens
when we cannot communicate. Remember that? When you cannot communicate with
somebody, then you are blocked from that body. And then there is a trouble. So we are
going to do a Kriya in which we are going to solve that magnetic problem of the body, in
other words, we are elating to throat center. Power of communication and the heart
center, power of compassion to communicate. Okay. Sit straight.

Student: (------)
YB: No, no, if they don't come in, they don't. If they come in they have (?). It's okay. I
was told symposium is free. Anybody can do anything. I was told, I didn't say it is true.

(Students' laughter)

I was told. Truth is only that what truth is. Nobody can say it, nobody can know it,
nobody can feel it, but everybody can experience it.

Okay folks. Now bear with me, these are the four antennas, one is Mercury, this is Sun,
this is Saturn and this is Jupiter and this is Id. Ego. Okay. Sit straight and touch your
pinkies. Rest of the hand should be as open as naturally it can be. Angle from the
diaphragm. That is between the navel pointand the heart center the elbows touch the
body, they touch there, hold it. And touch it like this and leave it open. Look through the
eyes as perpendicularly parallel to the nose and look down. Nine parts of the eyes
closed, one part open. Got it? So simple. Yeah. Down all the way. Don't cross your eyes
at the tip of the nose, just look that way down. Perfect? Okay don't whistle, but inhale
through the lips inwards. Hold it, and create mentally the sound, Sa Ta Na Ma, and with
a stroke of breath take all the air out. Sa Ta Na Ma. Don't create verbal sound, breath
sound. Like that. With the force of the nose. Because you have to change the
impulsation of the pituitary. And that will open up if you stroke breath out in four parts
and create this mental sound with it. Inhale again, hold, and now come, one, two, three,
four, inhale again, but within those four strokes you should totally exhale. Sa Ta Na Ma.
Inhale again, Sa Ta Na Ma, relax.

This exercise if it is done up to half an hour is equivalent to five hundred milligram of

LSD. Therefore you are advised to do it for only eleven minutes. No I am not kidding, it
will be tape recorded, it shall not be my responsibility. Legal, moral and spiritual. And
that's why I told you to do it two-three times and I'll just close my self because you must
have later on a time to rest. It is a requirement. So do it before going to bed, do it for
eleven minutes only. Sound is Sa Ta Na Ma. These are the five sounds, it's called
Panch Shabad. They relate to five tattvas. That word "In the beginning there was a
word, word was with God and word was God." That is the word. If John could have
written it, it could have saved my trouble. But they kept it secret. But anyway that is a
PanchShabad they call it.

Each Shabad relates to tattva. So just do create that sound with the force of the nose.
And some day you will practice it so much you can create and hear the sound coming
through your nose rather than mentally doing it. Maximum time for this exercise is
eleven minutes and then you can practice it up to thirty-one minutes. For God's sake
don't proceed beyond that. If you do not want to stop and you insist, please call me and
discuss with me, I'll just see what you want to do and discuss it further. But eleven
minutes is the most safest thing to do. It will change and bring the balance in your
metabolism, keep you away from all kind of diseases, it will give you a projective
elevatedconsciousness, it will open up your fourth compassionate center of compassion
and throat center of communication, it will give you power to communicate at higher
level than what you are at and it will make you healthy, happy and holy and you will be a
part of good humanity and humanity will be blessed by your personality.

The class sings: "May the long time sun shine upon you..."

YB: And now sing that song, we are the people, people of love, let us people love today.
Does anybody know? It's an old, old Yogi Bhajan song, remember? Okay sing it.
(Students sing...)

(Song stops.)

YB: Thank you, I thought you might have forgotten, but you remember it, that's nice.
And this we never conclude our class without singing the most powerful hippie song.
May the long time sun shine... it was a record. It was a record and that group sang, and
it was the first song which started this movement. And 3HO foundation has up kept the
tradition. When we conclude the class in honor to remember the memories of those who
laid their lives silently for peace without direction of any government organization but
only under the inward direction of God, we in their honor sing that song when we close
every class. Because we guide our way on within the light of purity and love. Thank you
very much for sharing with me all this time and now if you want to hear me further, come
to Los Angeles.

