The Conversation Code:: 101 Innocent Ways To Unlock A Woman's Desire To Want To Talk To You

The Conversation Code:

101 innocent ways to unlock a woman's
desire to want to talk to you

Table of Contents
Introduction Pg. 2
Chapter 1: Get her to Approach You Pg. 4
Chapter 2: Get her to Smile Pg. 8
Chapter 3: Attract her at a Coffee Shop Pg. 11
Chapter 4: Attract her at a Social Event Pg. 14
Chapter 5: Transport Pg. 18
Chapter 6: Attract her at a Bar Pg. 20
Chapter 7: Attract her at Work Pg. 23
Chapter 8: Attract her While Shopping Pg. 25
Chapter 9: Attract her on the Street Pg. 28
Chapter 10: Attract her at the Strip Club Pg. 32
Chapter 11: Advanced Techniques to get Things Sexual Pg. 35
Chapter 12: Next Steps Pg. 39

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Introduction

Start typing "how to talk to" into google, and the next word that comes up is "girls"...
followed shortly by "girls at parties", "a woman", "a girl you like" and "your crush". And
we're not alone because women have this problem too "a guy" is also right up there!

One of the most common and normal questions most people have is how to talk to
someone they're attracted to. In truth, there isn't any one answer; because it depends
on the situation. That's why I've put this book together, to cover all the different ways to
start conversations with a girl and when to use which one .

My name is Adam Lyons, and before I settled down with my two girlfriends, I was voted
#1 pickup artist in the world three years in a row. I've picked up literally thousands of
women, and now I want to share with you exactly how you can talk to girls just as easily
as I do.

Knowing how to start these conversations is only part of the problem. The biggest part is
getting out there and putting this information to good use. So many guys are shy about
starting conversations with girls, but the irony is that so many of these guys are the nice
guys women always say they want.

So before you go any further; think about these questions for a moment:
Do you treat women well?
Do you want then women in your life to be happy?
Are you basically a decent guy?

Because if the answer to these questions is “yes”, then there are literally millions of
women out there HOPING a guy like you will start a conversation with them! Let me say
that one more time:

Women a lready want to talk to you.

And this book will show you how to start conversations in a way that demonstrates that
you really are the kind of guy they want to talk to; the kind you are already.

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Before you start reading the different techniques, I’d like you to promise me one thing
before you go any further. Once you’ve read this book, the next time you see an
interesting woman, start a conversation with her. I don’t need you to talk to a million
women, or a hundred, or even ten. Just start one conversation with one woman; the next
one. And I promise that from that point on, everything will get so much easier.

Now let’s get started!

Adam

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Chapter 1:
GET HER TO APPROACH YOU
Each of the Techniques within this chapter are designed to get someone to approach
you without you needing to say anything. They work based on Psychological principles
and body language movements that help someone feel more comfortable approaching
you.

Each technique contains an explanation of the psychology behind why it works, and the
best ways for you to use it and to make it work.

1. Lock Eye Contact and Smile

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Eye contact is one of the first ways we connect with strangers. Humans also have an
instinct that makes them mimic the facial expression that they see. So, if you smile at a
girl, she’ll instinctively smile back at you. Using this technique, you’ve started building
comfort and can signal for her to come over and talk to you.

2. Have Female Friends

Walking anywhere with a group of women is going to do wonders for your confidence
and your Game. There is a concept known as Preselection that enters women’s minds
when they see a man hanging out with a lot of good looking women. “They like him so
he must be an attractive guy.” You instantly start being seen as more attractive and will
have women coming up to you trying to figure out who you are.

3. Dress Sharp

When you dress nice, it shows women that you care about how you look and you know
how to dress. Not only will this do wonders for your confidence, it will make women
curious as to why you’re dressed so nicely. People typically only dress nice for fancy
events so if you’re a guy that dresses sharp all the time, you’ll start piquing the interest
of gorgeous women wherever you go.

4. Don’t Hang Around with Guys

Nothing looks more downtrodden than a group of guys sitting around just hoping that
they’ll “Get lucky” with some girl that they meet. Sure, you should be hanging out with
your guy friends and have your “Bro Time”, but make sure that you’re not ONLY hanging
out with your boys when you’re out and about. Make sure that you’ve got girls involved in
your group otherwise, no woman is going to want to come and approach you. Think
about the dynamics. One girl in a group of three or more guys is going to be constantly
hit on by most if not all of them and she’s going to become uncomfortable and want to
leave. So, make sure you have several women with you at all times if you’re going out
with a group.

5. Be Friendly with Staff

Being nice to the staff of any establishment makes you look good. Not only does it make
you look like you’re a nice person to everyone and you don’t think anyone is beneath
you, it also gets you an in with wherever you go out. Staff will hook you up with discounts
at their place of work. It also makes you look like a VIP target if you go to a place and a
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woman sees you being friendly with everyone that works at that establishment. You kind
of become an instantly celebrity and women will want to know who you are.

6. Talk to Her Pet

Not just women but people in general become OBSESSED with their pets. They’re
basically tiny, furry children. If you start talking to a girl’s pet, she’ll immediately become
more comfortable because; One, you’re a fan of her pet and Two, You’re comfortable
talking to the animal that she probably talks to as well, except in private. This will build
comfort and rapport with her, and she’ll start the conversation with you just because you
were talking to her fluffy little ball of joy.

