As a culture .

we treat
listening
as an automatic
process about -

which

their is not much to in the same

say
:

category as
digestion or
blinking . When

the of is addressed
concept
listening
in
any length .
it is in the contest

of professional communication :

being honed by
Something to

leaders but
and mentors , a
specialization
that
everyone
else ran
happily ignore .
 This
neglect is a same .

Listening
well , it take me too long for discover

its a sort
of magic trick : both parties

soften blossom is less alone

. and
they .

Along the
way ,
I discovered that Carl

Rogers . one
of the 20ᵗʰ
century
's most

eminent
psychologists ,
had put a

name in this underrated skill :

'
active

And though Roger 's

'

listening .
work

were
focused initially on
Iherpeutic
 he draw distraction
Setting , no

'

between this life

everyday : whatever

I had learned : he wrote i is

applicable to all hitman relations !

my
'

learned
Wha
rogers
is that
listening
well which involves
necessarily
-

conversing and
well
questioning well

is one
of most accessible and
powerful
forms of convention we have .

The
paucity of my listening Lowers
 dawn on me as a
byproduct of
That
starting to
meditating
. is

not to make some claim to faux

enlighten ent simply to that

say
-

meditation the practice of noticing

was

what notice and meditators

you ,

tends in
carry this mindset beyond
the there
yoga
mat and
began to see

own mind more

clearly ◦
Amu
ng
a

smorgasbord of other Daltons and

 quirks , where 9 saw a
self that .

didn't listen
to often .
.

The
younger
me
enjoyed the

conversation But low

a
steady
.

that I
egoism mean what
really
When it
enjoy talking
was .
was

else 's
someone turn
for talk ,

listening could
often feel like a chore .

I be
may pasivdy absorbing
whatever was been said -
but a

greater part in me would be

daydreaming ,
reminiscing , and
making
plans I had habit
an
of interrupting
.

in the rather masculine that

belief .

Whatever others has to I

say ,

could better for them Sometimes

Say .

I would zone out and tune back in

I'd
of creatine that been asked a

I had horrible habit

question .
an ,

I saw •
of sitting in silent
linguitic

craftsmanship .

shaping mine answer

 for when
my
turn come around -

and
only hay listening
-

to what I'd

responding for
be
actually .

The this
exceptions of state
of affairs .

I
begin to see
,
with situations

their
If
where existed
self interest
-
◦

the subject was I

,
or material

that be
might in
bcnipt to me ,

my
would
attention
automatic sharpen .

It was to listen to
very easy
Someone
entraining what steps

I need to take to ace a test

or make dome It
money was
.

to
easy to listen juicy gossip .

particularly the kind that made me

feel fortune or
superior . It was

to listen to debates in topics

easy
has to
where I a
burning desire

be
right . It was
easy to listen

to attractive woman .
I didn't ask
my friend 's serious

questions often enough .

I like
jokes
and I liked to but I'd
gossip .

forget to ask them the Med stuff .

I'd
Or ask them
things they'd
already tell me week
ago
.
Or

forget to ask about t.ir decent

job intervene or break up-

,
inaugral .

Roman tisicm was the

engine of the

the
f-ranch revolution ,
of more -
or -
less pro democratic revolution

in 1848 , and
of the successive

formation of nation-states that

to
continued
for another
century
chime across Europe in the borders

of Russia and across

every
_

other continent were Romantic

ideas about
selfhood and
self
-

determination
forced the retraction

of European imperialism ; as
far
as
Africa , asia and the Indian

subcontinent .
Romanticism was the

Starting point for experimental

science .
Much of today 's word -

Its and
cities its
countryside
-

are
shaped to the
agricultural
and industrial revolutions the

Science informed .