(Students' laughter)

(Applause...)

Side B

Nobody wants to do it. There are two laws to do it. One is to just live very relaxed and
accept yourself as a part of the cosmos and cosmos as a part of you. It means out of
your eight bodies you have to live in your pranic body. And don't use your mind for too
much thinking and speculation. Stop speculating. And then everybody if starts doing it, it
will become a total cosmic order and everybody will be at peace. Otherwise build the
atom bombs and threat each other.

And the second part is if this is not possible which is called divine law of Divinity, this is
the one law in the scripture is called divine law of Divinity. The second part is develop
your mind to the meditative extent to the effect that you can control your meditative
mind and if you can control your meditative mind you can bring peace to yourself and to
all around you. Third law I don't know.

(Students' laughter)

It doesn't work that way. What should we do? Come on families, come on with
questions and answers, I'll talk to you for few minutes, give you little goodies and then
I'll go. Yes, yes.

Student: (------)

YB: Louder, louder, you are a young man, it doesn't suit speaking low. Go ahead.

Student: (------)

YB: That is my perfect subject. The problem which I have seen in the western world is
woman is not a woman and man is not a man. Both are zucchinis.

(Students' laughter)
And nobody knows how to steam them. That is the problem. Problem is, this problem I
recognized. When I recognized this problem there is a problem between a man and
woman in this country and I said forget it. Because western world and eastern world are
two different worlds. Eastern world you have totally one thing and that is ultimate spirit
flow, ultimate. All decisions, all negotiations, all dealing-wheeling, how crooked they
maybe, they will do in the name of God. That's is the eastern way. I have lived thirty-
nine years in the eastern world, I know it. If they have to kill you they will say I am doing
it in the name of God. So sick they are. Here there is a very terrible problem. It's much
terrible than there. Here we have a beautiful body, and we have a beautiful spirit. But
we have most hanky-panky mind. Most hanky-panky. Very untogether mind, I have
never seen anywhere such an untogether mind, mental body is very untogether. And
that's why neither we can enjoy the fruit of our spirit, nor we will enjoy the lustful flow of
our body. And that is where lies the problem. But when I realized that what to do I
realized there is a definite...

Somewhere in the world men and women can work together somewhere. I know how
they can work together, but I just wanted to know somewhere. Then I found a region.
This region is east of Punjab, and north of Uttar Pradesh. There is a certain area where
nobody divorces anybody. And it has a history and a legend of thousands of years.
Then I studied that. Why? Why in one particular area on this earth every problem is
there and no problem is there, but one problem is not there, divorce though people can
divorce. So we found it out that on rainy season every woman goes back to parent's
house for two months.

(Students' laughter)

It's a law. And if the parental father is dead, then the elder brother takes the
responsibility and she brings the children back and children go to maternal uncle,
woman lives with all her old friends and she recuperates to become a woman. Once she
recuperates in two months to become a woman then she can become a wife, she can
become a mother, blah-blah-blah. And then what I did is I started ladies camp. Two
months ladies camp, June and July. July and August and I think it's the third year we
have found very beautiful results. A woman comes, teaches her all women, it is a ladies
camp and they do everything on this planet which a woman can possibly learn. Not our
own discipline. Everything. From horse riding to rifling, how to face a mocking man on
the road to anything and we get all the possible experts and we found it out it has saved
and our men have become beautiful because two months raising the children have told
them what a wonderful woman is.

(Students' laughter)

Papa, I want to go to party, sit down, now he is not going to sit down, then he realizes
what is to be a woman. So in two months they learn a lot, she learns a lot and it takes
them ten months to fight again and then they are again there. It works out. But basically
what I am trying to tell, there are two books which we are not printing publicly yet. I am
teaching a course and there are two books, woman and training part one, woman and
training part two. And they are fantastic if you want to know what all about is and then
two courses I have taught man to man and within the man. And these are our secret
courses which we are trying to reach our people and make them understand.

