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The Approach Manifesto: by Bobby Rio
The Approach Manifesto: by Bobby Rio
Manifesto
By
Bobby Rio
I
want
to
let
you
in
on
the
big
secret
to
meeting
more
women.
Nope.
Yet, the majority of us still avoid doing those things...
Why?
Yep.
Then
it
is
to
deal
with
the
momentary
discomfort
of
breaking
the
ice
with
a
stranger...
Just
like
it's
easier
to
say
tomorrow
I'll
go
the
gym...
then
it
is
to
deal
with
the
discomfort
of
thirty
minutes
on
a
treadmill...
It's
your
infinite
ability
to
put
off
talking
to
women
for
another
day...
that
is
really
stopping
you
from
meeting
more
of
them...
So
if
you're
not
really
that
scared
to
approach
a
woman...
then
why
do
you
procrastinate?
The
cold
hard
truth
is
that
you
procrastinate
approaching
women
because
you're
just
not
motivated
enough
to
do
it.
Lack of Motivation Is Keeping You From
Approaching…
Now
I
can
already
here
you
saying:
“Bobby, I’m extremely motivated to talk to girls. It’s all I think about.”
Who do you think is more motivated to go the gym?
A
400
pound
guy
whose
doctor
just
told
him
that
if
he
doesn't
get
some
exercise
he's
gonna
have
a
heart
attack...
Or
a
guy
who's
in
decent
shape,
been
going
to
the
gym
for
a
couple
months
and
is
starting
to
see
some
results...
He's got A LOT more to lose if he doesn't get in shape...
Yet,
if
you'd
guessed
the
threat
of
death
would
have
made
him
the
more
motivated
one...
The 400 pound guy has never gone to the gym...
He's
lifting
more
weights,
his
pants
fit
him
better,
and
when
he
flexes
he's
starting
to
see
some
outline
of
muscles...
He can't wait to get up in the morning and go the gym...
Why?
Since he's starting to see results he's imaging himself with a six pack...
He's thinking about what his ex is gonna say when she sees him...
He feels unstoppable...
How did he suddenly get super motivated to the gym?
And
its
actually
something
you
can
use
just
as
easily
to
motivate
yourself
to
meet
more
women...
So
in
the
previous
section
we
determined
that
what's
really
stopping
you
from
meeting
more
women
is
procrastination.
Donkeys are dumb animals. So they'll focus on that carrot forever...
A donkey will stay motivated to chase a carrot it’s never tasted.
We won't.
He's
gonna
be
a
lot
more
motivated
to
keep
hitting
the
gym
then
the
400
pound
guy
(even
though
the
400
pound
guy's
life
might
depend
on
him
losing
the
weight)
Why?
The
400
pound
guy
imagines
that
a
fit,
healthy
body
is
just
a
"carrot
on
a
stick"
that
he'll
chase
forever....
Nod your head if what you're about to read describes your current reality...
You go out, you see a woman you'd like to talk to...
And
you
think
"I
don't
know
what
to
say...
Next
time
I'll
do
it"
After
a
while
you
don't
even
bother
to
make
excuses
or
blame
yourself...
You
simply
give
up.
And
decide
that
the
carrot
isn't
worth
the
chase...
As you've accepted the "Non Approach" Habit as part of your life...
"I'm just not the kind of guy who approaches random women..."
Yet,
in
the
back
of
your
mind
there
is
always
this
gnawing
voice
saying
"I
can't
settle
for
this"
"I
can't
settle
for
this"
Every
night
you're
home
alone...
or
on
a
date
with
a
woman
you're
not
attracted
to...
Well, the good news is that you don't have to.
1.
It's
not
fear
keeping
you
from
meeting
women...
its
lack
of
proper
motivation.
3.
You
begin
to
view
the
idea
of
approaching
and
meeting
new
women
as
a
"carrot
on
a
stick"
that
isn't
worth
chasing.
4.
The
quickest
way
to
change
a
bad
habit
like
the
Non-‐
Approach"
habit
is
to
get
a
taste
of
the
carrot
and
build
some
momentum.
Agreed?
So the question becomes how do we finally taste the carrot?
Here goes...
Yep.
In
fact,
make
it
so
easy
on
yourself
that
you
can't
help
but
get
results.
That's NOT what most gurus are telling you to do...
2. Force yourself to approach 10 women per day to build confidence.
4. Memorize someone else’s long winded story and use that as an opener
(Don’t you just want to punch them in the face when someone tells you that)
a) Hard.
b) Not fun
Sure, maybe the first day you'll go out there and force yourself to...
But
will
power
never
lasts
long.
You
CAN
NOT
depend
on
will-‐power
to
get
yourself
to
approach
women.
