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Personal Development
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Module 8: Emotional Intelligence

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Personal Development - Grade 12
Quarter 1 – Module 8: Emotional Intelligence

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Personal Development - Grade 12
Quarter 1 – Module 8: Emotional Intelligence

I. Introduction
Emotional Intelligence (EI) has become a topic of vast and growing interest worldwide and is
concerned with the ways in which we perceive, identify, understand, and manage emotions. It is an
aspect of individual difference that can impact a number of important outcomes throughout a person’s
lifespan. (Pool and Qualter, 2018)

II. Objectives

 The learners shall be able to

 Discuss that understanding the intensity and differentiation of emotions may help in
communicating emotional expressions; (EsP-PD11/12EI-Ii-j-8.1)
 Explore your positive and negative emotions and how you express or hide them, and
(EsP-PD11/12EI-Ij-8)
 Demonstrate and create ways to manage various emotions. (EsP-PD11/12EI-Ij-8.3)

III. Vocabulary List

Here is the list of words and their meanings. Read and understand them carefully.
 Doormat
A submissive person who allows others to dominate them.
 Intelligence Quotient
A number representing a person's reasoning ability (measured using problem-solving tests) as
compared to the statistical norm or average for their age, taken as 100.

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 Spatial Intelligence
Is the ability to comprehend three-dimensional images and shapes. This is a primary function of
the right side of the brain and is used when solving puzzles, figuring out maps and taking part in
any type of construction or engineering project.
 Mechanical abilities
Is referred to as the ability use machinery properly and maintain the equipment in best working
order.
 Mood
A temporary state of mind or feeling.
 Depression
Is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest and can interfere
with your daily functioning.

IV. Pre-Test

Directions: Write the letter of the correct answer in your journal notebook.

____1. What do you call the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions?
a. Emotional Intelligence b. Intelligent Quotient c. spiritual intelligence d. All of the above
____2. Which of the following EQ skills in which you will be able to imagine how other people might
feel in certain situations?
a. Being Aware of Your Emotions
b. Understanding How Others Feel and Why
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. Choosing Your Mood
Directions: Match items in column A with the correct answer in Column B.
Column A Column B
____3. Behaving passively means not expressing your own needs and
a. Passive response
feelings, or expressing them so weakly that they will not be addressed.

____4. Behaving aggressively is asking for what you want or saying how b. Aggressive
you feel in a threatening, sarcastic or humiliating way that may offend the
other person response

____5. Behaving assertively means asking for what you want or saying
how you feel in an honest and respectful way that does not infringe on c. Assertive response
another person's rights or put the individual down

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V. Learning Activities

Activity #1: TODAY I FEEL…

 In your journal follow these instructions:

1. Draw a face or an emoticon that expresses your feeling today.

2. Write why do you feel that way today?

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
More Than One Kind of Intelligence

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 You may have heard people mention "IQ" when talking about intellect and how smart
someone is. (For example, "My brother doesn't need to study as
much as I do because he has a really high IQ.") IQ stands for "intellectual quotient." It can help
predict how well someone may do academically. IQ is just one measure of our abilities, though.
There are many other kinds of intelligence in addition to intellect. For example, spatial
intelligence is the ability to think in 3D. Musical intelligence is the ability to recognize rhythm,
cadence, and tone. Athletic, artistic, and mechanical abilities are other types of intelligence.

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions. It is
sometimes called EQ (or EI) for short. Just as a high IQ can predict top test scores, a high EQ can
predict success in social and emotional situations. EQ helps us build strong relationships, make good
decisions, and deal with difficult situations.
One way to think about EQ is that it's part of being people-smart. Understanding and getting
along with people helps us be successful in almost any area of life. In fact, some studies show that EQ
is more important than IQ when it comes to doing well in school or being successful at work. One
important type of intelligence is emotional intelligence. (Dr. Fernandez, et. al., 2016)

How will you improve your EQ?

Emotional intelligence is a combination of several different skills:

1. Being Aware of Your Emotions

Most people feel many different emotions throughout the day. Some feelings (like surprise)
last just a few seconds. Others may stay longer, creating a mood like happiness or sadness. Being able
to notice and accurately label these everyday feelings is the most basic of all the EQ skills. Being
aware of emotions — simply noticing them as we feel them — helps us manage our own emotions. It
also helps us understand how other people feel. But some people might go through the entire day
without really noticing their emotions. Practice recognizing emotions as you feel them. Label them in
your mind (for example, by saying to yourself "I feel grateful," "I feel frustrated," etc.). Make it a
daily habit to be aware of your emotions.

2. Understanding How Others Feel and Why

People are naturally designed to try to understand others. Part of EQ is being able to imagine
how other people might feel in certain situations. It is also about understanding why they feel the way
they do. Being able to imagine what emotions a person is likely to be feeling (even when you don't
actually know) is called empathy. Empathy helps us care about others and build good friendships and
relationships. It guides us on what to say and how to behave around someone who is feeling strong
emotions.