Because my idea is very different as a teacher. I feel you should teach. Then you
should watch your teachings. And then you should experience the result of your
teaching. And if you confirm that it works then you say well, this is it, otherwise it's better
to shut up. I believe that way, I am not saying I am telling you gospel truth though I
know I am telling you a gospel truth, but I want you to prove, I want you to know, I want
you to feel that what I told you a gospel truth. That is why when people talk to me they
lie before me. I don't see people, I read aura, so I know what he is talking about is a lie,
but I never say you are a liar, I say go ahead saying it because I see how he is
combining the aura. So I can feel from there, where his deficiency lies. Where the
deficiency lies is that center is closed, that center is closed for what reason? So all I do
is to open up that center and let him go. Person becomes happier. I don't do miracle.
But that's what I do.

Because every person who is blocked at one center is blocked in the very projection of
thatconsciousness and when he is blocked in that consciousness he is blocked by that
capacity. That means he is a handicap, he is not a liar, he is a handicap person. And
just help the handicap. Nobody lies, I don't believe that anybody lies and anybody wants
to lie, it's a total wrong accusation. Nobody wants to break a family life, nobody wants to
cheat anybody, nobody wants to rape another person, it is not true. People are
handicap and people are sick. Their chakras are locked and blocked and they can't
open it themselves and that is the handicap in their projection and in their frustration
they act wrong. It is as simple as that.

I mean, there are people who have been jailed and they have been my students. I tell
you something. There was a person who was convicted of robbery and stealing homes
and he was a cat from the very beginning. He came from prison, he was
doing Kundalini Yoga, came from prison, he joined our landscaping unit. One day I saw
him with a big bunch of keys. And I said, "Hey, so and so, you are carrying all these
keys." And to my mind it came is he practicinghis old art. You know I wanted to ask him
a straight question, mental question. And he said, "Sir, you have never spoken with me,
these keys are of all the houses where we landscape."

"How could they give it you?"

He said, "Sir, they trust us. They know."

(Students' laughter)

The guy who was stealing yesterday and breaking every lock, today is carrying the keys
of every home and he goes, open the house, clean it out from inside, clean the
landscape, does the outside, does the whole thing lock it back and comes back. Same
person. Why you call him a thief? Now his heart center is open, he is more
compassionate. It was blocked, he was not compassionate, he was stealing. To state
it's that simple. When one center of consciousness or chakra you call it, is locked, the
other over activates.. And when other over activates it takes the negative ingredients of
that and then person starts acting negatively. So simple.

Student: (------)

YB: When people are raised, they are not raised even as trees. People are very
shabbily raised, children are raised very shabbily. You won't believe it when I told every
woman in 3HO that for forty days she has to stay with a child, otherwise don't have it.
Many left 3HO. Now it is a total biological necessity that when a child is born mother
should not leave the child for forty days. That's why we put another servant. We call it
sevadars. To serve her in those forty days. Now that we require as a law in 3HO. And
then we don't want the child to be stuffed away in a cradle you know with a blanket in a
dark room, poor thing doesn't know where he is and what where she is. And this mom is
just sleeping here doing her fun, where the child is being ruined in the other room and
this is called sick western society. And those neurosis and those fears and those
phobias with these little ones get in that place, onwards do not spare them for the rest of
their life. The anger blocks the chakras. And there is hardly any child who is totally
brought out, totally in very most sick environments. Very sick environments. We kill our
own children. We kill our own children. We mess them up and we are proud of it.
Unfortunately it's very unrealistic. And that is what is happening to lot of young people.
There is no fault with young people. I don't think they are wrong. I don't think they are
wrong at all.

Because when these parents complain to me I ask them one thing-have you seen
watermelon growing on an orange tree? They say no. I say how come your child is bad
if you think you are so good? How can a mother complain my son is wrong? How can?
She can't. If she is a good mother child has to be good, if he is a good father child has
to be good. What they do is like Iranian government. This is our law, come on. We have
to deal with you this way. Western can't even understand it. And they can't understand
the western people. But basically same way Shah did something, now they are doing
something. Children are doing something what parents did to them. It's a crisscross
going back and forth and that takes away almost all happiness of every life. What
happens? Every child develops himself under a trauma and rest of his youth which is
eighteen years to rest of his life, he tries to cancel his trauma and then he dies.

