Jeanne Gwynneth C.

Hipolito BSA 3A CFE105b

Share an incident, a choice, a decision or an act that you did which broke a
relationship and how you restore such broken relationship. You may include your
restoration process.

My friends and I arranged a small picnic on a farm and it was planned and
announced to our other friends 5 days prior. Nyka, one of my girl friends, rejected our
invitation to say that she is busy, that she has classes to attend and that she has several
requirements to complete. And we said, 'Okay, we understand,' even though we're
always trying to encourage her to come every day because it was a Saturday, but she
still declines and says no. On the day of the picnic (Saturday), 10 mins before we go to
the farm she decided to go and tell us to wait, my other friend told her to make it fast
since we don’t want to go home late but she replied angrily and said 'umuna kayon,
padaras kayo nga padaras!!'. I was so pissed to that response and decided to 'seen' her
message. At exact 2:15 we started our way to the farm, we stop by a convenience store
to buy other foods and we did not notice her chat in messenger, when I seen her
messages she already leave our groupchat and blocked us in messenger, leaving us
nothing to contact her. I was so sorry for a moment, since she was not informed we left,
but as we arrived in our destination we saw her tweets about us such us 'walang
kwenta', 'what are friends for' or 'friendhip over', I was so sad and angry at the same time
because she resorted to social media again, telling things about us in public and not to
us privately. When I got home, I just responded to all her tweets because the farm has a
bad signal. I was explaining why we left her, but she will tell 'wala kaming hiya' and
'mabilis lang kapag may kailangan', she doesn’t want to listen to me, I already said my
sorry and ask her why did she need to leave the group chat. After almost 30 minutes of
exchanging our tweets she stopped responding to my replies and the last tweet I saw
was her telling us to be happy which sounded so sarcastic.

Honestly, I don’t know if this friendship will be restored, it has been a month now
that we are not seeing nor talking to each other. She decided to cut ties with us,
blocking all our social media accounts. Actually, it was not the first time that she told us
to end our friendship, it was back in 2018 when she asked for an honest opinion about a
guy who told her he is gay and he doesn’t like her, and we responded to her honestly but
was she said broke me that we don’t understand her, that we are so pretty to be her
friend that we need to tell her those things, and telling us 'walang kwenta' again. For
almost 4 months she decided to cut ties, it was December 25 when she decided to talk
to us, we told her what the problem is, what we fought about but she told us we can't
just understand her, that it is not about the guy but us never understanding her. We let it
passed though, there are gaps but we become friends again and we talk to each other
again.

However, this recent incident might be the last, the friendship we cherished the
most might not be the same anymore, it was hard ofcourse since we've been friends for
years but the 1 month without her and all the things she have done made me realized
that friends don’t do things like that, problems need to be solved privately and not
letting other people meddle. I've read this passage online which say, 'as we grow up, we
tend to cut ties with people who are toxic with our lives', I know it is harsh but maybe
this friendship is a lesson for me and my friends to be more open to each other and not
let small problems ruin us. At present, I am making myself busy with my studies and
have a 1 week time with my friends and not talking about Nyka and maybe just let all the
wounds healed by time.