3. Managing Emotional Reactions

We all get angry. We all have disappointments. Often it's important to express how you feel.
But managing your reaction means knowing when, where, and how to express yourself. When you

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understand your emotions and know how to manage them, you can use self-control to hold a reaction
if now is not the right time or place to express it. Someone who has good EQ knows it can damage
relationships to react to emotions in a way that's disrespectful, too intense, too impulsive, or harmful.

4. Choosing Your Mood

Part of managing emotions is choosing our moods. Moods are emotional states that last a bit.
We have the power to decide what mood is right for a situation, and then to get into that mood.
Choosing the right mood can help someone get motivated, concentrate on a task, or try again instead
of giving up. People with good EQ know that moods aren't just things that happen to us. We can
control them by knowing which mood is best for a particular situation and how to get into that mood.

EQ: Under Construction

Emotional intelligence is something that develops as we get older. If it didn't, all adults
would act like little kids, expressing their emotions physically through stomping, crying, hitting,
yelling, and losing control! Some of the skills that make up emotional intelligence develop earlier.
They may seem easier: For example, recognizing emotions seems easy once we know what to pay
attention to. But the EQ skill of managing emotional reactions and choosing a mood might seem
harder to master. That's because the part of the brain that's responsible for self-management continues
to mature beyond our teen years. But practice helps those brain pathways develop. We can all work to
build even stronger emotional intelligence skills just by recognizing what we feel, understanding how
we got there, understanding how others feel and why, and putting our emotions into heartfelt words
when we need to. (Dr. Fernandez, et. al., 2016)

INTRODUCTION TO EMOTIONS

Emotions are what you feel on the inside when things happen. It is also known as feelings. Are you
currently feeling one or several of the following emotions?
1. Afraid: feeling fear and worry
2. Angry: feeling mad with a person, act, or idea
3. Ashamed: feeling bad after doing wrong
4. Confident: feeling able to do something
5. Confused: feeling unable to think clear
6. Depressed: feeling sad, blue, discouraged, and unhappy
7. Embarrassed: feeling worried about what others may think
8. Energetic: feeling full of energy
9. Excited: feeling happy and aroused
10. Glad: feeling joy and pleasure
11. Jealous: feeling upset when someone has something that you would like to have or they get to do
something you wanted
12. Lonely: feeling alone and that nobody cares
13. Proud: feeling pleased for doing well
14. Relaxed: feeling at ease and without worry, calm
15. Stressed: feeling tense, tired, uneasy, and overwhelmed

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 Activity #2: EXPLORING EMOTIONS

 In your journal notebook, copy the table below and write what was happening when you felt
this emotion

Emotion What was happening when you felt this emotion?

Afraid
Angry
Ashamed
Confident
Confused
Depressed
Embarrassed
Energetic
Excited
Glad
Jealous
Lonely
Proud
Relaxed
Stressed

 In your journal notebook write the top three feelings that you do not like to have most and
explain why.

Types of Responses

1. Passive response:
Behaving passively means not expressing your own needs and feelings, or
expressing them so weakly that they will not be addressed.
 If Geneva behaves passively, by standing in line and not saying anything, she will probably
feel angry with the girls and herself. If the ticket office runs out of tickets before she gets to
the head of the line, she will be furious and might blow up at the girls after it's too late to
change the situation.
 A passive response is not usually in your best interest, because it allows other people to
violate your rights. Yet there are times when being passive is the most appropriate response. It
is important to assess whether a situation is dangerous and choose the response most likely to
keep you safe.

2. Aggressive response

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 Behaving aggressively is asking for what you want or saying how you feel in a threatening,
sarcastic or humiliating way that may offend the other person(s).
 Geneva calls the girls names or threatens them, she may feel strong for a moment, but
there is no guarantee she will get the girls to leave. More importantly, the girls and their
friend may also respond aggressively, through a verbal or physical attack on Geneva.
 An aggressive response is never in your best interest, because it almost always leads to
increased conflict.

3. Assertive response

Behaving assertively means asking for what you want or saying how you feel in an honest
and respectful way that does not infringe on another person's rights or put the individual down.
 If Geneva tells the girls they need to go to the end of the line because other people have been
waiting, she will not put the girls down, but merely state the facts of the situation. She can
feel proud for standing up for her rights. At the same time, she will probably be supported in
her statement by other people in the line. While there is a good chance the girls will feel
embarrassed and move, there is also the chance that they will ignore Geneva and her needs
will not be met.
 An assertive response is almost always in your best interest, since it is your best chance of
getting what you want without offending the other person(s). At times, however, being
assertive can be inappropriate. If tempers are high, if people have been using alcohol or other
drugs, if people have weapons or if you are in an unsafe place, being assertive may not be the
safest choice.