That is actually what is going on in society. But if you can take the desire to
the consciousness and when he gets to the stage of drama correct the person and not
to let him live in a state of trauma, every person can be beautiful, every. Every person
can be healthy... it is my right to be healthy, happy and holy. For this I have to earn
nothing, I have to do nothing, it's my right. I am born in the image of God. It is my right
to be healthy, happy and holy. There is no specialty about it. Because I have been
handicap, I have been crippled, mentally, physically and spiritually. I am blocked. And I
do not know how to remove those blocks, that's why I need to do something and that is
what part of life is sick.

Student: I have three children and my marriage is ended got split my two daughters are
with their mother and my ten year-old son is with me and I can see their chapter is
closed and I know it's from their parents myself and their mother, what can I do with out
my children?

YB: Find out what brought the split And find out what brought the split and find out what
that was and relate to that chakra of yours which is not functional. And non-functional
perfect. Try to open that up and then negotiate with your wife, how sick she maybe she
will respond. Because woman is the most easy animal on the planet. One little
spermatozoa she can sprout it to a person. Her moon policy is she sprouts everything.
All you have to do is not to fight with woman, just put one seed of thought in her, you
are beautiful, if. You know wife is why and if. The word wife is a person who qualifies
herself to be why and if and if she doesn't do that she is not a wife. She is a girlfriend.
So you tell her, you use the same technology. You are most beautiful if... and then stop
and let her enquire what that if is and you have her in the palm of your hand, otherwise
forget it they are more intelligent than men anyway. Every woman is born sixteen more
sensitive, and her computer can compute thirty-two times more because she by nature
is born to protect the child, therefore her sensitivity is extended thirty-two times over the
man. It's a natural gift given to her. Therefore she can even get in fingers what you are
at.

Did she tell you that you are not a loyal husband? Or some allegations she made that
way? What she said? I don't like you any more?

Student: No, we are too different, we are going on to different roads.

YB: Oh it can't, there is no such thing too different. Every woman is the same way.
Either they come this way or they totally go that way. There is no something too
different. Then why you were sleeping with her and having three children, can you
believe that? At least you were meeting somewhere.

(Students' laughter)

At least thrice, between those time you have to say yeah, it did happen out of the blue,
right? So there was some union, right?

Student: Yeah.

YB: Well, that is what it is.

Now any person can... this is my study, any person can equilibrate and liberate the
closed chakra. That is what Kundalini Yoga is, that's why I started teaching it. Problem
is that Kundalini Yoga what they teach and they talk about and they write books about it
and I don't comment on it because I don't want to. You understand? Because how can I
go and fight with this ignorance? They don't know what Kundalini is. Now everybody in
this room knows how Kundalini has to be risen. Fact is,Kundalini rises automatically.
Question is how to bring it... it rises automatically. It is so foolish, (?)... one boy came to
me, "I want to raise my Kundalini."

I said, "It is risen."

(Students' laughter)

Question is not to raise the Kundalini, question is to take it to the shashra and turn it
around and then bring it through the Ida and pingala and open up the chakras. That
is Kundalini Yoga is. It is not possible that Kundalini doesn't rise. It rises even in a
madman. That is true. But question is we believe in a very different system, we believe
in a system where man to man you serve the man. In our system teacher serves the
student. In other systems teacher controls the student. And therefore we are two
different systems. That's why normally I do not discuss other teachers and their
systems. Because we believe if God wants somebody to come and be served that
person shall come and get served. It is done in service in the name of God, it is not
established you know I am this, and you are this, and that, that part you understand.
That's why we don't initiate anybody, we say well, that much was his time to get served.
Period. If he leaves, he doesn't want to do it, he got the service as God wished it.

There is a very different relationship in Kundalini Yoga and any other

yoga. Kundalini Yoga the teacher serves the student. In every other discipline every
student serves the teacher. Here master is bountiful, he serves, he gives, he takes
nothing. And that is what it is.

Student: (------)

YB: Good for you.

Student: (------)

YB: No, it's nice, you are understanding may be true.

Student: (------)

YB: This is our discipline. We serve the students. Master serves the student.

Student: (------)

YB: I am serving everybody right now lady.

Student: (------)

YB: You do not know then what deep relationship is.