7. Use the Coy Look

When you’re in a location and make eye contact with a girl, have you noticed that
sometimes she’ll smile at you and then look away but is still smiling? This is her playing
coy. First off, that was a huge signal and you should go over there and talk to her but
second off, you can ALSO use that look to get women to approach you. If you’re out and
about on your own or in a group of friends and you like eyes with a cute girl, flash her a
smile and wait for her to smile back. Then look away, and don’t look at her again for at
least another 10 minutes. If she, hasn’t come over to talk to yet, she either wasn’t
actually interested or you just need to do it again until she does.

8. Have Fun

No girl is going to want to come and talk to you if you’re just sitting down with low energy
and not having fun wherever you are. You don’t seem like a fun guy at that point. If
you’ve got a lot of positive energy and you’re meeting people and pumping them up,
women in the vicinity will notice that. They’ll want to come and talk to you because you’re
the “Fun Guy” just out having a good time. The best part about this is you’re not even
trying to attract a woman, you’re just out having a good time and women will flock to you
because of that.

9. Don’t get Drunk

When you get drunk, your chances of success go down significantly. You lose your
inhibitions and start doing things that you might think are acceptable but are a huge turn
off to women. When you’re sober, you’re on your Agame. You’ve got all of these
techniques in your back pocket and are able to use them at a moment’s notice. Being
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drunk makes you slow and sluggish and causes you to make poor decisions. No girl has
ever approached a drunk guy thinking that he’s the most attractive person in the room.
So do yourself a favor, and just stay sober when you’re gaming.

10. Have “Open” Shoulders

When you have “Open” shoulders, your body language shows that you’re inviting people
in. You’ve probably seen people that have that classic slouch in their shoulders and it
makes them appear closed off and shy. With your shoulders casually open, you appear
confident and friendly and it will make women much more comfortable coming over and
talking to you.

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Chapter 2:
GET HER TO SMILE
If a woman smiles within the first 1020 seconds of an interaction your chances of
generating attraction significantly increase.

Each of the techniques below are designed to be a little more humorous to get her (and
you) to have a more fun and flirty interaction. Because of this it’s important that each
one is said with a smile, and a positive friendly attitude to give it the maximum chance of
success.

In fact if you use these with a serious tone you run the risk of coming across as a little
weird and uncalibrated.

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1. “Hey, can you Help me? I was Supposed to Meet this Cute Girl and she
Looks like (Describe the appearance of the girl you’re talking to).

You can use this line in any location that you’re at and essentially, you’ve just started a
fun game that she can play along with or not. Either way, you’ve gotten her to smile,
which gets you one step closer to generating even more attraction with her.

2. “Is it Just me, or is that Guy Dancing a little Strange?”

This is a great opener because it helps you guys start gossiping. Humans love to gossip
and they only do it with the people that are close to them. You’re next step could be to
try and mimick this Strange Dancing Man’s dance moves and make them extremely silly
and exaggerated. She will definitely smile at you purposely embarrassing yourself for
her entertainment.

3. “Do you think People Will Judge me If I Just order a Warm milk with
Cookies?”

This can be best utilized at a bar but you can definitely use it at a coffee shop or
restaurant. Just imagine someone ordering milk and cookies at a bar...That in and of
itself is absolutely hilarious. If you a girl doesn’t smile at a question like that, she’s
probably not worth the time.

4. “I’d like to apologize for the weather, I did all sorts of rain dances this
morning, it just didn’t seem to work.”

It’s always hilarious when you apologize for something that couldn’t possibly be your
fault, like trying to make the weather different. This will definitely get a girl to laugh and
become interested in you as you’re someone that actually has a sense of humor.

5. “Wow that elevator really is taking it’s time, I’m guessing I just pushed the
button wrong”

Blaming yourself for things that you clearly have no control of is always a funny way to
make her smile. This goes along with the previous line. She will often play along and
you’ll start a very light and fun conversation with a great first impression!

6. “Oh man, now I’m going to have to buy (item she is holding) Advertising
works so well on me”
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This is a great way to start a conversation about something that you know that she is
thinking about and is on her mind. At the same time making her laugh because nobody
admits that advertising works on them… She’ll laugh or smile and will be very open to
talking to you because you are talking about something that is currently on her mind!

7. “You know those moments when you see someone cute, but you don’t
know what to say? Yeah, I hate that...What’s your Name?”

This sets you up to make her smile right off the bat. She knows that you’re obviously
talking about her. It’s also a great way to instantly let her know that you find her attractive
and that you’re comfortable letting girls know that.

8. “So… You’re Cute. I’m Cute. I Was Thinking Maybe We Could Go Off
Sometime And Just Be Cute Together. What Do You Think?”

Comedy comes in threes. This line utilizes that technique by using the word “Cute” three
times in quick succession. That alone should be good enough to make her smile but if it
doesn’t, the fact that you’re telling her that you think she’s cute and want to take her out
sometime will definitely get her show off her wonderful smile.

9. “You want to know something really strange but fun to do? Just go up to a
stranger, completely serious, and ask them, ‘Where’s my f***ing money?’.
Here, watch.”

This one is a bit ballsy but it shows that you’re willing to embarrass yourself for others
entertainment and that you have serious confidence just going up and talking to
strangers. No matter how the interaction goes with the stranger you ask the question to,
this girl is going to laugh because this is a hysterical thing to do.

10. “Hey Could I get Your Opinion Real Quick? If You Were Into Girls, Would
You Swipe Left or Right?” Hold Up Your Tinder App.

Using this opener not only is going to make this girl smile but, it also shows that you’re
already valuing her opinion. It also utilizes the idea of abundance and shows that you’re
able to get women even if it’s through using a dating app. You can also proceed to ask
her if she’d be willing to take a look at your Tinder profile and spruce it up a bit.
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Chapter 3:
ATTRACT HER AT A COFFEE SHOP
Coffee shops are the place you’re most likely to run into someone new. Especially if you
are someone who visits a coffee shop once a day for your daily caffeine fix.