Activity #3: AM I ASSERTIVE?

Assertiveness is the ability to express your wishes and beliefs in a positive way. Too little
assertiveness can make you a doormat. Too much, and you can be bossy and aggressive. In your
journal notebook answer the following questions:

1. Think of a time when you were a doormat.

What happened? ______________________.

What did you do? _____________________.

How did you feel? _____________________.

Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and practice it.

2. Think of a time when you were too bossy.

What happened? ______________________.

What did you do? _____________________.

How did you feel? _____________________.

Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and practice.

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 VI. Practice Tasks

Show that you have learned something by doing this activity.

Practice Task #1: I AM…

Emotional self-awareness is the ability to recognize one’s own feelings. In your journal,
complete each statement based on how you feel. Use the blanks to add your own feeling words.

I am most happy when _________________. I feel embarrassed when

__________________.
I think negative thoughts about myself when ______________________________. I am
_________________ when ________________________________________. I feel
_______________________ when __________________________________. I think
________________ about ________________ when ___________________. I am
_________________ when ________________________________________. I feel
____________________ when __________________________________. I think
_______________ about _______________ when _____________________.

Practice Task #2: RESPONSIBLE ACTION SHEET

I am the BOSS of my feelings!

In your journal, complete the following sentences based on your best response to these
different emotions.

1. When I get angry, it helps me feel better if I _______________________________________.

2. When I feel sad, it helps me feel better if I ________________________________________.

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 3. When I feel anxious or nervous, it helps me feel better if I ___________________________.
4. When I feel grumpy, it helps me if I _____________________________________________.
5. When I feel lonely, it helps me if I ______________________________________________.
6. When I feel embarrassed, it helps if I ____________________________________________.
7. When I feel sick, it helps me feel better if I _______________________________________.
8. When I feel silly, I like to _____________________________________________________.
9. When I feel disappointed, it helps me if I _________________________________________.
10. When I am honest, I feel ______________________________________________________.
11. When I feel ______________________, it helps me feel better if I _____________________.

Practice Task #3: GET A GRIP ON ANGER

Sometimes people use anger to get their way. Being assertive doesn’t mean getting your way;
it means that you can express your wishes and beliefs in a nondestructive way. Some examples of how
people deal with anger are listed below. Brainstorm some ways that are used to deal with anger.
Include both good and bad methods. When you have finished with a list, decide on the methods that
are healthy ways to deal with anger. Write it in your journal.

 Throw things__________
 Scream______________
 Count 1 to 10 __________
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________
 ____________________

VII. Post Test

Write the letter of the correct answer in your journal notebook.

____1. What is the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions?
a. Emotional Intelligence b. Intelligent Quotient c. spiritual intelligence d. All of the above
____2. Which of the following EQ skills in which you will be able to imagine how other people might
feel in certain situations?
a. Being Aware of Your Emotions
b. Understanding How Others Feel and Why
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior

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d. Choosing Your Mood

Match column A with the correct answer in Column B.

____3. Behaving passively means not expressing your a. Passive response
own needs and feelings, or expressing them so weakly b. Aggressive response
that they will not be addressed. c. Assertive response
____4. Behaving aggressively is asking for what you d. Afraid
want or saying how you feel in a threatening, sarcastic e. Confused
or humiliating way that may offend the other person. f. Angry
____5. Behaving assertively means asking for what you g. Ashamed
want or saying how you feel in an honest and respectful h. Confident
way that does not infringe on another person's rights or
put the individual down.
____6. Feeling fear and worry
____7. Feeling mad with a person, act, or idea
____8. Feeling able to do something
____9. Feeling bad after doing wrong
____10. Feeling unable to think clear

VIII. Assignment/Additional Activities

This activity will help you identify the target emotions you are going to improve and some
helpful emotions. In your journal draw the image below and choose 3 colors to represent. Often,
Sometimes, and Never/Hardly Ever and color in the key below.

Color I feel this way

Often
Sometimes
Never/Hardly Ever

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XI. Answer Key

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Learning Activities:

Activity 1: In your journal notebook, copy the table below and write what was happening when you
felt this emotion.

Emotion What was happening when you felt this emotion?

Afraid heart rate go up, bp go up, your body response to some threat
Angry increase in heart rate, losing patience, triggers body’s flight/fight
response
Ashamed lowers the body to think clearly and act early, feelings of guilt which
causes us to focus our attention on the feelings of others
Confident fearlessness and less anxiety
Confused can’t think clearly, disoriented
Depressed severe feelings of sadness, hopelessness
Embarrassed might feel stupid, worthless
Energetic feels much better about self
Excited the energy is higher, person feels good
Glad very hyper, positive, excited
Jealous emotional instability, bitterness
Lonely self-doubt
Proud person feels good, self-satisfaction
Relaxed calmness
Stressed low energy, headaches, upset stomach

Activity 2:

 In your journal notebook write the top three feelings that you do not like to have most and
why?