Student: (------)

YB: No you are talking of relationship on a very sensual level or sexual level or personal
level. Master doesn't serve, master doesn't serve anybody on that level.

Student: (------)

YB: Well, spiritually then you must understand what service is; spiritual is you ask
question, you get the answer and you go and practice it and let the doubt go. That's all.

Student: (------)

YB: You should become very jealous. Yeah. You should become very jealous, I can
understand you from which center you are coming. I agree, listen, I agree, I agree, it is a
simple third center where person becomes absolutely jealous and does not tolerate the
other person. To that extent if third center is not working and not functional mother can
kill the child and wife can kill the husband. This all killing comes when the third center
doesn't work. When there is an imbalance at the nabhi what they call it or you call it
bellybutton point, bellybutton point you understand, if there is an imbalance in that area
the frustration can go to the extent of eliminating the living product of the life of another
person. That is how it works.

Yeah, you were asking question.

Student: Yeah, I would like to hear you on how you see the feminist on revolution?

YB: Oh feminists has not to do anything to revolute anything, by evolution they can do...
In Iran look at it, six days they didn't cook for their husbands. Everything got
straightened out.
(Students' laughter)

I mean, woman has not to do anything, I don't believe that woman is a weaker element.
I think the problem with the woman is she is too compassionate to let her get exploited.
But now they are just becoming little uptight and they do not want to get exploited and
things are changing. Don't you feel around you everything is changing?

Student: (------)

YB: Lady, one thing you listen, either you come here... no, no wait a minute, this is the
time of everybody and you can't have two lectures at one time.

Student: (------)

YB: No, no, if you want to lecture I'll be all right, I don't mind that.

Student: (------)

YB: If you are too eager to do everybody in I don't mind that.

Student: (------)

YB: There is a certain decorum, which has to be observed.

Student: (------)

YB: No, no, you ask question, I'll answer you. But there is one thing known in English
called decency and I'll request you to be decent because all these people have time and
they want their question to be answered too. Okay, thank you. Yes, what you said?

Student: Well about the feminist revolution is, it is something happening in the west that
is not happening in the east.

YB: Yeah. What is happening is the woman in the west has been very highly misused,
abused. Six million women in northern America including U.S.A and Canada are
required to feed the physical need of the salesmen and the sale world. So they are not
treating... Even prostitute is treated in some way because if she volunteers herself to be
prostitute I can understand, but this total lot is totally engulfed into a certain framework
and pressurized and misused and later on they find themselves totally a wreck and then
there is nothing to help that woman and naturally each woman is now finding that all is
happening to her is used, misused, abused, and now they are trying to relate to
themselves. And naturally it's a voluntary reaction which will have. Because when the
west was won or whatever, woman was brought in, you know two dollars a trip and all
that, I was not there then, but I have seen it and I have read it and that's a historical
fact.

Today woman wants only equal right. She wants to say hey, wait a minute, stop.
Because there is a basic problem of biological difference. If a woman gets pregnant,
she has to carry that unto her grave and she is becoming sensitive to her responsibility
where man is not trying to share that responsibility and that's a basic fight. If it would
have been, the woman becomes pregnant and delivers the baby and the man has to
breastfeed him for two years, matter was equal. Matter is not equal to begin with and
woman has started realizing she has to live with the trauma of abortion, she has to live
with the trauma of many, many other traumas which I can detail in length and she is not
willing to get involved in many more traumas because the pressurized economy is
creating lot of traumas already.

So she said, "Hey man, hey Jack, I am Jean, Jack and Jean. Let us not be mean." And
once he says no, I love you and later on he kicks her off. And she doesn't understand
why. So she looked at A, B, C, D, these men walk away from big beautiful house with
three children and start living in apartment, when she is forty-two and she can't go and
do, even sell her body or do anything and this guy walks away with a young chick and
no woman is going to tolerate. In other five-ten years forget it. They are becoming very
sensitive, very organized and relatively it's a very happy sign. Because word woman
contains the man in it. W O M A N. So if she wants to contain every man she can. And I
think woman has the right to wake up now before it is too late that she is dragged
through the streets of insanity by a total dilemma which she does not know who really
she is.