With people waiting around to be served in the line, and then waiting again for their
order to be prepared it can be the perfect time to start a conversation with someone
you’re attracted to.

In fact it often makes sense to get into the practice of speaking to people in general
inside a coffee shop. That way when you do see someone you’re attracted to you don’t
feel the added pressure of starting a conversation inside the coffee shop as it’s just
something you usually do.

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1. Request a New Opinion of What Drink to Get

Stand in Line and ask the person next to you for a new suggestion because you always
get the same thing. People are very open to sharing their opinion and helping others
and since you’re in a coffee shop, this is one of the most natural ways to start a
conversation.

2. “Do You Mind if I Sit With You? All of the Other Tables Are Taken”

If you’re in a busy coffee shop, this line is a great excuse to sit with someone and start a
conversation. Unless she is waiting on someone else to join her, she’ll have a hard time
saying no and this buys you a LOT of time to continue the conversation and attempt to
build attraction. If you’re in a mostly empty coffee shop, you can still deliver this line in a
tongueincheek way. It will work the same way plus make her laugh at your bold, playful
delivery.

3. Put Up a Sign That Says “Free 15 Minute Coffee Date”

Literally, just do this. You’d be surprised as to how many women will sit down and try and
figure out who you are just because you had the confidence to put up a sign saying you
were giving away free dates. It will increase your confidence levels and show you how
many hundreds of women find you attractive

4. “Do You Mind if I Sit Here to Eat? I’ve Decided I’m Not Going To Eating
Alone This Week, So If You Say No… I Will Starve. But No Pressure.”

This will work nine times out of ten because you’ve given an instant justification. You’ve
said that you will no longer be eating alone and you’ve told her that she can totally say
no...except you won’t be able to eat. So, if she says no, she’ll feel guilty because you
can’t eat but then you can just go find someone else to eat with. But, she’s going to say
yes because you’ve given a justification and made her laugh.

5. “Are You Doing Anything Exciting After Your Shift Ends?”

Baristas get tired of talking about coffee all day. Their minds are looking forward to after
their shift ends. So you’ll find it very easy to start a conversation with a barista by asking
them about their plans after they get off work. At the same time you’re gathering
information for later when you ask them to join you for “real drinks” later on.

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6. “So What Time Is You Shift Over?”

Like the line before, this gets you information that you will need for later at the same time
talking about something you know that the barista is excited about. Ending her shift.

7. “Wait, is your name (Insert name written on coffee cup)?”

Not only is this a way for you to learn her name, it’s also a good way of making her
smile. She might not even realize that you were able to get her name from her coffee
cup and will be wanting to know how you figured it out.

8. “Hey! Want To Play Checkers With Me? It Get’s Boring to Play Alone…”

If nothing else, this opener will definitely get her smiling. When she sits down to play you
and you’ve built a little bit of comfort, offer a bet on the game. Winner takes the losers
phone number or something along those lines. This puts a bit of pressure to win the
game because now you both have something on the line.

9. “Hey Can I Get Your Opinion On Something? Should I Get Whip Cream? I
Always Feel Guilty When I Say Yes, But If YOU Say Yes, then It’s Not My
Fault If I Get Fat.”

Whether you believe it or not, most people have this thought cross their brain when
getting whipped cream. People know whipped cream probably isn’t the best choice but
they get it anyway because it’s delicious. Using this line, you’ve immediately created a
commonality AND you’ve made a funny joke. Next is just implementing your attraction
techniques.

10. “Excuse Me, I Just Saw You From Across The Room and Something Inside
of Me Said That if I Didn’t Come Over Here to Say Hello, That I Would
Regret it For the Rest of The Day… So Hi! What’s Your Name?”

This is a very direct open and honestly, they work nine times out of ten. Being open and
honest about why you’re talking to someone makes them more comfortable with the fact
that a stranger is talking to them. She’ll be more open and honest with you because of
how you’ve framed the conversation.
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Chapter 4:
ATTRACT HER AT A SOCIAL EVENT
The majority of the world who don’t try to actively improve their dating lives through
online dating, or meeting people out and about are likely to form new intimate
relationships with people they meet at social events through friends.

Social events can be intimidating as many people tend to fight for the attention of the
people with the highest value, usually the people organizing the event.

Learning how to attract someone at a social event can be the best way to attract
someone you already know, and is the situation that will feel the most natural. Each of
the techniques below will make attracting someone at an event not only easy, but fun to
do as well.

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In fact some of them can end up with you being the most important person there, and
having everyone chase you for your attention.

1. Start a Group Game

This is a great way to get you and your group to be the most interesting people in
whatever establishment you’re at. Not only that, but if you’re the one who started the
game and you’re inviting people in, you establish yourself as the leader and immediately
gain attraction and interest from everyone in the area.

2. “Hey Guys! I’m Going Around Making Sure I Meet As Many People As I Can
Here. What are your names?”

This is a good way of preopening people. You can sit and chat for a little bit, bounce to
the next group, and then come back to them later. What you’re doing here is creating a
social circle. When everyone knows who you are and thinks you’re a cool guy, they’ll talk
about you to the other people at the event. People that you’ve just met will think that
you’ve been friends with the group of people you’re talking to for ages. They might even
come over and try to open you.

3. Bring Liquor and Offer Shots

With this, you’ve immediately become a provider. You might not be a big drinker, but
there are others that certainly are. Doing this will trigger some form of reciprocity from
women you’ve just met. Whether it be a nice chat or making out with them in the
bathroom.

