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You will find below a list of situations where people usually find
difficulty in communicating effectively. They vary in difficulty from
individual to individual.
Please score them in relation to the one which you find most challenging
and work through them to the one you find least challenging.
What specific changes did you want this workshop to help you make?
1. Instead of;
I want to;
2. Instead of;
I want to;
3. Instead of;
I want to;
4. Instead of;
I want to;
10. Nobody can get all they want, there has to be some middle ground. ¨
12. I think it is usually best to keep conflicting issues “under the carpet”. ¨
13. In conflict I expect to give ground and I expect the other person
to do the same. ¨
14. I usually ask for more than I want knowing that we will have to
compromise. ¨
19. I’m not really interested in winning at the expense of the other person. ¨
23. Once I sense conflict is coming, I try to change the subject or leave. ¨
24. It may take time, but I will keep working at it until we are both satisfied
with the outcome. ¨
25. I believe that if we take the time to understand each other’s needs, we
can both get most of what we want. ¨
27. I expect others to give way when I want something and make a good
case for it. ¨
28. I usually think other people’s needs are more important than mine. ¨
Question
B
3
Question
7 C
2
12 Question
15 D
20 5
16 Question
23 10 E
19 6
26 13 Question
21 8
14 1
28 9
Total 17 4
18
29 11
Total 24
22
25
Total 27
30
Total
Total
If you have scored more that Five in any particular style you use that
style quite a lot. The higher the score the more you predominately
use that style.
A Further check:
Ask a friend who knows you well and whom you trust to answer the
questions on the test on your behalf.
Assertive Non-Assertive
Assertive Non-Assertive
1. Recognition of need;