A Personal Essay on Self-Confidence & Self-Love

I logged out of my Instagram today and plan on limiting my activity on it. Logging out of
social media meant me logging out of everyone else’s life. I was starting to compare my life
to others and comparing how I look to other men. Social media isn’t the only way that a
person can put themselves down, also our own personal obstacles. In between all of this, men
become overwhelmed and start to limit themselves. I know I do!

I hold myself to high standards and knowing that I was comparing myself to other people
made me feel worthless. It made me less confident and it led me down the road of self-
destruction. My mind was filled with what I could do and be rather than what I am doing
now.

I turned on my favorite song and started singing and dancing and all that I was worried about
was gone. My mind became clear.

Nothing in this life will be easy, we will cry, laugh, scream and be silent. What you do to get
over that wall is what defines you. There’s more than one way over a wall! Remember that!

We learn after our hard times what it means to love ourselves whole heartedly and how
important it is to look in the mirror and say to yourself, “You are worth it.”

Thinking positive thoughts enhances self-love and confidence. See how I told you that I was
comparing myself, those thoughts resulted in me feeling less confident. I put down the phone
and did things that made me feel happy and competent.

Thinking positive is not easy! With everything we as men go through already, positive
thinking takes a lot of discipline. Your body regenerates itself with new cells creating new
thinking and new habits.

Practice positive thinking and start doing things that make you feel like you are enough. If
you think you can change the world, you probably will be the one to do it. Put your social
media to rest and appreciate what’s here, right now, in front of you.

There’s nothing better than maturing and knowing that you are enough. All that you have is
what Allah gave you. Nothing more and nothing less.

You are what Allah made you to be and that’s perfection. You are no mistake and the
mistakes that you do make, help you become the person you were meant to become.
Think of this when you’ve hit a wall, I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be. That helps me
not stress myself with where I am in life. Instead of us encouraging men to be and act what
they see on reality shows, we should be encouraging our men to love what they see first.
Then love what you do and carry yourself with dignity and know that no one can take that
away from you.

Trust yourself and work hard. Life gives no promises, all that the universe recognizes is your
energy. You give out good energy, you will be given exactly what you give out.