4. Play DJ

Again, a great way to establish yourself as a leader. You’ll also initiate the “Celebrity”
effect. People will see you as an important person even though all you’re doing is
providing music for the event from your phone. Make sure you take requests.

5. Demonstrate a Skill

People idolize actors in Hollywood because they are very good at one thing; acting. You
can have the same thing happen to you when you demonstrate something that you’re
really talented at. If you’re adept at magic or singing or beatboxing, take the
opportunities you have to show that off a little bit. Don’t get cocky, but don’t be afraid to
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show people what you’re good at. You’ll get compliments and you’ll get some women
attracted to you.

6. Start a Dance Competition. (You don’t have to be a good dancer)

You honestly wouldn’t even have to compete if you didn’t want to. Just make sure you’re
the one that starts this up. You could even try finding three people to be the judges.
Make them some score cards out of napkins. Get creative. You don’t have to go to those
lengths but it would definitely make it more of a novelty. Doing this throws you once
again into a leadership position. If you’re making sure everyone’s having a good time,
people are going to start trying to find out who you are.

7. “Do You Guys Know Where I Can Grab a Cup?”

Simple and efficient. You’re just asking for information but it gets you to open up a
conversation with a girl. Make sure you make your language a bit flirty or this girl is not
going to see you as a romantic option.

8. “Hey Could You Help Me Out Real Quick? There Is a Girl Here Who is
Obsessed With Me and Won’t Stop Talking to Me. Could You Pretend to Be
Super Into Me For a Moment to Help Me Shake Her Off?”

Doing this is always hilarious. It’s probably best if there’s ACTUALLY a girl at the event
that is super into you and you’re trying to shake her off, but either way this will work. It
gets her to start enacting this fantasy that the two of you are dating. When you get her to
agree, you need to make sure that you’re treating her as you would treat your girlfriend.
Don’t be afraid to hold her hand. She’s agreed to do this with you so make it look good.
This will inevitably start releasing oxytocin in her body making it impossible for her to not
develop any attraction to you.

9. “Hey Could You Take a Picture for Us?”

Everyone agrees to this request. Unless they’re super busy and in a hurry, they will stop
and do you this favor. You can then use this opportunity to compliment her on her
photography skills and just start generating attraction from there.

10. “Could You Hold My Drink While I Go to the Restroom?”

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This one is great because you’ve just gotten immediate compliance AND you’ve done a
preopen. You’re justification for them holding your drink could be that you don’t like
taking them into restrooms and she’ll happily agree. Once you get back to her, thank her
and then start trying to find commonalities with her.

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Chapter 5:
ATTRACT HER IN TRANSPORT
People tend to feel awkward talking to somebody on public transport or in a
rideshare. The truth is, this is one of the easiest places to start building attraction.

If you think about, the two of you already have a commonality built in; you’re both on
your way somewhere. By utilizing the techniques below, it’ll bring you one step closer to
generating high levels of attraction with anyone you choose in public transport.

1. “Where are You Headed?”

Getting into an Uber with a stranger is usually an awkward situation. You being friendly
and asking questions alleviates that tension and puts you in a category that most men
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don’t fall into. Make sure you get her number/facebook/instagram or whatever before
she gets to her destination. That way it doesn’t matter if you don’t build enough
attraction to go where she’s going or get her to come with you, you can still get in touch
with her another time.

2. “You’re Dressed Up! Going Anywhere Fun?”

You’ve taken notice of her outfit which is always a plus because girls definitely work hard
to look their best when they’re going out. Wondering what she’s getting into will help you
to start relating to her and building commonalities.

3. “Change of Plans Driver! We’re Going To Get Ice Cream Instead!”

Actually go and get ice cream! You should probably offer to pay the extra ride fare if you
get the driver to take you two to get ice cream. This is a good way to get her into a
spontaneous mood and get her to be a bit more adventurous than she usually is.

4. “We should totally do a Chinese Fire Drill.”

Humor is the number one thing that women look for in men. Sure, being in shape and
being a “naturally good looking” guy help but girls generally don’t look for those qualities
in a partner. Planting the image in her head of you, her, and the driver running around
the car and changing seats is hilarious. This is also a good way to get her to be a bit
more spontaneous.

5. “I spy with my little eye…”

Just about everyone has played this game so you don’t have to explain the rules. Also,
there’s probably been no one she’s shared an Uber with that’s just started a random
game of Eye Spy. Doing this sets you apart from other guys.
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Chapter 6:
ATTRACT HER AT A BAR
Many guys go to bars to meet women, only to end up sitting amongst themselves
getting drunk wondering how they can get “Lucky”

The truth is Attracting someone at a bar can be simple and easy if you follow some
simple proven steps.

Dating Experts have spent years trying to perfect the techniques to getting a
conversation started in a bar, and the techniques below are the easiest and simplest to
use, with maximum effect.

1. Buy her Friends Drinks.

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Guys always make the mistake of buying a girl a drink to try and generate attraction.
This seems like the right thing to do only because there are so many movies saturated
with this exact scene. Except in movies, it always works. Not in real life. But! It does work
if you buy her and ALL of her friends a drink. This confuses the group and makes them
think that you might actually just be a nice guy who likes buying people drinks and you’re
not trying to just steal her or her friends away. This will get the whole group to appreciate
you and you can have your pick of the litter.

2. “What’s Your Favorite Drink? I want to try something new and exciting.”

