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Let’s examine features that are present in any interaction you might have. The
transactional model of communication reflects the fact that people involved in an
interpersonal interaction participate together in the act of communicating. The model
includes at least two participants, who bring personal qualities to the interaction, as well as
their own thoughts and their impressions of their partner. Together, these participants
create and interpret symbols that represent ideas. The interaction unfolds in a context that
includes everything from physical characteristics of the setting to the cultural environment.
The process of interpersonal communication also unfolds over time. Although we’ve
identified the separate parts of an interaction to help you learn about them, in practice, all
of these components come together to create a holistic and dynamic experience that is
communication. In this section, we consider five characteristics of interpersonal
communication that are implied by this model.
TYPES OF MESSAGES
As you learned previously, interpersonal communication involves creating shared
meaning with people. In this section, we describe the two general kinds of meanings
created through interpersonal communication: content messages and relational messages.
Content messages are the literal or typical meanings of the symbols used to
communicate. Consider the question “Are you using your car this afternoon?” You can
attach a dictionary or literal meaning to those words and easily decipher the content
meaning – the speaker wants to know if you will be doing something that involves your
car. You can probably also recognize the conventional or typical meaning: this question
often means that the speaker would like to borrow your car. As this example shows, content
messages can be the direct or literal meaning of the words, or they can be the indirect
meanings of the symbols that are used.
Relational messages are the meanings that symbols have for the relationship between
communicators. Let’s continue the previous example. What kind of relationship do you
think exists between communication partners if one asks the other, “Are you using your
car this afternoon?” Notice that you aren’t focused on the meanings of the words
themselves, but what those words imply about the relationship. The communicators
probably aren’t strangers or enemies, because we don’t usually ask strangers or enemies
about their cars or their afternoon plans. The speaker’s choice of words also suggests that
the partners aren’t really, really close – if they were, the speaker might just say, “Hey, I
need your car.” The symbols used to communicate shed some light on the relationship that
exists between communication partners. In this case, you might conclude that the
communicators have a familiar, but not intimate, relationship.
The relational messages present in an interpersonal interaction might reflect one
person’s attempt to change the relationship – perhaps by making it more or less close. An
acquaintance who asks how you are handling the demands of your new job is showing
interest in your life that might suggest a closer bond. On the other hand, a friend from your
hometown who doesn’t want to hear about your experiences in college may also be telling
you that you aren’t as close as you used to be. Research shows that people in interpersonal
relationships often avoid discussing their relationship explicitly, especially if they aren’t
sure about whether their relationship is romantic or just friends. How do people negotiate
intimacy when they don’t talk about it directly? They pay attention to the relational
messages that show up when other topics are discussed.
Sometimes, relational messages are easily seen in the words or behaviors used to
communicate, as in the case of phrases like “I’m so glad that we’re friends,” or “I want a
divorce.” Often, though, relational messages have to be inferred from a communicator’s
choice of symbols. As we make sense of relational messages, we use the three sources of
information summarized in Table 1.2. The symbols themselves are one source of
information about a relationship, especially if relationship information is expressed
explicitly. Your previous relationship with a communication partner also helps you
interpret that person’s symbols. Third, the situation offers important clues to the meaning
of relational messages. Although relational messages can be hard to decipher, they are an
important part of interpersonal communication
CONTEXTS
Interpersonal communication can unfold between strangers, acquaintances, close
friends, or family members. Most often, your communication partners will be people with
whom you have a personal relationship. The shared history you have with your friends,
family members, or romantic partner makes it easy to form a personal connection when
you communicate. Communication is also essential to developing and maintaining
closeness in personal relationships. In this section, we remind you of some of the other
contexts in which you experience interpersonal communication.
Organizations. The workplace is a venue in which people have many interpersonal
interactions. What happens within organizations depends a lot on the characteristics of the
particular setting – whether it is formal or casual, whether there is a clear power hierarchy,
or whether the industry traditionally employs men, or women, or both men and women.
Within the organizational structure, people’s experiences are also shaped by their
interpersonal interactions. When you and a co- worker chat about your personal lives, when
you pitch an idea to your boss, when you influence the decisions made by your team, and
when you address a conflict about work schedules, you use interpersonal communication
to connect with people. Moreover, interpersonal interactions with co-workers provide
important, emotionally fulfilling experiences, and they allow us to express and work
through our own personal issues. Thus, interpersonal communication is an integral part of
organizations.
Health settings. Interpersonal communication also occurs in contexts related to your
health and well-being. Communication researchers have shown that giving and receiving
affectionate messages decreases physical symptoms of stress and improves people’s ability
to recover from stressful experiences. In addition, the people in our lives might use
interpersonal communication to persuade us to adopt a healthier lifestyle or maybe to
engage in behaviors that pose a health risk. Our interactions with medical professionals
also affect whether we get the care we need to maintain or regain our health. The study
described in the “Inside Communication Research” box shows how interpersonal
communication can have important consequences for our immediate and long-term well-
being.
Computer-mediated communication. Many interpersonal communication
experiences involve computers and technology such as email, instant messaging, text
messaging, chat rooms, discussion boards, online social networks (e.g., Facebook), and
virtual worlds. Using technology, we are able to create a personal connection with others
that transcends the separations imposed by time or space. Computer-mediated
communication refers generally to the variety of ways in which computer technology
allows people to exchange messages with each other. Computer-mediated communication
offers a less threatening communication venue for people who get anxious about talking to
new acquaintances. In fact, Jen knows two men who prefer to address conflicts about their
shared apartment using instant messaging, which they rely on even while they are sitting
at computers in the same room! Given the volume of messages that we create and share via
technology, our understanding of interpersonal communication necessarily embraces
computer-mediated interactions.
TIPS
You can learn to communicate more effectively if you appreciate the nuances of this
rich and dynamic process.
Recognize the fallibility of symbols. One of the first steps toward developing your
interpersonal communication skills is recognizing that communication is inherently
flawed. The symbols you use will always have a different meaning to your interaction
partner than they do to you, and you will never get your point across exactly as you
intended. If you recognize that interpersonal communication is fallible, you can take steps
to reduce miscommunication.