And
you
get
momentum
by
making
the
act
of
approaching
women
both
Easy
and
Fun.
In
the
next
section
I’m
going
to
show
you
how
to
make
approaching
women
super
easy…
If
walking
up
to
random
woman
and
starting
a
conversation
intimidates,
then
you
definitely
want
to
read
this
report.
Because
you’re
going
to
learn
how
a
handful
of
“hacks”
that
make
approaching
women
A
LOT
easier.
And
once
you
learn
these
you
can
meet
more
woman
then
you
know
what
to
do
with…
without
ever
having
to
cold
approach
a
stranger
again.
At
some
point
during
the
night
almost
every
girl
in
the
party
is
going
to
make
a
trip
to
the
bathroom…
usually
alone,
or
with
only
one
or
two
friends…
…Plus
the
bathroom
is
usually
away
from
the
loud
music
and
commotion…
making
much
more
natural
to
start
a
conversation…
For some reason it seems conversation is sparked effortlessly there…
And
then
later
in
the
night
when
I
approached
her
again,
it
was
no
longer
a
cold
approach…
since
we
had
previously
talked.
You can even stack them on top of each other…
Next
time
she
sees
you
she
feels
like
she’
s
known
you
forever…
making
it
super
easy
to
escalate
quickly
the
conversation…
A
few
years
back
in
New
York
they
banned
smoking
in
bars
and
clubs…
this
opened
up
a
goldmine
of
opportunity
for
meeting
women.
Why?
Because
now
there
are
dozens
of
women
standing
outside
the
bar
(usually
alone)
smoking…
I
don’t
even
smoke,
but
I
usually
hang
out
there,
because
the
conversation
comes
easily…
And
yep,
later
in
the
night
all
the
girls
you
chatted
up
outside
have
gone
from
cold
approaches
to
warm
approaches…
Not to mention that bars are basically a real estate game…
If
you
get
there
early
and
have
a
spot
near
the
bar…
women
literally
come
to
you…
You
can
literally
sit
back,
and
be
certain
that
every
few
minutes
a
new
girl
will
be
standing
a
few
feet
away
from
you…
Most of the time they’ll start the conversation while their waiting for their drink…
Some
people
say
they
would
like
to
have
the
advantage
of
having
superior
meat
from
which
to
make
their
hamburgers.
Someone usually wants to be able to offer the lowest prices.
Anyway,
after
the
students
are
finished
telling
what
advantages
they
would
most
like
to
have
he’d
say
to
them:
"O.K.,
I'll
give
you
every
single
advantage
you
asked
for.
I,
myself,
only
want
one
advantage
and,
if
you
will
give
it
to
me,
I
will
whip
the
pants
off
of
all
of
you
when
it
comes
to
selling
burgers!"
If
we’re
looking
to
make
approaching
women
as
easy
as
possible…
then
wouldn’t
the
easiest
woman
in
the
world
to
approach
be
the
one
who
is
actually
looking
to
be
approached…
Even more specifically, a woman looking to be approached by a guy like you…
You knew exactly why she was there (to meet a dude).
That’s just one example of putting yourself in front of a starving crowd…
He’s
actually
still
dating
a
hot
Latina
girl
he
met
on
the
cruise…
A
few
weeks
back
I
got
an
email
from
one
of
Social
Training
Lab
clients…
Sebastian
Another example of putting yourself in front of a starving crowd….
A
woman
who
attends
and
pays
for
a
weekly
salsa
class…
and
isn’t
there
with
a
boyfriend…
has
just
raised
her
hand
and
said,
yes,
I’m
open
to
meet
someone….
Easy.
The
more
you
hate
cold
approaching
the
more
you
need
to
find
ways
to
make
it
easier
on
yourself.
Now
even
when
you’re
in
front
of
a
starving
crowd…
even
when
you’re
in
front
of
a
group
of
woman
that
are
actively
looking
to
be
approached…
You
can
still
make
it
easier
on
yourself….
How so?
Yes,
whether
you
realize
it
or
not,
every
day,
every
time
you
go
out,
there
are
women
who
are
trying
their
damnedest
to
get
your
attention
and
to
get
you
to
approach
them…
I’ve talked in depth about this with a lot of extremely hot girls…
And
girls
will
tell
me
how
the
most
frustrating
thing
in
the
world
for
them
is
when
they
hear
a
guy
say
“oh
you’re
a
girl
you
can
get
laid
anytime
you
want…”
And
the
girl
is
like
“
Sure,
if
I
put
a
sign
up
that
said
I’m
looking
to
go
with
someone…”
But
short
of
that,
these
women
go
out
all
the
time…
sometimes
they’re
looking
for
some
male
affection,
sometimes
its
that
time
of
the
month
and
they’re
just
freaken
horny,
sometimes
they’ve
just
been
dumped
and
their
looking
for
a
revenge
lay…
Yes,
they
send
all
the
signals…
and
guys
just
don’t
pickup
what
they’re
putting
down…
I
think
you’ll
agree,
that
there
is
no
easier
girl
to
approach
then
one
that
is
actively
trying
to
get
your
attention
and
hinting
that
she
wants
to
talk
to
you…
Now
if
she’s
with
a
group,
and
she
might
also
accidentally
separate
herself
from
the
group…
Or she might just keep finding excuses to walk past you….