You can use this on the bartender or on the cute girl at the bar next to you. Once you
figure what her favorite is you can continue the conversation by asking her why or telling
her what you’re usual is. Super easy way to open up a conversation.

3. “Hey, I was curious, and feel free to tell me to screw off, but I think you’re
really cute and was wondering if you wanted to have a conversation?”

Telling a woman that she’s more than welcome to tell you to leave at any given moment
is great. Most guys will get a no and then try to continue talking to the girl. You can
imagine how frustrating that can be. You’re also letting her know immediately that you
think she’s cute and that’s why you want to talk to her.

4. Start a Drinking Game with Strangers.

You can either do this with a group of friends or just go talk to the group of strangers on
your own. A good way of justifying this is telling these people that you’ve just met that
you like getting to know new people and what better way to do that than by playing a
drinking game.

5. Have a Female Entourage.

Bringing a large group of attractive, female friends gives you social proof and
preselection. Also, if you pick your female friends wisely, you won’t have to do any work
getting women at the bar to talk to you. Your female friends will go out and start talking
about you and get women at the bar interested in you. Wing Women are the best
Wingmen.

6. Invite Her to Your Group.

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If you’ve opened a girl and you’ve been chatting with her for 510 minutes, invite her
over to your group of friends. If she has a group, merge groups. Don’t be afraid of
getting to know everyone she’s with. You’ll be making a good impression on her and
possibly hooking up some of your friends with other attractive women.

7. Meet the Bartenders.

Knowing the bartenders at any bar is a really good idea. You get cheap or even free
drinks (don’t forget to tip) and on top of that, you get social proof. If you’re with a girl and
the bartender knows you by name, that carries a lot of wait. It shows that a bartender,
someone that deals with terrible people on a daily basis, thinks that you’re a pretty swell
guy. This will not go unnoticed.

8. Become a Regular.

When you’re a regular at a bar, it’s essentially “your” bar. You know all of the little
secrets, gossip, cool things that people don’t usually notice. You know about their
specials and quirky events. This will always make you feel confident because whenever
you are in “your” bar, you’re comfortable. It starts to become a second home and women
will pick up on how comfortable you are. It’ll make you feel less invested in whether or
not this person actually enjoys you.

9. Use Simple Bar Tricks.

No matter what anybody says, bar tricks are cool. Learning how to balance three forks
on a toothpick is going to get the attention of anyone within the sightline of you. If you
pick up a couple of bar tricks, you can use them as an easy ice breaker but don’t be that
guy that goes around to everyone in the bar showing them magic tricks. Although it’s
cool, it can get annoying if you’re desperate for attention.

10. Become Friends with the Manager.

Have you ever had a friend tell you they can get something done at a bar that seems like
a lot of work? You tell them not to worry about it and they respond with, “Hey, don’t
worry. I’m friends with the manager.” This carries a lot of weight. It essentially puts that
person higher up on the bar food chain if they’re friends with the manager. When women
know this, it gives you status and these women, by proxy, acquire this status if they hang
out with you. Everybody wants to be the manager’s friend in the bar.
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Chapter 7:
ATTRACT HER AT WORK

In general you don’t want to be attracting with people at work. The chance of
something going wrong and having things turn awkward at work are far too high.

Worse there is a chance you can lose your job altogether if the company policy restricts
employees dating each other.

However if you’re dead set on attracting someone in the workplace, there are a few
techniques that increase your chances, whilst also decreasing the changes of things
being awkward.

Word of warning however, Don’t lie, Don’t pretend you want a relationship that is more
committed than you’re willing to be, and Don’t Let your relationship or feelings spill into
the workplace.
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1. “Taco Tuesday! Who’s Up For Tacos For Lunch and Tequila for Dinner?!”

Be that guy at work that organizes fun meet ups for you and your coworkers. Everybody
likes that guy. You get everyone to realize that you’re all just normal people that work
together. Plus, you put yourself in leadership position whenever you’re the one
organizing these meet ups.

2. Hang Out Outside of Work.

You’re not going to attract your coworker by only seeing her at work. If you want to start
developing a deeper attraction that she can actually act on, you need to hang out with
her outside of work. She doesn’t want her attraction for you to become public knowledge
to everyone that you work with.

3. Bring Donuts For Everyone.

This is you being a provider. You don’t have to do this every day but it’s a good way to
get some brownie points with everyone on staff. This way, no one will have anything
negative to say about you to that cute new secretary who’s been giving you eyes since
her first day.

4. “Hey, when’s your lunch break? I always feel weird eating alone so if you
come with, lunch is on me.”

Two incentives. You’re offering to buy her lunch and you’re justifying her coming with
because you don’t like eating alone. If you start making this a ritual where the two of you
go and get lunch together one or two times a week, eventually, you’ll be able to make it
lunch on a weekend. And then you can move to dinner. Make sure that she’s paying for
her own lunch after a while though. You don’t want to get stuck footing the bill every time
you go for lunch.

5. “It’s Gameday This Weekend, Do You Guys Want To Grill Out Back At My
Place?”

Super easy and simple. You’re creating a group event where the girl you’re interested in
doesn’t feel any pressure because there’s no possible way that this could be a date.
You’re also providing food for everyone and a place for everyone to come and watch the
game. Two more points for you, bud.
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Chapter 8:
ATTRACT HER WHILE SHOPPING

Shopping stores and malls are going to have the highest concentration of girls in
any one area… However they’re also all likely to be distracted by the task at hand, and
are not looking to develop a relationship with someone at that specific moment.

On the off chance you really want to attract someone you meet while shopping these are
some of the best methods to generate attraction and to get her to talk to you.