Student: (------)

YB: This is what we did to woman. It is somebody who did it. This is what the
environments are producing. Environments are pressurizing the people to the extent
that they can't help themselves. And this is not the product of an individual, this is a
society's product. Yes.

Student: (------)

YB: I agree hundred percent. But biological and metaphysical woman is highly involved.
She is involved sixty percent to begin with and then for nine months she is involved
hundred percent and then for about eleven years she is involved eighty percent. And in
that eighty percent man has never fulfilled his roles of twenty percent. On average he
fulfills five percent. It's a great human tragedy. Love does not mean 'Oh my children, I
love you.' It doesn't mean... Full participation. Full participation. Full participation.

(Students' laughter)

Somebody once asked me, "How I can participate?"

I said, "I tell you how to participate. During the day the mom takes care of all the
children."

He said, "Yes."

I said, "Night you should sleep with them and take care of them and send them to bed."

He did it only for three days. He said, "I'll ask her to have a maid sir, I can't do it myself."

I said, "Well, raising children is the maximum potential threat to the society, if one child
is not raised well..."

It takes one child to become Jesus Christ or Buddha or Guru Nanak. One child, one
womb. It takes to turn the century. Otherwise you can produce as many neurotics you
want. This society is bad not because the society is bad. We gave a bad product to the
society. And nobody wants to listen to it.

Student: (------)

YB: That is what I basically said but they are not raised properly, naturally they will turn
out to be somebody which is not realistic and that is where lies the problem. Childhood
trauma; I have analyzed people who got out of the childhood trauma when he was
about six months old. At night he woke up, he had a fear, he saw something which he
doesn't remember when, when you do not remember that when it is below three year
age and through that trauma he has gone through nightmares and that guy is forty-
seven years old today. He loves to put blanket on the face of his wife and suffocate her.
Now that is the trauma. And he doesn't want to do it. He is a very respectable man,
thousand and hundred thousand people know him, he is great man, but that was his
trauma when he discussed with me, I said, "This is how it has come." You know what
therapy I gave him? I told him to go in a tub of water, take a blanket and soak it. And he
got out of it. Yes.

Student: (------)

YB: Neurosis is a part of life. Neurosis are not bad and neurosis leads to drama that is
very creative. But when neurosis from drama leads to trauma and you do not... You
have a car, beautiful car, Rolls-Royce car, right? But there is no brake. Then it becomes
terrible. The problem with neurosis is... I have neurosis, I am very neurotic, I want
everything tiptop, clean and perfect. I really tolerate it and I do not let anybody escape
when they are ugly, to tell them what cleanliness is. I gave a lecture on cleanliness. So
they understand it. To have neurosis is not bad. But to relate neurosis to the state of
trauma, then you have no self-control. Because I may sometimes shout at somebody to
read hisaura and then next minute I laugh at the same person. They can't understand,
they think I am a computer who switch buttons off and on. But that is not true, truth is
that in one image you have a control on your neurosis, the other way the neurosis
controls you. If you control your neurosis you are very creative, very aggressive, very
progressive and very beautiful person. But if they control you, you are dead. And that's
how it goes in few words. Anybody else? Yes.

Student: (------)

YB: No you charge one way or the other. I believe it is in my personal belief
Itragashtam-Tatragashtam. Because I believe empty hand you come, empty hand you
go. And time is the money and money is time. He might have thought that idea. I feel
that asking somebody to send me air ticket is very difficult. Why one or two person
should bear the brunt? Every teacher should put X amount of, every student should put
X amount of money, so that takes care of all the expenses. I have to eat meals, either
some person can feed me or I can feed myself. And basically as we teach self-
independence to our students, we live independent also. But I have not seen any
system in which sky opens up at six thirty and a plate of food comes down.

(Students' laughter)

Don't charge this, don't charge that, forget it. It doesn't work that way. I mean to say
living is a business. You can overact to profit and you can absolutely just smooth it out.
But my proposal to everybody is be upfront. I am very upfront. And my effective life is
very different than his. I came in Hollywood as a great yogi. You understand? So I could
have made zillions of dollars and do nothing. But I never did it, I started working with
young people. And I understood twenty million people were suffering at that time when I
came in. To struggle to change the society. And I joined that struggle. One thing I teach
my students is be straight and upfront, which I saw they great lack. And don't have trash
pads and trashing and trashing, just try to be very normal and beautiful, that's also one
way of changing the society. Therefore we adapted a different role. And it is up to
anybody how he wants to adapt a role. But basically, lot of different ways are there. And
it's one of the way he adapts. Yes.