IF
she’s
already
close
to
you,
she
might
shift
her
body
language
to
be
more
open
to
you…
to
show
you
that
she’s
available
for
you
to
approach…
Did
you
take
advantage
of
it…
or
did
you
just
let
her
apologize
and
keep
walking…
(If
you
kept
walking
you
missed
an
opportunity)
One
of
the
most
obvious
things
a
woman
will
do
when
she
wants
to
talk
to
you…
is
she’ll
eavesdrop
on
your
conversation…
She’ll
noticeably
laugh
at
one
of
your
jokes
she’s
overheard…
or
even
throw
her
own
opinion
in
to
try
to
get
your
attention…
Maybe she’ll even drop something near you hoping that you’ll pick it up…
Now,
women
are
not
stupid…
and
they
know
you
need
an
opener…
so
they’ll
try
their
damnedest
to
give
you
one…
If
she’s
reading
a
book
or
looking
at
something
she’ll
try
to
let
you
see
so
that
you
can
ask
her
about
it…
If
she’s
looking
at
something
or
someone
she’ll
talk
out
loud
to
herself
so
that
you
realize
she
wants
you
to
comment
on
it
too…
She’s
handing
you
an
opener
on
a
silver
platter…
Of
course
there
are
some
girls
who
are
subtler…
and
with
those
girls,
you’ll
have
to
pay
closer
attention
to
body
language…
If
she
catches
you
looking
she
might
push
her
hair
out
of
the
way
so
you
can
see
her
face
better….she
adjusts
her
clothes
after
looking
at
you…
Whether
it’s
a
girl
in
your
class…
girls
in
the
bar…
girls
at
the
park…
the
girl
in
your
yoga
lesson
…
or
just
a
girl
you
see
in
the
hallway
at
work…
And
if
you
want
to
have
the
best
possible
chance
at
success
you
really
need
to
learn
to
spot
them.
We said You need to put yourself in front of a starving crowd…
This
means
you
need
to
find
the
best
possible
location
to
meet
women
and
you
need
to
spot
the
woman
that
are
actively
looking
to
be
approached…
and
particularly
the
woman
who
are
sending
you
the
signals
that
they
want
you
to
approach
them…
But
there
is
one
more
missing
ingredient
in
making
this
as
easy
as
possible
for
you…
It’s not enough to be in the right place at the right time…
You need to be the right person at the right time…
Chances
are
more
often
that
you
care
to
admit…
you
saw
a
woman…
and
you
just
knew
that
if
you
went
over
and
talked
to
her…
Maybe
you
talked
yourself
out
of
it
by
finding
some
excuse
like
“she
doesn’t
seem
like
she
wants
to
be
bothered”
Or
Or
You froze up, felt uncomfortable, and let the moment pass by.
And
without
this
mojo,
all
the
best
pickup
lines,
all
the
approach
me
signals,
and
all
the
starving
crowds
in
the
world
won’t
help
you
meet
you
meet
women.
If
you’re
sick
and
tired
of
feeling
frustrated
and
even
a
little
confused
about
why
you
just
can’t
get
yourself
to
grow
some
balls
and
approach
women…
I’ve
got
another
free
video
coming
tomorrow
that
will
address
the
idea
of
becoming
the
right
guy
in
the
right
place
and
the
right
time…
The video is called The 3 Silent Killers of Your Mojo Around Women…
And
in
this
video
I
am
going
to
expose
what
it
really
is
that
is
preventing
you
from
approaching
women…
And
realizing
what
it
is…
and
how
EASY
it
is
to
fix…
will
have
you
well
on
your
way
to
meeting
that
one
girl
(you
know
the
one
I’m
talking
about).
The subject line will say: 3 Silent Killers of Your Mojo Around Women.
You’re
friend,
Bobby Rio
P.S.
Before
the
next
time
you
go
out,
review
this
PDF
and
implement
these
simple
tips
for
making
approaching
woman
a
lot
easier.
P.P.S.
If
you
stick
with
me
over
the
next
couple
days
I
am
going
to
show
you
how
to
make
approaching
women
completely
easy
and
natural…
to
the
point
you’ll
wonder
why
you
were
ever
scared
at
all.