1. *Hold a Dress up to Your Body* “Hey, can I get your opinion? Does this
dress make my butt look fat? Be careful, this is a loaded question.”

Using a women’s cliche questions back at them is instantly funny. After using this
opening line, you can introduce yourself and try and explain why you’re trying on
dresses. Guaranteed to be fun and get a smile out of her.
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2. “You should pick that one. It’s the best.”

When you see a girl struggling to choose between two different brands of peanut butter
or looking at which shoes to pick, why wouldn’t you want to make the decision easier on
her? By walking up and using this opener, she’ll think the conversation she was having in
her head was actually a conversation with you. This will make her much more open to
“continuing” that conversation with you.

3. “Hey, I Had To Let You Know, Your Sense Of Style is Amazing. Between
Those Boots And Your Glasses… You’re like a Cross Between a Librarian
And a Biker. A Biker Librarian! And You’re Rocking It!”

Complimenting a girl on one of her articles of clothing is nice but it has no substance to
it. Telling her what you like about her outfit specifically and how it all meshes together
shows that you’ve really put some thought into how she’s dressed and why you like it.

4. “I’m trying to decide between Steamy or Studly. Help me out?”

Using this immediately gets her brain thinking of you in a way where she ALREADY
perceives you as an attractive guy. You’re asking her to help figure out what makes you
look “steamy” and what makes you look “studly”. Because you’ve framed it this way,
she’s going to be thinking about you in those two ways.

5. “I’m not really one for fashion and you seem REALLY on point with your
style...would you mind helping me pick out some outfits?”

Girls love helping guys with their clothes. Men are buying certain clothes to; One: be
comfortable and wear what they like and Two: To look as attractive as possible. Asking a
girl to help you pick out some attractive outfits will get you the benefit of actually finding
some attractive clothes and opening up a hot girl for some conversation about style and
what attraction means to them.

6. “Hey Do You Have The TIme? I Think My Phone’s Been Acting Up.”

With this, she’s not expecting to get hit on at all. You’re asking her for the time so it’s
going to disarm her defenses before she even thinks about putting them up. Guess
what? Now you’re in the conversation. You can follow up by asking what she’s doing
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here or commenting on the type of phone she has. Literally, anything that comes to mind
is fair game.

7. “Hey Can I Get Your Opinion On Something Real Quick? Which Of These
Smells Do You Prefer?” *Comparing Colognes*

Men wear cologne to attract women. It only makes sense that you should get a woman’s
opinion as to what smells she finds the most attractive. By asking her this, you are again
getting her to see you as your most attractive self. You’re also going to figure out what
her favorite cologne is.

8. “I’m Sorry, But Are You Two Dating?” If yes, “I Just Had to Let You Know,
You Are a Very Cute Couple.” If No, “Oh Really? Hi! I’m Adam…”

The guy that’s hanging out with this girl is going to immediately dislike you so you have
to find a way to remedy that. You’re making it very apparent that you think she’s
attractive by approaching this way. You’re also letting her know that you’re the type of
guy that’s not going to try and get in the middle of someone else’s relationship.

9. To a Clothing Shop Worker… “Oh, Do You Want Some Help Folding
Those?”

No one has ever asked her this. There is no cute clothing shop girl that has ever been
asked if she needed help folding clothes. Mainly because no one likes doing laundry.
She’ll appreciate you doing her a favor and will want to do you one in return due to
reciprocity. After you’ve been talking for a while, ask her when she gets off and if you
can get her number. She’ll be a bit more inclined to give it to you.

10. When Asked By a Worker if They Can Help You: “I Don’t Think So… I’m
Just Waiting For a Friend. Thanks For Asking Though. You’re Super
Friendly! What’s Your Name?”

Employees are only ever talked to if someone needs something in the store, if a
customer needs to be checked out, or if the employee is being dismissed. If you try and
engage in a conversation with a cute employee instead of dismissing them after they’ve
asked if you need anything, you’ll get them out of work mode and you’ll be able to talk to
the person behind that mask.
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Chapter 9:
ATTRACT HER ON THE STREET
Sometimes you’ll find yourself walking down the street and you see someone that just
takes your breath away.

Afterwards you can be kicking yourself, wishing you knew what to do.

The following techniques are simple to remember, and effective a generating attraction
fast, lending themselves to swapping contact details quickly so you can move the
interaction on via text message.

The reason we keep these interactions short, is because people tend to be going from
Location A to Location B on the street, and you want to be sure you’re not holding them
back from doing what they were originally doing, unless of course they seem to really
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want to keep talking to you in which case you can always suggest grabbing a coffee
together.

(The easiest way to do this is to simply say: “I was on my way to grab a coffee, but I’d
love to keep the conversation going, do you like coffee?”

1. “Hey, I just wanted to let you know that think you’re super cute and I’d be
kicking myself for the rest of the day if I didn’t come over and talk to you.
What’s your name?”

Again, immediately letting her know why you’re wanting to talk to her. Once you get her
name, ask her where she’s on her way to and then start trying to build commonalities.
Interactions on the street need to be quick and precise to generate the amount of
attraction you need in such a short amount of time.

2. “Wow, I’m a huge fan of your hair. It must have taken you forever to do
that!”

You can never go wrong when you compliment a girl on her hair or her makeup. Girls
put a lot of extra effort into making sure that their hair and makeup look immaculate. You
making a comment on it lets her know that all of her hard work didn’t go to waste.

3. “Hey, I Noticed You Have An Accent, Where Is It From?”

