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Partner

Flying solo in the gym can kind of be a drag, especially if you're

going through something in your life outside of the gym. Partner
up & make serious gains!

Lifting alone has quite a few benefits.

When lifting solo, you have complete control of program choice, load, exercise variation,
starting time, etc.

Training alone affords you the opportunity to get lost in the “suck” of a session and
deeply focus on each movement and muscle fiber involved without the distraction of
human interaction.

There is no substitute for getting into this type of zone during a session.

Problem is, you can’t predict when it will happen. You can’t predict when life will happen.

Good luck trying to find this mindset when your father is going through cancer
treatments or your 1 year old hasn’t been sleeping at night.

The perfect mental environment for lifting is tough to find on a consistent basis, life is
distracting, and we allow these distractions to show up in the gym in the form of lack of
focus and intensity.

Related: 6 Proven Ways to Boost Workout Motivation

While there is no stopping life and its many ways of getting you off track in the gym, one
method can help you get the most out of your training regardless of your current mental
state:

Training with a solid partner.

How Training with a Workout Partner is Beneficial

The theory that exercise motivation, performance, and adherence increase with a
partner of equal or superior levels of fitness is not something new and has been well
documented. In a study published in The Annals of Behavioral Medicine1, exercise
motivation was tested using 3 separate groups on exercise bikes over the span of 6
separate sessions.

Each group was instructed to ride the bike for as long as they could at a given % of max
HR.  Group 1 rode alone, the 2nd group had a partner, and the 3rd group had a partner
in (perceived) better condition.

Athletes Performing Incline Dumbbell Press

Group 1 rode the bike for an average of 10 minutes, group 2 rode for 19 minutes and
group 3 rode for 21 minutes. Group 3 more than doubled training volume simply
because they were trying to keep up with their partner.

For all the bros who can’t apply this phenomenon to the weight room, think about that
last time you saw your boy throw the 100lb dumbbells up 10x on a set of dumbbell
bench press. When it was your set, would you be happy with 5 reps? 8? Hell no!

Chances are you aren’t stopping until you either pass out or get those 10 reps. Now
think if you were challenged in this way every set for every time you train, the increase in
results are not debatable.

More than for providing friendly competition, a quality partner is good at picking you up
on days when you aren’t 100%. Maybe you got zero sleep the night before a training
session and your partner rolls into the gym fresh off 10 hours of sleep.

In the beginning of that session, you may be dragging but eventually you are going to
push harder to match their intensity.  Even if you can’t quite reach their level, you can be
sure you’ll be getting a lot closer than you would if you were solo - if you even made it to
the gym in the first place.

Related: 7 Habits of Highly Successful & Motivated Gym-Goers

Which brings me to accountability, the fact that you are meeting a fellow lifter who is
counting on you to show up and bring your hard hat to train ensures you are less likely to
blow off the session for Call of Duty and cheese puffs.

Simply getting to the gym more often and making those days when you aren’t “feeling it”
more productive under the bar can produce tangible results when you add it up over
time.

The Search for a Brother in Iron

Choosing a lifting partner isn’t easy. It would be great if it was as easy as texting your
best friend to meet you at the gym and then a few months later heading to the Arnold
Classic with IFBB pro cards in hand, but it doesn’t work that way.

You are looking for someone that is on par with you in terms of work ethic and strength.
While it’s not necessary to be carbon copies of each other, if you are way off in either of
these areas, the motivation isn’t the same.

If you have 135 on the bar and your lifting buddy has 400, seeing him lift that weight can
be more discouraging than motivating, it may even make you throw in the towel and call
it a day. If the roles are reversed, the stronger lifter may not continue to progress to either
avoid discouraging the partner or because he feels like he doesn’t really need to.

Dumbbell Shoulder Press with a Partner

In the end we tend to gravitate to the people around us, starting out at similar levels of
strength is a winning formula2.
Once you find someone that meets the strength and work ethic requirements, there are a
few other characteristics that make a training partner more effective:

Matching schedules: If you can’t meet up, what’s the point?

A decent spotter: Make sure they know not to grab the bar while it’s still moving
against gravity, regardless of how slow it’s moving. If there is a long stalemate give it a
bump, if it’s going backwards, grab it. It’s simple as that.

Someone who cares: Just like any relationship, there needs to be reciprocal
behavior. If you are dialed in during their set and providing the proper cues and spots
when necessary, they should do the same for you. Someone that cares whether you get
better or not will be more likely to pay attention to your lift. A friend or relative should fit
the bill.

A coach who doesn’t overcoach: During a challenging set, one of the first things to
go is lifting form. A partner who can eyeball it and give the appropriate cue to get you
back on track is invaluable.  However, a partner who assumes that yelling at the top of
their lungs will help motivate you to perform better should be disposed of, quickly.

Semi-similar goals: While the goal of your training partner doesn’t have to be
identical to yours, it should at least be in the same wheelhouse. Obviously, problems will
arise if you are a triathlete and your partner is a powerlifter. For most fitness enthusiasts
however, a semi-similar goal will work.

If your partner wants to get stronger and you want to get bigger, both of you will see the
benefits of increased focus and intensity regardless of the specific program. 
Compromising and spending time on both strength and hypertrophy style programs
would benefit both parties in the long run anyways. If one of you is prepping for a
competition on stage or on the platform, all bets are off, find someone else or go alone.

Related: Setting Goals - A Realistic Approach to Consistent

Gains

A positive attitude: This can’t be overstated. A quality training partner must leave the
negativity in their locker. Someone who constantly complains about training (or life in
general) is not someone you want in the squat rack with you during situations that are
stressful enough. 

Nothing is more demotivating than showing up for leg day and your partner complaining
about how much they hate training legs. That type of negativity rubs off, don’t involve
yourself with it if you want to improve.

Wrap Up
While cliché, the old saying “iron sharpens iron” can’t be better observed than in the
weight room.

I can’t begin to count how many reps I would have missed out on without my training
partner, especially on compound movements when there are dire consequences if you
miss the lift.

When you reach failure on a squat and rack the weight before you hit the prescribed rep
count, having someone tell you to “get your ass back in there and finish that damn set”
and proceed to spot you so you can finish the set with your lower back intact is a
beautiful thing.

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References
1. Irwin, B.C., Scorniaenchi, J., Kerr, N.L. et al. ann. behav. med. (2012) 44: 151. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12160-012-
9367-4
2. Plante TG, Madden M, Mann S, et al. Effects of perceived fitness level of exercise partner on intensity of exertion. J Soc
Sci. 2010;6:50–4

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About The Author

Tim Hendren
Tim is an exercise science graduate and CSCS who has been training in
Baltimore MD for over 14 years. While his specialty is body composition, he
has extensive experience working with clients from young athletes to cardiac
rehabilitation patients.
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