Gender Differences in Conversational style.

Understanding different conversational frequencies can help men and women talk truly to

each other and remove the blame, that each of us can put on another. Numerous conflicts are

developed in conversations between men and women, which may cause them trouble and destroy

their relationships. Here are some of the conversational gender differences;

Status and Support

Women conversations entail sharing of confirmations and support. Whereas men`s

conversations are basically showing interest in working hard to build their personal status with or

without the assistance of other people. Women always think of getting help from their husband

and other people. Men concentrate on making lots of money and those that have money illustrate

it in their speeches thinking that money can control and make women do whatever thing they

want them to do. Indeed, it is true; women do unspeakable things for money. Women always fall

for men with a lot of money. For example, the author and her friend were made to seat and wait

for the rich man even when the other guests were drifting out in the summer night.

Independence and intimacy

Men and women can have different views over a particular situation. Women mainly

focus on the people that they can be dependants whereas men think of being independent. This is

because women always think of being close and getting support from other which is not the case

for men. Many men think of ideas and plans of how they can become independent in their lives.

Furthermore, women always expect their husbands to support them even if it requires fore going

their own preferences. For example, a wife asking her husband whether he would like to stop and

they have a cup of coffee. Although it wasn`t in the husband`s preferences to have coffee, his
wife expected him to exercise intimacy and sympathize with her to stop the car for them to get a

cup of coffee.

Advice and Understanding

Women are in most cases not looking for solutions to their problems but rather emotional

support. While men consider challenges as foundations to come up with various solutions. In

case of any challenge in life, men look for possible means of finding what to do to overcome the

problem. On the other side, women look for sympathy and support from other people. Women

always approach their husband with the challenges they experience expecting them to offer full

support and advice where necessary. For example, Eve telling her husband that she was

distressed because of the her breast being changed by the stitches, all she was looking for was

her husband`s advice. Fortunately, he also advised her “You can always have plastic surgery".

Information and Feelings

Many men utilize conversations to attract other people`s attention and to entertain them.

Whereas women just get hurt by feeling bad looking at their husbands entertaining strangers with

things they have never showed to their wives.

Orders and Proposals

Many men react negatively to hidden proposals and orders especially when they

understand what they are trying to make them do indirectly. However, they normally respond

positively if the request is direct. Whereas most women makes their orders appear as proposals.

They always work on first winning the hearts of the people they want to perform various tasks on

their behalf. They then make them do what they want them to do. Moreover, most men feel
angry to be ordered by women. Although sometimes the terms used in the conversation sound

more of orders than suggestions to men especially when its women telling them. However men

think that women aren`t entitled to becoming angry even when they use orders rather than

suggestions. For example, Considering the case of Diana using the term "Let`s" in her

statements, and being falsely interpreted by Nathan as he thinks it sounds more of a command

than a suggestion. Nathan would respond negatively due to the way Diana starts her statements

yet if she could use any term which directly explains her request, then Nathan wouldn`t have felt

commanded.

Conflict and Compromise

In fear of the risks that may be incurred because of fights, women tend to accept the will

of others. However, men do not fear risks therefore; they oppose everything that is not in their

will.