You can use this even if the girl doesn’t have an accent. If she does, it gives you more to
talk about and bonus points if you can guess where she’s from. Is she’s from where you
live, you can easily play this off as you must have just heard it wrong. Either way, you’re
now in a conversation with her.

4. *If she has a pet* “That is the cutest of dogs. What’s their name?”

Humans like to obsess over their pets. You’ve probably used this opener before without
even thinking about it. You see a cute dog and you go and pet it and then end up talking
to the owner. You can do this even if the owner is a girl you find attractive. Just think
about all of the other times you’ve done this and don’t rate this interaction as anything
above all those other ones and it’ll be smooth sailing.

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5. *Smile at her. She’ll smile back* “You have the prettiest smile I’ve ever
seen. What’s your name?”

If you didn’t know that humans tend to mimic the facial expressions they see on other
people, think about it the next time you’re out and about. You can use this to your
advantage when trying to attract people on the street just by smiling. You’ll look like a
friendly person and it will put others in a friendly mood.

6. “Do You Know Where I Can Find the Nearest Coffee Shop? I’m Supposed
to Meet a Friend Around Here in 20 Minutes and They Said to Meet at the
Coffee Shop Here but I Can’t Find It.”

They might not even know where the closest coffee shop is. Regardless, you’re now in
conversation with a cute girl and you have twenty minutes of time to kill before you have
to meet your friend. Might as well spend it trying to generate more attraction with this
newfound hottie.

7. *If a girl is taking a selfie* “Here, let me take your photo for you.”

Studies have shown that people look more attractive in photos if they’re not the one
taking it. So, do this girl a solid and take her picture for her. You can then start playing
director and turn this encounter into a modeling photoshoot. Ask her to try different
poses and give different emotions to play with. Guaranteed, no stranger has done this
with her before.

8. “Hey, would you mind calling my phone? It’s been acting weird recently
and I just want to make sure it’s working alright.”

Think about this for a second...When she calls your phone, you’ve just gotten her phone
number. Sneaky but effective. After she calls you, you can just play it off like it was fine
and thank her for doing so. Then ask her where she’s off to or why she’s out and about.
When the conversation’s over, you can tell her that you’ve got her number so you’ll text
her to hang out sometime. Done and done.

9. “It’s So Hot Out! Am I right?”

Talking about the weather may seem like a cliche but it’s certainly an ice breaker.
Everyone has the ability to comment on the weather so you’ll instantly have something
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you can talk about. Just make sure you transition into something a bit more interesting
after that.

10. If You See Someone Through a Window, Wave. If They Wave Back, Go In
And Say Hi!

People are curious creatures. By getting someone to wave back at you, you’ve just
made them more comfortable with the idea of talking to you. It’s as if they already know
you so you’re coming in to say hi to a friend you haven’t seen for a bit.

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Chapter 10:
ATTRACT HER AT THE STRIP CLUB
Talking to Strippers is easy, after all they want to talk to you… but only to sell you
on getting a Dance.

The techniques within this chapter are designed to generate conversation in a way that
doesn’t naturally lead the girl into being able to ask you for a dance.

Attracting Dancers within a club is one of the most difficult techniques to master,
however if you repeatedly practice using the techniques below and consider learning
some of the more advanced strip club techniques it can be one of the most rewarding
and fun ways to meet and attract women.

1. Make a $5 bill arrow on the stage pointing at yourself
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Easy and fun. Take five one dollar bills and arrange them in an arrow. Stand at the edge
of the stage and wait for her to notice you. Her eyes will start at the end of the arrow and
follow up to you. When she looks at you, make sure you give her a thumbs up and your
cheesiest grin. This will make her laugh and want to come over and talk to you when
she’s done dancing on the stage.

2. “You know, you’ve actually got a talent for Dance”

Men come to strip clubs so they can see half naked women. They don’t come to admire
the girls for their dancing ability. By noticing that she’s actually a talented dancer, you’ve
just put yourself in a completely different category from all of these other guys and she’ll
remember that.

3. “I Should Warn you I’m Bad news”

A little bit of reverse psychology can go a long way with strippers. These are the types of
girls known as “Psychotics”. Not to say that they’re crazy, they just need emotional
spikes to satisfy their needs, which is why they mainly go for bad boys. By telling her
you’re bad news, you’ve instantly piqued her interest and put yourself into the category
of guy that she typically goes for.

4. “Ok, I’m guessing you know people are attracted to you, but do you know
why?”

She’ll probably respond with something like, “Yeah, because I’m sexy.” This is probably
accurate but if you can give her an answer with more depth, she’ll realize that you’re not
just another guy going into the club to look at pretty women. You see what’s underneath
the surface.

5. “That’s an awesome Tattoo, did you know it says a lot about your
personality?”

She’s going to ask you to elaborate so BE PREPARED TO ELABORATE. If you’re just
using this line for the sake of using it and you have nothing to back up that kind of
statement, you’ve already lost. If you think it says something about her personality, let
her know what that is. She’ll feel like you know the actual her instead of her stripper
persona.

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6. “You’ve got a great smile, I’m curious about something...”

Super simple transition. You can then ask her anything. But! Make sure it’s a question
that she doesn’t hear very often. Nothing to do with her work or how much she makes.
Ask her something that only the real girl underneath the persona is going to be able to
answer.

7. “My friend told me a simple method to spot the guys who are the big
spenders in clubs, mind If I run it by you to see if he’s right?”

Using this makes you a valuable asset. You’re no longer a customer, you’re the guy that
goes in, keeps her entertained and makes her more money. That is ultimately the
reason that she does this, is for the money. If you’re putting yourself in a position where
you’re not a customer and you’re HELPING her instead of HITTING on her, she’ll file
that away in her attraction memory banks.