Student: Why did you choose to come to the west?

YB: Oh lady, that's very... I came to Canada. One gentleman from Canada went to India
to find a yogi. After six months of spending money and wasting his time he was very
abusive. And at that time I was custom officer at Palam airport. And he was sitting and
grumbling. And that night it was a red night, no plane will leave. But he was so angry I
could see it and as a sympathy, I went to see him. And he was very, very learned
person. So he wanted to know why Indians are so thieves and cheats and they tell they
are land of yogis and there is nobody you know, I heard him one hour. And I asked him,
I said, "You want a yogi, do you know what yoga is?"

So he gave me a very professional answer. And I gave him a very professional

definition of yoga. And we talked and we became friends and he just started coaxing
that I should come. And then some other things happened, Canadian high
commissioner from here was my yoga student in India. I used to teach yoga in my
private hours to anybody who wants to learn. And for my livelihood I was a government
officer. And then it took them two years to root me out to come to Canada.

So I came, first city I came was Toronto and Montreal declared me... luggage-less and
money-less person; they gave me twenty-five bucks, they lost my all my luggage. So in
the streets of Toronto I walked barefooted in the snow as you are seeing it. I lived here
three months but when they told me that I have to clean the pathway everyday and from
snow before the children even walk to their schools I shifted to California.

(Students' laughter)

And thus Canada lost a yogi. I am the first Indian who came as a yoga teacher to the
west. I didn't come as a spiritual person, I didn't come as a physical instructor and I
came as a landed immigrant to begin with and that was the only that yellow envelope
with me when I came to this international airport. They cleared me at Montreal and they
told me your all luggage is gone. And I started totally raw, fresh and new man in the
western world. So I feel it was the will of the God. And the person who was to receive
me was not there at the airport either. So I made it only on one faith. 'In God we trust.'
And I am very practical student of it and I am very proud of this fact that God gave me a
chance to trust Him more than any man, any environments, any government, any
people, any faculties or any facility.

I don't trust anybody. My secretary is right there. She was telling me this morning, God
you don't trust anybody. I said, "I trust God." Why should I trust anybody else, I don't
need to. And that is what brought me to Canada. Canada was the getting strength and
now we are everywhere anyway. Yes.
Student: (------)

YB: No, no, no, you are misunderstanding my attitude, if you trust God, then everything
is God to you. Then special emphasis, you don't trust me, you don't love me, you don't
talk to me, is a very second chakra business.

Student: (------)

YB: Are you kidding? I am the first person to cure you right on the spot.

(Students' laughter)

I need not have to do any hanky-panky. I have my world, in my world I move very freely.
I don't see. You know one thing, ten years what has made me a bum. You know what a
bum is? Bum is a person who knows what he knows, and doesn't know what anything
else tells him to know. Bum is not that who drinks too much. They are called bums but
they are not real bums. Real bums are those who know what they know and they don't
hear anything what everybody else knows. Because I see the manifestation of that
unknown working through every known. And I experience it. And that is very
progressive feeling. Everything happens for you, and you know it is going to happen
and you feel free. That takes away hassle from life, that is what I say, it is your right to
be healthy, happy and holy. It is your birthright. For that you have not to do anything,
provided your all chakras compute right. That proviso is in trouble. Yes, somebody was
asking some question, yes.

Student: (------)

YB: Louder, louder. He is speaking. Little louder ji. Now they are not hearing it, they are
going to shout at you, get up and say it loud, they want to hear the problem.

Student: (------)

YB: Doesn't matter. You are very wealthy, healthy, fit person.

Student: (------)

YB: Simple consciousness, consciousness is stuck in third center. It doesn't go beyond

that. It's not at fault, it's the very simple thing to happen. And this game is played when
the consciousness is stuck at third center. It is very simple. If he can do a...

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