The film "Marriage Material" examines the relationship of Andrew and Emily, who agree to babysit their friend's baby for a day. Babysitting awakens Emily's desire to have a child, but Andrew sees the baby as an annoyance. Their differing views of marriage and family cause questions about their future together. During an argument, Andrew admits he does not want to get married, hurting Emily. The film shows how social and cultural factors can influence relationships and choices in ways that affect both individuals.
The film "Marriage Material" examines the relationship of Andrew and Emily, who agree to babysit their friend's baby for a day. Babysitting awakens Emily's desire to have a child, but Andrew sees the baby as an annoyance. Their differing views of marriage and family cause questions about their future together. During an argument, Andrew admits he does not want to get married, hurting Emily. The film shows how social and cultural factors can influence relationships and choices in ways that affect both individuals.
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The film "Marriage Material" examines the relationship of Andrew and Emily, who agree to babysit their friend's baby for a day. Babysitting awakens Emily's desire to have a child, but Andrew sees the baby as an annoyance. Their differing views of marriage and family cause questions about their future together. During an argument, Andrew admits he does not want to get married, hurting Emily. The film shows how social and cultural factors can influence relationships and choices in ways that affect both individuals.
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Public Domain
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The film “Marriage Material,” is a look inside the
relationship of two people, Andrew and Emily, who because of a simple gesture of friendship are forced to take a serious look at their relationship. In this case, it’s the unexpected consequences that come about when Andrew and Emily offer to babysit their friends’ seven-month-old son for the day. At first babysitting is a novelty for both of them, actually more for Emily than for Andrew. Andrew seems ambivalent about their babysitting adventure. Emily is curious about the cost of having and caring for a baby, and when her friend divulges that “babies don’t cost that much,” it intrigues her. However, Andrew seems more interested in just getting through the day and handing the child back to the parents. For Emily, it is the time she spends with the baby that she discovers her maternal, nurturing instinct has been awakened and feels her biological clock has begun to tick. It is this new revelation that has her contemplating the idea of marriage and starting a family—with her boyfriend, Andrew. On the other hand, the vibe from Andrew is he sees the child as nothing more than a distraction to his everyday routine, the reason that is keeping him away from his computer and his writing. Andrew is a man self-absorbed in his work. He is happy with the status quo, but Emily is now longing for something more. It is their different reactions to the experiences of the day that causes them to question their life together and the possibility that neither one of them might be “marriage material.” This short film does a fairly good job of showing how social devaluation, dominant cultural values and even self-concept play a role in our daily interactions, as well as the choices we make. It is these choices and interactions that affect not only us, but the people around us. It is through the eyes of Andrew and Emily that we see how these concepts are played out throughout the film in sometimes verbal and silent interactions. It is apparent that Emily is entranced by this child and the thought of having her own family. She delights in all aspects of mothering from the feeding of the baby; to bath time even to nap time…unfortunately, it is apparent Andrew does not feel the same urge to be a father. He is a so absorbed on the computer with his writing, that the baby and to a certain degree, Emily are nothing more than an annoyance. A few days after their friends leave Emily is sent a photo of the baby. When she goes in to show Andrew a photo of the baby, Andrew is on the computer and basically ignores her. When Emily inquires if he enjoyed having a baby in the house, his only reply was, “yeah, it was good to see them.” She is so desperately trying to find a way to approach him about her feeling on having a baby, but he just turns back to the computer; seemingly bored with the topic. Again, when Emily is telling Andrew about how little it cost to have a child, that even someone as poor as she can afford it, she just wants him to validate her feelings…instead, he says nothing, puts back on his headphones and turns back to the computer. I think his behavior is a form of social devaluation. I think because Andrew does not place the same value on marriage and family that he tends to look down on those who feel differently. The scene where Emily and Andrew are in bed, and she has engaged him into a discussion about marriage is one of the most powerful scenes of the film. This is the point where you can clearly see that their cultural values are not the same. You can just feel the tension building between the two of them as the conversation continues. Emily keeps urging Andrew to talk about getting married and starting a family until he finally blurts out that he’s not interested in marriage. I felt that this was the spot in the film that showed just how divided they were not only on the social institution of marriage, but their dominant cultural values as well. The fact that it is important for her to be married before she gets pregnant, gives an insight to values that were probably instilled in her as a child. The fact that Andrew sees the life they have as just fine the way it is and doesn’t want or need marriage/baby says a lot about how he feels about her. Andrew and Emily have been in a relationship and living together for at least four years, yet they are on completely different pages when it comes to where they want the relationship to go. A good visual image of just how far apart these two are is the collage of photos of Andrew and Emily dangling from ceiling fan. You see photos of Andrew and photos of Emily, but no photos of them together as a couple.
In the beginning of the film it seemed as if Emily had a
positive self-concept; however this changed throughout the film. The first glimpse of this was when she confided to her friend about the “tug of her uterus.” Emily wants to have a baby, but she’s afraid to voice her desire to Andrew for fear of rejection. This is further explored in the scene from the bedroom, where Emily finally expresses her desire for marriage. It is during this tension filled conversation that Andrew, feeling cornered about expressing his own feelings, snaps at Emily. In a demoralizing rant, he goes off on how Emily never stops talking, she never allows him to talk. He continues on further, saying that no one can talk when she’s around and even though he has publicly chastised her about this, she still has not stopped. This might explain why Emily has a poor self-concept. Maybe Andrew thinks if he can make her mad enough, she’ll drop the subject of marriage—but she doesn’t. Andrew’s answer of not wanting to get married hurts Emily, it is not what she was expecting and is clearly a blow to her ego. You can just feel her hurt and rejection as she asks him, why he doesn’t want to marry her. She’s got to be feeling that it’s her fault that Andrew doesn’t want to marry her. The sense of sadness that Emily feels as turns over to go to sleep is very evident. The next scene cuts to where Emily is working out on the floor. It poses the question, “is she working out because she likes to work out?” or “is she working out because she has body-image issues?” We know she has a trust issue by the way she says that since Andrew travels all the time, it would make her feel better if he had a ring on his finger. However, do these trust issues stem from her childhood or has Andrew done something to break that trust? Marriage Material allowed the viewer to look at the complexities of a relationship through the lives of two young people. We could see how things as dominant cultural values, social devaluation and a person’s own self-concept can lead to a breakdown in how we communicate. To me, I felt the film was like a three-part play with each act allowing us to look a little deeper into their relationship. Each act connecting to the other to show how one little event can snowball into a much larger event. In the case of Andrew and Emily, it was something as little as a seven-month old baby that caused Emily to stop suppressing her desire to have a baby. For Andrew, the caring of the baby only proved to be a distraction in his writing. From watching the interaction and dialog between the two of them throughout the film, it became apparent they did not place the same emphasis on society’s institution of marriage. In the last few scenes of the film, we see both of them outside doing yard work. They are still together, but somehow there is a great divide between them. Something has changed for both of them. There is a sense of defeat in Emily, a kind of sadness. She knows that Andrew is not “marriage material,” so where does she fit into his life. Andrew must also re-evaluate his feelings for Emily. Can he change his values to fit hers, does he even want to? Initially, I thought based on the description of the film, “a couple agrees to watch a friends’ baby,” that it might have some light-hearted moments…two inexperienced twenty- something’s trying to care for a baby. Instead it was the complete opposite. It was a great film to watch from a sociological standpoint. It was just sad to watch the breakdown and deterioration of a relationship.
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