March, 26th 2020
How will the Tools help me with
my relationship with Sebastian?
How to get: affection, pleasure,
harmony, emotional safety,
romance, great sex, fun, respect,
excitement, harmony, support?
what are the 5 keys?
Exercise 1
exercise 1a
essential practice
essential practice
What do men choose?
What’s the difference between
men and women?
Summary
EXPERIMENT:
a. you will begin to use every man you encounter(including the man you
may be with right now) to experiment and practice on;
b. draw a man in
c. help him fall in love with you;
d. love you in a way that makes you feel loved forever;
e. get you connected with a man’s heart
BREAK:
a. blocks women put up between themselves and man
BELIEVE:
a. there are many great men out there
b. those men want you
c. you can create the relationship of your dreams with any one of them
LETTING GO in order to get what you want
GIVE UP all forms of control and man-management to have your dream
relationship
TREAT your man as though you trust and respect him, even if you’re not
there yet
1. choose relationship
2. choose to receive
3. respect the masculine
4. express the feminine
5. support the team
Imagine perfect relationship (does not need to be with the man you’re
currently with)
-perfect day
-looks/ sounds/feels
-in the kitchen, bed, living room, out for the perfect evening
-do you have a special name? what does he do for you> what do you feel for
him?
3 blissful moments: hairy torso, smell, squats
make sure you catch your moments of negativity and stop yourself in
order to truly transform your relationship
with one breath: stop the negative (anger and defensiveness) and return to
the positive
trust your boundaries
follow your feelings
choose your words - it’s about what you feel in the body (not what the guy
has done) or not speak at all
be surprised
If they want to, they are:
i. loyal, brave, strong
ii. capable to love, commitment, nourishment, understanding, support,
cherishing
Men do what they want, they do what they know gets them what they want.
Rumi: Yourtask is not to seek for love, but merely to
seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you
have built against it.
March, 26th 2020
What do men want when they
commit to a woman?
When do men leave?
What do men need?
Who to commit to?
What’s the problem with busy
work?
What can give you clarity?
How to use imagination?
What kind of a woman does a
man want?
What are the rules to respecting
the masculine partner?
Examples:
What is the new communication?
What exactly does it mean to be a
feminine and masculine partner?
Summary
a. love
a. sex
b. intimacy
c. romance
Men leave when they can’t get what they need.
love, companionship
caveat: Men respond to a woman on a simple and basic level: following their
dicks/ their guts
If you’re not in a relationship (or just dating) commit to yourself. Commit to your
desire to be in a relationship, to the idea of a relationship, your ideal dream and
wanting to be married.
women retreat to busywork(cooking, doing, functioning) that block our men from
accessing our feelings and denies them what we want most, romance.
Making a commitment to the relationship (more than the bond with the man)
2 step process:
a. activate the warrior in you (do not run or attack) express feelings without
attacking
b. step back into the observer-
imagine yourself as totally committed to the idea of a relationship, without any
expectations,
i. interested in his mind and body;
ii. accepting and loving him just as he is
iii. woman who can share
i. don’t try to control your partner
ii. don’t try to control the outcome
iii. stop yourself before you criticize, judge, advice, warn, coax, try to change
him, ask an ‘innocent question’
iv. learn to take No for an answer
i. Please take out the garbage now, I need you to change the light bulb, Please call
me more often
single: don’t dampen his pursuit of you by doing it yourself
ii. everything connected with the question: Where is this relationship going?
You’re only supposed to lean over and chill
iii.
Listen at level 2:
let yourself go as though you no longer exist
let thoughts pass by
no need to talk, smile, do anything
completely immersed - no need to say: Yeah, I agree// Oh, that happened to me
too
observe with attention and compassion
Feminine: feel
Masculine: think
March, 26th 2020
How will the Tools help me with
my relationship with Sebastian?
How to get: affection, pleasure,
harmony, emotional safety,
romance, great sex, fun, respect,
excitement, harmony, support?
what are the 5 keys?
Exercise 1
exercise 1a
essential practice
essential practice
What do men choose?
What’s the difference between
men and women?