8. “Would you share these calories with me?”

Dancing takes a lot of energy. If you offer a stripper food, she’s going to eat it because
she’s probably worked off a lot of the food she ate before her shift. It’s also a funny way
of offering someone some food.

9. “I’m curious, did you see (Current TV Show) last night?

This is a great way to talk to the girl underneath the persona. Kandy is not going to know
anything about the latest Netflix craze but Amanda watches these shows religiously.
Once you start talking to Amanda, you’re golden.

10. “Could you settle something for us?”

Make a bet with one of your buddies. Something silly like a rap battle. Make a fool of
yourself with your friend by seeing who’s the better rapper and have her judge the battle.
Afterwards, give her some cash for being a great judge. You’re not paying her for being
a stripper, you’re paying her for helping you settle a bet. It’ll start a cognitive dissonance
between her stripper persona and her actual personality.
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Chapter 11:
ADVANCED TECHNIQUES TO GET THINGS SEXUAL
The techniques within this chapter aren’t designed to be used to start a conversation,
but to be used after the conversation is already moving along. If you have been talking
for 1030 minutes and have noticed the conversation is going well then you can start
using the techniques below to help things move towards being more intimate.

1. Whisper in Her Ear.

Sound is actually a form of touch. By whispering in her ear, you’re getting more
comfortable being in her personal space and she’s becoming more comfortable having
you there. When you whisper in her ear, it’ll vibrate the small bones inside of her ear and
basically create a gentle caress inside her brain.

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2. “What kind of Sex do you think they have?”

By bringing up sex in a way that refers to someone else, you avoid the awkwardness
that comes along with bringing up sex with a stranger. When discussing what kind of sex
you think a group a strangers has, you can start qualifying her by saying something like,
“They probably have boring sex. I’m so glad I’m not one of those people that’s going
around and giving people boring sex, you know what I mean?”

3. “Did you know people keep tension in their thumbs? Let me show you
what I mean” (Massage)

You’ve started massaging her thumbs. Obviously, you can’t just leave the rest of her
fingers out or her palm...or her other hand for that matter. This is an easy way of starting
to generate oxytocin with her.

4. “Oh my God, you have the tiniest hands.” *Hold your hand up to hers.
Interlock fingers. You’re now holding hands.*

People interlace their fingers while they’re holding hands during sex. That is why you
need to utilize this whenever you’re holding a girl’s hand. It’ll put her subconscious mind
in the place that thinks the two of you have already had sex. That and every girl likes to
feel like she’s small enough to be protected by her male counterpart.

5. *Lock eyes with her* “Did you know that when people maintain eye contact
for more than twenty seconds, it means they either want to have sex with
that person or murder them?”

This is actually a fact. It’ll also tickle that psychotic part of her brain that we mentioned
earlier. So, if you can lock eyes with her for fifteen seconds and then start telling her this,
you’ll put the idea in her brain that she wants to have sex with you and then she won’t be
able to stop thinking about it.

6. “So I’m Celebrating Tonight. I’ve Decided I’m Never Having Bad Sex
Again.”

She’s going to instantly be curious about this. You can follow up with something like, “Not
only is it boring and horrible, it’s just not worth the time, you know? Cheers! To never
having bad sex again! Wait...how do I know you’re not one of the people going around
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giving people bad sex? What is bad sex to you?” Boom. Huge qualification and you’re
on the topic of sex. You’re welcome.

7. “You Know Something I’ve Never Understood? Why are Blowjobs Called
BLOWjobs?”

Simple way to share a laugh and start talking about sex. You can even ask her if the first
one she ever gave was her actually blowing on a guy’s...well, you get the idea.

8. Beckon a Woman Towards You With Your Finger… Say “If I Can Make You
Come With One Finger… Imagine What I Can Do With Two!”

This is a good way to get her instantly turned on. She’ll be turned on because you’ve
called her over to you with a finger, which is a very powerful nonverbal compliance, and
she’ll be turned on because she’s started thinking about your fingers inside of her.

9. “On a Scale From 110, How Good of a Kisser Would You Say That You
Are?” … “Really? Let’s find out!”

No matter what she says to this question, you can still try and find out. Just make sure
that you’ve built enough attraction and comfort so you don’t get denied. If she turns her
head away, gently grab her chin and turn her face back to you and go for it again.

10. The Question Game

There are three rules to this game.

First, you must tell the truth no matter what. So if you have any secrets that you just
can’t share, we shouldn’t play. We should just stop now and go home. (This will give a bit
of pressure because it’s a one time offer and if she says no, the two of you are going to
stop talking.)

Second, You must answer. No skips. No quits.

Third, No repeat questions. So, if you ask me a question, I can’t ask you the same. And
vice versa.

Start a bit mild and then work your way into more and more sexual territory. It’ll start
getting both of you turned on and it’ll increase her attraction to you immensely.
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11. Let’s Play a Game, Winner Get’s a Kiss!

Using this will let you know exactly where you stand with your attraction levels with this
girl. If she agrees to the bet, it doesn’t matter who wins because you’re kissing her. If she
says, “No, I’m not going to kiss you.” You can respond with, “Who said I was going to be
kissing you?” This will make her start to realize that she’s dispensable. You’re just out
having a good time and if she wants to be the one that you get the kiss from, then that’s
on her. Otherwise, you can find another girl that will kiss you if you win the bet.
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Chapter 12:
NEXT STEPS
The techniques you’ve just learnt are tried and tested methods we’ve been using to start
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