1. Depression, because it affects the mental state of individual which may lead to major
problem.
2. Jealous, this may affect your relationship to others.
3. Angry, it will affect the health condition of an individual.

Activity 3:

Assertiveness is the ability to express your wishes and beliefs in a positive way. Too little
assertiveness can make you a doormat. Too much, and you can be bossy and aggressive. In your
journal notebook answer the following questions:

1. Think of a time when you were a doormat.

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What happened? I felt unworthy those time they treated me like a doormat during elementary days
because I was too small.

What did you do? I always end up seating at the corner alone.

How did you feel? I felt self-doubt and became too shy.

Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and practice.

 Don’t let others treat you worthless.

 Don’t give others the power over you.

2. Think of a time when you were too bossy.

What happened? I was picked up to lead one organization in school.

What did you do? I did not respect my member’s opinion.

How did you feel? I became too proud of myself.

Now think of a better way to handle that situation in the future. Write a better response and practice.

 Respect the opinion of other people.

 Think of others welfare.

Practice Task:

Practice Task #1:

Emotional self-awareness is the ability to recognize one’s own feelings. In your journal, complete
each statement based on how you feel. Use the blanks to add your own feeling words.

I am most happy when people around me are happy. I feel embarrassed when someone staring at
me. I think negative thoughts about myself when no one cares about me. I am happy when my
friends are happy. I feel angry when someone treats me badly. I think negative thought about
myself when I failed to finished a task on time. I am lonely when one of my friends is leaving. I
feel angry when someone treats other badly. I think good thought about myself when I help others.

Practice Task #2:

In your journal, complete the following sentences based on your best response to these different
emotions.

1. When I get angry, it helps me feel better if I count one to ten.

2. When I feel sad, it helps me feel better if I listen to music.

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 3. When I feel anxious or nervous, it helps me feel better if I breathe slowly.
4. When I feel grumpy, it helps me if I drink cold water.
5. When I feel lonely, it helps me if I talk to my friends.
6. When I feel embarrassed, it helps if I isolate myself for a moment_.
7. When I feel sick, it helps me feel better if I take my medications, vitamins and eat nutritious
foods.
8. When I feel silly, I like to make a joke with my friends.
9. When I feel disappointed, it helps me if I think of positive thoughts.
10. When I am honest, I feel relax and calm.
11. When I feel stressed, it helps me feel better if I take a break and go to the beach alone.

Practice Task #3:

Sometimes people use anger to get their way. Being assertive doesn’t mean getting your way;
it means that you can express your wishes and beliefs in a nondestructive way. Some examples of how
people deal with anger are listed below. Brainstorm some ways that are used to deal with anger.
Include both good and bad methods. When you have finished with a list, decide on the methods that
are healthy ways to

 Throw things__________
 Cry a little bit_________
 Count 1 to 10 _________
 Breathe slowly ____
 Walk for 5 minutes_____
 Take a nap for 30 minutes
 Go to beach alone ____
 Eat chocolates ____
 Eat my favorite foods___

Post Test:

 Write the letter of the correct answer in your journal notebook.

__A_1. What is the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions?
a. Emotional Intelligence b. Intelligent Quotient c. spiritual intelligence d. All of the above
__B_2. Which of the following EQ skills in which you will be able to imagine how other people
might feel in certain situations?
a. Being Aware of Your Emotions
b. Understanding How Others Feel and Why
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. Choosing Your Mood

Match column A with the correct answer in Column B.

__A_3. Behaving passively means not expressing your a. Passive response
own needs and feelings, or expressing them so weakly b. Aggressive response
that they will not be addressed. c. Assertive response

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__B_4. Behaving aggressively is asking for what you d. Afraid
want or saying how you feel in a threatening, sarcastic e. Confused
or humiliating way that may offend the other person. f. Angry
__C_5. Behaving assertively means asking for what you g. Ashamed
want or saying how you feel in an honest and respectful h. Confident
way that does not infringe on another person's rights or
put the individual down.
__D_6. Feeling fear and worry
__F_7. Feeling mad with a person, act, or idea
__H_8. Feeling able to do something
__G_9. Feeling bad after doing wrong
__E_10. Feeling unable to think clear

References:
Pool, Lorraine D., and Pamela Qualter. July 2018. An Introduction to Emotional
Intelligence.

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9781119108269

vexels. (June 30, 2016). 3D EMOTICON SET.

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Dr. Fernandez, B. et. al. (2016). Emotional Intelligence. Quezon City; Sunshine Interlink
Publishing Inc. First Edition. Pp. 52-59

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