Summary
EXPERIMENT:
f. you will begin to use every man you encounter(including the man you
may be with right now) to experiment and practice on;
g. draw a man in
h. help him fall in love with you;
i. love you in a way that makes you feel loved forever;
j. get you connected with a man’s heart
BREAK:
b. bLocks women put up between themselves and man
BELIEVE:
d. there are many great men out there
e. those men want you
f. you can create the relationship of your dreams with any one of them
LETTING GO in order to get what you want
GIVE UP all forms of control and man-management to have your dream
relationship
TREAT your man as though you trust and respect him, even if you’re not
there yet
6. choose relationship
7. choose to receive
8. respect the masculine
9. express the feminine
10. support the team
Imagine perfect relationship (does not need to be with the man you’re currentlly
with)
-perfect day
-looks/ sounds/feels
-in the kitchen, bed, living room, out for the perfect evening
-do you have a special name? what does he do for you> what do you feel for him?
3 blissful moments: hairy torso, smell, squats
make sure you catch your moments of negativity and stop yourself in order to
truly transform your relationship
with one breath: stop the negative (anger and defensiveness) and return to the
positive
trust your boundaries
follow your feelings
choose your words - it’s about what you feel in the body (not what the guy has
done) or not speak at all
be surprised
If they want to, they are:
i. loyal, brave, strong
ii.capable to love, commitment, nourishment, understanding, support, cherishing
Men do what they want, they do what they know gets them what they want.
Rumi: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the
barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
March, 26th 2020
how to be in touch with your
feelings?
How to express feelings?
How to want sth for yourself?
What’s the essence of feminine
energy in a relationship?
How to negotiate with a man?
Do I need to smile and be kind
during those interactions?
What to remember about?
Why do men marry?
When does a masculine man fall
in love?
What’s nurturing and why should
it be the guy who does it?
What does masculine energy
wants?
When you’re dating, ask yourself
these questions?
Practice:
a. sensual meditation
b. sexual meditation
Summary
Make sure you’re expressing a feeling and not an opinion, need, a request for
help.
Often we tell them exactly what would solve our frustration and discontent, in
effect we’re telling them to do sth, and they can’t hear that - be we’re attacking
them or telling them what to do.
Say: I feel….
I like the way this feels…
I don’t like the way this feels...
I want affection, I want more rest, I want sex, I want peace of mind, I want to
be married, I want to feel good
I don’t want to worry about money, I don’t want to clean the house, I don’t want
to wash dishes by myself, I don’t want to wait for you, I don’t want to have sex
unless I’m in an exclusive relationship.
A woman who can say No is a woman a man can trust.
Vulnerability and authenticity
a. Timing - make an appointment
b. start with a feeling: want and don’t what, then ask him what he thinks:
No, if you feel angry, sad or disappointed don’t hide it. He can tell you’re
upset. If you’re nice this will not be authentic, and therefore not intimate,
and will be confusing.
Men get flooded easily and then they shut down. They can’t handle all the
emotional input. Take is slow, start easy and small.
c. Listetning
d. Resolving : learn to live with lack of closure
e. Saying No
They marry for intimacy, but don’t know how to achieve it. Men look to
women to chart the course, it’s up to us to be brave enough to start.
He falls in love only when he gives, not when he receives.
It’s about doing and giving. When you give you’re acting from a masculine
energy place.
a. attention
b. appreciation
c. respect
What would it be like to just be?
What would happen if I let go of trying to control or manage my bfriend and his
behavior?
What are some of the things (reminding him, asking him to do things over and
over) that I might be comfortable letting go of?
the practice: putting words to the simple, basic feeling - make sure you avoid mentioning your man in the process.
Because I know what I will not tolerate, because I can
feel what I feel, because I’ve stated clearly what I feel and
don’t want, I can let go of control
March, 26th 2020
How will the Tools help me with
my relationship with Sebastian?
How to get: affection, pleasure,
harmony, emotional safety,
romance, great sex, fun, respect,
excitement, harmony, support?
what are the 5 keys?
Exercise 1
exercise 1a
essential practice
essential practice
What do men choose?
What’s the difference between
men and women?
Summary
EXPERIMENT:
k. you will begin to use every man you encounter(including the man you
may be with right now) to experiment and practice on;
l. draw a man in
m. help him fall in love with you;
n. love you in a way that makes you feel loved forever;
o. get you connected with a man’s heart
BREAK:
c. bocks women put up between themselves and man
BELIEVE:
g. there are many great men out there
h. those men want you
i. you can create the relationship of your dreams with any one of them
LETTING GO in order to get what you want
GIVE UP all forms of control and man-management to have your dream
relationship
TREAT your man as though you trust and respect him, even if you’re not there yet
11. choose relationship
12. choose to receive
13. respect the masculine
14. express the feminine
15. support the team
Imagine perfect relationship (does not need to be with the man you’re currentlly
with)
-perfect day
-looks/ sounds/feels
-in the kitchen, bed, living room, out for the perfect evening
-do you have a special name? what does he do for you> what do you feel for him?
3 blissful moments: hairy torso, smell, squats
make sure you catch your moments of negativity and stop yourself in order to
truly transform your relationship
with one breath: stop the negative (anger and defensiveness) and return to the
positive
trust your boundaries
follow your feelings
choose your words - it’s about what you feel in the body (not what the guy has
done) or not speak at all
be surprised
If they want to, they are:
i. loyal, brave, strong
ii.capable to love, commitment, nourishment, understanding, support, cherishing
Men do what they want, they do what they know gets them what they want.
Rumi: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the
barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
March, 26th 2020
What do men want when they
commit to a woman?
When do men leave?
What do men need?
Who to commit to?
What’s the problem with busy
work?
What can give you clarity?
How to use imagination?
What kind of a woman does a
man want?
What are the rules to respecting
the masculine partner?
Examples:
What is the new communication?
What exactly does it mean to be a
feminine and masculine partner?
Summary
b. love
d. sex
e. intimacy
f. romance
Men leave when they can’t get what they need.
love, companionship
caveat: Men respond to a woman on a simple and basic level: following their
dicks/ their guts
If you’re not in a relationship (or just dating) commit to yourself. Commit to your
desire to be in a relationship, to the idea of a relationship, your ideal dream and
wanting to be married.
women retreat to busywork(cooking, doing, functioning) that block our men from
accessing our feelings and denies them what we want most, romance.
Making a commitment to the relationship (more than the bond with the man)
2 step process:
c. activate the warrior in you (do not run or attack) express feelings without
attacking
d. step back into the observer-
imagine yourself as totally committed tothe idea of a relationship, without any
expectations,
i. interested in his mind and body;
ii. accepting and loving him just as he is
iii.woman who can share
i. don’t try to control your partner
ii. don’t try to control the outcome
iii. stop yourself before you criticize, judge, advice, warn, coax, try to change
him, ask an ‘innocent question’
iv. learn to take No for an answer
i. Please take out the garbage now, I need you to change the light bulb, Please call
me more often
single: don’t dampen his pursuit of you by doing it yourself
ii. everything connected with the question: Where is this relationship going?
You’re only supposed to lean over and chill
iii.
Listen at level 2:
let yourself go as though you no longer exist
let thoughts pass by
no need to talk, smile, do anything
completely immersed - no need to say: Yeah, I agree// Oh, that happened to me
too
observe with attention and compassion
Feminine: feel
Masculine: think
March, 26th 2020
How will the Tools help me with
my relationship with Sebastian?
How to get: affection, pleasure,
harmony, emotional safety,
romance, great sex, fun, respect,
excitement, harmony, support?
what are the 5 keys?
Exercise 1
exercise 1a
essential practice
essential practice
What do men choose?
What’s the difference between
men and women?
Summary
EXPERIMENT:
p. you will begin to use every man you encounter(including the man you
may be with right now) to experiment and practice on;
q. draw a man in
r. help him fall in love with you;
s. love you in a way that makes you feel loved forever;
t. get you connected with a man’s heart
BREAK:
d. bocks women put up between themselves and man
BELIEVE:
j. there are many great men out there
k. those men want you
l. you can create the relationship of your dreams with any one of them
LETTING GO in order to get what you want
GIVE UP all forms of control and man-management to have your dream
relationship
TREAT your man as though you trust and respect him, even if you’re not there yet
16. choose relationship
17. choose to receive
18. respect the masculine
19. express the feminine
20. support the team
Imagine perfect relationship (does not need to be with the man you’re currentlly
with)
-perfect day
-looks/ sounds/feels
-in the kitchen, bed, living room, out for the perfect evening
-do you have a special name? what does he do for you> what do you feel for him?
3 blissful moments: hairy torso, smell, squats
make sure you catch your moments of negativity and stop yourself in order to
truly transform your relationship
with one breath: stop the negative (anger and defensiveness) and return to the
positive
trust your boundaries
follow your feelings
choose your words - it’s about what you feel in the body (not what the guy has
done) or not speak at all
be surprised
If they want to, they are:
i. loyal, brave, strong
ii.capable to love, commitment, nourishment, understanding, support, cherishing
Men do what they want, they do what they know gets them what they want.
Rumi: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the
barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
March, 26th 2020

the practice: putting words to the simple, basic feeling - make sure you avoid mentioning your man in the process.
Summary Because I know what I will not tolerate, because I can
feel what I feel, because I’ve stated clearly what I feel and
don’t want, I can let go of control